The sociopaths intentions

Psychopathic individuals do not appear to care whom or what they use or ultimately destroy.

In the beginning of a relationship with a sociopath, psychopath or a narcissist, an person who is being targeted is usually unaware of the sociopaths true intentions.  Also to any possible vulnerabilities potential victims may have that can  make them more receptive to their advances, psychopaths also look for those who will “invest” in relationships with them.  Often things may feel wrong.  However, in the absence of any solid reasons or evidence as to why things do not feel right, the relationships, whether romantic, business, or otherwise, often continue.  The simple passage of time can further deepen the connections and perceived obligations to the psychopath.  It may seem that victims are weak, but this is not the case.  Normal human vulnerability should not be confused with weakness.  Anyone has the potential to be targeted.  

Although interactions with individuals with psychopathic traits can often be conflictual, even when things are considered “good,” most psychopaths are easily bored, like excitement, and steadily move through victims.  It is common for them to leave trails of destruction as they go.  Often, psychopathic individuals simply decide to leave a situation, partnership, or relationship unexpectedly.  

At any point, they tend to have disdain for anyone they see as threatening to their position and will very likely attempt to disarm those individuals who they consider to be threatening.  This stage may present further challenges for the victim.    Many with psychopathic traits do not like to be questioned.  Often, at this point, the victim searches for answers.  It is not uncommon for people to seek answers from those with whom they are involved.  In these cases, doing so can often lead to conflict and meet with further retaliation and  victimization.  Unfortunately, even though they are ready to move on to another situation or relationship, they may enjoy watching a victim’s distress.  Sometimes, they even enjoy the challenge of a fight.

Evil evil evil

The sociopath only wants to WIN

If you are a woman and are dealing with a sociopath ex. If you are lucky, your ex will find a new lover and become uninterested in seeing his children. Sociopath/narcissistic men usually are selfish and children are more of an inconvenience to them.
When a sociopathic male tries to seek custody of children , they do so because they want to either
1. Hurt the other parent.
2. If they make good money and are going to have to pay a large amount of child support.
If the sociopathic male is wealthy and has plenty of money to take you to court and fight for custody of the children - HE WILL DO SO. And of course if he is able to discredit the mother with lies and slander, and gets somewhat custody of the children, you can bet that he will not be the one who is taking care of the kids. He will have a relative take care of them or find a women who will take care of them.
He only wanted to take the children from the mother in order TO WIN.

That is what it is all about. WINNING. Male or Female. The sociopath wants to win. They want to turn you into dust. They will usually boast about how they have custody or how they are the "domiciliary" parent. They portray themselves as Mom or Dad of the year. Always talking about how they do this and that for their kids, and letting everyone know what a piece of shit the other parent is.

When dealing with a sociopath, in my experience NO CONTACT is the only option. Of course if you share children with the sociopath this becomes a bit more complicated. 

If you are a man, and you ex is a sociopath, this situation is difficult and frustrating. 
When children are younger, in order to see the children, communication will have to be made. Every interaction with the sociopath is going to be chaotic, frustrating, and stressful. 
But I can tell you that it does not have to last like this forever. 
There  is a light at the end of what seems like a very long, hopeless tunnel. 
Your children will get older. And soon you will be able to communicate directly with them. The sociopath will not like this at all. They will tell  you that you are an irresponsible parent for "using" the children to communicate with. They will give you lectures on how you should coparent with them. They will make desperate attempts to speak with you. They will use the kids to try to talk with you. They will make up lies about the children.  
Example: they will tell you that a child is having problems in school due to your lack of co-parenting, or that the child is going thru hormonal changes and they want you to talk with them about boys/girls, birds and bees, etc... Blah blah blah blah....

A close friend of mine dealt with a sociopathic ex for years, but started communicating with kids by cell phone he purchased for kids. The ex was losing control, but couldn't take kids phone because all other kids that age had phones, and she didn't want to look like the bad guy by taking it. But she was angry that she was unable to speak to him and manipulate and waste his time by using the kids. He was able to make plans to get the kids on his weekends, without having to go through the crap that came with dealing with the ex. She loved to waste his time by taking the children else where when he was suppose to pick up. 
 But if your child is able to communicate with you via cell phone/text, you will be able to confirm with them if what the other parent is telling you is true or false . 
Remember they only want direct communication with you, because without it they cannot manipulate you and use the children to waste your time and drain your energy and wallet. 

