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Sociopaths and psychopaths are a subgroup of human beings. They look so much like your normal ‘soccer mom’ or ‘supportive dad’ that it is very hard to detect them. The only people who really know the true persona of the psychopath is the ones that must live with them, or have been targeted by them. 

But these people are so traumatized by the psychopath, they will not speak up against them, for they fear the wrath they would surely suffer if they do. 

These predators walk among us everyday.  They cause  a great deal of pain to other human beings. They wreak havoc everywhere they go in the world, with  their cruelty, manipulation, deception and power plays. 

Psychopaths have no worries about any of the pain the cause. They are able to hurt people and animals, and never feel anything for the pain they cause. There is absolutely no empathy or remorse there ever. 

Psychopaths are out there! They are willing to take advantage of the weak, strong, young, elderly and anyone who looks like a viable target.  
They know what they are doing. 
They don't care.  
They are aware that they are ruining someone's life, that is why they are doing it.
Some psychopaths (most actually) will consider it a bonus if they make you so miserable and hopeless that you commit suicide. Most victims are unlikely to know what they are dealing with. 
It's hard to fathom that people exist out there who are capable of theses heinous acts. So majority of us do not know what to look out for, or even how to handle one.

Habitual, Compulsive, Pathological Liars...

SOCIOPATHS ARE COMPULSIVE, HABITUAL, AND PATHOLOGICAL LIARS.

A common trait of sociopath or narcissists is lying. They just lie all the time. They lie about anything and eveything.. A sociopath will lie about important things, and unimportant things. They lie about where they work, to where they live. They willl lie about there family, to the pets they have. They will lie about everything! 

Even if the truth would be more beneficial, and serve them better – they will still continue to lie. Basically if you know someone who is a sociopath or narcissist, you can bet that anything they have told you, was the opposite of the truth.  

Why lie about everything, all the time?!

Sociopaths lie because they hate to see others happy. This is why it is most unfortunate to have a sociopath in your family. As much as the sociopath hates to see their partner/spouse happy – they hate to see a sibling happy even more. So they lie in an attempt to misdirect the people who seem happy to them. It is a method they use to to covertly destroy you. A sociopaths goal is to convince their victim or target that everyone hates them, and life is difficult and unfair. 

 

Sociopaths have an uncanny way of finding your weaknesses, then using them against you. Sociopaths will put all their time and energy into learning their victims vulnerablities, and anything that their vicitm cares about, the things that they hold close to their heart, or whatever their vicitm has an emotional attachment to. Then once the sociopath thinks they have enough about on their victim, they will underhandedly and covertly sabatoge all of those things.

Rather it is something as simple as your favorite food. They will make sure you never eat that again. It may be that they all of the sudden the sociopath has discovered that they are deathly allergic to that food, and may say that just being around it could cause them to have to go to Emergency Room - and possible death - so you must never eat it again. 

If you have a nice vehicle that you value, and the sociopath has recognized this because knows you keep it clean and well maintained. The sociopath will do something to the car. They may scratch it with an object that is sure to leave it unable to buff out. They may even cut the brake lines, or cause other damage that will cost you money to have the car fixed. 

They will do small things to sabatoge your life and Large things to destroy your life.  If you are good with managing your finances and have a good credit score,  the sociopath will hide bills, take out small loans in your name, and create emergencies that will cost you more than you can afford. The sociopath will spread lies to your friends, your family and the community, so you will feel isolated and excluded and disliked.

The sociopath wants to make sure that you never feel secure, blessed, happy or loved. They try to make sure that you fail at reaching your goals, and you never get any of the things that you have hoped for and worked hard for.  

The sociopath causes their victim constant stress, usually without the victim ever knowing that they are responsible for all the bad luck and misfortune they have been suffering from. The sociopath gets enjoyment by seeing you suffer one disappointment after another. 

The victim sees any small act of kindness on the sociopaths part as relief from the suffering they have felt lately. The victim feels so hopeless that they begin to rely on the sociopath to ease their pain, because they victim has no idea that it is because of the sociopath that they are having this streak of “bad luck”.

The sociopath gives and then they sociopath takes away. The sociopath wants 100% total control over their victims life  and reality. Sociopaths and psychopaths want to know that they have so much power over you, that they could manipulate you into such despair, that you consider taking your own life...

That is just how sick and evil the sociopaths mind is. They don't have a conscience to question their actions or intentions. So they continue to wreak havoc and destroy anyone who knows them, enters their life, or cares about them. 

Knowledge is Power (when you are dealing with a sociopath

Knowledge really is power. The is especially true when you are dealing with the sociopath. When you have become the target of this vile person. The more you know, the more things will start to make sense. AND THE SAFER YOU WILL BE. The sociopath wants you to think that they are organized, working, and doing it all, when the truth is... They are unorganized, lazy, and having everyone else doing all their dirty work. It's even more important to realize that YOU ARE NOT CRAZY OR IMAGINING  THINGS! You have not been dramatic, or exaggerating things, and your not insane! 

Beware that the sociopath will attempt to make you feel like you are losing your mind. They will even tell people that your are "unstable and dangerous". When a sociopath says these slandering things about you. You can pretty much bet that whatever they are saying you are, they are projecting what they are capable of, onto you. 

