Emotional blackmail - sociopath/psychopathic individuals

Sociopaths aka Psychopaths aka Emotional Blackmailers make it nearly impossible to see how they’re manipulating us, because they lay down a thick fog that obscures their actions. All the while, if we attempt to fight back, they “ensure that we literally can’t see what is happening to us.”

The Sociopath — will often take the intimate, embarrassing moments of your life that you have shared with them and any secret they know about you (only because they manipulated you into believing they could be trusted, by charming you and gaining your trust, only so that you will feel comfortable enough to confide in them - then they will have something to use against you when they need or want something. They sociopath does not care about you. They want you to think they care about you. 

That way when they fear they won’t get their way or you may tell them no, they use this intimate knowledge to shape the threats that give them the payoff they want.... This is because they are evil. Mean spirited. Vindictive. Hateful. Dangerous. Callous and Cold Monsters. 

                                

                                             The Sociopath is a 

Sadistic Predator. Who preys upon the kind, the weak, the vulnerable 

and the elderly. They are insecure and know deep down inside that 

they are not good enough to pick on strong confident people. They fear that those are the people who will see right through their facade. The strong person with a healthy set of boundaries is capable of exposing them for the filthy slime they really are.

Emotional blackmail is how the vicious sociopath gets what she wants. 

The emotional blackmail is how she threatens people covertly to get what she wants. An example of how a sociopath thinks is: If you don't behave the way I want you to, you will suffer. The sociopath might threaten to use knowledge about a person's past to ruin her reputation, or ask to be paid off in cash to hide a secret. And if you still do not comply after threats. The sociopath will not only use private information they know about you, but they will make nasty lies just for fun. 

The sociopath does all this just because they didn't get their way.... They are willing to destroy another human life ALL BECAUSE Someone Told them “NO”. 

Normal people accept that people will not always do as we want them to. They simply accept and respect the rights of others. When a person is disordered and has mental illness and personality defects such as sociopathic personality disorder, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic, or sadistic psychopathic personality disorder. They are emotionally retarded basically. They still act like a 2 year who is throwing a tantrum at the age of 50. It's really sad to watch, unless you are their target. And you realize this is NO 2 year old. “This is a dangerous person who is going to try to harm me.”

Stay away from the sociopath. She is dangerous. She will destroy anyone who threatens her position of power (which is all imagined in her crazy brain - she actually has no power). 

Sociopathic women start to get worn down with age. They have less creditability and no 

real friends. They usually have alienated their kids, or they have alienated their children's 

relationship with the healthy parent. Everyone distances themselves from the sociopath. 

They want to be far away from the evil, consciousness, cold blooded sociopath. So any connections or acquaintances the sociopath has {including any children} people will make the choice to distance and stay away. They realize that the sociopath is so toxic, that they put themselves at risk of more abuse to even speak with the sociopath, or live in the same town with them. 

I know a guy who is currently in the process of moving up north just to get away from his sociopathic ex wife. She has harassed him, annoyed him, slandered  him, ruined his reputation, threatened him so many times.  Although he has been divorced from this witch for over 7 years - she calls him everyday, sends novel long text messages everyday and since they are not physical threats - the police can't help.  So he has lived in fear of her pulling a Betty Broderick for the past decade. 

He is taking such drastic measures because nothing else has worked. The NO CONTACT RULE has not worked. No matter how much he ignores her, her calls only get more crazy and scary...

Remember Sociopaths will harm you and violate you in anyway they can. These people do not have a conscious. They feel no remorse or guilt. Therefor they are capable of anything 

Revenge and Slander - How A Sociopath will Silence You.

Anyone who has been a target of a sociopath knows the evil they are capable of. We know that a sociopath may not murder your physical body, but they will slaughter you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They will wear your down with their relentless tactics of manipulation, and lies.  They basically mind fuck you - where you end up feeling like you are the "crazy one".  

