The sociopath only wants to WIN

If you are a woman and are dealing with a sociopath ex. If you are lucky, your ex will find a new lover and become uninterested in seeing his children. Sociopath/narcissistic men usually are selfish and children are more of an inconvenience to them.
When a sociopathic male tries to seek custody of children , they do so because they want to either
1. Hurt the other parent.
2. If they make good money and are going to have to pay a large amount of child support.
If the sociopathic male is wealthy and has plenty of money to take you to court and fight for custody of the children - HE WILL DO SO. And of course if he is able to discredit the mother with lies and slander, and gets somewhat custody of the children, you can bet that he will not be the one who is taking care of the kids. He will have a relative take care of them or find a women who will take care of them.
He only wanted to take the children from the mother in order TO WIN.

That is what it is all about. WINNING. Male or Female. The sociopath wants to win. They want to turn you into dust. They will usually boast about how they have custody or how they are the "domiciliary" parent. They portray themselves as Mom or Dad of the year. Always talking about how they do this and that for their kids, and letting everyone know what a piece of shit the other parent is.

When dealing with a sociopath, in my experience NO CONTACT is the only option. Of course if you share children with the sociopath this becomes a bit more complicated. 

If you are a man, and you ex is a sociopath, this situation is difficult and frustrating. 
When children are younger, in order to see the children, communication will have to be made. Every interaction with the sociopath is going to be chaotic, frustrating, and stressful. 
But I can tell you that it does not have to last like this forever. 
There  is a light at the end of what seems like a very long, hopeless tunnel. 
Your children will get older. And soon you will be able to communicate directly with them. The sociopath will not like this at all. They will tell  you that you are an irresponsible parent for "using" the children to communicate with. They will give you lectures on how you should coparent with them. They will make desperate attempts to speak with you. They will use the kids to try to talk with you. They will make up lies about the children.  
Example: they will tell you that a child is having problems in school due to your lack of co-parenting, or that the child is going thru hormonal changes and they want you to talk with them about boys/girls, birds and bees, etc... Blah blah blah blah....

A close friend of mine dealt with a sociopathic ex for years, but started communicating with kids by cell phone he purchased for kids. The ex was losing control, but couldn't take kids phone because all other kids that age had phones, and she didn't want to look like the bad guy by taking it. But she was angry that she was unable to speak to him and manipulate and waste his time by using the kids. He was able to make plans to get the kids on his weekends, without having to go through the crap that came with dealing with the ex. She loved to waste his time by taking the children else where when he was suppose to pick up. 
 But if your child is able to communicate with you via cell phone/text, you will be able to confirm with them if what the other parent is telling you is true or false . 
Remember they only want direct communication with you, because without it they cannot manipulate you and use the children to waste your time and drain your energy and wallet. 

The Dysfunctional Brain of the Sociopath

The sociopaths brain does not function “normally”. Somewhere  along the path of development, a sociopath's brain ceases to grow. Instead of the circuitry inside her/his brain getting excited about learning something new. Basically the circuitry opts out.

A lot of people believe sociopaths are very intelligent. WRONG. Sociopaths are not any smarter than anyone else.  In fact their brains are defective and do not develop normally, they lack intuition, compassion, and the ability to rationally think. At about the age of 15 it is apparent that the sociopath is different from the rest of us. 

The reason a sociopath excels in certain areas is because of their lack of a conscience, lack of remorse and they have no moral or ethical values. So when they have to study (say for the bar exam) that's all they are thinking about. They are not worrying about their relationships, their family or friends. Because they do not have the ability to love or care about anyone's well being. So they can become super focused. 

So later on in a sociopaths life when they decide to target someone who doesn't kiss their ass, thats all that they do. 

They solely focus on destroying their victim. They are not focusing on their children or family or bills (stuff normal people worry with daily)

Sociopaths aren't concerned at all with these things. 

Have you ever heard "no one can destruct the will of a sociopath" or "you can't beat a sociopath". That maybe true, if you are a victim of a sociopath. Because the sociopath is thinking of ways to destroy you 24/7. 

While you are busy working, being a mother or father to your children, taking care of household things, paying bills, living life. 

THE SOCIOPATH IS NOT DOING ANY OF THAT. 

The sociopath doesn't care about paying bills, or caring for their children or checking in with loved ones. The sociopath ONLY cares about revenge and creating chaos and drama.

The sociopath will attempt to convince others they are mommy/daddy of the year, they will pretend to try to be a busy busy busy little bee - doing so much for everyone! They are telling others how they are working hard, and paying bills, they are the PTA mom, the volunteer, the caretake of everyone. And they are pretty damn convincing. 

