How the Female Narcissist Operates

The female narcissist is jealous of you.  She is jealous of who you are and what you have. She is jealous of other females. She does not have many female friends because it's difficult for her to maintain female friendships because her jealously comes out and most women do not want to keep that kind of friend in their circle. If you invited her into your circle, when you did not know what kind of female you were dealing with, she may have already started triangulation within your circle. Telling one person this, and another person else. Then turning those people against each other so that they do not speak. If they were to speak with one another - her lies would be exposed.  So always communicate in a group setting with any problems that are arising. 

You think your problems with the high school petty drama, were over in high school, right? Wrong, if a female narcissist has entered your life. 

A female narcissist will bring all that drama in, she always has and always will. She is not capable of having normal relationships with other females. Just like she can't be in a normal and healthy relationship with men.  

If you have caught on to her behavior, and she is unable to continue to manipulate and control the situation or you. She will attempt to control you another way. That is usually by controlling how others view you.  She will control you behind the scenes. By turning your fiends and others against you with lies. She will spread lies about you to your work. She will attempt to destroy you in the most covert way. After all she cannot allow you to possibly expose her for the evil manipulative human she is. She was prepared for this to happen long before you were. So the lies she began telling about you began long you became suspicious of her.  She was prepared to get revenge on you before things began to fall apart. 

She does so many manipulative, calculated, and underhanded things, the victims find themselves on the defense. Under normal circumstances, you wouldn’t feel insecure or like people were turning against you. But because your ex has etched it into your brain that you are at fault. You have begun to question everything about yourself. 

Don't question yourself. Go with your first instinct, trust your intuition. If you think this disordered soulless person is doing these awful things to you (even you have no proof) - they probably are!

Either way, the desired result is that you feel anxious, suspicious, and insecure about every little thing. You may even begin to feel guilty about your jealous thoughts and doubtful of your ability to act “normal”.  When and if you do confront the Narcissist/sociopath about your suspicions, she'll call you delusional or needy or bi-polar. 

The narcissist accuses you of everything that she really is herself. She also will do to you everything she accuses you of. 

So be alert and listen when she accuses you of something - because that accusation is about to happen to you! 

She will never admit to anything at all. She is able to look at you in the eyes with no emotion and claim she doesn’t have the slightest clue what you’re talking about…

The lies, rumors and pain that come with a sociopath

 When we have been abused, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, had rumors spread about us, lost friends, felt isolated, been afraid, lost everything, doubted ourselves, felt guilty, believed it was our fault - more than likely we were in a relationship with a sociopath. Or we were friends, or have a sociopathic family member.  

Once we discovered the truth, and realized we are not the only victim of this person, who had some how destroyed our life, our soul, and left us with little to no trust in the world. We are able to begin healing from the traumatic experience. Healing takes time. We are weak, alone, afraid, and don't know who we can trust.

The hardest part of healing is feeling safe and facing the world. 

We want to withdraw, because the sociopath has said so many horrible things about us, we feel shame. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE SOCIOPATH WANTS US TO FEEL. 

When my sociopath spread rumors about me all over town — to my child's  school, to my neighbors, to people who i respected in the community. I was afraid to leave the house. I was afraid of what others were thinking about me. What lies had my sociopath told everyone? And did anyone believe those lies. My sociopath alread had a reputation in town for stealing, and abusing drugs and sleeping around, so why would people believe the lies that were being  spread?

I felt that people would rather believe the bad they have heard about you - rather than the good. It seems people don't go around talking about the good about you. But they will go around talking about anything bad about you - even if it's not true.

For a while I felt isolated from the world. I did not want to leave my home. 

Even though the people who knew me, knew the hardships I had been through with this sociopath. They new that this person was very dangerous and hated me for moving on with my life. The sociopath wanted and still wants to hurt me, and make my life unbearable. I'm not sure why.. Boredom, or because I moved on and found someone who loves me for me and we were happy. 

What I have noticed is that all Sociopaths are jealous of everyone. 

Since there is nothing real authentic and genuine about the sociopath, and they don't understand or care to understand emotions. They just see everyone as a conquest, or threat. Not as humans, who feel pain. There is not much "humanness" in a sociopath.. And when they get done with you, you may feel they stole some part of your humanness.

A close friend of mine has been dealing with a vindictive female sociopath.  It is his ex wife. He has been divorced from the sociopath for over 9 years and separated for over 14. She had numerous affairs after they adopted their 2nd child. Finally after one of the affairs became very public due to the fact the man she was cheating with was married, and they both held prominant careers in the community, he filed for divorce. He has been through hell and back. This is his story, in his words...

  

When I went no contact and chose to ignore my sociopath, that's when things got very ugly. I refused 

to communicate with the ex. So my ex decided to tell everyone, and put it on social media that i was a "cyber stalking troll". Even using my first and last name to slander me. My ex made up a fake domain site in my name. Pretending to be me, and impersonating me in an unfavorable manner.  Basically painting a picture of a very unstable person, that was trying to get help for my mental problems. The worst part was if you googled my name, the website that my ex started about me was the first thing that came up. That is  when I said “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.”

I contacted a friend of mine who is a police officer. And I ask what could be done about this website that my ex started about and was impersonating me in such a way. It was slander and defamation.

My friend informed me that it was cyber stalking, and I should file a police report. — so I did 

that. 