Some people have no idea what a sociopath is.  They think "Ted Bundy", "Charles Manson", and "Wayne Gacy". Which those sickos were all sociopaths/psychopaths. They are just the worst kind. Sadistic sexual sociopaths. And most sociopaths are sadistic, and are sexually aggressive (even the female sociopath). Some are just not obsessed with killing as much as others, and are able to control their sick urges.  But ALL sociopaths wreak havoc on the lives of others, they are all pathological liars, they are all con-artist, they all lack remorse for the pain and suffering they cause. They are ruthless, conscienceless, calculating, incapable of love, and filled with rage and hate.

Those of us who have been a target of a sociopath, and recognize them for the twisted person they are, we know that sociopaths are not the confident assholes they pretend to be. Again it 
is one of the many mask they wear. But they are actually insecure, pathetic, and jealous people. They are jealous of things they see a "friend" has, that they do not have. They feel they deserve to have that as well.  And once they decide they want something, they will do whatever they have to in order to get whatever it is they desire, even if they have to steal, lie, or destroy the person who has what they want. 

Sociopaths do not want the truth about them to be known, that they are insecure, malicious, and devious people.  
Sociopaths have a deathly fear of being exposed and rejected. That’s why they compulsively LIE, even if the truth would be more beneficial, their brain is hard wired to LIE. 

If people were to find out how evil, corrupt, and sinister the sociopath actually is. How would they be able to manipulate people to do what they want? If others were to know about their true nature, they would lose the support of all the people they have managed to brain wash, elicit pity from, and the people who believe their sad story. 

Therefore when a sociopath feels someone is a threat to them, or may be aware of what they are, and could possibly expose them. That is when the sociopath will have a strong motivation to attack the 
person, discredit them by any means necessary, harass, and ruin whoever presents arguments and facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about the sociopaths behaviors and their false 
statements.

They use blaming to control others, in order to harm the targets they viciously attack, often it is their own family members or former love interests.

Sociopaths will seek revenge relentlessly and engage in distortion campaigns (smear campaigns)  to control and manipulate others into having false beliefs about the victim. By the time the victim of the smear campaign is aware of it, it is too late and he or she may have already been trashed and their name drug through the mud, and their character has already been completely assassinated and lied about for several months, even years to the point that anything he or she says or does will somehow be interpreted as evidence of them (the victim) being the problem. When in reality the victim has done nothing. TO KNOW WHO IS THE VICTIM, AND WHO IS THE SOCIOPATH, LISTEN TO WHO SEEMS TO HAVE THE STORY THAT IS ELICITING PITY AND SYMPATHY FROM OTHERS - that is your sociopath... They will even act as if they care about the person they 
are claiming to be " unstable and crazy".  

If You ARE THE TARGET OF A SINISTER SOCIOPATH, THAT IS TRYING TO 
DESTROY YOUR REPUTATION and cast you as irrational or downright crazy.  BE 
STRONG. KNOW THE MONSTER YOU ARE DEALING WITH, AND REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT THE CRAZY ONE. NO MATTER how bad the sociopath has portrayed you, or the lies they are spreading. 
You know who you are. 
YOU don't know who the sociopath is, AND YOU DO NOT WANT TO!
IF you WERE to FIND out ALL THE SCHEMES, CRIMES and DEVIANT ACTS they are doing it would PUT YOUR LIFE IN DANGER! If the sociopath were to think you knew about all their scams, they would do more than slander your name, in order to keep you from talking. THEY WOULD SILENCE YOU FOREVER!

Remember that all sociopaths are dangerous. They have no conscience guilt or remorse. They don't feel bad for anyone.  They don't feel shame for the heinous acts that they commit. Never underestimate the sociopath. They blend in just like you and me. The blonde, smiling soccer mom sitting next to you could be a sociopath. 
Females even more so than their male counterparts are less likely to be thought of as something 
so evil as the sociopath, making them even more dangerous. They can cause even more damage 
than the male, because of the way most people view women, which is as care takers nurturers, mothers, wives, and humane. But 
the female sociopath is far from it. 