Example — If the sociopath says you suffer from “borderline personality disorder” and you are obsessed with them, you are jealous of them, and you are stalking them and they fear for their safety. THIS IS A RED FLAG!!! The sociopath always projects what they are feeling onto their victims. What that means is that the sociopath was diagnosed with borderline personality (because it is impossible almost for a psychiatrist to diagnose a sociopath, since they lie to everyone about everything) It also means they are obsessed with you, and making your life a living hell. They are jealous of you, and the only way to rid themselves of that jealousy is to knock you down, by slandering your name, and destroying your reputation.

One of the scariest feelings you will have is when the sociopath is playing the victim to others and even telling others-"you are stalking them". This usually means that they are  stalking you! They will stalk you and violate you emotionally in every way; cyber stalking, physical stalking, following you, or having one of their minions follow you, and keep them up to date on your whereabouts.

The most chilling accusation the sociopath says about you "that they fear for their safety and the safety of their children" 

YOU ARE THE ONE WHO SHOULD FEAR FOR YOUR SAFETY. AND THE SAFETY OF ANYONE YOU ARE CLOSE TO!!! 

Accusations of the disordered Ex

The Ex Spouse - There are some people (the lucky ones) who actually get along with their ex. Most of us are not so lucky....

Why can't your EX get a life? Why won't he/she just move on and leave you alone? After all he/she has remarried and claims to be so happy, especially now that you are no longer in their life...  
When your ex continues to call, text, email to tell you the what you need to do while the children are with you (as if you are so incompetent that you can't figure it out yourself) You are probably dealing with a controlling, demanding, and disordered ex. You have noticed that the intention with your ex is not good. They are not doing what they do because they truly are thinking only about the children. They are doing this, because they want to be in control of you. The ex knows you have moved on, you are happy with your new spouse. This drives your disordered ex insane (more insane than he/she already is) Scary huh.....

The mere thought of your psycho ex -- the person who lied, manipulated and ultimately left you -- is enough to make your stomach turn, even if the contact is sporadic.  It's hard to understand why they are still trying to have contact with tho everyday. You think to yourself “does my ex know what the word DIVORCE means?”
“Why is she demanding I attend her families Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Fathers Day, and Mother's Day with her”? Yes, that is exactly what I want to do on my holidays, spend time with my ex who has attempted to destroy my reputation, turn my children against my new spouse. The same person who has made one false accusation after another... (Sarcasm)

It's important to always keep in mind, YOU EX HAS A CHARACTER DISORDER. Your EX is not in touch with real human emotions, therefore they live in an altered reality than the 
rest of us.  A normal, stable person Does Not attack you one minute (in an anonomyous fashion online, or by spreading rumors to your children's school about you) then expect you to be present at their Christmas party the next. 

Sociopaths, malignant narcissist, and character disordered individuals have a convenient way of forgetting all the horrific things that they have done to you. In their whacked out brain, they truly think that if they pretend that everything is good, and they did not do anything wrong to you - That you will just go along 
with it. And sometimes we will go along with it, because it means a break from the constant drama. It means a day of peace, without the harassment. We are desperate for peace. Unfortunately when we go along with their delusions, it only compels them to continue to think they can always treat you a certain way, with no consequences. 

It is hard to stand up to your psychotic ex. You know they will make your life hell when you decide to spend time with your own family, instead of theirs on holidays. When you first stand up to them, expect to recieve calls and numerous text, about how hurt the kids are that you didn't come to Christmas. (Your ex seems to have forgotten that you have a family and the kids are coming to spend the other part of their holiday with you) REMEMBER YOUR EX WILL ALWAYS USE GUILT INORDER TO GET YOU TO DO WHAT THEY WANT. 

You know your ex is going to use guilt to try to get their way. It's important for you to stay strong. And remember it is not about the kids to them. It's about them, wanting to continue to control your life, your money, your holidays, your free time, your family — even though you are divorced. The reason you ex divorced you or you divorced them was because you no longer wanted to be together. Right? That means you no longer spend Christmas mornings together. You no longer attend their family functions, because their family is no longer your family. 

Yes, it is hard on the children. DIVORCE in general is hard on children... That is a FACT. 

When your ex decided to cheat on you with other men, or women. Were they thinking of how THAT would Hurt the children??    Of course they didn't.. But now your ex wants to tell you that you are emotionally damaging the children because you don't want to spend your Father's Day and other special holidays with them. 

So when your ex starts their usual guilt tripping, and letting you know that you are a horrible parent, and that your children are suffering because of your selfishness (because you remarried and decided to be happy) If you are a good parent, then none of it should bother you. Your ex claims that your child needs counseling because of you. When your child is with you, is your child happy? Do the children seem withdrawn or depressed when they are with you and your spouse? 
If the answer is No, then you know that your ex is the pathological liar, they have always been. Just another desperate attempts to control you. They are pathetic.

If the answer is Yes, then YOU need to get your child evaluated by a psychologist and find out why they are feeling this way. It is not because you didn't attend your exes family event, as your ex has said. If your home is a safe and healthy environment, it is important to find out what is causing the child to be withdrawn. 