Which only made my ex crazier. Although the website was taken down, I was now being

accused of more horrific things. Now my sociopath ex wife was going to social media, claiming how she felt afraid for her children, because I was unstable, she believed I would kidnap them at a soccer game or from school. This was horrible because I felt afraid to go to my sons soccer game, because I didn't know what she would do or say, she had went to Facebook, and Twitter pretending to be living a life of fear because of me. 

What I began to notice was a pattern. She may have went to social media bashing me, but she expected me to pick up kids on my weekend. This is when I realized how unstable and deranged she was. She was only looking to ruin my reputation in the community, she still expected me to get the kids (even though she claimed she was in fear for their safety) 

I felt confused. I wanted to get my children. But with the unpredictable ex, I didn't know if I was being set up. Was I going to show up at the school to get my children, and the cops would be waiting to arrest me? Would my kids even be there, considering she loved leading me on wild gooses chases just to waste my time and make things difficult on me? 

I decided my children were worth whatever risk. And after all I had filed a complaint against her for impersonation and cyber stalking (which set her off to go on a rampant on social media) Bit it was still documentation, if my ex had something sinister planned. I remember so many times going to pick them up, feeling so much anxiety. Anxiety and fear consumed me. This woman had no limits and would not hesitate to destroy me, my new wife, and even my step daughter, who was at the time very little (5 years old). Sociopaths are so low, they will destroy children (even their own) just to hurt another person. 

I wondered if this crap would ever stop. I felt hopeless... I began to stop looking online, and begin to focus only on myself my children and healing. It was very tempting to want to get online and see what my ex was saying now.but I never did. I gave it a good eight months before I looked at anything my ex was doing online. I still do not look up my ex'a online activity. 

Narcissist and Sociopaths are Bullies, pretending to be victims

The sociopathic personality will always justify their behavior..

The sociopath and the narcissist behaves like a child. They may look like full grown adults, but when they do not get their way, they turn into large hateful children.

They take NO responsibility for their actions. They are so shallow and self absorbed that they do not wonder if something they said or did caused a person pain or hurt. The narcissist simply does not care enough about the feelings of others to waste any of their "precious" time pondering about the way another person may feel. Just like the narcissist, the sociopath does not care about the way another person feels. The sociopaths thoughts are very narrowly focused on how to control by means of deception and guilt. If the victim has come to the realization that this is how this particular person operates, and the victim stops falling for the guilt trips, and refuses to be berated and put down. The sociopath will penalize the victim by other vicious methods. Such as spreading lies that will potentially damage the victims credibility and reputation within their community or circle of friends.

The sociopath is notorious for following the latest fads, and media concerns... For example: Bullying. The sociopath is a vindictive, ruthless tyrant, BULLY.

For example - the sociopath I was dealing with observed how “bullying” was getting a lot of media attention. She saw how many people were outraged and had compassion for kids who were being bullied at school, or other places. So when she went on her smear campaign against me, she went to social media, accusing me of being a bully. An adult bully, nonetheless... 

As all sociopaths do, she saw something that knew would elicit pity from normal and kind people. Sociopaths are so good at what they do, because they are able to play such a convincing victim. 

The sociopath used my first and last name, because she wanted people to hate me. It's just part of the game the sociopaths play when they want to destroy you. They always start with your reputation, and turning others agains you. 

This happened before I understood how sociopaths worked. So of course I fell into every trap that the sociopath baited. 

What I realized eventually (after the drama had cooled down) - THAT EVERYTHING the sociopath WAS ACCUSING ME OF BEING, DOING, AND SAYING. Those were all things that she was actually doing to me. I was almost able to predict what she may do next to destroy, by her accusations alone. 

The problem was... At that time, everything she was doing, was done in such a covert and subtle way, I felt powerless to speak up for myself. I was very afraid to defend myself, or do anything else to bring attention to the situation, because like every other time I had tried to defend my character, she would somehow turn it around, making me look like the “big bad mean bully" again. 

When dealing with a sociopath who is hell bent on destroying you, you have a fear inside you, and a dread of what they may do next. All you really want is the slander, lies and defamation of your character to stop. 

I knew that going to social media (as the sociopath had done) to defend myself, was what she wanted. So she could turn herself into “my” victim again. All I wanted was it to STOP.  

SOCIAL MEDIA - That is where these types of people (sociopaths, narcissists) are able to do the most damage. The Internet is just one of the the sociopaths arsenal of weapons that they use to break down, destroy and slander their victim. 

Sociopaths can be whoever they want to be online. They are rarely anonymous.. 

They will make up dozens of false identities, so when they are bashing their target and making false accusations, they can use of their other identities to “back” them up. So when the target looks at what the sociopath is saying, and sees that there are people who are siding with the sociopath, it makes the victim feel powerless and helpless. The sociopaths goal is to shut the victim up. 

The best advice I can give to someone that is having this happen to them, is document, copy and save everything that the sociopath is saying. If you ignore them long enough, the attacks will become more brutal. They want you to respond. They will become desperate for a response and then that is where they cross the line. Once that line is crossed, you should be able to contact local law enforcement. If their defamation is affecting your job, or livelihood, they can be held accountable legally.  

It is very important that you DO NOT RESPOND TO THEM, or go back in forth with them. Even though this will be hard to do, especially when you are under attack. 

The sociopath is an ADULT BULLY.  Anyone who has known them (family) already knows this. It doesnt take long for people to get burned and abused by the sociopath, to realize they are dealing with an unstable person, and they distance themselves. Sociopaths bully their family members, their spouse, their friends, anyone who they percieve as a threat to them.  For example - Anyone who sees through their crap and could possibly expose them. 

