Obsessive vindictive Exes

Unhealthy ex obsession occurs when an ex partner will stop at nothing to make the life of their ex unbearable and miserable. 

Even if the obsessive ex has moved on, and re-married the next “victim”.  They obsessive ex will still continue to believe that they have the right to abuse you.  They feel a sense of entitlement,  that even though they cheated on you, and left you, they pretend all of their horrible violations against you were/are justified. So when you try to move on with your life, they will be hell bent on making your life difficult. 

Often times, the obsessive ex wants things to be just as they were before they lied to you, cheated on you, destroyed your family, and drained your finances, energy, and spirit. Unstable people believe that all the rules apply to everyone but them. They believe that they are allowed to move on with a new partner, but they do not believe that their Ex is allowed to move on or be happy. Once the obsessive ex finds out that their ex has found someone, they become obsessed with making their ex life hell, and the man/woman that they have moved on with. They still want to control their Ex, they realize with a new someone that they may lose control. 

This type of behavior is delusional. The obsessive Ex has a sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectation. They believe that they are entitled to be with other people, but that their ex is not allowed to do so.

This is a very difficult situation to deal with. One begins to feel hopeless about ever moving forward and being happy. With an ex hell-bent on trying to make life as difficult as possible. New relationships seem impossible because the ex will attempt to destroy anything that may bring you happiness. And they have probably been successful at doing that since the beginning of the relationship, all the way to the end. 

It's important to remember that if you share children with this person, that to keep contact as simple and as minimal as possible. They vindictive ex will constantly be asking favors or demanding you do this or that, always using the children to manipulate you into doing. Important to remember, that they are only doing this to inconvenience you, and whatever they are demanding is probably exaggerated and is only meant to waste your time. Don't buy into it. Ignore 95% of any text or calls. When your children are with you, ignore 99% of text or calls, because you have the children, and there is no need to listen to the BS, that the ex is telling you that you MUST do, while your children are with you.