Victims of sociopaths become strong survivors

The sociopath sees you as someone that they own. After they have discarded you, they then need to destroy you. We already know that there are some people who are serial killers. Most Sociopaths are not like this. In fact a lot are not even violent. What this type of Sociopath will do is to ruin and damage your emotional state, your life, and damage or destroy everything left that you ‘value’ so that you are left feeling absolutely destroyed (metaphorically killed). Whilst the sociopath will not destroy you and kill you in a literal sense, they kill you in another way.

You should remember in the beginning, when the Sociopath mirrored you, acting just like you, mirroring you to offer you everything that you wanted. Moving on from that the Sociopath played victim, you felt sorry for him/her and they ‘exposed’ their weaknesses and vulnerabilities (which were mostly manipulative lies), you felt safe to expose your own weaknesses.

It is now those very weaknesses that the Sociopath uses to control you. He/she will threaten to expose you and will lie about you, using a thread of truth to make the lies that they tell sound believable.

The Sociopath has no conscience. So she does not feel bad about terrorizing your life. He does not feel remorse, guilt or shame. The sociopath will continue to make your life hell, until in her mind you are literally “dead”

That's when the smear campaign starts. The sociopath will spread lies to make you feel alienated from your friends and the community. By the time you realize what is happening - the damage is already done. The worst thing you can do is get angry and react to the sociopath. That's what they want you to do is to lose your temper and act out. Then they will say "I told you that they are crazy, look at how she I going off on me, and I haven't done anything wrong". They taunt you til you break no when you break and react they play the victim, all while vilifying you. 

Unfortunately, you are left disarmed when this happens to you. There is little that you can do about it. After all, you are not the master manipulator, the sociopath is. The worse thing is if you have been unfortunate to meet more than one sociopath in a row. This makes the sociopath’s job relatively easy, as they can build on lies told by the previous one.

Even if this hasn’t happened. And this is the first one that you have met, he will continue 
with his hate campaign against you, whilst smiling with kind eyes, and appearing to be the 
victim, and ‘caring about you’. Yes that is right, the sociopath will NOT talk about you in an “attacking way”. Often, he will act as rescuer and carer for your friends. Selling them information that they need to hear, to heal the hurt that they feel about your rejection of them.

For you, this can be absolutely devastating. In truth you have been involved in an abusive relationship, where you were used, abused, and controlled. You now want to go back to your old life. You need grounding and reality. So you reach out for help. But face third party abuse.

You sink further down. Things cannot get possibly worse, you think.

That is the truth. Things CAN’T get worse!

Coming out of the other side, is like passing through a storm. You are stronger than you think you are. Remember this:

~Just salvage what you can. Focus on the inner YOU. Remember that true happiness, comes from within. Only YOU can make YOU happy. Nobody else.

~Yes, it is hurtful, but this is exactly what the sociopath operates on. Causing hurt, pain  and damage. So that they can make themselves feel better about their own actions.

~If you are reading this, if you can identify with this, if this has happened to you. Even if you feel alone and isolated after this has happened. Take heart. You are not alone. I write this, as it happened to me. Just as it has happened to me, it has happened also to millions of victims all over the world.

~You are not a victim, you are a survivor. Try not to think about others reactions and don’t fight back. Fighting back will simply reinforce the lies that the sociopath is telling about you, especially if you lose your temper.

~Take time out to focus on yourself. Learn to trust you again. Leave it a while, let the dust settle. Remember that you can never change someone else. But you can change you.

**Also remember this – lies will take speed….. but the truth will always have endurance!!!

Sociopathic Apologies

Sociopaths rarely apologize. They never accept responsibility. If you confront one they will try to turn the situation around on you. Blaming you or whoever for the things they have done. The believe they are smarter than you. They have a grandiose sense of entitlement. They feel justified in doing what they do. Even if they destroy a life or a family. They convince themselves that the person deserved it or the family was already in ruins anyways .
Sociopaths want notoriety, and take credit for someone else's hard work. They like the finer things in life. But they don't believe they should have to work hard for it. Since working hard is for other people, not for them. They have many people who they are manipulating to do their dirty work or get them what they want. When a sociopaths desires something. They will simply take it without permission, or manipulate a person to get it.

