Things to Remember after the Psychopath

If you have been in a relationship with a psychopathic personality there is some very important things to keep in mind — as these individuals are dangerous and are fully capable of causing you physical and psychological harm

Remember–  if you seek to expose them, keep in mind they will respond with bitter and malicious  rage, threats, vicious and hurtful communication, and attempts to destroy and discredit you, so your reputation is ruined 

Also – don’t beat yourself up because you did not recognize the the signs that they were a monster earlier; just act as soon as you do start to see them for who they really are.

Do Not be Ashamed to – seek therapy as soon as possible; the trauma of these encounters can be long-lasting and devastating to every aspect of your life. 

You should if possible - warn others of your experience with the sociopath/psychopath because you can bet that the sociopath will   be doing his/her best to cast you as irrational, mentally unstable, 

dangerous and downright crazy!

Psychopath Feels they are Better than that.,

Being in any kind of relationship with a psychopath/sociopath is devastating and debilitating. The psychopath is able to make their victim feel as if everything is their fault. 

The victim doesn't understand why the person they “love” and believe "loves" them, treats them like they are not important. The victim feel a constant rejection from the psychopath. Anytime the psychopath is "kind" the victim feels a brief sense of relief. 

This is only short lived for the victim. 

The psychopath uses this treatment to keep their victim feeling inadequate, worthless, and as if there is something wrong with them. This is ABUSE! 

Psychopaths are distinguished from other thugs or criminals because their extreme lack of empathy. Which causes them to act with complete indifference and without conscience.  That’s what makes them capable of some of the most cold-hearted actions toward others.  Psychopaths can project an air of charm and charisma, they can appear otherwise quite normal, they could be Susie soccer mom, or the little league coach.

They are notorious for being able to fly under the radar. They go through life pretending to be a wonderful kind and giving person. 

The only people who know what monsters these people really are is their family.  The psychopaths family sees their tantrums, and rants. It is their family who suffers the most abuse by the psychopath.

As tragic as it is, sometimes people are attracted to the confidence and charm that psychopathic personalities project.  It is this charm that causes normal and intelligent people to ignore their internal danger sensors. By the time the victim comes to their senses, they have already been manipulated, devalued and in the worst case scenarios destroyed by these pathologically arrogant and unloving individuals.  

Make no mistake, no one is more dangerous than a person who believes that he or she is above others, and that he/she is so much better than everyone else, that the rules simply do not apply to them.  

These types feels entitled to prey on those viewed as inferior. — which is basically everyone. 

Psychopaths believe that they are “above” the law, they believe that the world owes them something.

This is obvious in their absence of sensitivity to those who are suffering, that are less fortchante. The psychopath judges people who are not in an elite group of some sort. They gravitate to these elite types because they want to expand their social status. 

They are comtempuous individuals and use gossip to destroy those that they see as a threat. The gossiping is usually so damaging to the targeted individual, the victim feels as if their life has been destroyed by the psychopath... 

Sociopaths And Stalking

Sociopaths stalk their victims and exes because they feel as if their victim belongs to them. They see their victim not as a human being but as a ‘material possession’. 

This story is from a friend of mine who has been dealing with a sociopathic ex now for over 12 years. 

It can be quite a scary experience for the victim. Sociopaths stalk in different ways. Some in personate their victim online to destroy their victims reputation. Others keep up with their victims online activity. And the real psychotic sociopaths actually follow their victim. Making the victim feel their life and the life of their children is in danger. 

Stalking is a crime in most states. But unfortunately by the time police interact the victim has usually been harmed.

When my ex stalked me, she also stalked my new girlfriend who is now my wife. She kept up with my online activity. And also my wife's. She would get information from our children about what we did at home we are we were going. It became to the point where I could not tell my own children basic things because I was afraid the information would get back to my psychopathic ex. 

She really targeted my wife, by impersonating her online. She started a blog pretending to be my wife and pretending to have an in mental illness. She wanted other people to believe that it was my wife who made the blog and was looking for help for ‘borderline personality disorder’. 

My ex-wife has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, when her mother made her see a psychiatrist or else she would cut off her from the money she gave her monthly. I don't believe that she has borderline personality disorder. I believe that she is a sociopath, a common every day sociopath. - this is just my opinion from what I know of her.   

I have had emails made up in my name. I have had credit cards in my name that my ex-wife applied for. She has financially done everything she possibly could to destroy me. 

I have had no contact with my ex-wife now for over a year. But that does not stop her from continuingly contacting me. She gives our children notes for me to read. I do not read them throw them away. She believes that I am her material possession and I ‘owe’ her my loyalty. 

Even though when we were married she was anything but loyal. 