Your ex is a liar. You know this. They will try to portray to you that they are the  picture perfect parent. You know better... They seem to have conveniently forgotten (again) that you use to live with them. You know behind the scenes how dysfunctional they are. They haven't made a miraculous turn-a-round. They are still dysfunctional. There is numerous people coming and going from their home. They allow their cousin who is a convicted felon to do their yard word and home repairs, for a cheap price. They are not around to supervise anything. Are the children at home alone a majority of the time?  

The more your ex is accusing you of emotionally damaging your children, you can bet it is because they are incompetent, and they think projecting their dysfunction onto you will take some of the focus off of them. 

I have seen too many times where the disordered person has emotionally abused and battered their spouse. To the point that they will not defend themselves or stand up to the disordered person. They are afraid. They have witnessed them destroy others. They know of the damage they are capable of. They know they are ruthless, heartless, and have not one Ounce of conscience in them. 

Healing from the pain

Healing from there pain a sociopath has caused is difficult. It is not impossible though. The reason healing can be so hard, is because the sociopath gives us no closure, and they are more than likely still tormenting us with harassment and smear campaigns.

  

The emotional abuse from a psychopath/sociopath and narcissist is debilitating, devastating and takes a toll on your heart and soul. The sociopath is so vindictive and hateful. They inflict so much damage because it is hard wired in their brains to be evil, to lie, to manipulate and to destroy others. Psychopaths have significant molecular differences in ther brain. They are without a conscious, and have no feelings of remorse, guilt, empathy or genuine love. They are abusively exploitative and incapable of true love or intimacy. They are self centered, impulsive, reckless, aggressive and irritable. They never will take any responsibility for the actions, and believe they are immune to consequences. Don't think back about the "good time" that you had with the sociopath. It was all a lie. The sociopath gets a rush from destroying human hearts and lives. The worst of it all is that they pretend to care. They are able to show as if they have empathy. When they have none..

So how do we heal from this?

The first thing we can do is forgive ourself. Be kind to ourself and love ourself. We were betrayed and it was not our fault. In order to heal we have to HAVE NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN WITH THE PSYCHOPATH. Revenge is not possible. It may sound good to picture in your mind the sociopath suffering the way you have suffered. Trying to get revenge will only make healing more difficult. Because when we are focused on revenge. We are no longer focused on ourselves. We cannot move on when we are still thinking about the sociopath. Remember the sociopath/psychopath has no conscious and feelings. You will not be able to hurt them emotionally. It will only trigger them to cause more problems in your life. 

What you really want is for the psychopath/sociopath to leave you alone. Yes they caused you pain, financial problems, and wasted so much of your life. That is the past and it can't be changed. What can be changed is you. You can't allow the sociopath to continue to hurt you. The only way that can happen, is if you walk away and never look back. No contact is so important because it puts the sociopath in the position of no longer having any control of your life. They know how their words can be powerful and convincing. So cutting off any and all contact will be beneficial to you. 

You owe the sociopath Nothing... If you have to change your phone number then do it. Avoid the sociopath at all cost. 

You are human. The sociopath/psychopath is not. They may look like a human being but they do not manifest any human being traits. Such as love and empathy. Care and concern for the well being of others.

 

In order to truly heal and move forward with your life, detachment is necessary. Detach ourself from the disordered person. You may feel so devastated that you will want to isolate and be alone. That is ok... As long as it is not for a long period of time. The sooner you get back out there. The sooner  you will start the healing process. 

We will do a lot of questioning, and try to figure out what we did to deserve this. The fact is we did nothing to deserve it. The sociopath has done this before and will do it again. There is nothing you did to cause them to treat you this way. 

Repair what is broken - force yourself to take back control of your life. Realize that no one can take away your soul. It is yours and yours alone. Start making goals. Find what inspires you. What do you love? What can you do to be a better person and live a fulfilling life? You have survived a sociopath. That is not easy to do. You know you have strength and wisdom to do whatever you set your mind to do. Healing from the abuse and betrayal you have experienced, is a chance to really learn about yourself, and to grow emotionally. You will go through many stages while healing. You will learn more about yourself than you ever have before. 

When you feel like giving up and like things couldn't be worse. It's always to remember — this to shall pass...

In moments if despair, know you are not alone. You are supported. There are others who have gone through the exact same thing you have. See how they made it through this horrific experience. Talk with people who can understand what you are going through,  because they too have been there and can understand. People who have not been through this will have a difficult time understanding how one person can be responsible for all your troubles. Their intentions may be good, but their advice usually doesn't help you heal.  

Healing comes from within you and time. Time heals all. Once the sociopath is out of your life, you will find your true self. You have to look for it though. Sometimes it is something we cannot do alone. When you are feeling hopeless and depressed and just can't seem to get out of being "stuck". It's ok to seek professional help, especially from someone who is educated about how a sociopath destroys lives. Just because you needed to seek counseling or therapy doesn't make you weak. The fact that you have realized that you are stuck and unable to move forward, and you are stepping out of your comfort zone and seeking help shows you have determination and strength. You are dedicated to living a happy life no matter what. 

THE ONLY WAY TO HEAL - No Contact Ever Again

Once you have realized that the destructive person in your life is a sociopath/psychopath - Get Away From That Person ASAP!

The sociopath is so good at making you believe that they are a "good" person with "good" intentions. Notice that it is their words that have convinced you. But look at their Actions. Do their words match up with their actions?