When a sociopath is confronted or in the wrong, it's no use in talking to them to get them to see your point of view, or how they hurt you, because they truly don't care. 
~When you try to tell a sociopath you feelings, even in an attempt to make the situation better, sociopaths invalidate the listener’s experience or feelings.
~They also try to make excuses for themselves, so that their actions are justified. They will even say "well if you hadn't have done this, then I wouldn't have done that".
~Sociopaths shift the focus and responsibility off the themselves and place all the blame onto the listener, or the person who is trying to tell them how they are hurt.
~Sociopaths will imply that the it is you who is being unreasonable, oversensitive, irrational and "crazy" for the way you feel. They don't care if they have hurt you. Confronting them just makes them irritated, and more likely to continue to do more hurtful things to you.
~Sociopaths will not ever take any responsibility for their actions, they will blame you  for what happened to you. As if you "had it coming". They don't want to hear what you are trying to say, so they will dominate the conversation me won't let you get a word in edgewise.
~On the rare occasion they do apologize, it will not be genuine. They may say " Im sorry you feel like that but...... "
~Sociopaths always send you the message that they aren't actually listening to you, and they aren't really willing to consider the way their actions made the person feel. So you will not get closure with a sociopathic person by talking to them, and expressing the way you feel. Simply because they don't give a crap about you. They only care about themselves, they are not interested in you and your feelings.
~If they act interested in you it is only because they see something in you that they can use or that they want.  That is the reason they are with a lover or spouse. Usually because there is something in it for them. Sociopaths are unable to love others. Although they are experts in pretending to love.

If you are in a relationship with a sociopath, they sweep you off your feet, pretend to like everything you like. You may feel you have found your soulmate. Because they have so much I'm common with you. That's only because, as they have done their whole life, they are mimicking your emotions, so you feel you have a special bond with this person. They have a certain charm and charisma about them which makes you feel drawn to them.  It isn't long before the real "thing" they are is starting to expose it's ugly side. Once they feel they have you hooked, that is when the mask comes off and you start to see them for who they really are. So then once you see this, why do you stay? Because you have the memories of the relationship in the beginning, and you hold onto to hope that things will get better and the person you first met will return.

Sociopaths are horrible friends. They expect you to back them up, but they will never back you up. More than likely they are spreading lies about you because of their jealousy and insecurity of you. Anyone on their life, they feel jealous of. Even lovers. They feel insecure, even though they are bold and confident. It's only a facade.

Victims of the sociopath

It is not unusual for the victims of sociopaths to question their sanity and self worth.   Psychopathic/sociopathic individuals may even try to convince victims that it is they, who are “crazy.”  

The people who have been subjected to the manipulation, control and punishment by the sociopath. Looked wretched and start to exhibit behaviour best described as disordered, dysfunctional, sullen, aggressive, defensive, hostile, retaliatory, counterproductive.  

Life with a sociopath can be a mental terror. Everything is based on lies, emotional abuse, and clever manipulations.  It can be devastating for victims to discover that almost none of what they viewed as facts actually were.  It is hard to accepting the relationship they believed was real was never real and the person they loved doesn't exist. The person is only a shallow, evil and ruthless individual who has no emotions. And is incapable of loving anyone. Now that they are done with you, they discard you like trash. 
If that isn't bad enough, they set out on a mission to destroy you. 

The sociopath is contemptuous of anyone who tries to discredit them. Then he/she will cause great damage and destructive consequences for that person. She will stop at nothing to ruin whoever poses as a threat to expose her or who can see her for the devil she really is....

For example, it is common for psychopathic individuals to lie about their victims or portray them unfavorably in gossip, so as to damage their reputations.  

Sociopaths attempt to ruin to ruin the lives of their victims, through social aggression. They spread llies about their victim in order to cause them to lose  their job, harm their friendships, and drain their finances. 
This can cause tremendous stress on a victim. It harms their well being, self worth, and confidence. Not only have they found out the person they loved was a monster, but now the monster is trying to destroy them....

The combined stress of the struggle presented by daily living and extreme emotional or 
physical abuse or both, weakens the body, as well as stresses the mind.  Such stress, 
generally speaking, is linked to medical conditions such as cardiovascular disease or diabetes mellitus. 

When you are under attack, and the target of a vicious, cold, ruthless sociopath. You have a few options. You can choose to move out of town, and run because that is the only way to escape the wrath of the sociopath. Or you can stay, stand your ground and fight like hell. I can guarantee, it will be the fight of your life.  The sociopath is relentless, and since they have no conscience, and feel no remorse for destroying lives, they are capable of anything. 