Female sociopaths are very similiar to their male counterpart.. The female sociopath just goes about it in a much more vindictive and malicious manner  - ESPECIALLY TO OTHER FEMALES THAT THEY ARE JEALOUS Of. For example: A woman who is younger, more attractive, and successful. The female sociopath seeks to destroy this kind of woman because of PURE ENVY. Sociopath may give us the impression that they are cool, confident and collect. But the truth is, they are jealous, insecure and hateful. 

The sociopath has been a bully since adolescence. They are manipulative and hateful. The sociopath will basically bully anyone who stands up to their acts of emotional cruelty, or does not do as they say.  Since the sociopath loves attention, rather it be negative or positive, they will pretend as if they are the poor innocent victim. I know this from first hand experience.

It was about 5 years ago when I did not understand the person I was dealing with was a narcissistic sociopath. Of course in the end got royally f*cked by the sociopath. It has taken time to heal, but I am stronger, wiser and happier, now that the sociopath is out of my life and there is absolutely NO CONTACT between us.

Now I understand how the sociopath operates, and I know how to deal with a one if I had to. 

This knowledge gives me the power to “walk away” and not engage with people who are of a sociopathic nature or have sociopathic tendencies.

What I hope now, is to help others, by sharing my experience and what I have been through. I want people who feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and lost hope that they can ever be happy again to know THAT THERE IS HOPE. 

The Sociopath uses projection to bully their victims

Sociopaths are Adult Bullies...

The have a particular hatred for anyone who can see through their deception and mask of deceit. They are the worst kind of bullies, because they aren't the big kid, openly picking on you so that others see it and you can ask for help. They take another approach to bully. They will launch a malicious personal attack on you. They will attack your credentials, qualifications, and your personality. They will tell others you suffer from a personality disorder, such a borderline or psychopathy.  They will tell people they think are important, hoping that those people will believe it and dismiss you. 

Sociopathic Bullies and Projection

Sociopathic bullies project their inadequacies, behaviors, and shortcomings onto other people to avoid facing up to their own inadequacy. They falsely accuse others of what they themselves are guilty of. This way they feel they distract and divert attention away from themselves and their own insecurities. Projection is achieved through critisim, blame and making false allegations, these allegations are actually admissions the sociopath is making  about themselves. 

Once you realize this, every accusation and critisim and lie that the sociopath makes toward you (or whoever their target is at the time) this is actually a revelation about who they are and what they have done.  This knowledge is good to have when you are the target of the sociopath. For instance – if the sociopathic bully accuses their target of cyber stalking, bullying their children, being a home wrecker, or being stupid. It is likely that the sociopath has committed these acts. They do not want others to figure out that they are cyber stalking, or physically stalking someone. The sociopath is a bully to their own children and also to other peoples children. Sociopaths are notorious for being promiscuous. They have no qualms about committing adultery or breaking up a family.  

But they do not want anyone to know about these indiscretions.... 

 

The sociopathic bully fears being exposed. That is why they point the finger and accuse others in a emotionally injuring way. If the sociopath thinks someone sees through there bullsh*t, and this person could expose them for who they really are. That person is a threat to the sociopath. 

The sociopath doesn't just target a person who sees through their crap. They also are bullying other targets for personal reasons. Sociopathic bullies usually have a few victims they are tormenting.  The goal of the sociopathic bully is to destroy the persons reputation, so that no one will believe the target when they speak up about being bullied or slandered. 

It is Highly likely that sociopathic bully is committing the same acts or has committed these acts against the person that they are making the accusation towards.

This is very important knowledge to have when you are dealing with a person who has psychopathic tendencies, or someone who fits the description of a personality disordered individual. 

When the sociopaths bullying and smear campaigning becomes apparent to other people, the sociopathic bully will play the “Mental Health Trap”. Claiming their target is “unstable” or “mentally ill” or has a “mental health problem”. 

  This allegation is a projection of the sociopaths own mental health issues, insecurities, and fear of being exposed. 

If this trap is being used on you, and it is damaging your career or your ability to find employment. You can take legal action against the sociopathic bully. You will have to assert “projection” as a defense against disciplinary action as a part of your legal proceedings.

Projection is a key feature in identifying a person who has a psychopathic or "cluster B" personality disorder.

It is a fact that when held accountable the psychopathic personality will accuse the person who is “unmasking” them of being the one with the “mental illness” or the one who has a personality disorder.

If you feel someone is targeting you. It's important to look closely at what they are saying about you and accusing you of. You will find that everything they accuse you of and slander you with, they in fact are guilty of doing.

Trust yourself after the sociopath

The power and control a sociopath can have on you is devastating. Even after the relationship is over, you are left confused, depressed, angry, and alone. You probably did not get closure with the sociopath, and you never will. You must accept that you will not get closure. The sociopath has no concern for you. The more you ask the sociopath why he/she hurt you. The more the sociopath hates you, and feels they need to destroy you. 

You first have to admit that someone you loved is a monster. You have to face this emotionally painful experience. You will need to grieve and have the right to grieve. You were in a relationship you thought was real. You were in love. You believed this person loved you as well.  THE SOCIOPATH NEVER LOVED YOU THOUGH. The relationship YOU thought you had was NOT REAL. It was a game to the sociopath. Understand that it is not your fault. You are not unlovable. You are not flawed. The sociopath is a very sick person. Their brain is more primal than human. You are a loving, caring, person and that is why the sociopath chose you. They see kindness, generosity, and love as a weakness. They take advantage of trusting and good people. 