If the sociopath in your life is your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or the mother or father of your child. Or even someone within your own family — you must walk away from this person and never look back. If you share children with this person, walking away and never looking back will not be as easy. You will need a plan. You will have to plan your escape before you leave. It's so important that you are documenting every word the sociopath says to you. Document it and have proof of it. You need to save all voicemails, text messages they send you that are threatening or abusive. 

In order to prove that you are in danger and scared for your life, and for the well being of your children – you must be able to show proof. 

**Sociopaths are very skilled in court, they know how to work the system, and they want to make the victim look like the unstable, neurotic, and crazy person. They usually tell so many lies, the victim ends up breaking down in court (this is exactly what the sociopath wanted the victim to do). The victim breaks down, because they are human.

While the sociopath remains calm, and looks on as if they are concerned for the person who they have systematically destroyed. The sociopath has vilified the victim. 

This is why it is so important NOT to tell your plans of leaving to anyone. If you have realized that the person you live with is a sociopath DO NOT tell them that you think they are a sociopath or psychopath! This could put your life in danger. 

Do not be concerned about hurting their feelings — a sociopath/psychopath cannot  be really “hurt” — they do not have the emotions to feel emotional pain or hurt, they are only able to feel RAGE AND ANGER and the need to destroy others..

You must accept that you mean nothing to the sociopath – and that you never meant anything to the sociopath. They see you as an object, not a human being with feelings, to them you are nothing. 

If the sociopath leaves you, BE THANKFUL! Pray to your Higher Power that they never try to contact you again. Unfortunately the sociopath  will always try to establish contact with you. They had control over you once and believe they can have control over you again. They don't try to come back because they missed you. They come back to dominate you and control you again.  

But you must BE STRONG and have no contact with them. You will need to change your phone number, and only give it to only a few people who you trust and are aware of the situation. 

A lot of times victims of sociopaths and psychopaths, want closure. Accept the fact that YOU WILL NEVER get CLOSURE WITH A SOCIOPATH.. If you find yourself thinking about “the good old days” you may have had with the sociopath. Remember that the sociopath was not the person you thought they were. The person you knew wasn't real. The words they told you were not real. Every word out of the sociopaths mouth is a lie. The "relationship" might have felt real, but it wasn't.  The sociopath only used you and manipulated you for their own sick reasons. It does hurts to think that this person you believed loved you, never really loved you.

The Only Way To Truly Heal From the Emotional Trauma that the sociopath has caused you, is to establish NO CONTACT!

This can be a very difficult thing to do, especially if you "want closure" but you must stop thinking that you will get closure. You will never get closure, the sociopath will not give you that, simply because they know you want it! 

Eventually though you will heal. The feelings you have of missing the sociopath will pass. The longer you have no contact with the sociopath, the sooner you will be able to heal, and find yourself again. You will become stronger everyday, because the sociopath is no longer in your life, influencing you in a negative way. Once you have made peace with YOURSELF, and LOVE yourself again — the tables will turn and the sociopath will no longer have any control on you. The hunted becomes becomes the hunter.. 

The amazing thing about Establishing No Contact, is that victim is able to feel liberation from the sociopath. The victim is able to re-build their self esteem. The victim becomes stronger and more confident everyday they do not talk to the sociopath. The victim will no longer feel like a “victim” but they begin to feel like a “survivor.”

Refusing to speak with, respond to text or emails, meet up with or listen to  anything the sociopath has to say can be extremely effective.

***NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN*** 

The best thing about having NO Contact is that you do not have to do anything to achieve results — and these results can change your life for the better. You are free from the pain, manipulation and the emotional abuse the sociopath caused you. You are free to Heal, Love, and Live... 

You also are free to Love again. Remember that you did not choose the sociopath. They chose you because of you kindness, caring and loving personality. Sociopaths can't appreciate any of that, all they saw was weakness. But you are not weak. You are an amazing person with so much to offer the world. Do not let the betrayal from the sociopath stop you from being who you were meant to be. There ARE good, kind and caring people out there. Don't lose faith in humanity because of one evil person you have encountered. See this all as a learning experience that has made you stronger.. 

Traits of a Victim

Being a victim of a malicious sociopath is devastating. Surviving the after math of the sociopath is even more so.. 

Usually the victim is so broken and beaten down by the sociopath, once the sociopath has drained the life and finances out of their target, they dispose of them like garbage. Leaving their victim confused, depressed, and without any closure. 

The victim must become the survivor

In order to heal from the devastation of a sociopath. The victim must cut off any and all contact from the sociopath, the hope that they will ever get closure, and any desire to get revenge on the sociopath. 

After the pain and hurt is gone, it is quickly replaced with anger. It's important to not live in denial of what happened, but more important to let go of the anger towards the sociopath. This means not seeking revenge in any form. Any revenge on the sociopath will probably blow up in your face. The sociopath is a skilled con artist and an excellent liar. They have been using and abusing people their whole life. Hurting others comes as natural as breathing to a sociopath. It's hard wired in their brains to manipulate, lie and cheat in order to get what they want. They do not have a functioning conscience, so any pain they inflict onto any living thing will not cause them to lose sleep at night 

I came across this website -sociopathicstyle.com 

They define the "traits of a victim" as

 

• A belief that if you love enough the person will change
• A belief that if you love enough the relationship will succeed
• Difficulty establishing and maintaining boundaries
• Not being able to say no
• Being easily influenced by others
• Wanting to be rescued from your life situation
• Wanting to rescue others from their distress
• Being over (sic) nurturing particularly when not asked
• Feelings of shame and self doubt
• Low self esteem
• A lack of memories about childhood or periods of adulthood
• Shyness
• Difficulty communicating
• A lack of self confidence
• Wanting to please
• A lack of motivation from within and being motivated by what others want

You can decide to be a Survivor. You do not have to be a victim forever. It's being able learn from your mistakes. And become the person you are destined to be. The sociopath always tries to steal what you have, the light in your eyes... They do not have a light in their eyes like you, that is why they have to take yours. 