Slander by a sociopath

This is an example page a buddy of mine has saved that an ex wife wrote about him in order to ruin his reputation and assassinate his character. He has documented everything she has done to him, said to him and posted on the Internet since before they were even divorced. He was worried to divorce her because he knew she would attempt to destroy him. She was having an affair. But like most sociopaths — she felt that she was entitled to have an affair while married and her husband not to say a word about it.  She didn't care about the hurt it would cause the children. She still doesn't care about the harm she causes them by speaking so negativity about him

The female sociopath will try to destroy you at all cost...

Females are more likely to do destruction  such as character assassination and defamation and slander, and have numerous blogs speaking ill of their victim. A bitter sociopathic ex wife will write numerous lies online to make her ex husband look like a horrible father, and the abuser. She wants to 

destroy any creditability her ex husband has within the community - especially if she is the one that 

committed adultery, cheated, etc... Which ultimately ended the marriage. Why? She does this to protect herself, fearing that the ex husband might actually tell the TRUTH about what really happened, that led to the divorce. Which could possibly expose her for the lying, hateful, soulless, monster she actually is. So it only makes sense in "her" warped and twisted mind — to destroy the 

victim before her victim can talk. 

In my experience the lies a female sociopath tells are vicious, career destroying, and 100% intentionally meant to assassinate their ex's character. They want to own their ex, and be in control of their life (especially if there are children involved) and use the children to do this. 

A female sociopaths tells Big Lies mixed with minimal truths, that way the lie seems believable.  

The female sociopath tells lies that can be devastating. She intends them to be. She wants to destroy you. Most people do not know what to do. They usually withdraw and isolate ( this is what she wants you to do). Some people are natural fighters, and full of zest and life (something the sociopath lacks - that is why she tries to steal yours) Either way it does not take long for the person being slandered and lied about by this vicious bitch to figure out how to deal with the situation and stay one step ahead of her. These are the people who document everything, stop reacting to all the sociopath says and does, by having ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT with the vindictive sociopath. 

When being attacked by the female sociopath keep only the people in your life that you trust 100% in your life. Anyone who still talks to the sociopath, you must tell them nothing, you can't trust them. The sociopath is dangerous. More So than anyone knows. If you are a target the most important thing is keeping your family and children safe. 

Give the female sociopath NO attention whatsoever. She loves attention. And will do anything to get it. She wants to get a reaction from you (especially if you have decided to have no contact) 

Do not ever underestimate the lies she is capable of. And she will do and anything to get that response. Even to go as far as telling you, your teenage daughter has a lump in her breast and it's cancerous and is having surgery at 9am Tuesday morning. That's a heinous lie to tell, but it will cause the father to worry. So he either responds wanting more details (and she wins because he responded FINALLY!) or the father goes up to where the surgery is taking place only to find out that it was all a lie. (And she wins because she got you to React - and wasted YOUR time) — SOCIOPATHS LOVE WASTING THE TIME OF OTHERS.

It's hard to imagine woman as bring so evil, and such convincing liars, especially those who are mothers. But the ones with children, are the ones portraying that they are the best mommys in the world - that are the worst. —A truly great mother has No reason to Brag about her accomplishments and all she does for her children, because her action speak for her. A mother who is constantly saying "my children are my world, and I do everything for them, and their father never helps me, and their step mom doesn't help me, I do it all — this is a huge Red Flag. Especially when you start to notice that the mother doesn't take her children to school, or pick them up. She is No Where to be found when her children need something, as in needing to be picked up from school because they are sick. The so called "dead beat dad" or the "evil stepmom" is usually the one who picks the child up. 

Female sociopaths portray an image they want others to see. The only people who truly know the sociopath is close family and the people being targeted by her. 