Sociopaths are masters of manipulating others into making fools of themselves. The sociopath will put the victims in situations where they cannot back down or from which they cannot withdraw. The sociopath always leaves behind a trail of dysfunctional organizations, destroyed businesses, ruined careers, stress and mental breakdowns and unexplained suicides.

Female Monster

We all know a sociopath is a person without a conscience, who doesn’t feel empathy or affection, although they are excellent at pretending and faking it. When combined with intelligence, a sociopath can rise to the heights of society and become or a successful CEO of a major company, or even the city's district attorney/prosecutor.  It’s much easier to grab power when you have no qualms about hurting others, or no moral code whatsoever. Most sociopaths are not killers, they just tend to wreak havoc on the lives of those around them.

Sociopaths manipulate, lie and scheme against you. They think nothing of spending countless hours on their computer making up false websites in your name or writing about you in blogs to discredit and ruin your character. They will tell anyone and everyone lie after lie about you. Your reputation will be in ruins by the time they are done. All sociopaths have no remorse. They do not feel sorrow when they destroy your life. In fact they feel a sense of accomplishment. And if they are able to bring down someone who is wealthy and successful, they feel very proud of what they have done. 

While the average person is working an honest job to support their family, and throughout the day they are thinking of the people they love, like their children, husband, parents, friends. A sociopath is not capable of having any emotional connections with anyone. So she spends her time scheming and manipulating ways to take you down and destroy you either literally or figuratively. In order to survive the sociopaths emotional abuse, you must remain consistent, and stop all contact with them.  You must change your phone number, if you are able you should move to a different area. And tell only trusted people where you live.  Do not let the sociopath fool you a second time with her charm. Although she will claim that she has changed, DO NOT believe this person has changed. Remember sociopaths can not be rehabilitated.  They cannot change. They are pathological liars, and will always be manipulative and self serving. 

Take steps to protect yourself and your family. Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Life is all a game to the sociopath. She does not care if you're hurt. She will always pretend to be the victim, and prey upon people with kind hearts and compassion. The sociopath wants to win at all cost. 

The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality that sociopath cannot and  do not change.  They are ruthless, heartless, hateful, 

vindictive, and dangerous. 

To a sociopath, you are just an object to be used. You are their source of money, sex, housing and even though she says, "I love you," and "I'll never do it again," the words mean nothing. Her sole 

objective is to take everything you have, emotionally, spiritually and physically and materially. Once you realize the person you are with is using you, you must cut your losses and GET OUT ASAP. If you're FORTUNATE enough to not have married the monster, you don't have children together, and you don't work together. You can just walk away and never see the whore again. But many situations are more complicated than that. If you have to deal with divorce or child custody, expect it to be nasty and the one of the most challenging experiences you will ever go through. The sociopath does not actually care about you or the kids. She only wants to win, and make your life miserable as miserable as possible. She wants to humiliate you, and portray you are a horrible human being, her goal is to destroys you before you can speak the truth and expose her for the monster she really is.  

Revenge Against the Sociopath...

My advice for others is if you are going to expose a sociopath, make sure you have the most very solid of evidence to use in any sort of court case, because they have zero qualms about lying and trying to ruin your life. They will lie and do it convincingly without hesitation. To a sociopath Lying is as natural as breathing.. They are able to lie when under pressure or stress and maintain composure and be cool and calm. I personally feel that sociopaths are capable of such mental and emotional damage, that it is not worth it to try to expose them. They have done you very wrong. Left you in ruins. Yes, one would want revenge. But when dealing with a sociopath the only way you can win is to forget about them, never speak to them again. Change your email and your phone number. Then begin to pick up the pieces of your life and start LIVING AGAIN...  

Best to go NO CONTACT when a sociopath is involved. When you respond to sociopath you are taking their “bait”. They want you to respond, they want a response or emotional reaction. This is how they take up all the spare time they have. So don't give them what they want. You have probably given them enough. They have taken enough of your life. Don't allow them to take anymore...

The sociopath, of course, will continue a life of destruction with or without you.. Eventually, she will target the wrong person.  Someone who will fight back. This person may one day try to contact you to find out what you know about this disordered individual. Then, in a calm and collected manner, you can describe your experience, provide evidence that proves a pattern of behavior, and contribute to some type of justice whether  it’s getting the individual prosecuted, exposed in the media, or just ruining her efforts with yet another potential victim.

