How the sociopath will silence the victim

Truly evil people avoid extending themselves. They will take any action in their power to protect their own laziness, to preserve the integrity of their sick self. 

Rather than nurturing others,they will actually destroy others in this cause. If necessary, they will even kill to escape the pain of their own spiritual growth.

                                 —M. Scott Peck, Psychiatrist, 

                                Author People of the Lie

Narcissists, Sociopaths, and psychopaths are not mentally ill. There is no therapy to that will ever be able to help them. There is no amount of medication for them to take to balance their brain chemicals. 

It is not their brain chemistry that is off balance. 

It is their soul and conscience. The simple fact is, these types of people have no soul, no conscience, they feel no guilt, no remorse. They find ways to fly under the radar, doing just enough to convince others they are productive. But those who are unfortunate enough to live with a person like this, know the truth. Most are usually to afraid of callling the sociopath out on their lies and deceptive behaviors. This is because they know the damage the sociopath is capable of doing to them. 

The sociopath will stop at nothing to silence someone who they believe could expose them for who they really are. They will do this by spreading lies about the person who they deem as a threat before the person can expose them. The sociopath will begin making accusations toward the target. Staying that the person is crazy, unstable, and a liar. Sociopaths play the victim while vilifying the real victim. They will say they are afraid of what this person will do to them, accuse the person of being obsessed and stalking them. 

Social media makes this very easy for them to do these things. After the sociopath has created enough doubt in the minds of others and spread enough destroying information about the person. The victim is usually silenced, because they are traumatized by what is being said about them. The disgusting lies that the sociopath has said, damages the self esteem of the victim. The person no longer has the confidence to tell their story and what the sociopath has done to them. 

Even when the sociopath has silenced their victim, .this doesn't mean that they will stop mentally and emotionally tormenting the victim. 

There is Life After the Narcissist/sociopath

We all go into a relationship with a narcissist/sociopath without knowing the trauma, pain, hurt, betrayal we will go through for this unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship. 

We become addicted  to the narcissistic sociopath, this explains why we find it so hard to maintain No Contact  and why we have such a hard time leaving and moving on with our life, or moving on to healthy relationships. Because after its over we may feel one excites us in quite the same way or with the same intensity as our toxic partner. 

We are not aware that we have become the suffering and the suffering becomes us.

We forget what normalcy feels like.

This is what the sociopath/narcissist does to us, they play so many mind games, that we forget what a healthy relationship feels like, the dysfunction becomes our new normal. We even question our own sanity, and our own true self. The narcissist is so toxic, they make us feel that it is us that attracts toxic people into our lives. We feel we are doomed, which in turn becomes everyday anxiety, that is crippling to our emotional and mental health. 

The truth is that, we are not doomed. We may have become addicted to the chaos, because that is what the narcissist has shown us. The narcissist will always worm their way back into our good graces and life, and  as soon as we feel stable, and believe that maybe this time things will be different, the narcissist disappears and causes us hurt once again.  We feel rejected once again by this toxic person. 

More than anything in the world we wonder, why this person can't love us, what is wrong with us?

We want answers and need validation. As we get to our lowest, the narcissist enters our life again, and we take him/her back because the pain and depression was so real, we will do anything to feel even the slightest bit better, it is these painful feelings that the narcissist counts on, to re-enter our life, only to repeat the same vicious cycle again. 

This is how we become addicted to the narcissist. They prey on our weakness, exploit our humanity, and they do it so well, we become blind to the dysfunction, the dysfunction becomes a part of our life. The dysfunction becomes normal to us. 

As sad as it all is, usually it takes the narcissist finding a new person to exploit and use, for the toxic, soul-devouring relationship to end. The truth is the narcissist becomes bored with us. They know they can always come back and we will be there. So they discard us like trash. Leaving us broken, lost, and emotionally scarred.

We feel all we want is closure from them. The narcissist will never give us closure. They will tell their 'new' victim that we are crazy and emotionally unstable, they spread untrue rumors about us. They discredit us to anyone who will listen. 

We feel defeated and utterly hopeless...

It becomes impossible for us to move forward. We become angry and withdrawn. It's hard to even tell friends about our pain, because we don't want to hear "I told you so". Because every time we had taken the narcissist back, our friends and family didn't support our decision. They were right, and now being in pain after the narcissist final blow to us, hearing "I told you so" is just to painful.

And we just cannot take feeling anymore pain than we already in. 

So it is relieving when we find support in other places. When we read stories similar to our own, by other victims of a narcissist/sociopath. It is these supportive places that some of us find strength to begin to heal.

Once we start the healing process, it becomes easier to began to share our story. We don't feel so much shame about what happened to us. It becomes very clear that we were not betrayed by a normal human being, but we were betrayed by a personality disordered individual, with no moral compass, and unable to feel empathy for others. Knowing this helps us to realize we are not sick, or doomed.
What happened was not our fault, we were just another convenient victim of a very sick and twisted individual.
Knowing this helps us to begin to move forward and live life again with gratitude and a new appreciation for life. 

It's All About Control

A sociopath is a liar and a user... They lie about everything. They use people as and throw them out like garbage. 

Plain and simple. 

This is old news though. We have known that sociopaths do not have a conscious and they have No sympathy. 

Seeing others suffer doesn't bother them. They could careless about children who are starving, homeless people, abused animals. 

But they sure will pretend to care, when they are trying to hook you in to believing they are a good person.

Truth — they don't give a crap about ANYONE but themselves. 

Sadistic sociopaths enjoy the suffering of others, so much so that they do intentional things to see living beings in physical and emotional pain. It's disgusting. 