You must get the sociopath out of your life, and any other toxic people that are draining your energy, time, finances, and life out of you. 

PSYCHOPATHS

Psychopaths are very similar to sociopaths. Both do not have a functional conscience. Both wreak havoc on the lives of their family members. 

Psychopaths are more organized and have more self control than the sociopath. Psychopaths are usually more intelligent than the sociopath. While the sociopath embellishes their professional life and education - convincing others that they are some sort of 'genius'. Psychopath are usually very intelligent, and do not have to boast or lie about their intelligence. They are usually above average intelligence (from my own personal observation)

Psychopaths often have charming personalities. They say what their “victim” wants to hear, in order to gain trust. The manipulation is covert. They have learned to mimic emotion, so they usually appear “normal” to other people. 

Psychopaths are often educated and hold steady jobs.  Some are so good at manipulation and mimicry that they can have families and other long-term relationships. The people who the psychopath considers to be close to them, usually have no idea they are dealing with a psychopath. They know something is just “not right”. The psychopath is so good at deflecting, blaming, projecting, and twisting a situation when confronted. The normal person feels they are the problem, not the psychopath. 

The mental and emotional abuse that the psychopath inflicts on their victims can be permanent. 

After the relationship is over, the victim will need therapy to understand wahh has happened to them, and to be able to get their life back. 

The psychopath leaves their victim(s) in ruins — financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and sometimes even physically. 

The Adult Bully

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are all Bullies. They use social aggression to destroy their victims. They may indirectly do things to their victim to attempt to make the victim feel alone and out numbered. The victim will usually socially isolate. 

The bully uses social isolation to make their victim feel that everyone is against them and hate them. This kind of isolation is achieved by a wide variety of techniques. One of the sociopath favorite techniques is spread rumors about the victim. Making up lies about their target, that are embarrassing and shameful. Then the sociopath will spread the rumor to many people. Urging others to not acknowledge the victim. And to ignore the victim. The sociopath tries to turn the victims own social circle against her, with false accusations, and lies.

Adult Bullies are name callers. Most girls remember what it was like in middle school, they were bullied at one point. They were called names, and given the silent treatment. Or they urged others to laugh when the victim walks by. The bully mock the victim. Makes them feel as if no one likes them. 

The victim feels alone, and dreads going anywhere they feel the bully may be. So the victim Isolates and becomes depressed. 

One thing I have noticed with adult bullies is that they usually accuse the victim of the things that they are doing to the I victim. They will be stalking their victims and put out on twitter/Facebook -  how "they have a stalker" saying things such as "my stalker is back”. Anything that the bully can do to the destroy the victims creditability. Adult bullies can be mothers, fathers, mangers, etc... 

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Adult bullies will use their children. Saying things such as "I am being stalked and I am scared for my children". This way the sociopathic bully gains more sympathy by others by saying she if afraid for her children. When her children are Not in any danger! It is just how the sociopath makes her target (victim) look more like a bad guy — which this is really unfortunate for mothers and children of REAL domestic violence. Sociopaths look for what the media is talking about and something going on in our world that is effecting large groups of people and uses that to destroy her enemies. She has seen how bullying has impacted so many innocent people and how the world has sympathy for the victims of bullying. So she decides to become a victim of bullying - taking attention away from Real people who are being bullied to the point of suicide. 

THE SOCIOPATH IS THE BIGGEST BULLY OF THEM ALL...

The sociopath is such a manipulative liar that unless you know them closely (like you are family). They are convincing and believable. They don't have real emotions, that is why they look for things that people have sympathy for in the news and media and exploit others with it.  It is very sad for the real victims of bullies ...

Desperation of a sociopath

One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning –aka character assassination — spreading lies about you.

Sociopaths are always responsible for  starting these "Smear campaigns". They carefully and strategically tell blatant lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying their targets  credibility. 

They assume when you find out about the lies going on about you, you will react emotionally. This is when they make their full attack. Your emotional, angry reaction is totally valid. But the sociopath makes it  look like you ARE ACTUALLY THE CRAZY ONE. Their plan has worked perfectly... 

They will act as if they are upstanding heroism, pillars of the community, and feigned innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based NOT on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern, for their safety or their victims. 

Some people never realize they are dealing with a sociopath. They assume the person who has caused so many problems for them is bi-polar, has mental issues. They don't understand that everything that has happened to them was methodically calculated by a sociopath.  

The sociopath is so cunning and deceptive. They are the most fluent speakers, and manage to twist anything that is said to their own advantage. 