Marrying a psychopath, and how they portray you as the unstable perpetrator.

Sociopath, narcissist, psychopath... Whatever you want to call one. They have one similar quality..

They have NO remorse. 

They are capable of causing horrific pain and suffering. (mentally and physically)  They simply could care less about the damage they cause. When normal people cause pain others pain, it is usually under the circumstance of being hurt, afraid or simply not having the tools to handle confrontation and pain appropriately. The difference in normal and psychopathic is; Normal individuals feel remorse for what they have done to hurt a person. The guilt will affect them so much, they have a hard time living a happy life. Psychopaths are able to keep thriving, the pain they know they have caused someone, doesn't bother them. They probably won't ever think about it again, unless the person they caused the pain to, expresses that they are hurt. This doesn't evoke guilt in the psychopath. Instead it evokes ANGER, irritation, and then the psychopath continues to cause more hurt, and damage.

Psychopaths intentionally hurt others, without ever feeling any guilt. 

In fact, “guilt” is a foreign emotion to the psychopath. They do not know what guilt feels like because they have never felt it. Yet ‘guilt’ is used often by the psychopath to manipulate others. 

They are often able to get people to do what they want, by making the person feel guilty. 

From my own observations, guilt is one of the psychopaths favorite tools to use against an empathic, caring person. Especially when it comes to children. Having children with a person with psychopathic tendencies is a living hell. It is almost impossible to ever live a happy life when you share children with a psychopath. They will never leave you alone, they will use the children to manipulate and use you.  The psychopath pretends to be a caring parent who Loves their children, but the truth is, the psychopath is not capable of Love. They are only capable of Hate. And unfortunately the psychopath HATES their EX more than they LOVE their children. 
Even when the children are of adult age, the psychopath will still find a reason to torment you. 

People who marry psychopaths, do not marry them knowing they are psychopathic. They were lied to and manipulated to believe the person was genuine and caring. But the person soon learns that person they married is not a good person. Some people will live in deniall, because accepting that you have married a monster is a hard pill to swallow. The marriage never last, but the abuse and trauma from the marriage does.. 
The psychopath becomes bored with their spouse/victim, because they have nothing more to offer the psychopath. So the psychopath simply moves on to their next victim, of course not before slandering, spreading lies, and accusing the victim of horrific acts against them. They do this to protect themselves against what the victim may say about the relationship. By bashing the victim first (before the relationship is even over) the psychopath is making sure their 'story' is heard before the victims. 
This makes the victims story look false. 

After all the psychopath has already warned others that their soon to be ex, would probably try to accuse them of abuse or cheating, to simply get revenge because they didn't want to be in a relationship with such a unstable person who has deep mental problems. 

The Ruthless Blamer - sociopaths

They may realize that blaming is how they control others to harm the targets they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests."

Sociopaths may be especially aware of the risk that people who they have used in order to abuse others might even turn against them, especially those who might be greatly angered by how they were manipulated into participating in such vindictive, malicious  and harmful activities against others. People like to blame others. Sociopaths have mastered it. They are the truly evil that lives amongst us, and drains our energy. Sociopaths are much like leeches and ticks. They will attach themselves to you and feed off you until you are sucked dry of everything. 

Sociopathic abusers often engage in distortion campaigns to control and manipulate others to believe lies about their target, so they will have false beliefs about the victim. It's called vilifying the victim. By the time the victim is aware of it, he or she may have been routinely trashed and lied about for several years to the point that anything he or she says or does will somehow be interpreted as evidence of them being the problem.

Many of the sociopaths recruit others to help them, typically using lies, exploitations,  and other people’s own experiences to convince them that they should help ruin another person’s life.  They are often called them the “minions” of the sociopath. Some of these minions later realize that they were used to harm innocent people and end up feeling very bad about their own actions. But they remain afraid of sociopath and what the sociopath may do to them if they confront the sociopath. So these people rarely will admit to what the sociopath did. In fear that they will be the next "victim" of the evil malicious sociopath 

My Ex Wife - Satan's Best Creation Yet...