The sociopath is not capable of loving anyone. They are not able to receive love from others as well...

First and foremost you must be aware that if you feel you are in danger of being physically harmed by this person get the police involved and ask for a restraining order. Your safety is the most important thing to focus on. The sociopath is capable of anything. Without a conscious, and any morals or ethics, they are unpredictable and dangerous.

Trust Yourself.

It's important that you trust yourself. The sociopath has been covertly abusing you to believe that you are not smart enough, god enough, and they don't really need you. They are able to sense vulnerablities, then use those against you. They will always try to make you doubt yourself. The will try to twist and turn the truth, by making you out to be the bad guy. Another way they will try to make you doubt yourself is through lying. They are skilled at lying and they lie so much that they often start to believe their own lies. Sociopaths are known for "gas lighting." This is a form of abuse that is very subtle and can render the victim to feel unstable and insecure. 

Sociopaths portray themselves as something that they are not. They will pretend to be a do-gooder. They pretend they care, and act like they always want to help, they do not want to help and they sure don't care.  They will try to make you look crazy while they pretend they are worried about you. They tell others how they are "concerned" for you. When they are actually spreading lies and rumors. 

That's why you must trust your own intuition and you cannot doubt yourself. The sociopath tries to make you feel like you are the "crazy" one. You are not crazy. 

TRUST YOURSELF. KNOW THAT IT IS THE SOCIOPATH WHO IS ALL SCREWED UP.  It not you, it really is them..

Remember the sociopath always has a hidden agenda — they want to control and dominate others. It makes them feel powerful. The more people they control, the more delusional they become. 

Dealing with the sociopath, you are going to need confidence. You have to stay strong, and not let them manipulate your emotions.  Your self respect and confidence will need to be solid. You must know who you are. The sociopath will plant seeds of doubt, making you doubt eveything about yourself. 

Having knowledge about sociopaths, and how they operate. Will help you to survive one. You need to educate yourself on how to deal with a sociopath. When you realize that you are in a relationship with a sociopathic person, and you attempt to get out of that relationship, the sociopath will set out to destroy you (if they haven't started destroying you already). Sociopaths did not get into the relationship because they loved you and thought you were their soulmate. They get in the relationship because they think they can con you long enough to get what they want out of you, then they leave. They usually start with destroying your credit. You will find that there are credit card and loans that have been taken out in your name, that you knew nothing about. Once you confront a sociopath about this, they become enraged – “how dare you confront them!” They will use every trick they have up their rotten sleeve to lie, lie, lie and deny, deny, deny. Even when you present them with evidence of what they have done, they will still make excuses and refuse to accept responsibility. 

Have a Strong Sense of Self 

Having strong morals and a secure sense of self is also needed for your survival. Once the sociopath decides that you have fulfilled your purpose for them, they will discard you like yesterday's newspaper. The sociopath doesn't just get rid of you, they first need to silence you. They make up disgusting lies, and false accusations about you. They socially destroy you, which isolates you from society, because people either believe their lies, or you feel so insecure and broken down you fear going out because you are afraid of what the sociopath has said about you. The sociopath is ruthless and doesn't think twice about how they are mentally and emotionally destroying you. They could not care less.

It is impossible to ever get closure from the sociopath. You will waste time and energy trying. The sociopath drains so much out of you, that you cannot afford to waste any of your energy. Focus your energy on healing yourself from the traumatic experience of the sociopath. Doctors still do not fully understand why a sociopath is the way they are. 

There is NO cure for sociopathy. A sociopath never changes. They never feel bad for all the lives they destroy. They are evil. The worst kind of evil, because they are disguising themselves as “good”.

The sociopath has feelings of envy, and will attempt to sabotage or destroy another person for having an attribute or a possession she/he lacks, such as youth, beauty, money, and success.

 

The narcissist lives in a meaningless wasteland

Narcissist people are deceptive liars. Being with a narcissist is painful, and at times you can feel like you are the crazy one! When you are not aware of what narcissism is. Having little knowledge of personality disorders, such as a sociopathic, psychopathic, and narcissistic, makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. The narcissist is so quick to lie, and will put all the blame on you, leaving you feeling guilty for even confronting them. This can be confusing for the person who feels they are being betrayed and lied to. Eventually the persons self esteem begins to erode away. They don't understand why they are ignored, and put down. They believe something is wrong with them. So they try even harder to please the narcissist. 

Only to be more rejected by the narcissist. 

So why would a person continue to stay in a relationship that is so emotionally abusive and damaging to their personal growth? 

I believe it stems from the person being rejected by a parent, or from many rejections in their past. Rejection hurts the rejected person so badly, they feel  as long as the narcissist hasn't left them yet, that feel that they can change the narcissist, and one day the narcissist will see how much they care for them, and the narcissist will change. 

Unfortunately this will never happen...  

Narcissistic personalities CANNOT and will not ever change. They have an ego so large, it doesn't allow them to see anything but the superficial, and what is most beneficial for them and their ego. 

