Stalking as a mental illness VS Sociopathic Stalking

What is Stalking? 

At its core, stalking consists of a persons repeated and obsessive attempts to gain control of another person. Stalkers terrify their victims.

There are stalkers who are delusional, and may not really know their victim, but have created a fantasy in their disturbed mind, that the victim is in love or was in a previous relationship with them. 

The other kind of stalker is not so delusional, but very dangerous. They do know their victim personally. They were in a relationship with the victim at one time. The victim has rejected the stalker, and is trying to move on with their life. The stalker becomes infuriated that they cannot control the victim any longer. 

On the lower end of the stalker spectrum.  Stalkers will make repeated phone calls, obsessively email the victim. In more extreme stalker manifestations, the stalker might involve repeatedly going to a person’s house, making threats against a person, harming pets, stealing possessions, or interfering with a person’s relationships with friends, family, or coworkers. Stalkers may alternate between patterns of verbal threats, domestic violence and attempts to destroy their victims reputation. 

Stalkers often believe that they “love” their victims and occasionally say they stalk to keep others safe. For example, a character disturbed ex-wife might say she is the victim of her ex-husband, or of the ex husbands new wife. If there are children involved she will use the children to ensure she’s remains in control of her ex-husbands life. 
Psychologically, however, stalking is a crime of control. Stalkers see their victims as possessions who are rightfully theirs, and stalking behavior is frequently activated by a breakup or an ex-partner’s new relationship.

True Sociopath & Narcissist Sociopath

All sociopaths are narcissist but NOT ALL narcissist are sociopaths. 

There are narcissist and then there are narcissistic sociopaths.... There is a difference between the two. From my own personal experience, this is what I have observed about the two.(this is only my personal observation and experience) 

A True Sociopath has no fear. The true sociopath does not care what others think of them. Unlike the narcissistic sociopath who cares not about what people think of them, but about how people view them. 

The Narc Sociopath wants to be viewed by others as popular and liked, even if they are not like by many people, they will pretend that they are. The Narc Sociopath is so insecure that it is important to them that others admire them, because of their materialist possessions, or name brand clothing. They want people to believe that they are powerful, and that they have a lot of “friends” with powerful connections. 

They are all different and they all do different things. 

A True Sociopath is so selfish and empty. That when they are deceiving and cheating, it never crosses their mind that the person they have lied to and deceived will be hurt by the deception. A True Sociopath does not see other people as having any rights of their own, or a mind of their own. The True Sociopath doesn't care or even think that people have the ability to make decisions for themselves. The True Sociopath is only capable of seeing what they want. The true sociopath only “thinks” of their wants. Their sense of entitlement makes them believe that what they want is the most important thing in the world. 

The true sociopath thinks only of him/herself. Sociopaths intentionally act as if they care about others and are eager to help. When it seems as if the sociopath is being “helpful” this is only because she/he has their own agenda. And if pretending to want to help or care will achieve this agenda for them, then that's what they will do. If the true sociopath wants something, he/she will make sure that they get what it is they want, and will use whatever means to get this. Whoever the person is that can get the sociopath closer to getting what  he/she wants will become the sociopaths next target...

The true sociopath will do anything and destroy anyone to get what they want - this includes —

• Compulsive pathological lying (outrageous ridiculous lies)
• Deception and manipulation (conning)
• Cheating and infidelity
• Living like a parasite
• Faking ‘love’
• Theft, stealing,taking out credit cards and loans in someone's name without that persons knowledge. 

When most people do something that hurts another person, we feel guilty, we feel bad about ourselves and can be hard on ourselves. We experience remorse and shame. Usually we end up feeling so bad that we will go out of our way to make that wrong, right.. 

The sociopath does not care at all if they have ruined someone's life. They lose no sleep and they barely even think about the wrong. True sociopaths experience no feelings of guilt, shame, or remorse. 

The narcissistic sociopath will never experience regret. The are only capable of hatred and revenge. 

If the narc sociopaths actions have damaged their life, they don’t feel bad for THEMSELVES, they feel hatred and will find something or someone to blame for whatever happened. 

They don't feel anything towards the any people they have destroyed. They actually feel a sick victory of some sort. 

How the Female Narcissist Operates

The female narcissist is jealous of you.  She is jealous of who you are and what you have. She is jealous of other females. She does not have many female friends because it's difficult for her to maintain female friendships because her jealously comes out and most women do not want to keep that kind of friend in their circle. If you invited her into your circle, when you did not know what kind of female you were dealing with, she may have already started triangulation within your circle. Telling one person this, and another person else. Then turning those people against each other so that they do not speak. If they were to speak with one another - her lies would be exposed.  So always communicate in a group setting with any problems that are arising. 

You think your problems with the high school petty drama, were over in high school, right? Wrong, if a female narcissist has entered your life. 

