Narcissist or Borderline Personality Abuse

The causes of personality disorders, such as sociopathic, narcissistic, psychopathic, and borderlines are not entirely clear... Some of these personalities were abused as children by a caregiver. 

Most, however, are not so easily identified because of their lying. It is unfortunate for those who really have suffered physical or emotional abuse. Because of their pathological lying, it is very hard to confirm if they are telling the truth or if they are just attempting to manipulate, and elicit pity from someone. 

Sociopaths and Narcissisit lie about eveything. They will lie just to lie..

Even when there is no reason to lie, and the truth would be in their best interest, they will still lie. They don't care who they lie to, and what they lie about. There is no rhyme or reason behind the lies they tell.  I assume because they are just so darn good at it, it just comes natural to them..

Cluster B Personality Disorders - are the most dangerous of disordered individuals. The most dangerous of the cluster B's is the Sociopath (Anti-social personality) and the Narcissist. 

The sociopath is by far the most dangerous because there is no functioning conscience. There is no moral compass. Yet the sociopath does know the difference between right and wrong, they just prefer to do what's wrong. They are skilled at manipulating others, with the intent to cause harm. Sociopaths blend in so well with “normal” people, that people are unaware of the dysfunction going on behind closed doors. The sociopath paints a picture perfect family life for the rest of the world to see, but in reality they are making the people who live with them, and family members miserable..

The sociopath is more likely going to cause physical and emotional harm to others, before they will harm themselves. Unlike the Borderline who is more likely to hurt themselves. 

While both can be emotionally abusive, the borderline acts out with self-harm and obvious displays of out-of-control behaviors. While the sociopath acts out in devious under-handed ways, such as spreading rumors to destroy your reputation, stealing from you and destroying you financially. 

All of the cluster B's are often deeply insecure. It is this insecurity that drives them to act in such horrific ways. Although the the sociopath and the narcissist display arrogance and a confident demeanor - it is just another lie that they are living and acting out. They ENVY everyone. They are jealous individuals. It is their sense of entitlement, that makes them act as if they are “owed” or “entitled” to whatever it is they desire.

The Sociopath will take what they want, they do not care of who gets hurt. 

The Sociopath never stops being obsessed

Does the narcissistic sociopath ever give up on making your life miserable.

I do not think will. They will have distractions come along the way, that may give you a small amount of peace. But I have been stalked, had profiles made up about my online, been signed up spam mail, I have even received hand written letters at my home mail box. That was when I had a security system installed. But I say once again, even though there is no communication, contact with my sociopath stalker. It’s still costing me money.

The way I see it, I have dealt with this for a 13+ years. And I have gained knowledge. And the sociopath hasn’t gained anything. (Except for maybe special place in hell). But my life is good. I have been through so much, but I am still fairly young. I have a loving family and supportive friends. I am active in my community. I play tennis, I am involved with many organization that i enjoy and have interest in. I have finally found the job of my dreams.  I am happy.

Everything I have been through has made me a stronger person. 10 years ago I was unable to say this.  I was constantly upset about the problems the sociopath was causing for me. Because I did not have the knowledge to know how to deal with it appropriately. That is why i started this blog. In hopes people wouldn’t make the same mistakes that I did. Or just help others that find themselves in a hopeless miserable situation like this.

It’s not your fault. I am able to be happy, despite everything that has happened. The fact that my sociopath is still to this very day obsessing over me, tells me that this person is so miserable with their life. And this is all they have to do. The sociopath is truly unhappy and miserable. There is no spark within them. Especially as they age. My sociopath is older than me by 20 years. It’s obviously that she is very miserable. All her other targets and victims have died. I’m the only one left living. So she gets online and makeups Facebook profiles in my real name. She doesn’t have any friends. Her own sister won’t even speak to her. And she basically ran her mother into an early grave.

I haven’t posted anything in a while. Because I just haven’t felt the need to. Until I came across something she made up on Facebook about me. I laughed about it. It told me all I already knew. That she has nothing else to do with her time. And no one else wants anything to do with her.

Yes, I wish she would leave me alone. But she isn’t going to. She is obsessed, miserable and jealous. She wants to upset me and cause me pain. But because of her I will say I am a stronger person than ever.

The sociopath will NEVER change. Ever

Sociopaths,  narcissist, psychopaths, and also the dark triad personality disordered person  has mastered how to attack and retreat. This is how they keep their victims off balance. They sociopath undermines the victim and works to lower the victims self esteem, confidence and independence 

Abusive sociopaths suffers from internal discomfort and conflicts that they have no clue how to deal with, due to their lack of being able to genuinely connect to others. Sociopaths do not have much practical and logical thinking inside their mind. Rational reasoning, kindness, and empathy, is just NOT there.  They do so many damaging things to their victim  is to compensate or satisfy their own insecurities. Sociopaths and narcissist will work  hard to give others the impression that they are Confident, self assured, independent, and basically “awesome” Human beings.

The sociopath does not ever look within themselves.  Because “within" them is hollow and empty. They don't seek to understand or respect others because they do not understand or respect themselves. The ONLY understanding the sociopath wants to find is how to better manipulate and control their victim.

The Truth is that narcissist and sociopaths are very insecure. The narcissist more so than the sociopath. The narcissist is very skilled at hiding their  own weaknesses. Their strategy is to make the victim look ‘unstable, dangerous, and suffering from low self esteem. The sociopath hides their insecurity and self-hatred by exploiting others, and portraying them as weak. 

