True Sociopath & Narcissist Sociopath

All sociopaths are narcissist but NOT ALL narcissist are sociopaths. 

There are narcissist and then there are narcissistic sociopaths.... There is a difference between the two. From my own personal experience, this is what I have observed about the two.(this is only my personal observation and experience) 

A True Sociopath has no fear. The true sociopath does not care what others think of them. Unlike the narcissistic sociopath who cares not about what people think of them, but about how people view them. 

The Narc Sociopath wants to be viewed by others as popular and liked, even if they are not like by many people, they will pretend that they are. The Narc Sociopath is so insecure that it is important to them that others admire them, because of their materialist possessions, or name brand clothing. They want people to believe that they are powerful, and that they have a lot of “friends” with powerful connections. 

They are all different and they all do different things. 

A True Sociopath is so selfish and empty. That when they are deceiving and cheating, it never crosses their mind that the person they have lied to and deceived will be hurt by the deception. A True Sociopath does not see other people as having any rights of their own, or a mind of their own. The True Sociopath doesn't care or even think that people have the ability to make decisions for themselves. The True Sociopath is only capable of seeing what they want. The true sociopath only “thinks” of their wants. Their sense of entitlement makes them believe that what they want is the most important thing in the world. 

The true sociopath thinks only of him/herself. Sociopaths intentionally act as if they care about others and are eager to help. When it seems as if the sociopath is being “helpful” this is only because she/he has their own agenda. And if pretending to want to help or care will achieve this agenda for them, then that's what they will do. If the true sociopath wants something, he/she will make sure that they get what it is they want, and will use whatever means to get this. Whoever the person is that can get the sociopath closer to getting what  he/she wants will become the sociopaths next target...

The true sociopath will do anything and destroy anyone to get what they want - this includes —

• Compulsive pathological lying (outrageous ridiculous lies)
• Deception and manipulation (conning)
• Cheating and infidelity
• Living like a parasite
• Faking ‘love’
• Theft, stealing,taking out credit cards and loans in someone's name without that persons knowledge. 

When most people do something that hurts another person, we feel guilty, we feel bad about ourselves and can be hard on ourselves. We experience remorse and shame. Usually we end up feeling so bad that we will go out of our way to make that wrong, right.. 

The sociopath does not care at all if they have ruined someone's life. They lose no sleep and they barely even think about the wrong. True sociopaths experience no feelings of guilt, shame, or remorse. 

The narcissistic sociopath will never experience regret. The are only capable of hatred and revenge. 

If the narc sociopaths actions have damaged their life, they don’t feel bad for THEMSELVES, they feel hatred and will find something or someone to blame for whatever happened. 

They don't feel anything towards the any people they have destroyed. They actually feel a sick victory of some sort. 

Narcissist are broken and want to break you.

Narcissist are broken mentally and emotionally. You made them feel amazing for a certain period of time obviously that time is over since you are asking this question.

Narcissist  fear abandonment so deeply that they could leave you for someone else and be so hurt that you moved on and are dating again.

The reason to make you suffer is because they are the ones suffering worse then you ever could. 

 But this the only way they know how to function. 

So by punishing you they are desperate for a reaction good or bad makes no difference to them as it is attention and shows they still have control.

Ignoring them causes a HUGE blow to their ego and they HATE it! It EATS them ALIVE!

They will abuse the new supply or smear you to their friends and family to try and maintain control over their own emotions since YOU wont give them what they want.

Seeing you hurt give the narcissist power!

 Seeing you happy makes them ANGRY!

When Reality Slaps You Hard

The realization that you are dealing with a sociopath. Or have been romantically involved or currently still are involved with a sociopath, narcissist or a psychopath is a very surreal and scary feeling. You have obviously realized something was not “right” with the person. So you did meticulous research and all signs point to a person who lacks a conscience.
A person who has no regard for the feelings of any other person but him/herself..

It is very difficult for most of us to understand and accept that there are people in our world that do not feel any empathy and have absolutely NO remorse. 
What is even more devastating (besides finding out the person you have shared so many details of your life with has NO Soul). Is realizing that every moment you shared with this person was FAKE. It wasn't real. 

The sociopath/narcissist has faked every emotion in order to manipulate you into believing they are normal with normal human emotions, just like you. 
They have pretended to love you, just to manipulate you into giving them what they want. 
How does one heal and recover from a deception so Big? You gave your time, energy, love and heart to someone, and you believed they loved you just as much. How does one ever trust again? Love again?  I

Once you have accepted the harsh reality for what it is. It's time to move on. 
It will Not be easy. The sociopath has left you feeling as if the energy/life force has been stolen right out of your soul. This is why healing takes time. You must take care of yourself, be good to yourself and never blame yourself for what happened. After all you were not this evil persons first victim and you will not be the last. This predator will continue this until their last day on this earth. They are simply soulless beings among us. 