Even when all contact has been cut off. The sociopath still finds a way to harass their victim. If the sociopath cannot get you to respond. They will go to desperate lengths, in hopes you will have to contact them. For example, they will tell lies to people who you know. The sociopath knows the lie they spread will get back to you. Then they think you will have to contact them, because you will want to confront them with what you heard, and will ask them why they said this, or you will ask them to stop. Whatever it is, they see it as a victory. Once confronted they will deny, twist, flip and flop anything they are accused of. 

Sociopaths try to make themselves look smarter than they actually are. Most of their claims are lies they have made up to make themselves look smart, more superior to others. Rather the sociopath is smart or not, but one area that they for sure lack in is emotional intelligence or emotional logic. 

The sociopath always hits below the belt - even attacking the victims innocent children. She throws digs in here and there because she knows that healthy mothers and fathers are protective of their children. The sociopath is nothing more than a desperate low life. Manipulating and scheming her way through life. Making no real connections to anyone. The sociopath is obsessed, bitter and vengeful. As the sociopath ages, she can't control others as she use to. Looks are gone. And she has pissed off about everyone. 

Evil just keeps on being Evil

When you have been targeted by a hateful and vindictive sociopath, you feel alone and isolated. You begin to lose all faith in humanity and people. You start to lose your compassion for others. Because you are on guard with human beings. You have trouble trusting anyone. You don't want to socialize the way you did before you met the sociopath. You prefer to be alone. You prefer to stay in your comfort zone, where you feel safe. 

The sociopath robs you of your sense of emotional security. You feel self conscience inside. When you do go out - you wonder if any of the people around you have heard the nasty rumors the sociopath spread about you. 

Sociopaths can make you feel like the sky is falling.. When it actuality it is not. Nothing is falling. The sociopath is very convincing though. They tell you how everyone hates you. They go to the internet and spread their lies about you. It looks to you as if the sociopath has succeeded in turning others against you. You see people commenting and giving the sociopath support, because they have told others how horrible you were to them. They have even made a blog about you! Ex - If your name is Mary Jane Doe. They have made a blog called Maryjane_doe.com. The title says "My Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder, and Low Self Esteem". The sociopath is impersonating you - in an unfavorable manner. They have spent an enormous amount of time doing this. Scary... Right? 

This can feel extremely defeating. You realize you are fighting with a monster that is so ruthless, cunning, and methodical – that you will not win. 

So what do you do? Everything you try to do to stop this monster has back fired. 

When a sociopath is targeting you in such a vile way. The only thing you can do is STOP RESPONDING. STOP REACTING AND STOP LOOKING ONLINE TO SEE WHAT THE SOCIOPATH IS SAYING. If you want the site shut down that the sociopath has made up. File a complaint with the domain provider. You can file a report with the police, just so everything is documented. The police probably won't do a lot to help with the site being taken down. You are more likely to be able to get the site taken down by reporting the site. Even though it could take time. In the mean time. Cut off any contact with the sociopath. They are doing these things in order to get a response and attention from you. Don't allow them to take your power like that. 

The sociopath is evil. They will always be evil. They will never change. They cannot be reformed. They see nothing wrong with themselves. They don't care about people. They only care about themselves. Once you refuse to react to them and respond and sever all contact with them. Hopefully they will get bored and move on to another person. 

It's so important that you do not lose your faith in humanity or God. Do not let the sociopath steal your spirit. Do not allow them to turn you into a bitter, defense person. Stay good. Stay hopeful.

You hate what the the sociopath has done. That's understandable. You never want to be like this devil..

Sociopaths and Entitlement

In a casual sense, the term "entitlement" refers to a notion or belief that one (or oneself) has a right to some particular reward or benefit – if given without deeper legal or principled cause, the term is often given with pejorative connotation (e.g. a "sense of entitlement").

Sociopaths believe they are entitled....

Entitled Sociopaths Do Not work or strive for what they have. They simply take it. They believed it is owed to them. Sociopaths are preposterous and delusional to believe they are somehow entitled to take everything they covet and desire. 

The sociopath will argue that she does deserve what she has and what she takes. The sociopath will argue that she earned everything. She will even argue that she has worked long and hard to get what she has. The “entitled” sociopath is often very convincing in her arguments. Entitled sociopaths are good at justifying their con games. Entitled sociopaths believe that the art of arguing, manipulating, conning, and lying to people is synonymous with working hard.

The sociopath is threatened by the creativity and ingenuity of others. The sociopath must be surrounded by people who they can easily manipulate. People who are in a lesser power than the sociopath. The sociopath wants those around her to think just as she thinks, by manipulating their thoughts, this makes her feel complete, and powerful. The sociopath is very aware of the difference between what is Right and Wrong. They are just hard wired in their brains to do the wrong thing. Even when doing right is more beneficial, the sociopath will still lie, and cheat and do what is wrong in order hurt others while in the process of getting what they want. 

Sociopaths are delusional predators. Sociopaths are notorious for brainwashing and convincing others of thinking how they think.  A sociopath chooses their victims carefully. They choose empathic people, who are easily manipulated by guilt, and kindness. The sociopath pretends to be compassionate and caring {in the beginning} They convince their victims to think that the non-delusional people, that the victim once admired and respected, are the delusional ones. The sociopaths goal is to convince you that she is completely sane and reasonable (the sociopath is everything but sane and reasonable) Victims become convinced that the sociopath’s entitlement is justified and all others are simply too jealous or too stupid to understand.

