Serial Cheaters usually all have some sort of screwed up personality disorder, such as the psychopath, sociopath, and the narcissist. They are just NOT wired right..
Their empathy synapses just don’t fire. They’re wired wrong. These are the kind of people that sleep really well after they come home from spending all day (or night) from being at a hotel with a married man (that's NOT their husband or wife) They can look at your distress, and see that you are upset or worried - and they simply shrug and look at you like you are crazy for the way you feel.
These are people who have double lives. Multiple affairs, spanning years, decades even. Consequences don’t really register with these folks. When you try to divorce a serial cheater - they’ll just remarry and do the same thing to the next sucker (hopefully their affair partner). They only really want to divorce you on their terms. So getting divorced from these sexually aggressive and dangerous people is never easy. (And God help you if you are unlucky enough to share kids with someone like this)...
These are the people for whom deceit is a lifestyle. Deceit is part of the high. Getting one over on someone. Do these types of people consider their partners feelings? Hell no. They are incapable of actually feeling Love for another human being. They don't even love themselves. That is why they seek pleasure anywhere they can find it. It is physical pleasure only. They will never be able to establish a real emotional and deep connection with anyone - ever...
They are the type who also will never admit that they cheated no matter what. Even after they are divorced and are married to the person they were having an affair with. Some can convince themselves that their actions were justified, others know exactly the wrong they were doing – they just don't care at all.
I have actually heard a serial cheater say 'that they are now just married to their best friend' {Example — I just married my best friend of 10 years, after divorcing the man I was married to twice...}
WTF? Does that make any damn sense??
Of course it doesn't - but the psychopath really believes that all if they write about it on social network, twitter and Facebook, and enough people see it — then people will believe it! That is so far from the TRUTH. Most people know who is the liar and who is the victim. As much as the sociopath tries to vilify a person - karma has the last word or the sociopath hangs themself with their own rope....
They are unable to see how crazy they sound. In their warped and twisted mind, they believe they have everyone fooled. Everyone is so stupid compared to them. But NO ONE is fooled..
Serial cheaters are deeply and profoundly screwed up. You would be an idiot to try and reconcile with one...
People (if you really want to call them that) with Personality Disorders do NOT get better. EVER.. These people lack the ability to connect intimately with anyone. Every word they say to you is fake. They may look human, but they are really just a monster in humans clothing. They Are Predators.
If they tell you they love you – believe me, it is not a love that is good for you. It means you are of USE to them.
Get the hell away from this distorted, hateful and soulless individual. The sooner you break away from them, the better your life will be.
The truth is EVERYONE knows the truth about these people, but no one wants to call them out. This is because everyone knows that if they were to question the distorted persons story — they either know what a waste of time it would be to call out someone with NO conscience and NO remorse. Or they just don't want to deal with the drama that would follow by pointing out the truth to a ruthless, cold and vengeful asshole.
Amen!
ReplyDeleteRight on the Mark !! I'm still crawling out the bowels of hell ! Been about 6 months and not have I been doing my homework. I want nothing to do with that nasty pond scum.Thank God for sights like this !
ReplyDeleteRight on the Mark !! I'm still crawling out the bowels of hell ! Been about 6 months and not have I been doing my homework. I want nothing to do with that nasty pond scum.Thank God for sights like this !
ReplyDeleteSo so true. To be the stupid wife who wanted to live happily ever after is a f'n joke. Then to be constantly accused of stuff I didn't do and being told what a liar I am and how he hates liars. HYPOCRITE.
ReplyDeleteBingo... Still trying to break away
ReplyDeleteI'm working real hard to escape from my boyfriend of 5 years I can't believe I was in it that long and I can't believe that someone could do this to another human being I loved learning about my Psychopath narcissist serial dater I'm in a lot of pain right soon I'm going to get my life back
ReplyDelete28 years and I'm in the same place as you right now, it will get better for us and we will move on and find happiness x
DeleteAlmost 2 years it has taken me to break free from 28 years of abuse and infidelity. Two years of educating myself about the life I was living and I still sit in absolute disbelief that my whole life with him was a lie. The pain has been completely unbearable. But I'm breaking free now and eternally grateful for all these blogs etc online. In the face of it all, he watched me almost die, aware that I knew what he was doing and didn't show one crumb of empathy, in fact he would watch me and my children suffer with complete contempt for us. He would have stepped over my limp body to make himself a drink. Evil to the core!!