Usually as soon as you begin the healing process, the narcissist will suddenly come back to your life, and they will say whatever they have to say to get you back. They will be that same great wonderful amaZing person you met in the beginning. Stay Strong! 

Remember THE NARCISSIST/SOCIOPATH WILL NEVER CHANGE. 

They are able to  fake emotions like. remorse,  sorrow, and even shame. They will act sorry to get you to forgive them for whatever they have done wrong.  They are NOT sorry though. They know exactly what they are doing and plan on doing it again. They actually do not see anything wrong with their behavior.  This is just how twisted they really are.

Narcissist/Sociopaths are serial cheaters.  Every single one of them. Rather it's a man or woman. Just like they are not capable of feeling empathy, they are not capable of being loyal. 

When you first caught them doing something wrong, they initially probably won you back fairly quickly or were able to deny any responsibility and convinced you they are not to blame. But after the 2nd, 3rd, even 4th time the issue came back up, you begin to have your suspicions. But of course the sociopath still tries to show you a great deal of sorrow, empathy and whatever other human emotions they know how to mimic, to manipulate you again. 

They can look so damn genuine, it's really mind blowing to know its all bullsh*t. 

They never feel bad that they have caused so much pain. They actually will feel bad for themselves, when you have had enough and are not so easily swayed and forgiving this 
time. So what started with them apologizing and acting remorseful soon turns to them blaming you (once they realize that you don't believe them) There anger comes raging out at this point, not because they feel bad about anything, their mask is starting to slip  because they were caught.

Psychopaths, sociopaths and Narcissist

Sociopaths, psychpaths, and narcissist have similiar traits. But they are are actually different. In my research I have found all in all they all destroy lives. They all shatter self esteem, rob people of their quality of living and hope. 

Psychopaths, Sociopaths and narcissist know exactly what they are doing to their victim. In fact they know what they are going to do to their victim before they do it. 

Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissist are able to sound as if they have a good sense and that they are of sound reasoning. They come across as charming and innocent. All people, even trained doctors may find that these disorders individuals seem to be pleasant people, that are fully functioning and have high capabilities. 

Psychometric tests also very frequently show the psychopath of superior intelligence. They may conclude that the sociopath is smarter than the average person. Both the sociopath and psychopath can appear brilliant. But it is the sociopath who is of average intelligent but has just convinced us that she/he is smarter than us all. The Narcissisit is likely to seem free from social or emotional impediments, from the minor distortions, peculiarities, and awkwardnesses so common even among the successful. 

The sociopath and the narcissist have shown many superficial characteristics and they are not universal, but they are very common.

The psychopath on the other hand is very smart, and rarely makes mistakes that will get him or her caught. Unlike the sociopath whose life begins to unravel around the age of 45 (especially the female sociopath). 

Old debts will catch up, and people have caught on to the scheme of the sociopath, and are no longer willing to do their dirty work for them. The sociopath being impulsive and having little self control, has probably been married over 3 times at this point, and is unable to keep a job. She relies on child support from the ex-spouses whom she has children with. The community is no stranger to his/her behaviors. 

The psychopath on the other hand is able to keep a steady job. And what the psychopath does is calculated and planned out. There are no holes in his story. Many sociopaths and psychopaths never commit murder. But all are capable of murder. A psychopath thinks about losing the ir freedom if they are caught for such acts, where is a sociopath is so impulsive, they do not think and do not care. They are only interested in themselves and what they want in that moment. 

Sociopaths (at least the ones I have observed) can only be “functioning” for so long... Before they get caught for the many deceptive things they do. They are very spiteful, jealous, angry individuals. They hate people who are successful, have a lot of money, or work hard. The sociopath wants all those things, but doesn't want to work to get them. 
There is a sense of entitlement there. They believe they are entitled to a BIG piece of the pie, even if they did nothing to earn or deserve. They will take credit for everyone else's hard work, and they never will acknowledge the person who actually deserves the credit. In fact they will end up destroying the person. Mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually in order to make sure that the person cannot speak out against them. 