You can't beat a sociopath but a BiGGER Sociopath can

Living well is the best revenge you can get on the sociopath...

Do not try to get the sociopath back for the harm they have caused you and your family. The truth is “NOTHING CAN OBSTRUCT THE WILL OF A SOCIOPATH”. You will fail if you are a normal person with a conscience. It's best to accept what happened to you and LEARN from it. But you must let it go. You are not going to get closure from a sociopath.

The reason we have a hard time letting go of the emotional harm that the sociopath causes is because they don't feel bad for what they did to us. They even continue to cause us more harm, well after they have slandered our name, stalked us, made us feel helpless and afraid. They are dangerous individuals.  Sociopaths are notorious for spreading lies, and attempting to destroy a person spirit, career, reputation, and life. 

The sociopathic predator turns on the charm, or plays the victim, and tries to convince everyone that you are mentally unstable. 

• The best way to deal with a sociopath is knowing the person is a sociopath. Which most people associate the word sociopath with killers, rapist and those who commit sadistic crimes. They do not think the blonde, blue eyed, soccer mom is a candidate. In this particular situation (involving a female sociopath) usually takes an intelligent person on the outside looking in at the situation to identify what is going on.

I will not sugar coat this any. Because I have been targeted by a sociopath and I know the pain they cause. I have done my research. I realize that most people don't understand what a sociopath is until they are the victim of one. The sociopath can be anyone, and once targeted by one, you are going to lose everything. 
The only thing that can beat a sociopath is a bigger sociopath/psychopath. This means- only a person who is more cold and calculated, more heartless, smarter, and more physically at an advantage, while also lacking any conscience can take the "everyday sociopath" down. (Do not go searching for a bigger sociopath to take your textbook sociopath down)  Yes your chances of defeating one yourself is slim. But you put yourself in more danger by searching for an befriending someone you think is worse than the current sociopath you are dealing with. If you are lucky the sociopath will eventually target the "wrong" person - being the "bigger sociopath".  That will be the sociopaths demise. 
You will not see the sociopath demise, especially if you have no contact with them. And that is fine. The only reason you might see the demise of your sociopath is if you share children with the sociopathic slut. Then you have no choice but to deal with the sociopath occasionally. Knowing that you cannot beat the sociopath, you will get the advantage of seeing her slow demise when she has targeted a bigger sociopath accidentally. The sociopath is a bully and will target many people in her life. Eventually she goes after the wrong person. Due to drug use, and aging she is not as strategic as she use to be. A sociopath will not admit that her life is shit and she is losing all control of things she once had a strong control over.
All of the sudden she is not in control anymore. She is somehow exposed for a majority of her fraudulent dealings. Her career is what the “bigger” sociopath goes after first. The bigger sociopath will not stop until her career is destroyed. (The bigger sociopath has connections and has contacted people in high places that have the power to shut her down). Then the bigger sociopath goes after her finances. The bigger sociopath will figure out where and who she is getting money from and contact those sources. Until she no longer is financially secure. The bigger sociopath doesn't care in the least the impact it has on her children or her way of living. (Remember the bigger sociopath IS IN FACT A SOCIOPATH AND HAS NO 
CONSCIENCE OR REMORSE). The bigger sociopath is doing to the everyday sociopath what he/she has done to you! The bigger sociopath will not stop until the little sociopath loses all power and control they once possessed.  The bigger sociopath is able to take the
 typical everyday sociopath down. But DO NOT FORGET THAT THEY ARE STILL A SOCIOPATH. AND YOUR SOCIOPATH MESSED WITH THE WRONG PERSON – a more horrible person than them.... But the bigger sociopath has targeted the innocent before, and they are not a hero.  They are just doing what they do. Someone targeted them and they are fighting back, and they will win. 
The every day sociopath has no idea why their luck has turned and who is targeting them. They do not know they just f*cked with the wrong person. Because the bigger sociopath is able to cover all their tracks and unable to be exposed or discovered 

I have actually seen this happen to a friend of mines ex wife.  She caused so much chaos and problems. Used the kids against him to hurt and manipulate him. She tried to assassinate his character, and would just tell lies about him to his childrens school.  He paid her whatever she wanted just to get her to leave him alone. Then all the sudden she was exposed from stealing from clients and family. It was like it all just started going down hill for her. She lost her job. Was even publicly humiliated by having her name on the front news of the paper. Rather it was for the money she was stealing from clients, or for the hot checks she was writing. It was in the paper for everyone to see.  My friend had nothing to do with his ex wife spiral downward. We have come to the conclusion she picked the wrong person to target. Now she is an unemployed loser, and every time she tries to come back and regain trust in the community – but is unsuccessful. I'm assume a bigger sociopath is responsible... 

That's karma —

Sociopaths are Stalkers..

Cowardice - This is one of the major traits of a stalker/sociopath, rather if the obsessed stalker is on the street or online.  People with a stable mind, and who are emotionally and mentally healthy  have no need or desire to engage in stalker like behavior. 
When someone is truly being stalked or harassed, they will call the police, and take the legal measures necessary to protect themselves from a dangerous stalker. 

