Sociopaths And Stalking

Sociopaths stalk their victims and exes because they feel as if their victim belongs to them. They see their victim not as a human being but as a ‘material possession’. 

This story is from a friend of mine who has been dealing with a sociopathic ex now for over 12 years. 

It can be quite a scary experience for the victim. Sociopaths stalk in different ways. Some in personate their victim online to destroy their victims reputation. Others keep up with their victims online activity. And the real psychotic sociopaths actually follow their victim. Making the victim feel their life and the life of their children is in danger. 

Stalking is a crime in most states. But unfortunately by the time police interact the victim has usually been harmed.

When my ex stalked me, she also stalked my new girlfriend who is now my wife. She kept up with my online activity. And also my wife's. She would get information from our children about what we did at home we are we were going. It became to the point where I could not tell my own children basic things because I was afraid the information would get back to my psychopathic ex. 

She really targeted my wife, by impersonating her online. She started a blog pretending to be my wife and pretending to have an in mental illness. She wanted other people to believe that it was my wife who made the blog and was looking for help for ‘borderline personality disorder’. 

My ex-wife has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, when her mother made her see a psychiatrist or else she would cut off her from the money she gave her monthly. I don't believe that she has borderline personality disorder. I believe that she is a sociopath, a common every day sociopath. - this is just my opinion from what I know of her.   

I have had emails made up in my name. I have had credit cards in my name that my ex-wife applied for. She has financially done everything she possibly could to destroy me. 

I have had no contact with my ex-wife now for over a year. But that does not stop her from continuingly contacting me. She gives our children notes for me to read. I do not read them throw them away. She believes that I am her material possession and I ‘owe’ her my loyalty. 

Even though when we were married she was anything but loyal. 

It seems to me that sociopaths have a really “bad” memory. When it comes to remembering the cheating and lying they do. But they have an excellent memory when it comes to bringing up any small mistake you have made, or any kind of help/service they “think” they did for you. For instance - the 1995 model Lexus that I drove for years was in my ex wife's names, she still continues to bring up “that if it weren't for her I wouldn't have had a car to drive”. Though I gave that car back to her 7 years ago when she didn't have a car due to all the accidents she had. Yet she is still bringing it up. 

She got extremely angry when I bought my wife a new car. I simply told her, “that's my wife, it's not your business, tell your husband to buy you a car if you need one". As she had remarried as soon as our divorce finalized to the man she was cheating with so long. 

My children are almost adults (17 and 15). My daughter is responsible and has a car of her own now. Even though I was always planning to buy her a car, my ex wife's mother bought her the car. 

It's just another thing that my ex wife throws in my face. “What father doesn't buy his child a car on her 16th birthday?!” 

I wasn't given the option to even get my daughter a new car. Yet my ex wife is constantly telling anyone who will listen, what a piece of sh*t father I am. How I have completely abandoned my children, for my “new family”. Which could not be further from the truth. 

My daughter is on our insurance policy. I have paid my ex wife $3500 monthly since the day she said she was going to work out of town (she was really going to the Bahamas with her married boyfriend). She left me to take care of our then young children. I still had to work. It was hard for me, but I stepped up and did it. My children remember that. Though they rarely bring it up. 

I have never spread rumors about my ex wife. I remain Anonymous if I speak of my experience. Just as I am remaining anonymous on this blog post. 

I wish I could tell readers that this story has a happy ending. Unfortunately I cannot though. Even after being divorced for over 10 years, she has not stopped any of her craziness. 

I no longer try to please her, or give in to her, just for a day or two of peace. I realize that nothing I do will ever be enough. So when she tells people what a crappy father I am, I no longer get upset. My children know I am a good father. I support them emotionally, financially, and in any way they need me. My daughter now 17, comes over to spend time with us every week, and she brings her 15 year old brother. 

My ex wife wants to punish me. For what, I don't know. She cheated and left on her own. I was too busy caring for our young children to get angry or ‘revenge’.

It seems as though when I remarried, that is what really angered her. I suppose she feared that I would no longer be her puppet, and my new wife would influence me and point out that the way my ex treated me was not appropriate or right. And she was right.

I stopped allowing my ex wife to verbally abuse me and steal from me.

This has angered my ex, she really believed that she would be able to control me until the day I died. 

Unfortunately the only people who are really suffering from my ex-wife's a erratic and irrational behavior is our children. 