One thing that the psychopath, narcissist, and sociopath all have in common is they all have NO EMPATHY FOR ANY FORM OF LIFE. They have no emotional connection to others {all though they are able to fake sympathy and concern VERY well. But they truly do not care, they NEVER WILL care, and there is nothing you can ever in this life do to make them care. They are EMPTY, hollow, shallow and ruthless people who will look you in the eyes, smile and then turn around and destroy you every chance they get 

The lies, rumors and pain that come with a sociopath

 When we have been abused, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, had rumors spread about us, lost friends, felt isolated, been afraid, lost everything, doubted ourselves, felt guilty, believed it was our fault - more than likely we were in a relationship with a sociopath. Or we were friends, or have a sociopathic family member.  

Once we discovered the truth, and realized we are not the only victim of this person, who had some how destroyed our life, our soul, and left us with little to no trust in the world. We are able to begin healing from the traumatic experience. Healing takes time. We are weak, alone, afraid, and don't know who we can trust.

The hardest part of healing is feeling safe and facing the world. 

We want to withdraw, because the sociopath has said so many horrible things about us, we feel shame. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE SOCIOPATH WANTS US TO FEEL. 

When my sociopath spread rumors about me all over town — to my child's  school, to my neighbors, to people who i respected in the community. I was afraid to leave the house. I was afraid of what others were thinking about me. What lies had my sociopath told everyone? And did anyone believe those lies. My sociopath alread had a reputation in town for stealing, and abusing drugs and sleeping around, so why would people believe the lies that were being  spread?

I felt that people would rather believe the bad they have heard about you - rather than the good. It seems people don't go around talking about the good about you. But they will go around talking about anything bad about you - even if it's not true.

For a while I felt isolated from the world. I did not want to leave my home. 

Even though the people who knew me, knew the hardships I had been through with this sociopath. They new that this person was very dangerous and hated me for moving on with my life. The sociopath wanted and still wants to hurt me, and make my life unbearable. I'm not sure why.. Boredom, or because I moved on and found someone who loves me for me and we were happy. 

What I have noticed is that all Sociopaths are jealous of everyone. 

Since there is nothing real authentic and genuine about the sociopath, and they don't understand or care to understand emotions. They just see everyone as a conquest, or threat. Not as humans, who feel pain. There is not much "humanness" in a sociopath.. And when they get done with you, you may feel they stole some part of your humanness.

A close friend of mine has been dealing with a vindictive female sociopath.  It is his ex wife. He has been divorced from the sociopath for over 9 years and separated for over 14. She had numerous affairs after they adopted their 2nd child. Finally after one of the affairs became very public due to the fact the man she was cheating with was married, and they both held prominant careers in the community, he filed for divorce. He has been through hell and back. This is his story, in his words...

  

When I went no contact and chose to ignore my sociopath, that's when things got very ugly. I refused 

to communicate with the ex. So my ex decided to tell everyone, and put it on social media that i was a "cyber stalking troll". Even using my first and last name to slander me. My ex made up a fake domain site in my name. Pretending to be me, and impersonating me in an unfavorable manner.  Basically painting a picture of a very unstable person, that was trying to get help for my mental problems. The worst part was if you googled my name, the website that my ex started about me was the first thing that came up. That is  when I said “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.”

I contacted a friend of mine who is a police officer. And I ask what could be done about this website that my ex started about and was impersonating me in such a way. It was slander and defamation.

My friend informed me that it was cyber stalking, and I should file a police report. — so I did 

that. 

Which only made my ex crazier. Although the website was taken down, I was now being

accused of more horrific things. Now my sociopath ex wife was going to social media, claiming how she felt afraid for her children, because I was unstable, she believed I would kidnap them at a soccer game or from school. This was horrible because I felt afraid to go to my sons soccer game, because I didn't know what she would do or say, she had went to Facebook, and Twitter pretending to be living a life of fear because of me. 

What I began to notice was a pattern. She may have went to social media bashing me, but she expected me to pick up kids on my weekend. This is when I realized how unstable and deranged she was. She was only looking to ruin my reputation in the community, she still expected me to get the kids (even though she claimed she was in fear for their safety) 

I felt confused. I wanted to get my children. But with the unpredictable ex, I didn't know if I was being set up. Was I going to show up at the school to get my children, and the cops would be waiting to arrest me? Would my kids even be there, considering she loved leading me on wild gooses chases just to waste my time and make things difficult on me? 

I decided my children were worth whatever risk. And after all I had filed a complaint against her for impersonation and cyber stalking (which set her off to go on a rampant on social media) Bit it was still documentation, if my ex had something sinister planned. I remember so many times going to pick them up, feeling so much anxiety. Anxiety and fear consumed me. This woman had no limits and would not hesitate to destroy me, my new wife, and even my step daughter, who was at the time very little (5 years old). Sociopaths are so low, they will destroy children (even their own) just to hurt another person. 