But it IS ALL LIES, yep LIES... THEY ARE NOT BUSY DOING ANYTHING FOR ANYONE. ITS ALL A FACADE.  They put on this fake persona in order to look like the Successful Business woman, Suzie Homemaker, and A loving Daughter/son to their parents. That way other people will not see the evil, back stabbing person, ruthless person they really are. 

The only people who really know how heartless and evil the sociopath — are people who are unfortunate enough to have to know the sociopath. Like the sociopaths parents, siblings, spouses, and children.  

The sociopath’s brain is not advanced in anyway. In fact scientific studies show that the sociopath/psychopaths brain did not develop as a normal brain should. 

As a result, the sociopath almost never grows up. They never emotionally grow. Their whole life is basically a lie. They always will blame others for problems they created. They will never see how their actions and behaviors is why they are dysfunctional. In some regards they are a Large Evil Child. 

Sociopaths are cowards. They run away - regardless of age. This childish and deceptive behavior is one of the reasons why so many victims of the sociopath, will initially think that the sociopath may have an inability to communicate effectively & assume that the sociopath’s behavior comes from a lack of life experiences.  

Before a victim of a sociopath discovers that the person they are dealing with is actually a sociopath. The victim assumes the sociopath is very rigid in her/his thinking because she/he has never been in a situation where she/he has had to consider another persons feelings or a group of people. 

Being empathetic human beings (unlike the sociopath), we set aside our frustrations, and instead, we feel pity for this person who seems to have been living in a protective bubble their entire lives. We have a hard time believing that some people are just plain evil, hateful, and cold. The sociopath is just that...

People with fully functioning brains, who feel empathy and compassion for all forms of life — THEY WANT TO BELEIVE THAT OTHERS ARE AS GOOD and COMPASSIONATE as they are. It is hard for “good” people to accept that a person we know and that we have allowed in our life is definitively just a “Bad Person” 

But unfortunately their are people out there (more than you think) that are mentally defective and are unable to feel compassion, love, and concern for humans and any other forms of life. 

Sociopaths will always make life as difficult and as miserable as possible. They will NEVER change. They will always create chaos. They are Pathological Liars, Cheaters, and Con's..

Once they decide to target you and you become their victim. They will spend hours on the phone spreading lies and false gossip about you - in order to destroy you and ruin your reputation. THEY ACTUALLY BECOME OBSESSED WITH YOU. THEY ARE OBSESSED WITH EVERYTHING YOU DO. They will stalk you, PRANK CALL YOU, make up lies about you. THEN THEY WILL TURN AROUND AND ACCUSE YOU OF DOING ALL OF THAT TO THEM. 

So how do you cope with an obsessive stalking sociopath. YOU TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY. Let them know what is going on. Tell them everything, detail for detail. That is how I personally got through being stalked and harassed 24/7 by a sociopath. And the craziest thing is that my sociopath is still trying to harass me just on a covert level. Ex - has made up a Facebook page in a family members name and requested all the people I am friends with. The funny thing is, a few of my good friends went ahead and excepted the friend request, just to see what she has up her sleeve next. EVERYONE IS AWARE OF THE "fake" FACEBOOK PAGE. And it has just confirmed to us that this person is even more unstable than we had thought. 

The sociopath does not attain a rite of passage like the rest of us. She cheats her way into adulthood, because the sociopath spends her teenage years regressing mentally and emotionally....

The Sociopath has the Most Dysfunctional Family

Abusive people love to blame and frame. They never admit or take responsibility. They would actually mean that they would have to have a conscience.. And that is one of the many things that they lack. 

People usually confess or accept responsibility because they feel remorse and guilt. A sociopath never feels remorse or guilt. They do not even know what remorse and guilt feels like. They are so disconnected emotionally from others and from having emotional connections with other people. They view others as objects to be used. If you don't have anything that the sociopath wants - you are no use to them. They will probably leave you alone. Unless you do something to piss them off - then you are their target and they will attempt to destroy your existence..

But the question I have always wondered then is; Why do sociopaths get into relationships? 

My guess would be for "status". They want to appear as the perfect mommy or amazing father and husband. It's all about making others think they are perfect and better than anyone else. They will paint a picture of success and having the perfect family. But only the people who live under the same roof as them - know all to well that everything is far from perfect... Behind the fake toothy smile is the most dysfunctional family dynamic. Which usually include emotional abuse, physical abuse, lying, cheating, neglect and misery...