Narcissist Do Not think there is anything wrong with them. If a narcissist seeks therapy, it is only because they have been forced, by someone who financially supports them or holds some other power over them. They will never genuinely try to get help, because they don't think they need help.  They believe that the problem is not them. They are perfect. The problem is everyone else.  Specifically they think the people who are asking them to seek professional help. The person most affected by the narcissist is his spouse or significant other. 

To the rest of the world the narcissist will portray himself as the nice guy, and can usually get along with anyone. The narcissist has no real sense of who he or she is.  

Narcissist are compulsive liars. These people have made such a habit out of lying, their entire existence is built solely on lies. They live a life of deceit. Narcassist (and sociopaths) live in an a false reality that they start to believe. They lie about anything and everything. They are making it up as they go. They will go to extremes to lie. Anything from lying about where they work, (in an attempt to make it seem like they are hard working, interesting people - which they are not) They are actually lazy individuals who are looking for a handout. 

A narcissist will lie about everything. They become such bold liars, they will make up things that can be easily proved wrong. For example, the narcissist says things that they believe will make then look good, like they wrote a book and got the book published, and it was on the NY times best seller, but all the money the book made, she/he donated to the neo-natal unit at the hospital. Why would someone lie about something like this? Since it can be proved that it isn't true? It's because they have lied so long, and no one has ever held them accountable, they see themselves as invisible to being caught. So they tell the most extreme lies.  Most psychiatrist call these people “delusional”. 

It is the person in a relationship with this disordered individual that suffers the most. Being with a pathological liar can ruin your life and the lives of those around you. 

So what is the reason narcissist lies?

It is complicated but quite simple to understand why the narcissist and the sociopath habitually lies to everyone. First and foremost they are in love with themselves.. 

Since they usually don't have much truth that verifies how wonderful they are. They must make up their own truth. Narcissist also never want to be wrong, so if they have to lie in order to prove they are right then they have no qualms about doing so. Narcissist also feel entitled to have whatever they want. If lying gets them what they want then they will not think twice about lying. Lying comes so natural to these types of personalities. It's second nature to them.  Narcissists must make every situation all about them.. 

The narcissist never thinks to himself, “how will this impact the people in my life?”  The narcissist will never worry about the consequences of lying. 

Narcissist are so shallow that they cannot see any further than their own nose. They only focus on the immediate gratification they want. Narcissists like sociopaths are always looking for the easy way out of a situation. 

The truth is the narcissist will never have a healthy relationship with anyone. It is impossible to have a long-term, healthy relationship built on mutual trust and honesty with a narcissist because they are all compulsive liars and they live such a shallow existence.  They are never able to accept that all their failed relationships is because of their own flawed personality. They believe they are perfect.

Narcissist are essentially only in a relationship with themselves. 

The narcissist is actually a coward. They lack the courage to look at the truth. Anyone who believes that they do not have to accept any responsibilty for anything in their life, is a coward. Narcassists are covert cowards. Narcissist will say what they think will get them back on good graces with a person, but as soon as you accept a narcissist back. It is not long before they are back to doing what led to you trying to end the relationship in the first place.  Liars are very hard to love. They will perpetually frustrate you. Instead of admitting their flaws, shortcomings, and their failures  {which is what makes us human} The narcissist will lie in order to cover it up. They’re so busy keeping up appearances that they destroy their closest relationships in the process. Narcissist rarely (I'm talking about RARELY - almost never) will change. It takes courage to admit wrong, and a narcissist is a coward. So they will always live a lifestyle of deceit and denial. 

Narcissist live meaningless lives.

If everything in your life was suddenly taken away from you. Like your fancy car, nice home, your high paying career...  What do you have besides your good name or your reputation? Narcassistic people have essentially burned all bridges and alienated everyone they have ever known.  They have lied and deceived so many people and caused so much emotional damage. 

They eventually self destruct and destroy their own reputations. They have ruined their own name in the community. 

Narcissist never form any real connections with anyone. The narcissists life becomes nothing more than a meaningless wasteland. As they age they  are easily forgotten and dismissed. No one with any real discernment will trust them. The narcissist will end up isolated and ostracized in their lifestyle of lies and deceit. 

Even then, they are unable to see why their life has ended up so miserable... They blame their pathetic life on their last lover, or on their parents, or on the “asshole” boss who fired them and couldn't see their potential. It's always someone else's fault. 

If you suspect you are in a relationship with someone who is a narcassist, get out now. It will save you a lot of heart ache and disappointment to leave sooner than later. They will never change. You cannot change them. No one can.

Evil evil evil - sociopath

Normal people attack for natural reasons,  like revenge or retaliation. This is not the case with the sociopath. They simply attack people who possess something they want.  The sociopath believes that everything belongs to him/her, that he/she is entitled to it. And if someone has a little of it, then she's not getting all of it. The sociopath wants IT ALL. The  sociopath doesn't want to charge anything.  Pathological greed, entitlement, and lying are what makes the sociopath a dangerous predator. They are forever out to take, keep from, destroy and damage the reputation of whoever or  whatever they can get their dirty paws on: be it your job, you home, your relationships, your children, or your reputation.

It is pure malevolence and hatred to want to damage the most valuable possessions of another. It is their lack of moral character that makes them  be hostile to anyone getting what makes them happy and feel good about themselves. And, it is beyond sick to have feel ill will and hate  toward people who aren’t harming you, have never harmed you, and have never threatened to harm you. Sociopaths and psychopaths are pure evil. Just look at who they target: vulnerable children, people who love them, family, and the innocent.