I wondered if this crap would ever stop. I felt hopeless... I began to stop looking online, and begin to focus only on myself my children and healing. It was very tempting to want to get online and see what my ex was saying now.but I never did. I gave it a good eight months before I looked at anything my ex was doing online. I still do not look up my ex'a online activity. 

The impact of the sociopath

Millions of people are impacted by a sociopath or sociopaths. They cause so much damage, one wonders if the damage really ever heals. Does the anxiety ever really go away - even after the sociopath is gone? Do you ever learn to trust again. 

You can. And you will. It will take time. Time heals. It will take strength on your part, to let go and release all the pain and fear. You have to relearn how to love, and how you deserve to be love. You are worthy of unconditional love. The sociopath takes a lot from us. But they cannot take our spirit or our soul. 

Keep your head up. 

The “charismatic” Abusers

Sociopaths are usually said to be charismatic. 

Unfortunately their charisma is only a facade. While others who do not know them well may see them as charismatic and even a respected leader. But the victim of the sociopath would describe them as anything but...

Because the abuser in this type of situation is “charismatic” and well-loved (by strangers), they are  usually dynamic speakers and are some of the greatest storytellers (Liars). They will present themselves who do not really know them, how they are a person who loves to help people. They are seeking to be seen as a “trustworthy” person. This is how they win others over, and will usually manipulate them into doing their dirty work. 

They also put this elaborate and ridiculous show on to gain the trust of others. So if any of their victims speaks the truth about them, then the victim will not believed.  And the sociopath will go into to portray themselves as if they are the victim and they will go on to vilify the real victim. 

Sociopaths give charisma a bad name. I don't believe we should associate charisma with the sociopath. The charisma that the sociopath uses is only a ploy to manipulate others in order to get what they want from them, it is far from real or genuine. Nothing the sociopath does is real or genuine. Once the sociopath has their victim hooked, the charismatic act they once displayed disappears and the abuse begins. 

The sociopath shows the rest of the world what they want them to see. Only the victim(s) of the sociopath sees them for the ruthless, heartless person they are. 

The sociopaths family also endures much of their wrath as well. They torment siblings, and manipulate their parents into giving in to them. The more elderly the parent becomes, the more the sociopath will try to be the "caretaker." 

Not because they care for the well being of their elderly parent, but in order to gain control of their money, and belongings. 

They will only appear to others as if they are taking care of their elderly parent, but in reality they are not taking care of anyone but themselves.  Instead of getting groceries or medical care for them, they use the money for themselves. They will tell others how much time and money they have been spending on their elderly mother or father.. 

It's a very sad way for an elderly person to spend their final years. 

The sociopath simply doesn't care though.

This is not what I consider to be charismatic. It is cruel and remorseless. That is what the sociopath really is though. Cruel and remorseless. You cannot make them care. You cannot make them feel empathy, they will never be sorry for the pain they have caused. In fact the sociopath will try to blame the victim for any emotional trauma they have caused. They accuse their victim of provoking them to act in such a way, or to have said such things that have caused the victim pain. 

The sociopath can be described as many things, but Charismatic is NOT one of them... 

Words as Weapons

The sociopath is motivated by control. The desire to be in control of any environment they are in. The sociopath wants to take credit for “making stuff happen”. But they are rarely the one who has made “stuff” happen.

They do not want anybody to know how irresponsible, and untrustworthy they really are. They seek out caring, kind, empathetic individuals (as they seem them as “weak” and easy prey) to do for them, what they just don't feel like doing - and the sociopath is always going to take the credit for someone else's hard work. 

Sociopaths do not have any real friends. Since they are unable to make a genuine connection with anyone. Any “friends” they may have had, more than likely became tired of emotionally giving so much and never receiving anything back. People find out quickly that being friends with the sociopath is emotionally exhausting. 

Sociopaths are emotional vampires. 

They may not suck your blood out, but they will suck the energy and life right out of you with their constant conflict and drama, and outrageous demands.

They behave in a non-human like way, they are unable to feel what you feel. 

A person who is in a relationship with a sociopath will feel drained, weak, exhausted - emotionally and physically. The sociopath ALWAYS plays the role of the victim, this is how they attempt to control you. They know you will feel sorry for them, they know you will feel guilt. The main emotion that the sociopath does not have — Guilt, is the emotion they will use the most to manipulate and control you with.

Sociopaths are so excelled in lying and pretending to be someone they are not that you will not be able to “spot a sociopath” by just looking for all the tale tell signs. 

