The female narcissist is jealous of you. She is jealous of who you are and what you have. She is jealous of other females. She does not have many female friends because it's difficult for her to maintain female friendships because her jealously comes out and most women do not want to keep that kind of friend in their circle. If you invited her into your circle, when you did not know what kind of female you were dealing with, she may have already started triangulation within your circle. Telling one person this, and another person else. Then turning those people against each other so that they do not speak. If they were to speak with one another - her lies would be exposed. So always communicate in a group setting with any problems that are arising.
You think your problems with the high school petty drama, were over in high school, right? Wrong, if a female narcissist has entered your life.
A female narcissist will bring all that drama in, she always has and always will. She is not capable of having normal relationships with other females. Just like she can't be in a normal and healthy relationship with men.
If you have caught on to her behavior, and she is unable to continue to manipulate and control the situation or you. She will attempt to control you another way. That is usually by controlling how others view you. She will control you behind the scenes. By turning your fiends and others against you with lies. She will spread lies about you to your work. She will attempt to destroy you in the most covert way. After all she cannot allow you to possibly expose her for the evil manipulative human she is. She was prepared for this to happen long before you were. So the lies she began telling about you began long you became suspicious of her. She was prepared to get revenge on you before things began to fall apart.
She does so many manipulative, calculated, and underhanded things, the victims find themselves on the defense. Under normal circumstances, you wouldn’t feel insecure or like people were turning against you. But because your ex has etched it into your brain that you are at fault. You have begun to question everything about yourself.
Don't question yourself. Go with your first instinct, trust your intuition. If you think this disordered soulless person is doing these awful things to you (even you have no proof) - they probably are!
Either way, the desired result is that you feel anxious, suspicious, and insecure about every little thing. You may even begin to feel guilty about your jealous thoughts and doubtful of your ability to act “normal”. When and if you do confront the Narcissist/sociopath about your suspicions, she'll call you delusional or needy or bi-polar.
The narcissist accuses you of everything that she really is herself. She also will do to you everything she accuses you of.
So be alert and listen when she accuses you of something - because that accusation is about to happen to you!
She will never admit to anything at all. She is able to look at you in the eyes with no emotion and claim she doesn’t have the slightest clue what you’re talking about…
Excellent. Spot on.
ReplyDeleteI have done these things to people my whole life
ReplyDeleteI have a daughter who is like this and she has two ypung boys. A few years back she was picked up on heroin charges. Her sister had temporary custody while she did an alternate substance abuse program to avoid jail time. I'll keep it brief~ after all was said and done to keep her children safe,( which she now has) it all got turned on us~ she had her own reality and to this day still does about all that transpired. We did not take her children away... DHHS placed them temporarily in our care. She now is gone nowhere to be found~ our family circle is brken
DeleteIf you're reading this article, I assume you're learning how hurtful those things are to your self and others. I used to unknowingly do some of these things too. Learned from my mom. Realized that the start of ending those behaviors was living in 100% honesty with myself. Then I have nothing to hide from others. Hope you can get past these things as well.
DeleteGood for you. You probably have a great life...
DeleteMelissa, why have you done these things to people?
ReplyDeleteMy ex has been doing this to me. I think her anxiety and growing up as a princess has made this normal behavior for her because she always wants to be in control. Why do you think you do it Melissa?
ReplyDeleteMelissa just wants a reaction. That’s why I tried not to respond to her. I’m sure she does these things. She came to a site that is meant to help people who are hurt and want to understand why this has happened to them. Then brags she does these things. One negative about the internet is that these types of people can use it to hurt people even more. Usually they do it under a veil of anonymity
DeleteWhy Melissa?
ReplyDeleteSee my comment below
DeleteIs there anything that anyone could have said to stop your behavior or atleast get you to tell the truth about what you are doing.
ReplyDeleteI’m sure Melissa does these things. And she is on this site, doing what she does. Trolling, harassing, just for fun. She knows people are hurting and to leave a comment like that. That tells me she came to this site to hurt and get a reaction from the readers, who most are on this site to find closure and understand what was done to them. Just my thoughts.
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