Sociopathic woman can portray themselves as something they are not. They can even become well respected  in the community, not because she has ever in her life been a genuinely good person, but because she was able to convince others she was a genuinely good person. What the public didn't see was how she stayed strung out for weeks and months at a time. The community didn't know about the numerous men she was sleeping with. She went for the married men, because they were less likely to talk to others about having sex with her - because they feared their wives finding out. Like everything else that is done in a dark nature – all her lies, schemes, scandals and cheating were revealed eventually. People are surprised, but not shocked. 

All narcissistic sociopaths do the same things. They are rather predictable. It's just hard to predict what lie they will use to destroy you. But you can easily predict that they are going to first start rumors, and spread lies to destroy you. Using any knowledge about and your weakness. Most of them are similar in their defamation and deception tactics. 

There are more Male Sociopaths than there are Female Sociopaths. Which is an advantage for the 

female. She knows that she can use her children to look loving and caring. She uses her children to elicit sympathy from scorned family members. Many people cut the sociopath out of their life but they will not be so harsh as to cut the children of this monster out as well. And the female sociopath depends on this kind of empathy to get exactly what she wants. 

A positive is when having been targeted by a sociopath, or divorcing a female sociopath (there is not many positives so don't get excited).... 

She will Eventually Be Exposed. Maybe not for being a Sociopath – but all her scams she has pulled on unsuspecting victims, all her Lies, drug use, fraudulent activity (i.e - identity theft, bank fraud, stolen accounts, check fraud) will come out. She will probably be arrested for something. Rather it is all her hot checks, or identity theft and stolen credit cards. She will be under a microscope. She can't commit any of her crimes anymore. The community hates her and there isn't a single person who will speak of her in a positive manner, or defend her, or come to her aid anymore. She is screwed. 

Only the ones who have lost all tough of reality and have literally lost their mind because of all the drugs they have used for years will usually stay in the same small town. Too afraid to leave it because her dealer and people she manipulates the most reside their, like her ex who pays her child support 

(despite her claims of him being a deadbeat) and her family who feels sorry for the children and knows she can get money out of them by making them feel sorry for her children. (Poor poor pitiful me - is the sociopaths claim always.

Then there are the more intellectual sociopaths who have been exposed for the liar and their they really are. The one who the community hates and she is basically done in the small town. This sociopath is the most damgerous because she has the brains to get out of the state. She moves her family (or what's left of it) to a new state and for a fresh start.  Did she learn her lesson? Hell No! She now has a new playground to run her scams. Every person is unsuspecting of her. Just like they were in her previous location. She is charming and has a certain charisma about her that attracts people. Better yet, these people do not know her. She will use a different name, like her mothers maiden name, or an ex's name as her new last name. 

She won't change and hasn't changed. She will do to these unsuspecting people what she did to the last... Until she is caught again. Then she will just move again. Unfortunately it can take 10-15 years for people to realize they have been duped.... 

Disordered Individusls with Evil Intent

Evil intentions come from a toxic person who is manipulating AKA a sociopath. It serves the sociopath best to have others involved in their toxic drama games. In these cases, the sociopath uses others in order to drag as many people in possible into the toxic swirl of their schemes as lies. The more people they can manipulate, the more power or more gratification they feel. A sociopath does not want to work toward any resolutions. They only want to “stir the pot” to cause more conflict and drama.

It is helpful to remember that there are two kinds of people in the world. People with Good Intentions and people with Bad Intentions. The people with evil intent create and maintain the bad patterns in 

the first place because it gratifies them to manipulate in order to get what they want, or to and make others feel bad in order to get what they want. The evil intentioned person suffers from a personality disorder. There 4 types of major types of Personality Disorders 

Anti-Social Personality Disorder (APD) • Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) • Borderline 

Personality Disorder (BPD) • Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD)

Disordered people with Evil or Bad intentions need to have a willing and interactive accomplice. In order to avoid becoming caught in the middle of the drama that the individual with bad intentions has. You must never accept or believe any information the disordered person feeds you — and never pass it along. Do Not get involved! 