Masters of Deception and Lies

Sociopaths are master manipulators... They are hard wired in their evil brains to manipulate and lie. If you suspect that you are dealing with a sociopath or any other cluster B personality disordered individual, always assume that they are lying until proven otherwise. 

Some people have a hard time imagining that a person would lie about having cancer... Or lying about their daughter having cancer. But NEVER put anything past a sociopath. I have seen sociopaths lie about having uterine cancer, in order to gain sympathy from people whom she owed a large amount of money too. I have seen a sociopath tell the father of her children that their daughter (who was 12) found a lump in her breast and it was cancer and she was going to have to have surgery to have it removed. She even told her ex husband what time to be at the hospital and what hospital room it was and the dr performing surgery. Luckily my friend knew the doctor, and got in contact with his daughter, and he found out it was all a lie. He knew she was a pathological liar but he had know idea she would stoop so low as in to say his daughter had breast cancer. That was his “Ahh Haa” moment when it came to his sociopathic ex wife. He realized then that she was truly disordered and that he could not believe a word she said. So what was the point in communicating with her regarding the children? He knew that she would tell devastating lies for no reason. Now his daughter is 16 and his son is 13. And they both have cell phones. And he only communicates through his children. And very very rarely will have any communication with his sociopathic ex wife. Even though he has been consistent in having “No Contact” with her for over 3 years. She refuses to let go and leave him alone. He still is receiving text messages 4-6 times a week that are so long his phone can only receive half of the message. 

Before he implemented the No Contact Rule he was receiving 5-10 text messages from her per day, and at least 2 phone calls. 

Sociopaths are persistent but not in a positively driven way. Everything a sociopath does is because they are trying to control a person, control a situation, or seek revenge on those they cannot control. 

Unfortunately sociopaths, psychopaths, and narcissists, will never change. They will make the lives of anyone who is unfortunate enough to be related to them, or in a relationship with them -completely miserable. Sociopaths choose a partner who is empathic and kind (an easy target to manipulate). They lie to their families and their partner, and cheat with multiple partners, and when confronted they deny and blame. Making the person feel as is they are going crazy. The sociopath projects all their mental issues, and shames onto their partner, or their target, or a family member – especially when confronted with something that they have done or are doing wrong. Eventually people who know the sociopath STOP confronting him/her, because of the brutal backlash that it will cause. So most people who are not family, and that do not have children with the sociopath will eventually cut contact with the sociopath, because it is so hard to be friends with him/her. 

Sociopaths are takers. They take, take and take some more. They NEVER give anything back. 

They are parasites, and people are their host. They attach themselves to someone who has something to offer them, and suck the energy, life, and joy right out of that person. They drain people emotionally, physically, and financially. Once they have taken everything from that person, and the person has nothing left to give them, they discard them like yesterday's newspaper. 

So when you know that the person you are dealing with is a sociopath. Always check other sources when they tell you anything. Never repeat to anyone something they tell you about another person that is negative. Because more than likely they are attempting to start a smear campaign about that person.  All sociopaths, and psychopaths Do Not have a Conscience. They Do Not feel any remorse for destroying lives, stealing, lying, and cheating. No one can help the sociopath or reform them. Psychiatrists cannot help a sociopath. The sociopath will only lie to any trained mental health care professional. Therapy only enables the sociopath to learn more about human emotion, so they can manipulate even better. 

The best and only option for dealing with a sociopath or psychopath is cutting all ties, and communication. You have to take care of yourself. You will feel broken, and drained after knowing a sociopath. But it is possible to save what little you may have left if you can get away from one .

 

Psycho ex with borderline personality disorder

   Psycho Ex Wife or Mentally ill? 

If you are divorced or married and you ex has doesn't call and text you a million times today just to tell you crazy lies about your children in order to get a reaction out of you. Consider yourself lucky. Not all psycho ex wife's are sociopaths. Some may show traits but they may actually have a mentally illness. Such as borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and schizoaffective disorder.  All these types often project there own issues and onto the people in their life. They rarely take responsiblity for their life, their actions and their mistakes. 

When you have children with these types the situation can be even worse. For you and you children. The children grow up in 

environment where their needs are often neglected. They are often left at home alone for hours or even days. They are left with relatives. Home is not a place of safety for them. It's an unstable place, filled with unstable people. 

When a woman has so much hatred for her ex husband she focuses much of her life trying to make his life hell. She uses parental alienation to turn his children against. By never letting the children see their father (the only stable person in their life). Of course mom tells the kids -"dad said he couldn't get you this weekend, he rather be with his girlfriend or new family". This is mentally hurting the children. They feel unwanted and unloved. They feel rejected by their father. Their mother is never around. The mentally ill mother doesn't see her dysfunctional behavior. She only sees rage. 

What can the father do? He world full time, he is paying the crazy ex child support and doesn't have time to take this unemployed woman to court. Yet she rarely let's him see the kids. 

When the kids get older the father can only hope that they see their mother for what she is and what she has done. And can make the decision to come see him without their mothers permission.

Even when the ex wife remarries and moves on she may still harass her ex husband. Why? Because she wants control.

So is the ex wife mentally ill or is she a sociopath? The way she acts can make it hard to know. But here are signs that you are dealing with a sociopath and not a mentally ill person. 