Even though sociopaths are known for their dramatic displays, in attempt to elicit pity from others (to manipulate) 

They are so void of empathy and real emotion, they are unable to feel when another person is emotionally hurting - and mostly this is because they really just don't care. 

Even if you tell the sociopath that you are upset, hurt, devastated, and sad. THEY DO NOT CARE!  When you tell a heartless sociopath that you are sad, DO NOT expect a kind response. They will go on the attack. They will turn your emotions on you, and will convince you that you feel the way you do because of YOU! Not them! They will not take any responsibilty for anything. *They can become irate and angry and even enraged at the fact that you had the nerve to share these feelings with them, possibly insinuating that they are responsible for them! 😡

The basic responses that we expect from human beings are just not there. This leave the victim questioning themselves. Most people have no idea that these kinds of manipulators live among us. So the victim is left wondering what they have done to cause this..

All sociopaths and psychopaths use words as weapons, of deception and dominance. 

Robert Hare, PhD., says that the personality of a sociopath (psychopath) is essentially set in stone, so to speak, by adulthood, and incredibly hard to change. 

You cannot change a person who is evil. They are what they are. You must take care of you. Remove the evil from your life 

Pathological People Use the Internet to do their Dirty Work

Anyone who uses the internet or has a social media account (facebook, Twitter, MySpace, Instagram, Blogger)  any kind of online network — then chances are you have encountered some type of cyberbully, Internet troll or stalker. 

Some of them confine themselves to one site and just like to stir people up. Others enjoy having their own site where they can torment their victims by using the victims full name, and then accusing the victim of disgusting things. They are using the Internet to destroy the victims reputation and ruin their life and take away their peace of mind. *A HUGE REDFLAG THAT YOU HAVE A SOCIOPATHIC CYBER TROLL ON YOUR HANDS IS WHEN THE TROLL USES the victims —first* last* middle* even maiden name.  

They enjoy the attention and reaction they get from others. They especially enjoy the emotional reaction they get from the target. Once the target responds emotionally - the troll turns everything around on the target. Making the target look “CRAZY” and verifies that everything they had accused the target of was true. These people are Trolls. They are sociopaths. They are dangerous. As disturbing and hurtful as they may be on the internet. When their attempts to harass and defame you online fails. They will not stop, they only look for more clever ways to stalk you online and they may even begin to stalk you in real life. 

These people are so dangerous.  Majority of these kind of people that engage in cyber stalking are sociopaths. They go way beyond the annoying activities of a troll.  They try to destroy peoples lives, and anyone who is close to the person (like children, spouses, friends, and family) Sociopaths derive satisfaction from the pain and suffering they inflict on others. Sociopaths are very disturbed and sick and people. They DO NOT CARE how about anyone, the more pain and suffering they cause, the more satisfied they are. 

There is no negotiating with a sociopath. They are pathological liars, filled with hate and deceit. They only know how to be hateful and vindictive. They live their entire life this way. They WILL NEVER CHANGE. Some people find this a harsh reality to accept. The sooner you can accept this, the safer you are and the happier you will be. 

I know this because I have been the victim of a sociopath. I was cyber stalked, I was falsely accused of horrible things. My reputation was being torn to shreds. My self esteem was being ripped apart. I was emotionally and physically exhausted from how much time the sociopath spent on writing about me, talking to anyone who would listen about me. Even saying nasty things about my young child. Sociopaths will hurt your children of they believe it will cause you (their real target pain and distress) - this is what makes them so dangerous. They have no qualms about hurting children, even killing a pet if they think it will cause you devastation and hurt. 

Some cyber stalkers have a personal vendetta against the individual they are stalking and bullying online. They set up dozens of fake profiles and account to harass the victim. The sociopath cyber stalker uses first and last name so that anytime the victims name is run on a search engine, the negative, defamatory, and damaging lies, are the first thing to show up. 

Anyone that is being cyber stalked should take comfort in the fact that the material a cyber stalker publishes seldom is of little interest to anyone. 

I have been a victim of a particularly nasty sociopath. I have been cyber stalked, bullied, harassed, slandered and scared for the past five years.

Things today are better. I survived. I like to consider myself a survivor more so than a victim of a pathological person. I know there are so many others who are going through an ordeal like i have. Feel free to email me if you are going through this kind of torment. It's important to talk with someone who understands and believes you. They can help you to handle the ordeal, and put the broken pieces back together. 

