The lies, rumors and pain that come with a sociopath

 When we have been abused, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, had rumors spread about us, lost friends, felt isolated, been afraid, lost everything, doubted ourselves, felt guilty, believed it was our fault - more than likely we were in a relationship with a sociopath. Or we were friends, or have a sociopathic family member.  

Once we discovered the truth, and realized we are not the only victim of this person, who had some how destroyed our life, our soul, and left us with little to no trust in the world. We are able to begin healing from the traumatic experience. Healing takes time. We are weak, alone, afraid, and don't know who we can trust.

The hardest part of healing is feeling safe and facing the world. 

We want to withdraw, because the sociopath has said so many horrible things about us, we feel shame. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE SOCIOPATH WANTS US TO FEEL. 

When my sociopath spread rumors about me all over town — to my child's  school, to my neighbors, to people who i respected in the community. I was afraid to leave the house. I was afraid of what others were thinking about me. What lies had my sociopath told everyone? And did anyone believe those lies. My sociopath alread had a reputation in town for stealing, and abusing drugs and sleeping around, so why would people believe the lies that were being  spread?

I felt that people would rather believe the bad they have heard about you - rather than the good. It seems people don't go around talking about the good about you. But they will go around talking about anything bad about you - even if it's not true.

For a while I felt isolated from the world. I did not want to leave my home. 

Even though the people who knew me, knew the hardships I had been through with this sociopath. They new that this person was very dangerous and hated me for moving on with my life. The sociopath wanted and still wants to hurt me, and make my life unbearable. I'm not sure why.. Boredom, or because I moved on and found someone who loves me for me and we were happy. 

What I have noticed is that all Sociopaths are jealous of everyone. 

Since there is nothing real authentic and genuine about the sociopath, and they don't understand or care to understand emotions. They just see everyone as a conquest, or threat. Not as humans, who feel pain. There is not much "humanness" in a sociopath.. And when they get done with you, you may feel they stole some part of your humanness.

A close friend of mine has been dealing with a vindictive female sociopath.  It is his ex wife. He has been divorced from the sociopath for over 9 years and separated for over 14. She had numerous affairs after they adopted their 2nd child. Finally after one of the affairs became very public due to the fact the man she was cheating with was married, and they both held prominant careers in the community, he filed for divorce. He has been through hell and back. This is his story, in his words...

  

When I went no contact and chose to ignore my sociopath, that's when things got very ugly. I refused 

to communicate with the ex. So my ex decided to tell everyone, and put it on social media that i was a "cyber stalking troll". Even using my first and last name to slander me. My ex made up a fake domain site in my name. Pretending to be me, and impersonating me in an unfavorable manner.  Basically painting a picture of a very unstable person, that was trying to get help for my mental problems. The worst part was if you googled my name, the website that my ex started about me was the first thing that came up. That is  when I said “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.”

I contacted a friend of mine who is a police officer. And I ask what could be done about this website that my ex started about and was impersonating me in such a way. It was slander and defamation.

My friend informed me that it was cyber stalking, and I should file a police report. — so I did 

that. 

Which only made my ex crazier. Although the website was taken down, I was now being

accused of more horrific things. Now my sociopath ex wife was going to social media, claiming how she felt afraid for her children, because I was unstable, she believed I would kidnap them at a soccer game or from school. This was horrible because I felt afraid to go to my sons soccer game, because I didn't know what she would do or say, she had went to Facebook, and Twitter pretending to be living a life of fear because of me. 

What I began to notice was a pattern. She may have went to social media bashing me, but she expected me to pick up kids on my weekend. This is when I realized how unstable and deranged she was. She was only looking to ruin my reputation in the community, she still expected me to get the kids (even though she claimed she was in fear for their safety) 

I felt confused. I wanted to get my children. But with the unpredictable ex, I didn't know if I was being set up. Was I going to show up at the school to get my children, and the cops would be waiting to arrest me? Would my kids even be there, considering she loved leading me on wild gooses chases just to waste my time and make things difficult on me? 

I decided my children were worth whatever risk. And after all I had filed a complaint against her for impersonation and cyber stalking (which set her off to go on a rampant on social media) Bit it was still documentation, if my ex had something sinister planned. I remember so many times going to pick them up, feeling so much anxiety. Anxiety and fear consumed me. This woman had no limits and would not hesitate to destroy me, my new wife, and even my step daughter, who was at the time very little (5 years old). Sociopaths are so low, they will destroy children (even their own) just to hurt another person. 

I wondered if this crap would ever stop. I felt hopeless... I began to stop looking online, and begin to focus only on myself my children and healing. It was very tempting to want to get online and see what my ex was saying now.but I never did. I gave it a good eight months before I looked at anything my ex was doing online. I still do not look up my ex'a online activity. 

Sociopath's refuse to EVER leave their Victims Alone

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are dangerous  parasites. If you ever want to be rid of these parasites – you must understand how they function. It is important that you see them for the evil they  are. Understand that they are soulless and heartless beings who has no conscience, no empathy, and they are capable of destroying you and your children. Most importantly KNOW THAT THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE. YOU CANNOT HELP THEM, they DO NOT WANT HELP, THEY DO NOT THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THEM. They see anyone who cares for them as a weak idiot who they can manipulate and take advantage of. They are ruthless and will destroy anyone they can to get their way or sometimes just for their own enjoyment.

The sociopath will intentionally cause you problem after problem. They want you to feel mental confusion, question your self, and in general destroy your confidence and self worth. 