You must remember that they do not want to do anything that is helpful. They are not looking to resolve conflict (even if they act like they are distraught over the conflict) They only pretend to be concerned but that is not the case — the opposite is true. They pretend in order to make the person they are targeting look as if they are the incompetent one, or as if it is that person who is “disordered and dysfunctional” — not them. If you remain neutral and give no opinion on the matter. Hopefully they will stop trying to bait you into spreading gossip about the person. They will more than likely stop talking to you in general. Because they see you are not going to feed into the bullshit, therefore you serve no purpose to them. 

If you must deal with a disordered person w/evil intentions, to avoid becoming a target yourself — show no interest in gossiping with them, always stay grounded and never take sides. 

Avoid saying anything to the person with bad intent that may give them the impression that you are willing to pass the gossip and information along to anyone. Make sure the sociopathic/disordered  person knows that you have nothing to offer them.  In doing so you may be able to stop them or  at least discourage them from dragging you in their conflicts and gossiping. They will start to look for someone else to manipulate and put in the middle of all their drama. 

When the Sociopath won't Go Away!

The Sociopath is a Toxic individual with no remorse for what they do to others. The most harm is usually to the people they "say" the Love. 

The toxic person doesn’t truly care about anyone but themselves — they just want to keep others around to feed on emotionally, and when a person they think should do everything they ask (regardless if they are still in a relationship with them) decide to go NO CONTACT -- they don’t plan on letting that person get away that easily.

Many female sociopaths have traits of borderline, narcissistic, antisocial or histrionic personality disorder.  People with Dependent Personality Disorder may also resemble a toxic sociopath as well, the difference is the sociopath is truly evil, the dependent person is just needy and afraid to be alone. (Read my other post about when you are the target of a sociopath, they mention many if the tactics the sociopath does to destroy, the dependent disordered person doesn't do these things. I.e. - spreading vicious rumors to destroy your reputation, that is a sociopathic trait only) j

When a sociopath ends a relationship with you, and they still feel that you "owe" them something (usually this is when you share children with them). They will never leave you alone. They always need more money, but no matter how much money you give them, it will never be enough. Sadly even when the children turn into adults, the sociopath will still find reasons to contact you. They pretend it's about your adult children. When in reality they are actually just probably bored... Yes bored... It is pathetic but true..

Sociopaths manipulate to gain control over you and if you have choose to distance yourself from them, they will become desperate to make contact. Below are some of the tactics they may use:

~ Ignoring your requests to stop texting or calling you, pretending as if nothing has happened. When they cheat, they will give you space for a few weeks, then after they think enough time has gone by (to a sociopath, since they have no genuine feelings or emotions, they don't understand that cheating is so hurtful and trust Is so broken, that it can't be fixed with time) so they attempt to continue on as if nothing has changed. 

~ Asking you when you’re going to “get over it” and start being normal again. 

~ Sending you a Fake Apology to give you hope that things have changed. If you are really done with the sociopath, you will able to see right through this, and won't fall for any apology. Sociopaths usually won't apologize, they may say something like “let's wipe the slate clean for the children's sake” or “we have both done things to hurt each other, let's be civil to one another”. Knowing they are the one who has done 99.99999% of the hurting..

~ Trying to trick you into contact by saying someone needs you, is sick, or in trouble. {sociopaths 
love the drama of someone being sick or dying, so when someone really is sick or dying, they use it 

to their advantage}. If no one is sick or dying they just make it up. 

~ Saying they’re worried about you, concerned about whether you’re okay, need to know where you are, they feel you are not acting normal... They are worried for your safety. 

~ Sending unwanted cards, messages and gifts. They will send gifts from your children, as they know you are likely to feel guilty about not taking a gift from your kids. Don’t allow this – exposing your children to manipulation is far worse!

~ Constantly telling that this or that is still at the house you may have shared and they need to come get it back. Never let them back in your home. Make sure anything they left - you return to them. EVERYTHING!  