Since these abusive types of people CaNNoT control their own life, and (malicious) emotions, they try to control others, through manipulation, lies, threat, blackmail, and for a lack of better words, causing their victims to doubt their self, and feel unworthy and not good enough. While if these malicious types may have some positive qualities. Although I have never seen anything positive come from a sociopath, ever ..  

The narcissistic sociopath will always hold very toxic and unrealistic expectations of victims and their family members, these expectations are to ridiculous to ever really met. Those who try to meet these expectations will become exhausted and drained. The sociopath convinces them that they a failure, and they will constantly berate them, and be verbally abuse. This is a game that the sociopath loves to play with people in their life. The sociopath has mastered this "game" and they know it is a game that they will win, and that their victims cannot win. 

Narcissist and sociopaths are ABUSERS. It's vital for all victims of these vile individuals to remember, the abuse more than likely has nothing to do with you. If they are not abusing You, they would be abusing someone else. They abuse family members as long as the family member stays in the sociopath life. The actions of the abuser are not Your fault. Even though the sociopath will have you convinced and brainwashed that you are to blame for anything they may have done to hurt you.  One of the hardest things to accept and understand is You will have little or no impact on the sociopath. They will never change. They are wired the way they are. They aren't suffering from a mental illness, but they have a malevolent personality and are basically soulless. So never expect these types to change. There may be a temporary change but it will not be lasting. It is only another tactic to get back in your life, once they do the abuse will start again. 

The abusers seldom wants to change.  Narcissist don't believe  that there is anything wrong with them. Sociopaths (this is my opinion) either know there is something wrong with them but refuse to admit it. Or they are so delusional. They really feel like the circumstances of their life and how it has turned out, is truly the fault of everyone else - but not them...they are never at fault. seldom want to put any real effort towards changing. Victims of sociopaths and narcissist often believe they can change them, and often end up blaming themselves for the state of the relationship.

The narcissistic sociopath wants to control you. And when you stay after all the abuse they subject you to. They feel in control of you

GET AWAY FROM YOUR ABUSER ASAP. It never gets better. It only gets worse 

 

More Cruel than they are Crazy

Sociopaths are more cruel than they are crazy. They know exactly what they are doing and what they are not doing. They are bat shit crazy — but they are not insane. (If that makes sense). 

They are aware of the pain and suffering that they cause. In fact they are intentionally causing it, and getting pleasure from doing it. They love to make people feel fear. It gives them a sense of empowerment. They are vicious, cruel, harsh, mean-spirited people. They have no real emotions. They are empty, soulless vultures...

Sociopaths aren't easy to spot. Most of the time the only people who recognize that the person is a sociopath or some other kind of disordered person, it is their family or spouse. 

Sociopaths have a way of covertly manipulating those around them to be quiet about their illegal and abusive behaviors. They try to tolerate the abuse and lies. They eventually get use to the sociopath leaving for hours, even days at a time, and the abuse and they try to ignore and act as if everything is ok. Because to confront a sociopath will start a war. And usually the spouse and family is so exhausted with the abuse and lies, they just turn the other cheek. 

It tasks something drastic for the victim to actually leave the sociopath. The sociopath will eventually leave the victim once they have drained the life out of you. And you serve no other purpose for them. 

Sociopaths do not care about anyone. 

It's best to Go No Contact with an ex who is a sociopath. They will do desperate things to in an attempt to get a responce. By responding they feel like they have won, and winning is EVERYTHING to them.

They will try to talk to you by text or phone. Your lack of response will cause them to be angry. After that doesn't work they will even try to be nice. (But you know that it is only temporary) once the sociopath gets what they want they go back go being assholes. 

Besides being mean and evil. Sociopaths are crazy-makers. They make the victim question if maybe they are going insane. But they are not. It is the sociopaths who are crazy. 

Sociopaths will try to convince others that their victim is crazy as well... By making up nasty lies about the person to everyone. Blatant lies. There is not even any true behind the lie. They just think of what scares them and then they accuse their victim of those exact things. I.e. – If a sociopath is stalking you, they will accuse you and there you are actually the stalker. 

I have been stalked by a sociopath. And currently still am being harassed, stalked and prank called frequently by a sociopath. It's not sorntbing that anyone wants to deal with but when you are a target of a sociopath. It is very hard to get them to leave you. Basically they usually have to find a new target in order for them to leave you alone. 

**And even then they may still become bored and decide to give you a call or send you a text message that makes no sense. Just to shake you up and bother you. (once you are use to the sociopath and are able to see through all their bullshit - their text messages and calls are just annoying)

Some people are totally unaware the person they are with is sociopath. They just think their partner is nucking futs! Or they are suffering from bi-polar disorder or some other mental illness. 

There are other people who end up believing that they are the one with the problem. They sociopath is such a skilled liar and manipulator – they can convince their partner that they are not the one who is sick, but it is the partner who has issues they need to work out. 

Here are few things to try and remember if you may suspect your partner is a sociopath or narcissist. 

• You constantly second-guess yourself.

•  You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” partner.

• You have trouble making simple decisions.

•  You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” or "Am I over reacting?"

•  You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation.

• You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.

• You actually start to think the constant criticism is ok, because you think, “What doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.”

• You feel as though you can’t do anything right

• Your kids start trying to protect you from being humiliated by your partner.

• You feel hopeless and joyless.

Everyone deserves to BE happy. Being with a narcissist or a sociopath you will never be happy. They are miserable human beings that are hard wired to destroy others. They cannot be fixed. They WILL NEVER CHANGE. No matter how much LOVE you show them, it will never be enough. They are unable to receive love. Unable to give love. All they really know how to do is lie, hurt, cheat, degrade, and cause chaos and pain.