They do not know, or want to learn, how to care about someone else. 

They are excelled liars and are very convincing. They are able to convince others that they care and are compassionate —this is what makes them so dangerous!  

Once they think you have you convinced that they are good people, thats when they begin to set you up to rely on them. They want you to be totally dependent on them. Once they feel you are dependent on them, that is when they manipulate you in a way that isolates you from friends and family. Convincing you that you only need them. “They are your soulmate”

Once they have you brainwashed and dependent, they begin to mistreat you, verbally abuse you, so that your self esteem is destroyed. They are masters of making others feel inferior and even “crazy”

You become their victim. You are confused so you try to understand them - that make them want to hurt you more, they do not love you - in fact they hate you even more.  If you try to leave them, they make your life even worse. They will turn people against you. Play the victim, making you look like you are the one who is obsessed and psychotic and out of control. They tell others, they are worried for you, and you are unstable and they want to help you. THAT IS BULLSHIT. They are trying to make people feel sorry for them, because they have “deal” with such a sad pathetic and insecure person... 

It IS NOT JUST YOU THEY WANT TOTAL CONTROL OF. 

Their ultimate goal is to control everyone they know. 

They want to control the world. But for now they seek to control what is in their evil grasp. They want to control their exes, and their exes new partner. They want to control their family members.

Example - They want to control their mother and father and siblings. If they have a brother, they want to control the brother and his wife and their children. If they have a sister they want to control her and her husband and any children they have.

They want to control their parents. As their parents become older, the sociopath will manipulate their parents into controlling their money. They want control of the estate.  

Then once in control of all their parents  money and assetts they will not give their siblings any money that is owed to them from the estate. If they feel they are losing any control of a situation or a person, or if the person may expose them (the sociopath) for what they have been doing, the sociopath will go on a smear campaign to destroy the persons creditability and reputation. And will smile while doing it. 

The sociopath loves this kind of drama, it is just excitement for them. While you having Anxiety and are stressed and upset. It is like a walk in the park for them. They are not affected at all by any thing you do to them. In fact they do what they do to bait you to get that response. They enjoy being cruel, and keeping you on your toes.

BUT THE TRUTH IS — NONE OF IT IS REAL. They WERE LYING AND THEY STILL ARE! Rather they are lying to you or some other poor victim – they are LIARS - and they will always do what they do BEST - LIE! 

One trait I have noticed about sociopathic individuals (especially female sociopaths) but males also... 

They want EVERYTHING that EVERYONE else has. 

**They're very jealous of material things. 

**They have a huge sense of entitlement. 

The sociopath will tell you that money and materialistic things are not important to them. (Sorry folks lets get the laughing out now) BWAH HA HA HA HAAAA HAAA!! 

Ok... One has to laugh about that statement because it is so is so ridiculous. The sociopath cares ONLY about money! They have no feelings of love for anyone. They are hard wired to hate and take. They aren't concerned with the poor, the sick, children in foster homes or the elderly.

Their only purpose on this earth is to have more than Suzie has. Drive a nicer, more expensive car than Joe has. SOCIOPATHS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO “Keep up with the Joneses”. 

The difference between A Sociopath and the Joneses, is that the Jones actually work hard for what they have. THEY MAKE AN HONEST LIVING TO HAVE the NICER THINGS IN LIFE. The SOCIOPATH earns NOTHING... They steal, con, scam and deceive people to get what they have.

It is why the sociopath continues to do horrific things to people. Most of the horrible things the sociopath does is not done to strangers (all though they will if the stranger has something they want) Most of the horrific things they do are to their family, children, spouse, and their many ex spouses. Their horrid acts will even extend to their ex spouses new husband or wife and their children - that the sociopath has no relation to.

They are truly RUTHLESS, HATEFUL, and EVIL PEOPLE. They are the people in our world that do not want PEACE. They don't want to help people in need. 

They wreak havoc on the lives of anyone and everyone they come into contact with. They will steal every dime you have. They believe in their twisted, evil brain that everyone “owes” them. That is their sense of entitlement issue...

Their sole purpose on this earth is to get more and more. They suck people dry. They drain your time, your energy, your life, your wallet, and your bank account. 

A SOCIOPATH ONLY loves themselves. If you have ever been fooled by a sociopath, don't feel bad, because you are not the first, and you will not be the last.  

Just REMEMBER what you have been through, and what you experienced. LEARN FROM IT. 

You now have the wisdom to help others, but also remember that you can bring awareness of a what a sociopath is and does. But you probably can't convince someone that the person they are with is a conscienceless, heartless sociopath. They will have to learn on their own, the same way you learned. 

A sociopath will exhaust every fiber in your being. It takes time to get yourself "well" again. It takes time to trust again. *Time is the key word here* Time heals all eventually. 

JUST NEVER BE FOOLED AGAIN. 

Sociopaths are so f*cked up

If you know that all sociopaths are compulsive character assassins, and pathological liars – it's easy to spot them. A sociopath has a trail of trashed good names and careers in her wake. She will even have told you strange and terrible lies about a person in her own immediate family - like her sister. She is jealous of her sister. She will trash her to everyone. But then pretend to be a loving family member. Sociopaths are so f*cked up.. They are the most evil of evil and have the most malicious intentions toward everyone. INCLUDING THEIR OWN CHILDREN 

If you know the person that the sociopath is telling you something strange about, compare the accusation with your own observations. A sociopath will have ignored that person's real faults and smeared one of his or her virtues as a vice! 

And, if you know the sociopath , you'll find the sociopath  is guilty of the very thing she's accusing this other person of. Once you figure this out - watch out because you may find yourself the next victim of her lies and defamation...