A female narcissist will bring all that drama in, she always has and always will. She is not capable of having normal relationships with other females. Just like she can't be in a normal and healthy relationship with men.  

If you have caught on to her behavior, and she is unable to continue to manipulate and control the situation or you. She will attempt to control you another way. That is usually by controlling how others view you.  She will control you behind the scenes. By turning your fiends and others against you with lies. She will spread lies about you to your work. She will attempt to destroy you in the most covert way. After all she cannot allow you to possibly expose her for the evil manipulative human she is. She was prepared for this to happen long before you were. So the lies she began telling about you began long you became suspicious of her.  She was prepared to get revenge on you before things began to fall apart. 

She does so many manipulative, calculated, and underhanded things, the victims find themselves on the defense. Under normal circumstances, you wouldn’t feel insecure or like people were turning against you. But because your ex has etched it into your brain that you are at fault. You have begun to question everything about yourself. 

Don't question yourself. Go with your first instinct, trust your intuition. If you think this disordered soulless person is doing these awful things to you (even you have no proof) - they probably are!

Either way, the desired result is that you feel anxious, suspicious, and insecure about every little thing. You may even begin to feel guilty about your jealous thoughts and doubtful of your ability to act “normal”.  When and if you do confront the Narcissist/sociopath about your suspicions, she'll call you delusional or needy or bi-polar. 

The narcissist accuses you of everything that she really is herself. She also will do to you everything she accuses you of. 

So be alert and listen when she accuses you of something - because that accusation is about to happen to you! 

She will never admit to anything at all. She is able to look at you in the eyes with no emotion and claim she doesn’t have the slightest clue what you’re talking about…

Marrying a psychopath, and how they portray you as the unstable perpetrator.

Sociopath, narcissist, psychopath... Whatever you want to call one. They have one similar quality..

They have NO remorse. 

They are capable of causing horrific pain and suffering. (mentally and physically)  They simply could care less about the damage they cause. When normal people cause pain others pain, it is usually under the circumstance of being hurt, afraid or simply not having the tools to handle confrontation and pain appropriately. The difference in normal and psychopathic is; Normal individuals feel remorse for what they have done to hurt a person. The guilt will affect them so much, they have a hard time living a happy life. Psychopaths are able to keep thriving, the pain they know they have caused someone, doesn't bother them. They probably won't ever think about it again, unless the person they caused the pain to, expresses that they are hurt. This doesn't evoke guilt in the psychopath. Instead it evokes ANGER, irritation, and then the psychopath continues to cause more hurt, and damage.

Psychopaths intentionally hurt others, without ever feeling any guilt. 

In fact, “guilt” is a foreign emotion to the psychopath. They do not know what guilt feels like because they have never felt it. Yet ‘guilt’ is used often by the psychopath to manipulate others. 

They are often able to get people to do what they want, by making the person feel guilty. 

From my own observations, guilt is one of the psychopaths favorite tools to use against an empathic, caring person. Especially when it comes to children. Having children with a person with psychopathic tendencies is a living hell. It is almost impossible to ever live a happy life when you share children with a psychopath. They will never leave you alone, they will use the children to manipulate and use you.  The psychopath pretends to be a caring parent who Loves their children, but the truth is, the psychopath is not capable of Love. They are only capable of Hate. And unfortunately the psychopath HATES their EX more than they LOVE their children. 
Even when the children are of adult age, the psychopath will still find a reason to torment you. 

People who marry psychopaths, do not marry them knowing they are psychopathic. They were lied to and manipulated to believe the person was genuine and caring. But the person soon learns that person they married is not a good person. Some people will live in deniall, because accepting that you have married a monster is a hard pill to swallow. The marriage never last, but the abuse and trauma from the marriage does.. 
The psychopath becomes bored with their spouse/victim, because they have nothing more to offer the psychopath. So the psychopath simply moves on to their next victim, of course not before slandering, spreading lies, and accusing the victim of horrific acts against them. They do this to protect themselves against what the victim may say about the relationship. By bashing the victim first (before the relationship is even over) the psychopath is making sure their 'story' is heard before the victims. 
This makes the victims story look false. 

After all the psychopath has already warned others that their soon to be ex, would probably try to accuse them of abuse or cheating, to simply get revenge because they didn't want to be in a relationship with such a unstable person who has deep mental problems. 

Narcissist and Sociopaths are Bullies, pretending to be victims

The sociopathic personality will always justify their behavior..

The sociopath and the narcissist behaves like a child. They may look like full grown adults, but when they do not get their way, they turn into large hateful children.