But fortunately my children have turned out to be wonderful, amazing, and brilliant little adults. It amazes me everyday at how smart and sweet they are. They have been through so much. 

My ex wife tells them terrible things about me and my wife. The children have chosen to make up their own minds about me and their step mother.  They see our actions, and how we do not speak ill of their mother, and we are consistent. 

I know that by having children with a sociopath, that my life will always have some sort of drama. My children will marry one day and have children and I  sure my ex wife will use what is suppose to be a wonderful occasions to make life unbearable. 

 

Malicious Co Parenting

If you are lucky you will never encounter a sociopath or psychopath in your life time. For us who have had to deal with the malicious sociopath it will likely be the worst experience in your life. They come in both genders, though most are male. They are emotional vampires, sucking the life (emotional and financial resources) out of you. Until you have nothing. Then they move on to their next victim.

Marrying a sociopath is a horrible life changing experience. Having children with a sociopath is a horrific nightmare that will never end!! 

Anyone who has to deal with these types of wicked, evil and inhumane beings, knows the damage they are capable of.  Trying to break free from them, will leave you wounded for years and even a lifetime. That is just how poisonous and toxic they are to you.  They will NEVER leave you alone. 

Do Not think that "DIVORCE" means you are free of the sociopath. If there are children to use against you, they will use those children, even if it means emotionally f*cking them up for life. THE SOCIOPATH DOES NOT CARE. If they think you are suffering, then they don't mind hurting their own innocent children to ensure that. The sociopath will continue to make UNREASONABLE AND RIDICULOUS DEMANDS on you. They will refuse to allow you to have any peace in your life. One of the most absurd experiences I have experienced with my sociopath, is after being divorced for 8 years and separated for 4. The sociopath demands that we spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and birthday together. Even though both of us have remarried. And the reason for this (so the sociopath says) is because it's important for the children to see their parents getting along.. Ha ha... That's laughable! It HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WANTING  the children to see their parents having a healthy relationship and getting along... It's all about control. They want to control you. They want to control your holidays. They want to make sure that you are not happy and enjoying Christmas with your new spouse. My sociopath has requested every year that I come over Christmas morning and put the kids toys together. I am thinking in my mind when I get these ridiculous request; SURE! I would love to wake up, drive 20 minutes to your home and put the children's toys together, while you are passed out in the other room and I have to chit chat with you new spouse... That's not awkward or weird, ya freak.. My children are now older (teenagers) and there is not any toys to put together this coming Christmas. I'm pretty my sociopath will still FIND a reason to harass me or my spouse and try to guilt us into why we should spend out Christmas with them. YOU REALLY WOULD THINK AFTER 8 YEARS OF DECLINING THE INVITATION AND 2 years of having NO CONTACT with the psychopath, they would eventually back off and take a "HINT" by now. But Nope.. 

The point is they want complete power, and control over their victims or targets. They will do anything to keep that power they once had. You have to refuse to engage. Refuse to react to them. And pray that they will leave you alone one day. It's been almost a decade and mine has yet to get the hint that I will never be manipulated again. I have tried to co parenting. When the other parent has evil and malicious intentions, every attempt to co parent will end up in disaster. You have to figure out how you can see your children without going through the sociopathic parent. 

Sociopaths and Envy

Envy- Sociopath/narcissist/psychopaths  all experience a level of envy toward their targets that is lethal. 

Whatever the sociopath sees in you that she/he knows they cannot be, want to be, or with something that she/he views that you have “won” in some way, envy can appear as rage in the smear campaign. The sociopath starts rumors and spreads lies to ruin your good reputation because they are jealous of your status and their reputation is usually pretty bad. 

Sometimes this envy is obvious and sometimes it is not obvious. But when it is, the sociopath in your life will leave you no doubt as to what that envy might be.

The sociopath will often accuse you of being jealous of them, stalking them. They do this because they are actually the jealous and they are probably staling you. 

Remember what the sociopath accuses you of IS USUALLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO YOU. 

Sociopathic women are usually more prone to smear campaigns than men. They are  less violent than men, but they are just as destructive if not more so than a sociopathic man. Becauee they seek to destroy you emotionally, mentally and socially 

The best way to handle a sociopathic woman. Is to never give her that reaction she craves. Limit contact or No contact. 

