Stalking as a mental illness VS Sociopathic Stalking

What is Stalking? 

At its core, stalking consists of a persons repeated and obsessive attempts to gain control of another person. Stalkers terrify their victims.

There are stalkers who are delusional, and may not really know their victim, but have created a fantasy in their disturbed mind, that the victim is in love or was in a previous relationship with them. 

The other kind of stalker is not so delusional, but very dangerous. They do know their victim personally. They were in a relationship with the victim at one time. The victim has rejected the stalker, and is trying to move on with their life. The stalker becomes infuriated that they cannot control the victim any longer. 

On the lower end of the stalker spectrum.  Stalkers will make repeated phone calls, obsessively email the victim. In more extreme stalker manifestations, the stalker might involve repeatedly going to a person’s house, making threats against a person, harming pets, stealing possessions, or interfering with a person’s relationships with friends, family, or coworkers. Stalkers may alternate between patterns of verbal threats, domestic violence and attempts to destroy their victims reputation. 

Stalkers often believe that they “love” their victims and occasionally say they stalk to keep others safe. For example, a character disturbed ex-wife might say she is the victim of her ex-husband, or of the ex husbands new wife. If there are children involved she will use the children to ensure she’s remains in control of her ex-husbands life. 
Psychologically, however, stalking is a crime of control. Stalkers see their victims as possessions who are rightfully theirs, and stalking behavior is frequently activated by a breakup or an ex-partner’s new relationship.

Finding our beautiful soul behind painful lessons

The best things those of us who have been terrorized by a sociopath is to lead the best possible life that we can. Everyones healing process will be different. But the truth is once the sociopath is out of your life, you have the chance to be free and discover who you truly are meant to be, before the sociopath came into your life and destroyed many beautiful parts of you.

When the healing starts to take place we will discover how many amazing gifts we have. We are able to choose those who deserve to be our company.

The sociopath manipulated us for so long we became lost and forgot our dreams and goals. Remembering these things will help you to heal and  calm your mind. This will be essential for us to begin healing and moving  forward in our life..
Do what you love everyday. Once you are free of the sociopath, you will find you now finally have the time to live your life. You may have to overcome certain fears and anxiety first, but this should be easy for you. You have survived a sociopath, and if you can do that, you can do ANYTHING!

The sociopath causes one to feel empty. Some of us have forgotten how to smile at others, make simple eye contact, or even just be silly and have fun. You are capable of all of these things. The real you is still there, some of us  just must go deep to find it.

Never forget that you have survived! Having a sociopath in your life means that you have been through a situation that was degrading, demeaning and horrible. Some of us even lived in the same home with the sociopath which was a house of terror, contemptuous and destructive treatment.
But we are still here today. We are not victims anymore. We are survivors. We endured every moment and every day with a monster who came across normal to the rest of the world. We felt fear of their arriving home, we felt anxiety of what emotional abuse was to come next, every single minute of the day that we were with the sociopath. We lived in fear and terror. The fact that we are still here and working to let go of that painful part of the past.  That deserves the deepest of respect.

We will heal from All the pain the sociopath has caused us. Unlike the sociopath we are capable of learning valuable life lessons from our painful life choices and mistakes. It is in these painful lessons, we become stronger, wiser, and better. It is in those painful lessons we learn that NO ONE owns us. We own ourself...

Once we have accepted that we were at the mercy of a very evil individual for months or years. All because we are kind, giving, loving, forgiving and genuine. And that is why the sociopath chose us. They do not choose people who are harsh, mean, aggressive and overly assertive, that would make manipulating, lying, cheating and controlling to hard for them. They don't much care for a challenge. In fact most of them are very lazy and would rather be able control and abuse without having to put a lot of effort towards it. They are looking for someone they believe will take being abused and keep their mouth shut about the abuse. Once the relationship had ended, the sociopath will always cover his/her tracks by slaughtering your character and making up lie after lie about you. This is one of the abusive acts that the sociopath will put extreme efforts towards. Just to be sure that if you do decide to speak about what was done to you, they have made sure no one will believe you.

Understand this is what these types of individuals do! Before you, they were doing it to someone else.  After you, they will find another victim and do the same to that person. You were not the first target/victim, and you will not be the last.

We will eventually find our way to the path of freedom. And will be set free from the emotional prison that the sociopath held us in. We will finally be rid of this evil creature once and for all.

Healing will start to take place. Although it does not occur over night. It is a process that takes time. But in this process you will learn more about yourself than you ever knew existed.
You will find out what an amazing person you are and that you have always been. 

A sociopath is a thief, they take so much from everyone. They take away confidence, peace of mind and faith in humanity. They steal the light that they see in the victim, and replace it with dark.
No matter how broken you think you are. All that the sociopath takes away from you can be restored.

The one thing that the sociopath can NEVER take from you, is your soul.

It is something that they do not not have and that they lack. They hate you and everyone else who has soul. No matter what terrible, evil, awful, hateful, deceptive, degrading, demeaning, immoral, horrific painful and abusive acts they have committed towards you.

You will always have a beautiful soul. 

And that is something that the sociopath will NEVER be able to experience, or be able to steal from you or anyone else. They will remain empty, shallow, miserable and unable to ever experience the beauty of love and compassion. Which is the emotions that the majority of human beings possess that makes us different from wild animals

Sociopaths are Stalkers..