Many stalkers/sociopaths will vilify their victims. This is a common tactic they use. For example: to know if someone is being truthful about being stalked, they WILL NOT TAKE TO SOCIAL MEDIA TO DISCUSS IT. A person being stalked is usually frightened and afraid. They will try to hide from their stalker, they will not take to social media to announce that they have a stalker. 

*RED FLAG* - When you see a person claiming that "they are being stalked by a cyber troll, or mentally unstable person" - **THIS IS A RED FLAG**  
When a person is TRULY AFRAID they will NOT do anything to provoke the stalker. For example - they will NOT claim they have a Stalker, or use first and last names. When you see someone using a persons first and last name - it is usually in an effort to defame the person, accusing them of the exact behaviors they are inflicting on the REAL VICTIM. 

Facebook or twitter are a stalkers favorite way to keep up with their victim. And also it is a sociopaths favorite tool to slander and ruin the reputation of their victim - if someone's social media uses a persons full name negatively - THE SOCIOPATH WANTS TO VILIFY THE VICTIM SO THAT THEY LOSE SUPPORT OR CREDITABLY. Also female sociopaths Use their children to play victim. They know children are innocent, and they prey on people's kindness by saying "my kids are so scared of Firstname Lastname". They will exploit and use their kids to elicit pity from kind people. 

Real Victims DO NOT want to instigate or provoke the stalkers behavior. A PERSON BEING STALKED is afraid and should call the police and file a police report, to let the police be on alert about the situation. Speaking of the stalker 
on social media could put their families life and their own life in danger. 
Having a stalker can be a truly horrific ordeal. A person being stalker will keep a low profile and disappear from social media because they do not want their 
stalker to know what they are doing or where they are at.

**Also if a person has a blog and they are slandering and accusing someone of stalking or other unlawful acts on their blog - if you see that they have put the person full name in the "labels" section, so that if that persons googled - the negative info the sociopath has provided will be the first thing to come up**

SO ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE POSTING COMMENTS AND USING A PERSONS FIRST AND LAST NAME. THIS PERSON IS 99% MORE THAN LIKELY NOT BEING STALKED, BUT THEY ARE ACTUALLY THE PERPETRATOR AND THE STALKER. ** What they are doing is vilifying their victim, in order to convince others that they are the victim, so they can continue to stalk, harass, and mentally torment the real victim. This is a very common tactic of any sociopath. They are attempting to discredit the person they are stalking and harassing. BY DISCREDITING THE REAL VICTIM, IT GIVES THE STALKER SOCIOPATH MORE ACCESS TO CAUSE HARM TO THE VICTIM. They will accuse others or committing criminal acts but rarely take legal action. Because they know that if an investigation was to take place - THEY WILL BE EXPOSED AS THE ACTUAL PERPETRATOR. It is much easier to play victim and get pity from kind people.

The Internet is the perfect domain for the Stalker/Sociopath. The sociopath seeks to avoid all personal responsibility for her/his behavior.  Not only do “normal” people have no need to engage in stalking behavior but the intelligent, self-confident, well balanced person (one who can feel love, empathy, joy and compassion) wouldn’t even consider stalking another person.

The very thought of it would be abhorrent to them. ------------------------------------>>>For a sociopath however, stalking is like second nature to them; a 
skin they feel very comfortable in.

The ultimate coward stalker is the man or woman who stalks a former lover or spouse. And the worst of the worst cowardly stalkers actually stalk their former spouses/lovers NEW SPOUSE OR LOVE INTEREST. THIS IS TRUE PSYCHOPATHIC OBSESSION! The psychopath is not satisfied with stalking only their former spouse, they stalk their former spouses new lover or partner, because they want to know what their former spouse is doing, and know everything about the person they are doing it with. This is the most DANGEROUS of all situations, when the obsession has gone to these extremes.  Unfortunately this can result in a homicide. The stalker/sociopath murders their former lover/spouse and also the former spouses new partner. Since the sociopath is such a coward, they will usually takes his or her own life to avoid prison, and all responsibility.  They take their own life NOT because they feel ANY REMORSE or GUIL for the person they slaughtered, or the lives they have destroyed. They do it to avoid 
being held legally responsible for their actions. When you think stalker, also think coward. They are one and the same. This also means that cowards, in the right circumstances and possessing the right frame of (twisted) mind can be extremely dangerous, even those who have never before committed of a serious crime of violence. (That only means they haven't been caught yet for their disgusting and perverse behaviors) 

*¡!¡* I am going to post more on this subject later. I have a good friend who has been accused of stalking by her husbands, ex wife. This woman(the ex wife) has taken slander and false accusations to a new extreme of creepy and dangerous. She is accusing my friend who I have known for about 20 years, of stalking her. She claims to be scared for her life and her children's life (red flag) If this deranged and mentally unstable woman is so afraid for herself and her children - why does she make post on Facebook about her children's life and activities. If she is being stalked she would not be giving out so much personal information of where abouts. Also she has no problem with my friend picking her children up from school. What this psycho ex wife is doing is attempting to ruin my friends reputation, because she is jealous of the fact that she married her ex husband, although the ex wife is remarried as well... She has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (so her mother and other family members have reported) but it is a clear case of sociopathic disorder. Sociopaths are rarely diagnosed because they can fool the most qualified psychiatrist. So it is a hard diagnosis to make ..