~ Baiting you with drama games. Especially if you share children. Everyday there will be a new problem with the children. Especially as the children get older. They start losing control of the children and you. So they will tell you your child is going through a "tween depression" and it's important for the child to see his parents together and getting alone. Or they will say "Sally failed her driving test and is devastated and crying and has lost all confidence, please be there for your 
daughter!" When you call to check on your child, she is not devastated or crying. She didn't even take the driving test yet... Sociopaths will lie about everything. They feel confident you won't confront 
them. 

~ Contacting you about “important” things they “forgot” and suddenly have to tell you. Those "important" things are usually lies. Remember the sociopath Lies just to Lie. There is no rhyme or reason behind most of their lies. They are just really crazy and messed up.   No one understands why they lie and make up story's when there is nothing to gain from the lie - again they are usually bored.... 

If you have told someone you do not want contact, and they continue to bother you, that is harassment and the police should be able to help you. They are well-accustomed to dealing with skillful manipulators and have many ways of handling them, so do not hesitate to ask for help. If you ever feel that someone you are trying to break off a relationship with may be capable of more than simply annoying you mildly, make sure you make authorities aware of this person and how they are stalking or harassing you, before the sociopath decides to play victim and talks to your local police first, and tells them lies about you, therefore when you threaten them with calling police, they don't care because they have a plan for that.  (And remember, you have nothing to be ashamed about; you’re not the one behaving badly, and the police are there to protect you from abuse.) 

You must Never Under Estimate a Sociopath, do not give them the benefit of the doubt. Once you realize the person you thought you knew, doesn't exist, and the person you have been in a relationship with is a monster, it will be hard to accept. But the sooner you accept it, the safer you will be. 
They have no conscience telling them to not do something because it's wrong, they feel no remorse after they have destroyed lives. They are hard wired to manipulate, lie and deceive. Especially empathic people. They believe that if you are sensitive and care, you are weak. And they target the weak and the vulnerable. 

Sociopaths Do Not have Friends

Sociopaths DO NOT have friends, they have acquaintances who they use for gossip, and to spread their vicious lies.   The sociopath may think they have followers, fans or friends. But the Sociopath is a friend to NO ONE.  They lack the ability to be a good human being, much less a friend to anyone. They cannot form healthy emotional connections with others, or really any emotional connection at all. They are unable to bond with anyone in a genuine way. The Sociopaths definition of a friend is far different from “the normal” persons definition. 

The sociopath perceives anyone who doesn't disagree with them, or openly despise them as their “friends”.  They Do Not know the difference between having acquaintances and friends because they lack the emotions to be a friend or relate to people in a manner other than deception and manipulation. So there is no difference to the sociopath, as to whether you are a friend or acquaintance. 

The sociopath is very delusional.  They believe when someone makes an effort to say hello, or talk to them, that person must admirer them, and like them, and they scan the person to see if that person is of any "use" to them. If they see something in the person that that will come in handy for them when they are trying to destroy their victim, they will pretend to be interested in this person 

and pursue friendship. If the personas healthy boundaries and refuses to 

beused, or isn't drawn into the sociopaths game of lies and deception, the sociopath will quickly reject them. 

There are many images most people have of sociopaths, and while they are right a tiny percentage of the time, the reality is far more frightening. The fact is that sociopaths are all around us and play a role in our daily lives. They are our neighbors, our colleagues, our fellow church-goers. They are the soccer moms, the PTA moms, the overbearing mom. 

If we have no connection to them we are probably safe from their 
reign of terror but behind the scenes they are tormenting their 
family, their spouses, their ex-spouses, the ex spouses new wife or husband and even their own children, by using them as pawns against their ex, and neglecting them. 

The Sociopath will never have friends. They will never know how to love or be loyal. They will never change. They have no conscience, no morals and are horrible human beings. What has made them so evil? They are capable of hate, but not love... Once a sociopath has targeted you, you must be a very strong person to get thru the ordeal.