No contact if you have no connections like children with this woman. Limited if you have children. Only respond to her if it is absolutely necessary. She will make every situation an emergency when it is not. She will lie about kids in order to get her ex husband to respond. Learn to ignore her and realize that 99% of what she says is NOT TRUE 

Sociopaths and their target

If you have never been a victim of a sociopath. Consider yourself blessed and lucky! Sociopaths can spot an empathic person a mile away. They choose empaths for their partners because the sociopath knows the empath will feel sorry for them, the empath is compassionate, kind, caring and usually trusting. The sociopath sees these traits as weakness, that they can use to manipulate and exploit. 

What really blows my mind is how a sociopath can lie to someone who is kind to them, and trust them. The sociopath has no conscience. They will steal from their own elderly grandmother. They will stab family in the back. They will cheat on their husbands/wives. They will do horrible things to people and never think twice or regret it. They do these things intentionally. They understand it is wrong. They just don't care. 

Sociopaths feel NO guilt when they hurt others. Yet they are always the "victim". They always will tell a sad story, usually blaming their victim. Whatever they did to the victim, is what they will tell others the victim did to them. The victim is taken back by all this. The sociopath is spreading lies and rumors. And basically telling others that the victim is mentally unstable. In order to discredit them, so if their victim tries to tell their story, people will believe that they are crazy becauee it sounds unbelievable. But the sociopath will do things to others, things that are so devious and hateful, that those things have never even crossed the "normal" persons mind. 

Female sociopaths are notorious for spreading rumors that are not true. They will make up something about a person who they have targeted and spend hours and days on the phone or internet to assassinate their targets character. When the target has finally been pushed to their breaking point and retaliates. The sociopath jumps on the oppurtunity to call their target "crazy". They deny everything that the target said about them, play victim. The sociopaths acts like they are not upset with the person accusing them of things, but instead they pretend to be concerned for the persons well being and mental health. 

It can really make you feel "crazy". If you are the target, hopefully you have figured out that everything the sociopath does to you, they do to GET YOUR REACTION. Just so they can say "told you she was crazy, look what she is saying about me."

 

They usually do not stop spreading rumors, ruining the victims reputation, until the victim is completely broken down. They want to their victim to feel socially isolated and rejected and crazy. They know exactly what they are doing, when they are destroying a persons life. They are doing it intentionally. They are calculated and cold. 

Even though it is a hard situation to be in. The best chance of you surviving being the target of a sociopath is to have No Contact. When you stop responding to them it will piss them off at first, raising the cruelty up a notch or two, in hopes to get a response from you. But never give them the satisfaction. Stop looking online to see what they are saying about you, they will say anything to get a response out of you. It's best to close any social media accounts you have, such as Facebook or Twitter.

When you are the target of a sociopath, you must keep a low profile for a little while. It's best to change your number. And even move if you are financially able to. 

No matter what the sociopath says or does to you, do not get lost in seeking revenge. It will make you bitter and hateful. You will become an angry person who is lost. 

They hate you because They Want To Be You

You could be in the best mood, and have the best of intentions and a sociopath will cut you down, make fun of you, give you a dirty look, (or even have their followers give you looks). They will accuse you of something that you NEVER did or said.  Sociopaths have a way of ruining your life, and your good moods. 
And if you dare to challenge their perceptions of you or something that they say you did, they immediately blame you and make everything your fault. The bottom line is, knowing a sociopath will make life difficult. Being in a relationship (or worse - sharing children with one of these twisted evil predators) you are sure to suffer from PTSD and feel emotionally drained and burned out. Sociopath take such a toll on our well being some people even become physically sick.

WHO ARE SOCIOPATHS?

Well basically sociopaths are the shit people who can’t create their own joy. They see your joy and the light inside you that they will never have. So they want yours. Sociopaths have an entitlement issue, they do not ask - THEY TAKE. They are TAKERS - they are NOT GIVERS. They covet what you have and what you are. They are insecure and jealous of everyone who is happy. And they’ll stoop to the dirtiest of tricks just to destroy you.

Watch out for the charismatic liars....

Sociopaths pretend to care. They pretend to like you. They manipulate in such a deceptive way that it's impossible to identify one the minute you speak to one. They give people who are social, loving and caring and charismatic a bad rep..

But it does not take long for the sociopaths true colors to Shine. Most people are unaware of sociopaths and do not have the knowledge they need. But if you have the knowledge you will know one of these predators after about a week of knowing them and even then it will be hard to break away from their destruction and sometimes to late to save yourself. Because by rejecting the sociopath there sure to seek revenge. And to stay with one is an even worse fate.