ReplyDeleteTwo weeks out from finally getting concrete evidence of his affairs after seven years. Only admitted to " taking other women out, spending money on friends, and doing things that were wrong". We are finished, lied for seven years straight. He's used up all the love I had for him.
ReplyDeletei need help. i have been in this very sick relationship for almost 40 years. i discovered the first affair 17 years ago. Since then, there have been countless others. I found the emails, text messages, restaurant and hotel receipts,even voicemails. When confronted, he eventually acknowledges, but makes a million excuses and mostly says it's my fault. I finally got the pattern. He would want to go after another woman (predator is the right word). then he would create a huge fight over something totally minor. That always gave him the excuse that we got into an argument, so it is ok to cheat. I just found a receipt for drinks in MY HOUSE, of the first woman he had an affair with. When i confronted him, he finally admitted that he had invited her to our home after they had drinks.He claims that after 17 years, they just happened to run into each other 150 miles from where they had previously been living. i thinks its a crock of crap. i cant continue to live like this. I want to leave him. He is cruel, sadistic, and selfish to the core. HE has used me. I realize he also uses them. But i have had enough. It would be so helpful to hear other people encouraging me to stick to my plan, and never speak to him again. i know it is the right thing to do. I have to stick up for myself this time. he certainly is NOT going to protect me.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you are living thru this Hell on Earth. But if you continue to dance with the Devil - that is where you will stay. I was with my narc ll yrs - yes, they cheat the whole time. Just recently I had concrete proof of what a lying, sneaky, cheat he'd been while looking me straight in the face telling me he loved me. ALL BS. I filed for divorce ( married the last 5 yrs) and realized he'd conducted a horrific smear campaign over the years while turning his entire family into flying monkeys - thinking I was a horrid person. They refused to speak to me for the entire marriage - not even saying a word at our wedding. THEY DO NOT CARE. You can not win this battle. 40 yrs is LONG enough. Have the courage to break away. It is a process - but when you can wrap your head around the fact his actions never backed up his words - you became the enemy and that he will never change - only then can you make that final break. Karma will get them all. They cannot go through an entire lifetime screwing people over and not paying for it in the end. I told my narc stbx that he would die alone - even his family is starting to turn on him. Nobody is exempt from his abuse. NOBODY. Please get out. Stay strong - KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!Never let a narc beat you. And be prepared that he will NOT care when you leave. You were only somebody to use. HUGZ.
DeleteI am so sorry you are living thru this. Please get strong and get out. He is using you and laughing at you for being the fool - like we all were. I met mine 11 yrs ago - married him 5 yrs ago and discovered he'd been cheating on me all along while swearing he loved me and nobody else. GREAT academy award actors!!.. He turned his entire family against me ( flying monkeys) by telling vicious lies - and even they are beginning to turn on him. They didn't speak to me the entire time we were married and live around the block!! NOTHING bothers these people. NOTHING. They targeted us - like predatory rattlesnakes. You cannot fix them - they don't think there is anything wrong with them. Save what sanity you have left - get out and be free. HE WILL NOT MISS YOU. They just find another victim who is loving, kind, and forgiving. They use them up - and go on to the next one. FInd your power and NEVER let a narc beat you. Know your worth!!! I divorced mine. He tried to lure me back - but I discovered his latest conquest. It made me sick. Upward and onward. ( It may take time to wrap your head around the fact you were used - his actions never backed up his words.. NEVER.) I am 68 yrs old and know how scary things can be. But staying with him is even MORE scary. He will destroy you. HUGZ to you. PLEASE GET OUT!
DeleteIt hurts so much when you face cheating from your partner's side.
ReplyDeleteI would recommend to leave ASAP if you find out about the betrayal.
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