Sociopath ruin Christmas

Evil people have no ethics, no empathy and no compassion.  Sociopaths and Psychopaths and narcissist are evil.  They are characterized by a conscious and concern for others. They lack human emotions, they are ruthless, mean, and cruel. 

Evil people are hollow inside. Seeing a person in psychical or emotional pain does not bother evil people. Some even enjoy the suffering of others, and intentionally cause the suffering for their own sick and twisted pleasure. 

It's like there is no soul in side of them. They may look human, but their actions and mannerisms, make them more like monsters. 

Unfortunately these evil people need others to fufill their wants and needs. They depend on others to get want they want. They don't care how they get it. As long as they get it and are in control. They love keeping the people who they are in relationships with on their toes. They love keeping them doubting theirselves. They are evil 

Sociopaths don't give a shit. No use on wasting anytime trying to tell them how you are hurt. They truly truly DO NOT care. They believe the rules don't apply to them. Sociopaths think they are entitled to do what they what to whoever they want. 

Nothing good can come from having a relationship with a sociopath. In an intimate relationship, they are cheaters and will rob you blind. In friendships they will manipulate you and stab you in the back. If they are a family member, they ruin every holiday, birthday and they will use you and make life horrible. 

I use to LOVE Christmas. But I dread it now. Even with no contact the sociopath still tries to ruin every holiday. Especially my birthday, Christmas and Father's Day. It's so much superficial drama and bullshit, the sociopath has taken away the love that Christmas is suppose to be. 

Sociopath's refuse to EVER leave their Victims Alone

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are dangerous  parasites. If you ever want to be rid of these parasites – you must understand how they function. It is important that you see them for the evil they  are. Understand that they are soulless and heartless beings who has no conscience, no empathy, and they are capable of destroying you and your children. Most importantly KNOW THAT THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE. YOU CANNOT HELP THEM, they DO NOT WANT HELP, THEY DO NOT THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THEM. They see anyone who cares for them as a weak idiot who they can manipulate and take advantage of. They are ruthless and will destroy anyone they can to get their way or sometimes just for their own enjoyment.

The sociopath will intentionally cause you problem after problem. They want you to feel mental confusion, question your self, and in general destroy your confidence and self worth. 

They refuse to leave you alone so you can move forward and live what's left of your life, that they sociopath hasn't stolen. 

You have to be able to put your emotions aside, and “stop trying” to understand them. You will never understand them, as long as you have a conscience and you care for others. For an empath it's impossible to assimilate and comprehend how another human being can be so evil and cruel to a fellow human. 

You must Always remember you are not dealing with a normal healthy human being. You are dealing with someone who has a defective soul. These people are spectacular actors, they put on an a show to others and pretend as if they are capable of empathy, love and concern. They are liars, cheaters, and cons. They do not know how to be honest and even make an honest living. They will always be involved in something that is scamming another person, causing harm (emotional or physical) to someone. 

Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist lack EMPATHY. 

They have No empathy for any kind of life. They are empty inside, and they will never experience life on a deeper level. The sociopath is so shallow and superficial, they really believe that their materials define them. They want to dress with name brand clothing, because that is the only way they can feel good about themselves. 

Normal people feel fulfilled by their children, their family, and their interaction with other people. Not the sociopath. The sociopath must knock others down to feel successful. Destroying someone else makes them feel “on top”. Especially if they feel threatened by someone. They seek to destroy the person, and usually the person has no idea what the sociopath is doing until the damage has been done. 

The best option when dealing with a sociopathic, narcissistic ex is to BLOCK THEM FROM YOUR LIFE! Never respond to them or give them a reason to talk to you. They will bait you and they are relentless predators. 

STAY STRONG

NO CONTACT !

No contact gives you the space and time to get your energy back into your life. It can be challenging at first as you may have to resist the urge to answer the phone or return an email or text message. You must get into the habit of policing your self for your own good. Imagine that you have two different aspects of yourself; A parent self and a child self. The parent self will have to police the child self to be sure she doesn't do anything that will hurt her. You know intellectually that breaking the rules of no contact will hurt the child so you stop her from doing so even though she is throwing a tantrum.

Making a decision to cut off contact with a narcissistic personality disordered individual, when leaving the relationship is an important part of your recovery process. The decision to initiate “no contact” is a decision for your health and sanity.

When you remain in contact you continue to engage in the relationship on some level and are still affected by the craziness and the dysfunction.  You will normally continue to be affected by the hot and cold behavior of these sociopathic narcissist, they will always try to pull you in and then push you away, and you will constantly feel confused and 

hurt. This sociopathic narcissist will continue to drain all your energy which results in depression and lethargy.