Cowardice - This is one of the major traits of a stalker/sociopath, rather if the obsessed stalker is on the street or online.  People with a stable mind, and who are emotionally and mentally healthy  have no need or desire to engage in stalker like behavior. 
When someone is truly being stalked or harassed, they will call the police, and take the legal measures necessary to protect themselves from a dangerous stalker. 

Many stalkers/sociopaths will vilify their victims. This is a common tactic they use. For example: to know if someone is being truthful about being stalked, they WILL NOT TAKE TO SOCIAL MEDIA TO DISCUSS IT. A person being stalked is usually frightened and afraid. They will try to hide from their stalker, they will not take to social media to announce that they have a stalker. 

*RED FLAG* - When you see a person claiming that "they are being stalked by a cyber troll, or mentally unstable person" - **THIS IS A RED FLAG**  
When a person is TRULY AFRAID they will NOT do anything to provoke the stalker. For example - they will NOT claim they have a Stalker, or use first and last names. When you see someone using a persons first and last name - it is usually in an effort to defame the person, accusing them of the exact behaviors they are inflicting on the REAL VICTIM. 

Facebook or twitter are a stalkers favorite way to keep up with their victim. And also it is a sociopaths favorite tool to slander and ruin the reputation of their victim - if someone's social media uses a persons full name negatively - THE SOCIOPATH WANTS TO VILIFY THE VICTIM SO THAT THEY LOSE SUPPORT OR CREDITABLY. Also female sociopaths Use their children to play victim. They know children are innocent, and they prey on people's kindness by saying "my kids are so scared of Firstname Lastname". They will exploit and use their kids to elicit pity from kind people. 

Real Victims DO NOT want to instigate or provoke the stalkers behavior. A PERSON BEING STALKED is afraid and should call the police and file a police report, to let the police be on alert about the situation. Speaking of the stalker 
on social media could put their families life and their own life in danger. 
Having a stalker can be a truly horrific ordeal. A person being stalker will keep a low profile and disappear from social media because they do not want their 
stalker to know what they are doing or where they are at.

**Also if a person has a blog and they are slandering and accusing someone of stalking or other unlawful acts on their blog - if you see that they have put the person full name in the "labels" section, so that if that persons googled - the negative info the sociopath has provided will be the first thing to come up**

SO ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE POSTING COMMENTS AND USING A PERSONS FIRST AND LAST NAME. THIS PERSON IS 99% MORE THAN LIKELY NOT BEING STALKED, BUT THEY ARE ACTUALLY THE PERPETRATOR AND THE STALKER. ** What they are doing is vilifying their victim, in order to convince others that they are the victim, so they can continue to stalk, harass, and mentally torment the real victim. This is a very common tactic of any sociopath. They are attempting to discredit the person they are stalking and harassing. BY DISCREDITING THE REAL VICTIM, IT GIVES THE STALKER SOCIOPATH MORE ACCESS TO CAUSE HARM TO THE VICTIM. They will accuse others or committing criminal acts but rarely take legal action. Because they know that if an investigation was to take place - THEY WILL BE EXPOSED AS THE ACTUAL PERPETRATOR. It is much easier to play victim and get pity from kind people.

The Internet is the perfect domain for the Stalker/Sociopath. The sociopath seeks to avoid all personal responsibility for her/his behavior.  Not only do “normal” people have no need to engage in stalking behavior but the intelligent, self-confident, well balanced person (one who can feel love, empathy, joy and compassion) wouldn’t even consider stalking another person.

The very thought of it would be abhorrent to them. ------------------------------------>>>For a sociopath however, stalking is like second nature to them; a 
skin they feel very comfortable in.

The ultimate coward stalker is the man or woman who stalks a former lover or spouse. And the worst of the worst cowardly stalkers actually stalk their former spouses/lovers NEW SPOUSE OR LOVE INTEREST. THIS IS TRUE PSYCHOPATHIC OBSESSION! The psychopath is not satisfied with stalking only their former spouse, they stalk their former spouses new lover or partner, because they want to know what their former spouse is doing, and know everything about the person they are doing it with. This is the most DANGEROUS of all situations, when the obsession has gone to these extremes.  Unfortunately this can result in a homicide. The stalker/sociopath murders their former lover/spouse and also the former spouses new partner. Since the sociopath is such a coward, they will usually takes his or her own life to avoid prison, and all responsibility.  They take their own life NOT because they feel ANY REMORSE or GUIL for the person they slaughtered, or the lives they have destroyed. They do it to avoid 
being held legally responsible for their actions. When you think stalker, also think coward. They are one and the same. This also means that cowards, in the right circumstances and possessing the right frame of (twisted) mind can be extremely dangerous, even those who have never before committed of a serious crime of violence. (That only means they haven't been caught yet for their disgusting and perverse behaviors) 

*¡!¡* I am going to post more on this subject later. I have a good friend who has been accused of stalking by her husbands, ex wife. This woman(the ex wife) has taken slander and false accusations to a new extreme of creepy and dangerous. She is accusing my friend who I have known for about 20 years, of stalking her. She claims to be scared for her life and her children's life (red flag) If this deranged and mentally unstable woman is so afraid for herself and her children - why does she make post on Facebook about her children's life and activities. If she is being stalked she would not be giving out so much personal information of where abouts. Also she has no problem with my friend picking her children up from school. What this psycho ex wife is doing is attempting to ruin my friends reputation, because she is jealous of the fact that she married her ex husband, although the ex wife is remarried as well... She has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (so her mother and other family members have reported) but it is a clear case of sociopathic disorder. Sociopaths are rarely diagnosed because they can fool the most qualified psychiatrist. So it is a hard diagnosis to make ..