Being the victim of a vindictive, evil and malicious female sociopath, I am aware of exactly how they operate. Considering I married this evil whore twice, and had a child with her. It wasn't until she was having an affair with a man 30 years older than her for 5 years, when I realized how evil this blonde bitch was. She would project and blame me for what she, herself would do; i.e., accuse me of being negative. When she is the most negative person I have ever met in all my 47 years of living on this
earth.  She would gaslight me into believing that when i had a normal reaction to something she 
would do, like being angry and hurt because of her lying and stealing from me, breaking promises to our child to be with her lover, or cheating, she would act as if my reaction was the problem and there 
Was something wrong with me. Thats when I would call her out on her inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. By confronting this soulless monster, I was accused by her of being the 
abnormal. I was the one who is too sensitive, and not acting like a man for being hurt. I was one with the problem. I was the bad guy, I was critical, or always focusing on the negative. 

This is part of the head-fuckery that she put me through. Acting inappropriately, unacceptable, and 
downright abusive, and then trying to turn it around to make it my fault. It's adding insult to injury at that point. Not only did my ex wife intentionally cause pain that I never deserved, all while denying 
that she ever did anything at all. She would try to make it my fault,  she wanted me to blame myself for something that supposedly didn't happen. Yes, re-read that. That is how illogical it is. She wanted to make sure that people thought I was the reason that the relationship failed. When the truth is the there never was a relationship. I wasn't in a relationship with a loving caring human being. I had been manipulated and led to believe I was in a relationship. But now I realize everything about her was fake, unauthentic and a lies. I was conned like many others before me. I can't really say I ever had a relationship with  my monster of an ex wife. There was never a relationship to begin with. I never had a chance. I never saw what happened until it was too late. And now an innocent child was involved.  

I knew it would only get worse from there. And I was right. It's been 8 years since separation and 5 since we were divorced and I still am harassed by her everyday. She uses our child to get things. It worked for a little while but I stopped feeling guilty. I knew what kind of man I was. I loved my daughter and would do anything for her. So I stopped listening to my whorish ex wife's bullshit, calling me a dead beat because I wouldn't give her $250 for gift card she supposedly bought my child's school teacher for Christmas gift.  I am a dead beat for her crap decisions. Knowing she didn't give any gift card. Just another scheme to get more money from me. As of the $3500 monthly in
support is not enough..

I was trapped by this evil monster of a female for so long. I didn't know how to stand up for myself. I didn't know how to get her to leave me alone.  I use to just give her the money. So she would leave me alone.  That was until I met my amazing wife now. We have been together for 5 years. She has stayed with me, even tho my ex wife has targeted her, ruined her reputation. She has stuck it out with me.. She taught me to stand up for myself. My ex wife is unemployed and a loser, and my new wife is the woman who made me see that I was not a piece of shit, my ex claimed I was. That I had more power than I knew. I had just been so broken down my evil bitch ex wife that I lost all confidence. I had been so attacked by her, that I was afraid.
I was afraid of what she may do to my child. Or what she would tell my child lies to make her hate her dad.
But now I am finally free of this psychopath. I give all the credit to my wife now. She stood up to the monster, and that is something no one would do.  It takes a strong person to stand up to any sociopath. But if the person has a healthy mind, and is strong and confident, the sociopath may destroy their reputation but never can hurt their self worth. My exwife would like to believe she is in control. She knows she has lost all control of me. I dont respond to her text.  I ignore her.  My new wife tries to keep peace for my daughters sake, but the ex is so evil there will never be peace.  I had so many years taken away from my life because of my ex wife,

So now I live everyday to the fullest. I know my ex is miserable and she makes her family miserable. And she wants me to be miserable. And wants my wife out of the picture. But that's never going to happen. I feel we beat the sociopath. We did the impossible. By working together, and being a team, and backing each other up. My wife now and me couldn't be happier - well we might be happier if my ex vanished ....