It is very hard to maintain “no contact” when it comes to the narcissistic sociopath. When they realize that you have decided to move on and you no longer are willing to play their game, they will continue to try to get a response from you. They will sound sincere. They may sound apologetic. They will always have a reason that sounds plausible are perfectly innocent to why they are contacting you. 

It is important that you not be taking in by all their efforts, because they really are not sincere and they are not apologetic. 

It is all an act in order to pull you back into their web of crazy. 

It is important to remember that they will never change. They will always be dysfunctional, deceitful, and the lying individual they have always been. They will always be evil. They will always blame everyone else for everything that has happened. They were never in their life take any responsibility for anything.

You are a thoughtful, kind, and empathetic person. You are compassionate and you care for the feelings of others. That is why  it is difficult for you to ignore someone and cut off contact with them, especially since that someone was a person that you once loved and you thought loved you too. As hard as it may be to accept, you must acknowledge and accept that they never loved you. They only  used to you, and when they got bored they moved on to what they thought was more “exciting”. And as twisted as it may be even though they have found something more exciting, they still want to control you. 

When you cut off all contact with them, you take your power back. They cannot control you if you have no contact with them. In order to move on and be happy you MUST TAKE YOUR POWER BACK, and stop giving them your power by falling into their trap they have set for you. 

The sociopath has drained your energy, love of life, confidence, self worth for long enough! No contact gives you the upper hand. You will start to feel better about yourself, and begin to smile again once you cut off all contact. 

Accusations of the disordered Ex

The Ex Spouse - There are some people (the lucky ones) who actually get along with their ex. Most of us are not so lucky....

Why can't your EX get a life? Why won't he/she just move on and leave you alone? After all he/she has remarried and claims to be so happy, especially now that you are no longer in their life...  
When your ex continues to call, text, email to tell you the what you need to do while the children are with you (as if you are so incompetent that you can't figure it out yourself) You are probably dealing with a controlling, demanding, and disordered ex. You have noticed that the intention with your ex is not good. They are not doing what they do because they truly are thinking only about the children. They are doing this, because they want to be in control of you. The ex knows you have moved on, you are happy with your new spouse. This drives your disordered ex insane (more insane than he/she already is) Scary huh.....

The mere thought of your psycho ex -- the person who lied, manipulated and ultimately left you -- is enough to make your stomach turn, even if the contact is sporadic.  It's hard to understand why they are still trying to have contact with tho everyday. You think to yourself “does my ex know what the word DIVORCE means?”
“Why is she demanding I attend her families Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Fathers Day, and Mother's Day with her”? Yes, that is exactly what I want to do on my holidays, spend time with my ex who has attempted to destroy my reputation, turn my children against my new spouse. The same person who has made one false accusation after another... (Sarcasm)

It's important to always keep in mind, YOU EX HAS A CHARACTER DISORDER. Your EX is not in touch with real human emotions, therefore they live in an altered reality than the 
rest of us.  A normal, stable person Does Not attack you one minute (in an anonomyous fashion online, or by spreading rumors to your children's school about you) then expect you to be present at their Christmas party the next. 

Sociopaths, malignant narcissist, and character disordered individuals have a convenient way of forgetting all the horrific things that they have done to you. In their whacked out brain, they truly think that if they pretend that everything is good, and they did not do anything wrong to you - That you will just go along 
with it. And sometimes we will go along with it, because it means a break from the constant drama. It means a day of peace, without the harassment. We are desperate for peace. Unfortunately when we go along with their delusions, it only compels them to continue to think they can always treat you a certain way, with no consequences. 

It is hard to stand up to your psychotic ex. You know they will make your life hell when you decide to spend time with your own family, instead of theirs on holidays. When you first stand up to them, expect to recieve calls and numerous text, about how hurt the kids are that you didn't come to Christmas. (Your ex seems to have forgotten that you have a family and the kids are coming to spend the other part of their holiday with you) REMEMBER YOUR EX WILL ALWAYS USE GUILT INORDER TO GET YOU TO DO WHAT THEY WANT. 

You know your ex is going to use guilt to try to get their way. It's important for you to stay strong. And remember it is not about the kids to them. It's about them, wanting to continue to control your life, your money, your holidays, your free time, your family — even though you are divorced. The reason you ex divorced you or you divorced them was because you no longer wanted to be together. Right? That means you no longer spend Christmas mornings together. You no longer attend their family functions, because their family is no longer your family. 

Yes, it is hard on the children. DIVORCE in general is hard on children... That is a FACT. 