IS SHE A SOCIOPATH OR MENTALLY ILL —

1. The sociopath will make up lies and spread rumors, make up lies, try to ruin her ex's reputation, she will also target her ex's new wife. And make not only her ex's life hell, but also his new wife by spreading lies and rumors. SOCIOPATHS ARE NOTORIOUS FOR SLANDER AND DEFAMATION. 

 

2. After making up lies about her ex, the sociopath plays the victim. Whatever she has done to the ex (stalked, harassed,character assassination) she accuses the ex of doing to her. 

3. Sociopaths are pathological liars. They will lie even when the truth is in their best interest. They will lie about the children to their ex. Going as far as saying that one of the children has cancer or has to have surgery. Just to waste her ex's time. The lie for no reason. In fact the sociopath hasn't even taken the children to the doctor in years. 

4. Sociopaths speak fluently. Under pressure Normal people can get tongue tied and shows signs of being nervous. NOT THE SOCIOPATH. The have an overly complex speech and writing in order to look clever and often is contradictory from one sentence to the next. 

5. The Sociopath Feels They are Entitled to the Best of Everything and Expects everyone to give her what she wants. 

6. The Sociopath Twists Conversations to Suit her own Agenda. She diverts conversation to gain moral or intellectual higher ground—when stumped, changes the subject or gets angry.

7. The sociopath is an Energy Vampire. She drains her victims of energy, life, time, money, and vitality. With persistent harassment and constant drama. 

8. The Sociopath is Unreliable and Irresponsible. Sociopaths break promises. They lie. They hate responsibility. They take credit for everyone else's hard work. 

Parasites... in the form of a woman,

Sociopathic people are black holes.  Sociopathic females are black holes, with black hearts, and lack spirit and soul. They are horrible mothers. They are sluts, whores, cheaters, and commonly spread STD's to their unsuspecting partners

They are parasites, and are capable of inflicting unspeakable psychological abuse. 
They will blame you for everything that they perceive is wrong with their lives (and there will always be plenty). 
If you ever are going through a tough time, or any difficulty, prepare to be kicked while you are down by a sociopath. They love to prey on the weak and the defenseless.

The Female Sociopath is fake to her evil core. She uses her fake charismatic and charming personality to draw victims in. She plays the helpless or needy, pitiful, inept or emotionally unable to cope. She has no problem taking from total strangers, she gratefully accepts or she aggressively TAKES.  Always claiming to be the victim, she is the most passive parasite living among us. She lures and abuses the men who have instincts as a protector.  When her real self comes to the surface — she is cunning, ruthless, predatory, and loveless.

SPREADING DIRTY RUMORS  is the specialty of female sociopath. She will make up a lie about her target (victim) and tell others this lie in an attempt to discredit the person. The female sociopath wants to destroy others. She takes pleasure in this. 
YOU KNOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH A SOCIOPATH IF THE PERSON IS SPREADING RUMORS THAT ARE ABSOLUTE LIES ABOUT YOU. 

Normal people do not go around spreading lies about another person. It's just not in their minds to do this. Only in the minds of the truly evil - go about this method of character assassination. 

Female sociopaths are accomplished in cheating, conniving and manipulation with malicious intent. 
Like all sociopaths they have an uncanny ability to find a character flaw that can to be exploited to their advantage. 

LYING COMES AS NATURAL AS BREATHING TO A FEMALE SOCIOPATH.

Female sociopaths never pay their bill, they fails to honor other promises and commitments. She blames her behavior on somebody else. 
She never takes responsibility and will never admit to be wrong. But she knows exactly what she did and difference between right and wrong. Because she’s out to control, she manipulates and punishes at will. She is the witness, the judge, the lawyer, the jury, the executioner - but never the accused.

Cyberpaths - sociopaths - INSANITY

“Cyberpath” is a colloquial online term that describes an individual with a pathological disorder who uses the internet as a medium for acting out their pathology. The alternative definition is a psychopath who uses the internet to find, stalk and exploit others either online or in real life.

Cyberpaths use the Internet to defame, slander and stalk their victim/target. Being a target of a cyberpath/sociopath/narcissist myself. I know the torment that one of these sick individuals is capable of. ONCE YOU EXPOSE THEM YOU WILL MOST CERTAINLY BE SUBJECT TO THEIR SOCIOPATHIC RAGE. THE CYBERPATH MAY/WILL DO THE FOLLOWING:

- harrass you by phone or email (BLOCK their emails and instant messages or DO NOT REPLY - just save them. If they threaten you, impersonate you, go immediately to the 

authorities.)

- do everything they can to make YOU look like the "crazy one". The want others to believe it's you that has the problem. You are the sick, mentally ill, distrubed ("scorned) or not credible person
- use their 'minions' (friends/ spouses in denial, other predators, etc) to help them discredit and smear you

- they make up many fake profiles to comments anonymously about how they know you and you are the crazy one. And that it is you that is stalking the sociopath. They will act as if you have caused the sociopath so much pain. YOU ARE PAINTED AS THE BAD GUY.

- they will smear you, they will go for you at full speed ahead. Slandering your name in every way. All lies. (My sociopath said that I was a horrible father and willing to sign my rights away on my child - just so I could continue to live in the house I bought) - she also said I had stolen money from her then lost it all gambling. 

* I have been accused of physically beating her, breaking bones, abusing our child, being a pathological liar, an alcoholic, a drug user, dead beat dad. -( I am worried of the lies she will tell next about me). I worry as soon as I do not do what she wants - like give more money, get her a car (she has wrecked 5 cars in the past 4 years) that she will accuse me of more horrendous things. This has bedn so frustrating. I can't defend myself. The more I try the crazier her 

accusations become. 