It's natural and normal to want revenge against a sociopath. The things the sociopath has done to you has forever changed you, who you are, and what you believed. You want justice. You want your old self back. You must heal one day at a time.  And not waste anymore of your life. Thinking about revenge means that the sociopath is still controlling you. Don't allow it. Put them out of your thoughts. Just call the years you were with the sociopath a "loss" and cut your losses and let it go.

Do Not Help the Sociopath

If you have ever been in a relationship with a sociopath, had a family member who is a sociopath. Then you already know the pain they are capable of inflicting on you, and your family and even your children. People who have been fortunate enough never to have been a target for the sociopath, will never understand what you have gone through or what you are going through. Although they will be sympathetic to your situation, (if they are a supportive and caring friend) but they will never understand what the sociopath has done to your mental health, self esteem, and over all well being. They probably will not understand why you cannot pull yourself out of the depression you are in. 

A sociopath can cause psychological damage and mental trauma, and even physical harm.  Having to deal with a sociopath is not just hard, it can feel like a fight for your life.  Because the sociopath is trying to emotionally destroy you. Even the strongest of people become broken down and weak after having to repair the damage the sociopath has done to them. The reason it is so hard to heal from being attacked by a sociopath, is because they are still trying to destroy you, while you are trying to heal. They are still out launching more smear campaigns, spreading more lies, and ruin you socially. They want others to question your morals and agenda. 

Although most people cannot beat a sociopath, that does not mean that you should just lay down and  die. Because that is EXACTLY  what they want you to do.  You do not have to be a low life as the sociopath is, and stoop to there classless low level, by seeking revenge. 

THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH A SOCIOPATH, IS TO NOT DEAL WITH THEM AT ALL! 
This means having Absolutely no contact with the sociopath AT ALL!  It means lcutting them out of your life. Don't respond to any text they send. Don't answer their calls. If they show up to your home, call the police ASAP. Because you are not dealing with a normal person. You are dealing with a monster. With no remorse, conscience, morals, ethics, and regard for human life, the sociopath is capable of the unthinkable. They are able to commit horrific acts and feel no guilt about it whatsoever. 

IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF A SOCIOPATH YOU MUST GET HIM/HER COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD!  This seems radical, but it is the only option you have to keep yourself safe, and your family safe. You MUST Protect yourself from the drain that the sociopath has on your time, attention, money, and good attitude. 

Do Not Even Consider or Believe that you or anyone else can try to help and heal the sociopath. It is a pointless waste of your time and of your life. It’s not your responsibility. The sociopath can't be healed, and the sociopath doesn't want help. In fact if you try to help them, they despise you even more.  Because they hate all people but they loathe people who are good and compassionate. 

You have your own goals and your own life, and those are your responsibility. YOU OWE OTHING 
TO THE SOCIOPATH! The sociopath has a huge sense of entitlement. They believe that they should 
have whatever they want and desire, without having to work for it, like everyone else.. 

I recommend that you severely challenge your need to be polite in absolutely all situations. Sociopaths take huge advantage of this automatic courtesy in exploitive situations. Do not be afraid to be unsmiling and calmly to the point.

Soulless

Narcissistic psychopaths are particularly ill-suited to participate in the give and take of civilized society. Many of them are misfits or criminals. White collar psychopaths (better known as the sociopath) are likely to be deceitful and engage in rampant identity theft, the use of aliases, constant lying, fraud, and con-artistry for gain or pleasure.
Sociopaths are irresponsible and unreliable. They do not honor contracts, undertakings, and obligations. They are unstable and unpredictable and rarely hold a job for long, repay their debts, or maintain long-term intimate relationships. They are unable to be faithful, they are cheaters and liars and even if they are married they will have numerous sexual relationships on the side. A sociopaths may marry up to 7-10 times in their life. The reason that sociopaths marry, is to have the look of the normal person - which they are not. So they want everyone to believe they are functioning in normal. They mimic what functioning normal people do; which is usually to get married, have a few kids..

Psychopaths are said to be fearless and cool and composed under pressure, or times of fear. . Their pain tolerance is very high. Still, contrary to popular perceptions and psychiatric orthodoxy, some psychopaths are actually anxious and fearful. Their psychopathy is a defense against an underlying and all-pervasive anxiety, either hereditary, or brought on by early childhood abuse, or neglect.
Most all psychopaths and sociopaths had an absent father in the life. They may have had a stepfather who never excepted them. And they feel rejected and insecure and have no sense of identity. A sociopath does not know who they are, they have no identity Of their own. The emotions that they display are what they have mimicked from others.. They are cruel, ruthless, soulless individuals...