The Monsters Among Us

When most people hear the word psychopath or sociopath they most think of famous serial killers locked away in prison. However, most do not end up in prison or mental hospitals. Most sociopaths have the ability to blend in with everyone else.  They don't look like monsters. But "MONSTER" is exactly what they are... They are the worst kind of monster there is. Because they look as normal as you and I. But they are far from being like the rest of us. 
The worst is the female sociopath. She will reproduce a few offspring, act like a soccer mom, and portray to others this amazing mother, who is hard working and "doing it all" but behind the scenes she terrorizes her close family. And if she is divorced - she will never leave her ex alone as long as their are children in the picture to use against him. She is one of the most dangerous, vindictive, evil, malicious, heartless, and morally corrupted monster among us. She flys under the radar, committing petty crimes of theft and is clever and slick. She has probably been doing these things since she was a teenager. 

If you think the female sociopath is harmless -  THINK AGAIN! They do not pose a serious threat if you have no connection with her what so ever.  But if your child and her child are friends, that puts you at risk for becoming her target. Or she will view you as someone she can pawn off her child to. Because in reality, she loves to play "MOM OF THE YEAR" Role. But she is far from being a good or even decent mother.You would never even suspect she is the hideous monster that she is.

The female sociopath has a certain charisma and charm about her. Once you get to know her on a deeper level and you will start to see the "mask" slip. You will begin to notice that your friendship or 
relationship is not a give take relationship. You will find that you do a lot of giving and she does all the taking. There are inconsistencies in her stories. You feel something just "isn't right" but you can't figure out what it is..  Sociopaths are natural liars.. Lying comes as easy as breathing to them. But the lies start becoming more apparent to you, you notice the more in depth she tells you about something - the more likely it is a lie.  She is unreliable. She breaks promises, she disappears for long periods of time, no one really knows where goes. The closer you become to her is when you really start to see that things are not normal. She has a lack of empathy for others and you will start to notice that she lacks remorse - even for her children, parents and siblings. She has no life long friends. Her past is skeptical. She tells you what she wants you to think about her life. She will say what she a straight "A" student, popular, and homecoming queen and voted "most likely to succeed".  And it is far from the truth. She more than likely was in trouble majority of time she was in high school. If she had wealthy 
parents, they more than likely sent her away to military/boarding 
school. Because of her defiance at home. Her parents were unable to 
deal with her.  You will notice how everything is always someone else's fault, and that she is the victim of someone.. She blames her mother, and absent father, and her ex husbands (who she cheated on and tried to destroyed). 

Unfortunately by the time to you realize you may be dealing with this evil  monster, dressed In women's clothing.  ITS TOO LATE. And you never saw it coming. You don't know exactly what happened but your life is turned upside down.  And the sociopath has to silence you somehow, so that you do not tell others about the true monstrosity that she really is. 
So she goes on a smear campaign. She has to silence you and kill you. She won't kill you physically. She kills you emotionally and mentally.  She will torment you in covert, evil, ways. She will even make you question yourself, thinking "maybe this is my fault" she will make you question your own sanity. ITS SO IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT CRAZY, SHE IS INSANE, SHE IS THE DEVIL INCARNATE.  She wants you to feel like you are the crazy one. She will have no remorse about ruining your life. No matter how much you have done for her. No matter
 how kind you have been to her.  She doesn't give a shit about the pain she causes, in fact your 
suffering is what fuels her energy. She loves to watch you squirm. She enjoys watching you fall apart. 

She starts off by destroying you socially and tarnishing your reputation. She will make up any lie she can, no matter how disgusting the lies may be, she doesn't care. As long as you are silenced. She wants to discredit you to everyone so that no one will listen to you. She will get to all your friends before you can. She will call your work. She will claim you are stalking, harassing have been abusing her. When in fact the very things she is accusing you of doing to her - she is doing to you.

Recovering from being a victim of a sociopath takes time. You need supportive people around you. And to cut off all contact from the sociopath. When you try to have no contact with her, she will try even harder to get any response from you. Be strong though. Don't be a victim.
BE A SURVIVOR