When your ex decided to cheat on you with other men, or women. Were they thinking of how THAT would Hurt the children??    Of course they didn't.. But now your ex wants to tell you that you are emotionally damaging the children because you don't want to spend your Father's Day and other special holidays with them. 

So when your ex starts their usual guilt tripping, and letting you know that you are a horrible parent, and that your children are suffering because of your selfishness (because you remarried and decided to be happy) If you are a good parent, then none of it should bother you. Your ex claims that your child needs counseling because of you. When your child is with you, is your child happy? Do the children seem withdrawn or depressed when they are with you and your spouse? 
If the answer is No, then you know that your ex is the pathological liar, they have always been. Just another desperate attempts to control you. They are pathetic.

If the answer is Yes, then YOU need to get your child evaluated by a psychologist and find out why they are feeling this way. It is not because you didn't attend your exes family event, as your ex has said. If your home is a safe and healthy environment, it is important to find out what is causing the child to be withdrawn. 

Your ex is a liar. You know this. They will try to portray to you that they are the  picture perfect parent. You know better... They seem to have conveniently forgotten (again) that you use to live with them. You know behind the scenes how dysfunctional they are. They haven't made a miraculous turn-a-round. They are still dysfunctional. There is numerous people coming and going from their home. They allow their cousin who is a convicted felon to do their yard word and home repairs, for a cheap price. They are not around to supervise anything. Are the children at home alone a majority of the time?  

The more your ex is accusing you of emotionally damaging your children, you can bet it is because they are incompetent, and they think projecting their dysfunction onto you will take some of the focus off of them. 

I have seen too many times where the disordered person has emotionally abused and battered their spouse. To the point that they will not defend themselves or stand up to the disordered person. They are afraid. They have witnessed them destroy others. They know of the damage they are capable of. They know they are ruthless, heartless, and have not one Ounce of conscience in them. 

Malicious Co Parenting

If you are lucky you will never encounter a sociopath or psychopath in your life time. For us who have had to deal with the malicious sociopath it will likely be the worst experience in your life. They come in both genders, though most are male. They are emotional vampires, sucking the life (emotional and financial resources) out of you. Until you have nothing. Then they move on to their next victim.

Marrying a sociopath is a horrible life changing experience. Having children with a sociopath is a horrific nightmare that will never end!! 

Anyone who has to deal with these types of wicked, evil and inhumane beings, knows the damage they are capable of.  Trying to break free from them, will leave you wounded for years and even a lifetime. That is just how poisonous and toxic they are to you.  They will NEVER leave you alone. 

Do Not think that "DIVORCE" means you are free of the sociopath. If there are children to use against you, they will use those children, even if it means emotionally f*cking them up for life. THE SOCIOPATH DOES NOT CARE. If they think you are suffering, then they don't mind hurting their own innocent children to ensure that. The sociopath will continue to make UNREASONABLE AND RIDICULOUS DEMANDS on you. They will refuse to allow you to have any peace in your life. One of the most absurd experiences I have experienced with my sociopath, is after being divorced for 8 years and separated for 4. The sociopath demands that we spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and birthday together. Even though both of us have remarried. And the reason for this (so the sociopath says) is because it's important for the children to see their parents getting along.. Ha ha... That's laughable! It HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WANTING  the children to see their parents having a healthy relationship and getting along... It's all about control. They want to control you. They want to control your holidays. They want to make sure that you are not happy and enjoying Christmas with your new spouse. My sociopath has requested every year that I come over Christmas morning and put the kids toys together. I am thinking in my mind when I get these ridiculous request; SURE! I would love to wake up, drive 20 minutes to your home and put the children's toys together, while you are passed out in the other room and I have to chit chat with you new spouse... That's not awkward or weird, ya freak.. My children are now older (teenagers) and there is not any toys to put together this coming Christmas. I'm pretty my sociopath will still FIND a reason to harass me or my spouse and try to guilt us into why we should spend out Christmas with them. YOU REALLY WOULD THINK AFTER 8 YEARS OF DECLINING THE INVITATION AND 2 years of having NO CONTACT with the psychopath, they would eventually back off and take a "HINT" by now. But Nope.. 

The point is they want complete power, and control over their victims or targets. They will do anything to keep that power they once had. You have to refuse to engage. Refuse to react to them. And pray that they will leave you alone one day. It's been almost a decade and mine has yet to get the hint that I will never be manipulated again. I have tried to co parenting. When the other parent has evil and malicious intentions, every attempt to co parent will end up in disaster. You have to figure out how you can see your children without going through the sociopathic parent.