The female sociopath possesses TWO symptoms always. They are verbally abusive, and they are serial cheaters. These are only 2 common traits of the female sociopath. When a sociopath has chosen you as their target, she will stop at nothing to destroy you. Your reputation. Your spirit. She wants to break you down, and will enjoy watching you fall into a million pieces.  
She will socially destroy you, by spreading vicious lies that are vile and disgusting.
My ex wife is a coward sociopath, she does all her creepy stalking online and spreads her gossip there. She has over 30+ blogs,  some in her name and most are blogs created by her impersonating someone who is not Real. I always know what she is doing to me and others just by reading her blogs. In her blogs she portrays herself as poor pitiful victim. She always uses her children as her weapon of mass destruction. In order to manipulate people to feel sorry for her and then give her what she wants. 

About four years ago, she made some very defamatory statements about me. These statements could have cost me my job. She was accusing me of everything from stealing money from her, being an alcoholic, a compulsive gambler, and even being physically abusive to her and breaking her bones. 
She had also stated that I was willing to sign my rights away on my child, in order to stay in the home I currently reside. Which is untrue. The home I am living in with my new wife. I purchased this home with the sociopath, and at the time she was having affairs with other men, and she wanted me to live out here because it is 30 minutes away from town. That way she could be in town having her affairs with numerous men. She never made one payment on the home, she has never invested a dime in the home. She had no interest in the house or our child.  She would claim to be working and sometimes I didn't see or hear from her for 3-5 days at a time.  She was always gone. She stayed at our old home, in town, even tho it was for sale. My old neighbor told me he saw many different men coming in an out of house. 

I was working my ass off and taking care of a young child, although she always claimed to have a job and work. She never had a job or worked. She only claimed she worked because she didn't want to take care of our child, but she would claim to be a working mother, and a successful business woman. She chose men, some who were strangers, some she knew “well” over her daughter.  I knew it was going on but at that point I didn't care. I HAD TO WORK FULL TIME TO SUPPORT MYSELF, MY WAYWARD WIFE, AND MY CHILD. And I had to take care of my child with no help.  I didn't have time to confront a person who was only going to look me dead in the eye  and LIE. Lying is second nature to her. I hate using this word, but this bitch was an evil, selfish, cunt..

Sociopathic  stalkers believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing and entitled to every wish. Such people have no sense of personal boundaries and no concern for their impact on others. To a sociopath she is always “the smartest person in the room,” and can outwit anyone. She knows how to change her IP address.  So it's hard to trace whatever blog, domain suet she has made up about me back to her. She doesn't work. But she claims to be a working attorney. She was an attorney 10 years ago, before she was disbarred. She had stolen in a matter of 2 years over $250,000 from her clients. In order to avoid going to jail, she pleaded with the state bar that she was bi-polar. And she also put all the blame on her secretary. 

I really regret marrying this person. She lied to me our entire marriage. What is so crazy is that I actually believed her lies. No matter how many times she would lie to me - even if it was the same lie, I would believe it.. She was so convincing. Sometimes I think I did not want to believe the truth. I did live a lot of my life in denial of it. Now I'm fully aware of what I'm dealing with. A monster. A person that has no conscience, no heart, feels sorry for no one and is just downright mean. 

Sociopaths are good at playing Victim...

One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning. Smear campaigners carefully use lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying your credibility. They play victim, the tell their sob story and how "you" did all the horrible things to them, all while they are did nothing to deserve the horrible things you did to them. When in fact, when it comes to sociopaths ( especially female) they are doing to "you" all the horrible 
things they say you are doing to them. They do this so that your reputation and creditability is 
damaged. The sociopath will cry fake tears and claim their innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based not on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern.

The sociopath does this because of your refusal to give them what they want. They are angry that you 
will not be their puppet, so in all the only you are "guilty” of is saying no to someone who is, in some way, failing to respect your boundaries, abusing and bullying you for money. Since the sociopath 
refuses to follow the same rules as everyone else, because thy believe they are above the law. 
Sociopaths spread lies and rumors because they are toxic and manipulating. Sociopaths feel entitled to whatever they want, they are sneaky and vindictive. Sociopaths have no regrets when they hurt 
you. They are more than willing to take from you and never give back anything. They are takers, not 
givers. 

NO SATISFACTION COMES BY BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SOCIOPATH. 
BECAUSE IN ORDER TO HAVE FULFILLMENT AND BE HAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, 
THERE NEEDS TO BE A LITTLE GIVE AND TAKE. YOU CANT GET THAT WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A COLD BLOODED SOCIOPATH. THEY USE YOU. ABUSE YOU. DESTROY YOUR REPUTATION IN THE COMMUNITY. DESTROY YOUR FINANCES, AND 
DRAIN YOU MENTALLY EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY.  

Narcissistic Sociopaths will fly into a vindictive narcissistic rage if you dare to question them,  instead of just being compliant with their demands. Sociopaths often have anger management issues and are driven solely by their own selfish wants, with no regard for the rights of others or for consequences. Most female sociopaths have to create drama and conflict wherever possible, and 

they require little to no incentive to do so.  They have difficulty controlling their reactions, and may become intensely angered  by what others interpret to be minor matters. Sociopaths want drama and love to create conflict and make life difficult for everyone around them