They refuse to leave you alone so you can move forward and live what's left of your life, that they sociopath hasn't stolen. 

You have to be able to put your emotions aside, and “stop trying” to understand them. You will never understand them, as long as you have a conscience and you care for others. For an empath it's impossible to assimilate and comprehend how another human being can be so evil and cruel to a fellow human. 

You must Always remember you are not dealing with a normal healthy human being. You are dealing with someone who has a defective soul. These people are spectacular actors, they put on an a show to others and pretend as if they are capable of empathy, love and concern. They are liars, cheaters, and cons. They do not know how to be honest and even make an honest living. They will always be involved in something that is scamming another person, causing harm (emotional or physical) to someone. 

Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist lack EMPATHY. 

They have No empathy for any kind of life. They are empty inside, and they will never experience life on a deeper level. The sociopath is so shallow and superficial, they really believe that their materials define them. They want to dress with name brand clothing, because that is the only way they can feel good about themselves. 

Normal people feel fulfilled by their children, their family, and their interaction with other people. Not the sociopath. The sociopath must knock others down to feel successful. Destroying someone else makes them feel “on top”. Especially if they feel threatened by someone. They seek to destroy the person, and usually the person has no idea what the sociopath is doing until the damage has been done. 

The best option when dealing with a sociopathic, narcissistic ex is to BLOCK THEM FROM YOUR LIFE! Never respond to them or give them a reason to talk to you. They will bait you and they are relentless predators. 

STAY STRONG

My Ex Wife - Satan's Best Creation Yet...

Being the victim of a vindictive, evil and malicious female sociopath, I am aware of exactly how they operate. Considering I married this evil whore twice, and had a child with her. It wasn't until she was having an affair with a man 30 years older than her for 5 years, when I realized how evil this blonde bitch was. She would project and blame me for what she, herself would do; i.e., accuse me of being negative. When she is the most negative person I have ever met in all my 47 years of living on this
earth.  She would gaslight me into believing that when i had a normal reaction to something she 
would do, like being angry and hurt because of her lying and stealing from me, breaking promises to our child to be with her lover, or cheating, she would act as if my reaction was the problem and there 
Was something wrong with me. Thats when I would call her out on her inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. By confronting this soulless monster, I was accused by her of being the 
abnormal. I was the one who is too sensitive, and not acting like a man for being hurt. I was one with the problem. I was the bad guy, I was critical, or always focusing on the negative. 

This is part of the head-fuckery that she put me through. Acting inappropriately, unacceptable, and 
downright abusive, and then trying to turn it around to make it my fault. It's adding insult to injury at that point. Not only did my ex wife intentionally cause pain that I never deserved, all while denying 
that she ever did anything at all. She would try to make it my fault,  she wanted me to blame myself for something that supposedly didn't happen. Yes, re-read that. That is how illogical it is. She wanted to make sure that people thought I was the reason that the relationship failed. When the truth is the there never was a relationship. I wasn't in a relationship with a loving caring human being. I had been manipulated and led to believe I was in a relationship. But now I realize everything about her was fake, unauthentic and a lies. I was conned like many others before me. I can't really say I ever had a relationship with  my monster of an ex wife. There was never a relationship to begin with. I never had a chance. I never saw what happened until it was too late. And now an innocent child was involved.  

I knew it would only get worse from there. And I was right. It's been 8 years since separation and 5 since we were divorced and I still am harassed by her everyday. She uses our child to get things. It worked for a little while but I stopped feeling guilty. I knew what kind of man I was. I loved my daughter and would do anything for her. So I stopped listening to my whorish ex wife's bullshit, calling me a dead beat because I wouldn't give her $250 for gift card she supposedly bought my child's school teacher for Christmas gift.  I am a dead beat for her crap decisions. Knowing she didn't give any gift card. Just another scheme to get more money from me. As of the $3500 monthly in
support is not enough..

I was trapped by this evil monster of a female for so long. I didn't know how to stand up for myself. I didn't know how to get her to leave me alone.  I use to just give her the money. So she would leave me alone.  That was until I met my amazing wife now. We have been together for 5 years. She has stayed with me, even tho my ex wife has targeted her, ruined her reputation. She has stuck it out with me.. She taught me to stand up for myself. My ex wife is unemployed and a loser, and my new wife is the woman who made me see that I was not a piece of shit, my ex claimed I was. That I had more power than I knew. I had just been so broken down my evil bitch ex wife that I lost all confidence. I had been so attacked by her, that I was afraid.
I was afraid of what she may do to my child. Or what she would tell my child lies to make her hate her dad.
But now I am finally free of this psychopath. I give all the credit to my wife now. She stood up to the monster, and that is something no one would do.  It takes a strong person to stand up to any sociopath. But if the person has a healthy mind, and is strong and confident, the sociopath may destroy their reputation but never can hurt their self worth. My exwife would like to believe she is in control. She knows she has lost all control of me. I dont respond to her text.  I ignore her.  My new wife tries to keep peace for my daughters sake, but the ex is so evil there will never be peace.  I had so many years taken away from my life because of my ex wife,

So now I live everyday to the fullest. I know my ex is miserable and she makes her family miserable. And she wants me to be miserable. And wants my wife out of the picture. But that's never going to happen. I feel we beat the sociopath. We did the impossible. By working together, and being a team, and backing each other up. My wife now and me couldn't be happier - well we might be happier if my ex vanished ....