They take NO responsibility for their actions. They are so shallow and self absorbed that they do not wonder if something they said or did caused a person pain or hurt. The narcissist simply does not care enough about the feelings of others to waste any of their "precious" time pondering about the way another person may feel. Just like the narcissist, the sociopath does not care about the way another person feels. The sociopaths thoughts are very narrowly focused on how to control by means of deception and guilt. If the victim has come to the realization that this is how this particular person operates, and the victim stops falling for the guilt trips, and refuses to be berated and put down. The sociopath will penalize the victim by other vicious methods. Such as spreading lies that will potentially damage the victims credibility and reputation within their community or circle of friends.

The sociopath is notorious for following the latest fads, and media concerns... For example: Bullying. The sociopath is a vindictive, ruthless tyrant, BULLY.

For example - the sociopath I was dealing with observed how “bullying” was getting a lot of media attention. She saw how many people were outraged and had compassion for kids who were being bullied at school, or other places. So when she went on her smear campaign against me, she went to social media, accusing me of being a bully. An adult bully, nonetheless... 

As all sociopaths do, she saw something that knew would elicit pity from normal and kind people. Sociopaths are so good at what they do, because they are able to play such a convincing victim. 

The sociopath used my first and last name, because she wanted people to hate me. It's just part of the game the sociopaths play when they want to destroy you. They always start with your reputation, and turning others agains you. 

This happened before I understood how sociopaths worked. So of course I fell into every trap that the sociopath baited. 

What I realized eventually (after the drama had cooled down) - THAT EVERYTHING the sociopath WAS ACCUSING ME OF BEING, DOING, AND SAYING. Those were all things that she was actually doing to me. I was almost able to predict what she may do next to destroy, by her accusations alone. 

The problem was... At that time, everything she was doing, was done in such a covert and subtle way, I felt powerless to speak up for myself. I was very afraid to defend myself, or do anything else to bring attention to the situation, because like every other time I had tried to defend my character, she would somehow turn it around, making me look like the “big bad mean bully" again. 

When dealing with a sociopath who is hell bent on destroying you, you have a fear inside you, and a dread of what they may do next. All you really want is the slander, lies and defamation of your character to stop. 

I knew that going to social media (as the sociopath had done) to defend myself, was what she wanted. So she could turn herself into “my” victim again. All I wanted was it to STOP.  

SOCIAL MEDIA - That is where these types of people (sociopaths, narcissists) are able to do the most damage. The Internet is just one of the the sociopaths arsenal of weapons that they use to break down, destroy and slander their victim. 

Sociopaths can be whoever they want to be online. They are rarely anonymous.. 

They will make up dozens of false identities, so when they are bashing their target and making false accusations, they can use of their other identities to “back” them up. So when the target looks at what the sociopath is saying, and sees that there are people who are siding with the sociopath, it makes the victim feel powerless and helpless. The sociopaths goal is to shut the victim up. 

The best advice I can give to someone that is having this happen to them, is document, copy and save everything that the sociopath is saying. If you ignore them long enough, the attacks will become more brutal. They want you to respond. They will become desperate for a response and then that is where they cross the line. Once that line is crossed, you should be able to contact local law enforcement. If their defamation is affecting your job, or livelihood, they can be held accountable legally.  

It is very important that you DO NOT RESPOND TO THEM, or go back in forth with them. Even though this will be hard to do, especially when you are under attack. 

The sociopath is an ADULT BULLY.  Anyone who has known them (family) already knows this. It doesnt take long for people to get burned and abused by the sociopath, to realize they are dealing with an unstable person, and they distance themselves. Sociopaths bully their family members, their spouse, their friends, anyone who they percieve as a threat to them.  For example - Anyone who sees through their crap and could possibly expose them. 

Female sociopaths are very similiar to their male counterpart.. The female sociopath just goes about it in a much more vindictive and malicious manner  - ESPECIALLY TO OTHER FEMALES THAT THEY ARE JEALOUS Of. For example: A woman who is younger, more attractive, and successful. The female sociopath seeks to destroy this kind of woman because of PURE ENVY. Sociopath may give us the impression that they are cool, confident and collect. But the truth is, they are jealous, insecure and hateful. 

The sociopath has been a bully since adolescence. They are manipulative and hateful. The sociopath will basically bully anyone who stands up to their acts of emotional cruelty, or does not do as they say.  Since the sociopath loves attention, rather it be negative or positive, they will pretend as if they are the poor innocent victim. I know this from first hand experience.

It was about 5 years ago when I did not understand the person I was dealing with was a narcissistic sociopath. Of course in the end got royally f*cked by the sociopath. It has taken time to heal, but I am stronger, wiser and happier, now that the sociopath is out of my life and there is absolutely NO CONTACT between us.

Now I understand how the sociopath operates, and I know how to deal with a one if I had to. 

This knowledge gives me the power to “walk away” and not engage with people who are of a sociopathic nature or have sociopathic tendencies.

What I hope now, is to help others, by sharing my experience and what I have been through. I want people who feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and lost hope that they can ever be happy again to know THAT THERE IS HOPE.