Psychopaths, sociopaths and Narcissist

Sociopaths, psychpaths, and narcissist have similiar traits. But they are are actually different. In my research I have found all in all they all destroy lives. They all shatter self esteem, rob people of their quality of living and hope. 

Psychopaths, Sociopaths and narcissist know exactly what they are doing to their victim. In fact they know what they are going to do to their victim before they do it. 

Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissist are able to sound as if they have a good sense and that they are of sound reasoning. They come across as charming and innocent. All people, even trained doctors may find that these disorders individuals seem to be pleasant people, that are fully functioning and have high capabilities. 

Psychometric tests also very frequently show the psychopath of superior intelligence. They may conclude that the sociopath is smarter than the average person. Both the sociopath and psychopath can appear brilliant. But it is the sociopath who is of average intelligent but has just convinced us that she/he is smarter than us all. The Narcissisit is likely to seem free from social or emotional impediments, from the minor distortions, peculiarities, and awkwardnesses so common even among the successful. 

The sociopath and the narcissist have shown many superficial characteristics and they are not universal, but they are very common.

The psychopath on the other hand is very smart, and rarely makes mistakes that will get him or her caught. Unlike the sociopath whose life begins to unravel around the age of 45 (especially the female sociopath). 

Old debts will catch up, and people have caught on to the scheme of the sociopath, and are no longer willing to do their dirty work for them. The sociopath being impulsive and having little self control, has probably been married over 3 times at this point, and is unable to keep a job. She relies on child support from the ex-spouses whom she has children with. The community is no stranger to his/her behaviors. 

The psychopath on the other hand is able to keep a steady job. And what the psychopath does is calculated and planned out. There are no holes in his story. Many sociopaths and psychopaths never commit murder. But all are capable of murder. A psychopath thinks about losing the ir freedom if they are caught for such acts, where is a sociopath is so impulsive, they do not think and do not care. They are only interested in themselves and what they want in that moment. 

Sociopaths (at least the ones I have observed) can only be “functioning” for so long... Before they get caught for the many deceptive things they do. They are very spiteful, jealous, angry individuals. They hate people who are successful, have a lot of money, or work hard. The sociopath wants all those things, but doesn't want to work to get them. 
There is a sense of entitlement there. They believe they are entitled to a BIG piece of the pie, even if they did nothing to earn or deserve. They will take credit for everyone else's hard work, and they never will acknowledge the person who actually deserves the credit. In fact they will end up destroying the person. Mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually in order to make sure that the person cannot speak out against them. 

One thing that the psychopath, narcissist, and sociopath all have in common is they all have NO EMPATHY FOR ANY FORM OF LIFE. They have no emotional connection to others {all though they are able to fake sympathy and concern VERY well. But they truly do not care, they NEVER WILL care, and there is nothing you can ever in this life do to make them care. They are EMPTY, hollow, shallow and ruthless people who will look you in the eyes, smile and then turn around and destroy you every chance they get 

Traits of a Victim

Being a victim of a malicious sociopath is devastating. Surviving the after math of the sociopath is even more so.. 

Usually the victim is so broken and beaten down by the sociopath, once the sociopath has drained the life and finances out of their target, they dispose of them like garbage. Leaving their victim confused, depressed, and without any closure. 

The victim must become the survivor

In order to heal from the devastation of a sociopath. The victim must cut off any and all contact from the sociopath, the hope that they will ever get closure, and any desire to get revenge on the sociopath. 

After the pain and hurt is gone, it is quickly replaced with anger. It's important to not live in denial of what happened, but more important to let go of the anger towards the sociopath. This means not seeking revenge in any form. Any revenge on the sociopath will probably blow up in your face. The sociopath is a skilled con artist and an excellent liar. They have been using and abusing people their whole life. Hurting others comes as natural as breathing to a sociopath. It's hard wired in their brains to manipulate, lie and cheat in order to get what they want. They do not have a functioning conscience, so any pain they inflict onto any living thing will not cause them to lose sleep at night 

I came across this website -sociopathicstyle.com 

They define the "traits of a victim" as

 

• A belief that if you love enough the person will change
• A belief that if you love enough the relationship will succeed
• Difficulty establishing and maintaining boundaries
• Not being able to say no
• Being easily influenced by others
• Wanting to be rescued from your life situation
• Wanting to rescue others from their distress
• Being over (sic) nurturing particularly when not asked
• Feelings of shame and self doubt
• Low self esteem
• A lack of memories about childhood or periods of adulthood
• Shyness
• Difficulty communicating
• A lack of self confidence
• Wanting to please
• A lack of motivation from within and being motivated by what others want

You can decide to be a Survivor. You do not have to be a victim forever. It's being able learn from your mistakes. And become the person you are destined to be. The sociopath always tries to steal what you have, the light in your eyes... They do not have a light in their eyes like you, that is why they have to take yours. 

You must get the sociopath out of your life, and any other toxic people that are draining your energy, time, finances, and life out of you. 

Do Not Help the Sociopath

If you have ever been in a relationship with a sociopath, had a family member who is a sociopath. Then you already know the pain they are capable of inflicting on you, and your family and even your children. People who have been fortunate enough never to have been a target for the sociopath, will never understand what you have gone through or what you are going through. Although they will be sympathetic to your situation, (if they are a supportive and caring friend) but they will never understand what the sociopath has done to your mental health, self esteem, and over all well being. They probably will not understand why you cannot pull yourself out of the depression you are in. 

A sociopath can cause psychological damage and mental trauma, and even physical harm.  Having to deal with a sociopath is not just hard, it can feel like a fight for your life.  Because the sociopath is trying to emotionally destroy you. Even the strongest of people become broken down and weak after having to repair the damage the sociopath has done to them. The reason it is so hard to heal from being attacked by a sociopath, is because they are still trying to destroy you, while you are trying to heal. They are still out launching more smear campaigns, spreading more lies, and ruin you socially. They want others to question your morals and agenda. 

Although most people cannot beat a sociopath, that does not mean that you should just lay down and  die. Because that is EXACTLY  what they want you to do.  You do not have to be a low life as the sociopath is, and stoop to there classless low level, by seeking revenge. 

THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH A SOCIOPATH, IS TO NOT DEAL WITH THEM AT ALL! 
This means having Absolutely no contact with the sociopath AT ALL!  It means lcutting them out of your life. Don't respond to any text they send. Don't answer their calls. If they show up to your home, call the police ASAP. Because you are not dealing with a normal person. You are dealing with a monster. With no remorse, conscience, morals, ethics, and regard for human life, the sociopath is capable of the unthinkable. They are able to commit horrific acts and feel no guilt about it whatsoever. 

IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF A SOCIOPATH YOU MUST GET HIM/HER COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD!  This seems radical, but it is the only option you have to keep yourself safe, and your family safe. You MUST Protect yourself from the drain that the sociopath has on your time, attention, money, and good attitude. 

Do Not Even Consider or Believe that you or anyone else can try to help and heal the sociopath. It is a pointless waste of your time and of your life. It’s not your responsibility. The sociopath can't be healed, and the sociopath doesn't want help. In fact if you try to help them, they despise you even more.  Because they hate all people but they loathe people who are good and compassionate. 

You have your own goals and your own life, and those are your responsibility. YOU OWE OTHING 
TO THE SOCIOPATH! The sociopath has a huge sense of entitlement. They believe that they should 
have whatever they want and desire, without having to work for it, like everyone else.. 

I recommend that you severely challenge your need to be polite in absolutely all situations. Sociopaths take huge advantage of this automatic courtesy in exploitive situations. Do not be afraid to be unsmiling and calmly to the point.