It seems to me that sociopaths have a really “bad” memory. When it comes to remembering the cheating and lying they do. But they have an excellent memory when it comes to bringing up any small mistake you have made, or any kind of help/service they “think” they did for you. For instance - the 1995 model Lexus that I drove for years was in my ex wife's names, she still continues to bring up “that if it weren't for her I wouldn't have had a car to drive”. Though I gave that car back to her 7 years ago when she didn't have a car due to all the accidents she had. Yet she is still bringing it up. 

She got extremely angry when I bought my wife a new car. I simply told her, “that's my wife, it's not your business, tell your husband to buy you a car if you need one". As she had remarried as soon as our divorce finalized to the man she was cheating with so long. 

My children are almost adults (17 and 15). My daughter is responsible and has a car of her own now. Even though I was always planning to buy her a car, my ex wife's mother bought her the car. 

It's just another thing that my ex wife throws in my face. “What father doesn't buy his child a car on her 16th birthday?!” 

I wasn't given the option to even get my daughter a new car. Yet my ex wife is constantly telling anyone who will listen, what a piece of sh*t father I am. How I have completely abandoned my children, for my “new family”. Which could not be further from the truth. 

My daughter is on our insurance policy. I have paid my ex wife $3500 monthly since the day she said she was going to work out of town (she was really going to the Bahamas with her married boyfriend). She left me to take care of our then young children. I still had to work. It was hard for me, but I stepped up and did it. My children remember that. Though they rarely bring it up. 

I have never spread rumors about my ex wife. I remain Anonymous if I speak of my experience. Just as I am remaining anonymous on this blog post. 

I wish I could tell readers that this story has a happy ending. Unfortunately I cannot though. Even after being divorced for over 10 years, she has not stopped any of her craziness. 

I no longer try to please her, or give in to her, just for a day or two of peace. I realize that nothing I do will ever be enough. So when she tells people what a crappy father I am, I no longer get upset. My children know I am a good father. I support them emotionally, financially, and in any way they need me. My daughter now 17, comes over to spend time with us every week, and she brings her 15 year old brother. 

My ex wife wants to punish me. For what, I don't know. She cheated and left on her own. I was too busy caring for our young children to get angry or ‘revenge’.

It seems as though when I remarried, that is what really angered her. I suppose she feared that I would no longer be her puppet, and my new wife would influence me and point out that the way my ex treated me was not appropriate or right. And she was right.

I stopped allowing my ex wife to verbally abuse me and steal from me.

This has angered my ex, she really believed that she would be able to control me until the day I died. 

Unfortunately the only people who are really suffering from my ex-wife's a erratic and irrational behavior is our children. 

But fortunately my children have turned out to be wonderful, amazing, and brilliant little adults. It amazes me everyday at how smart and sweet they are. They have been through so much. 

My ex wife tells them terrible things about me and my wife. The children have chosen to make up their own minds about me and their step mother.  They see our actions, and how we do not speak ill of their mother, and we are consistent. 

I know that by having children with a sociopath, that my life will always have some sort of drama. My children will marry one day and have children and I  sure my ex wife will use what is suppose to be a wonderful occasions to make life unbearable. 

 

Common everyday sociopaths

The common everyday sociopath is 

ia convincing, excelled liar and when called to account, will make up anything to fit their needs at that moment. 

The sociopath is a jealous individual, and will target and destroy any person they feel envy toward. They destroy by spreading lies to damage the persons reputation. The lies are completely made up, and have no truth to them. The sociopath is Very convincing...

Spciopaths will never take responsibility for anything. Nobody likes to be blamed, but a responsible person will accept blame for something appropriate. Sociopaths don’t like to accept blame for anything, even if it is well-earned. While part of this is likely from their typical “I am  better than you” attitude and “the rules don’t apply to me” attitudes, there’s more to it than that -  Sociopaths may realize that blaming is how they control others to cause harm and problems for their targets, whom they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests. They understand both the destructive and defensive powers of blaming and make regular use of both.

I have been targeted by a sociopath who spread Nasty lies about me. The lies were so damaging I was afraid to leave my home because I was scared that people believed the sociopath. 

The sociopath does fear

Sociopaths DO NOT want anyone to find out the TRUTH about who they really are.  

Sociopaths are all malicious and devious people. They know they are “different” than most people. Even as children they recognize that they are unable to make a connection to anyone. 

Sociopaths are unable to LOVE. They are unable to receive love and feel love. This causes them a deep rooted insecurity.  

Beyond being embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly fear of being exposed and rejected. 

Because they use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. They know that being exposed puts them at great risk of others finding out their true nature. 

Therefore sociopaths WILL ALWAYS attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who poses as a threat to them by presenting the facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their behaviors and their false statements.