Obsessive vindictive Exes

Unhealthy ex obsession occurs when an ex partner will stop at nothing to make the life of their ex unbearable and miserable. 

Even if the obsessive ex has moved on, and re-married the next “victim”.  They obsessive ex will still continue to believe that they have the right to abuse you.  They feel a sense of entitlement,  that even though they cheated on you, and left you, they pretend all of their horrible violations against you were/are justified. So when you try to move on with your life, they will be hell bent on making your life difficult. 

Often times, the obsessive ex wants things to be just as they were before they lied to you, cheated on you, destroyed your family, and drained your finances, energy, and spirit. Unstable people believe that all the rules apply to everyone but them. They believe that they are allowed to move on with a new partner, but they do not believe that their Ex is allowed to move on or be happy. Once the obsessive ex finds out that their ex has found someone, they become obsessed with making their ex life hell, and the man/woman that they have moved on with. They still want to control their Ex, they realize with a new someone that they may lose control. 

This type of behavior is delusional. The obsessive Ex has a sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectation. They believe that they are entitled to be with other people, but that their ex is not allowed to do so.

This is a very difficult situation to deal with. One begins to feel hopeless about ever moving forward and being happy. With an ex hell-bent on trying to make life as difficult as possible. New relationships seem impossible because the ex will attempt to destroy anything that may bring you happiness. And they have probably been successful at doing that since the beginning of the relationship, all the way to the end. 

It's important to remember that if you share children with this person, that to keep contact as simple and as minimal as possible. They vindictive ex will constantly be asking favors or demanding you do this or that, always using the children to manipulate you into doing. Important to remember, that they are only doing this to inconvenience you, and whatever they are demanding is probably exaggerated and is only meant to waste your time. Don't buy into it. Ignore 95% of any text or calls. When your children are with you, ignore 99% of text or calls, because you have the children, and there is no need to listen to the BS, that the ex is telling you that you MUST do, while your children are with you.  

Desperation of a sociopath

One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning –aka character assassination — spreading lies about you.

Sociopaths are always responsible for  starting these "Smear campaigns". They carefully and strategically tell blatant lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying their targets  credibility. 

They assume when you find out about the lies going on about you, you will react emotionally. This is when they make their full attack. Your emotional, angry reaction is totally valid. But the sociopath makes it  look like you ARE ACTUALLY THE CRAZY ONE. Their plan has worked perfectly... 

They will act as if they are upstanding heroism, pillars of the community, and feigned innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based NOT on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern, for their safety or their victims. 

Some people never realize they are dealing with a sociopath. They assume the person who has caused so many problems for them is bi-polar, has mental issues. They don't understand that everything that has happened to them was methodically calculated by a sociopath.  

The sociopath is so cunning and deceptive. They are the most fluent speakers, and manage to twist anything that is said to their own advantage. 

Even when all contact has been cut off. The sociopath still finds a way to harass their victim. If the sociopath cannot get you to respond. They will go to desperate lengths, in hopes you will have to contact them. For example, they will tell lies to people who you know. The sociopath knows the lie they spread will get back to you. Then they think you will have to contact them, because you will want to confront them with what you heard, and will ask them why they said this, or you will ask them to stop. Whatever it is, they see it as a victory. Once confronted they will deny, twist, flip and flop anything they are accused of. 

Sociopaths try to make themselves look smarter than they actually are. Most of their claims are lies they have made up to make themselves look smart, more superior to others. Rather the sociopath is smart or not, but one area that they for sure lack in is emotional intelligence or emotional logic. 

The sociopath always hits below the belt - even attacking the victims innocent children. She throws digs in here and there because she knows that healthy mothers and fathers are protective of their children. The sociopath is nothing more than a desperate low life. Manipulating and scheming her way through life. Making no real connections to anyone. The sociopath is obsessed, bitter and vengeful. As the sociopath ages, she can't control others as she use to. Looks are gone. And she has pissed off about everyone.