It's All About Control

A sociopath is a liar and a user... They lie about everything. They use people as and throw them out like garbage. 

Plain and simple. 

This is old news though. We have known that sociopaths do not have a conscious and they have No sympathy. 

Seeing others suffer doesn't bother them. They could careless about children who are starving, homeless people, abused animals. 

But they sure will pretend to care, when they are trying to hook you in to believing they are a good person.

Truth — they don't give a crap about ANYONE but themselves. 

Sadistic sociopaths enjoy the suffering of others, so much so that they do intentional things to see living beings in physical and emotional pain. It's disgusting. 

They do not know, or want to learn, how to care about someone else. 

They are excelled liars and are very convincing. They are able to convince others that they care and are compassionate —this is what makes them so dangerous!  

Once they think you have you convinced that they are good people, thats when they begin to set you up to rely on them. They want you to be totally dependent on them. Once they feel you are dependent on them, that is when they manipulate you in a way that isolates you from friends and family. Convincing you that you only need them. “They are your soulmate”

Once they have you brainwashed and dependent, they begin to mistreat you, verbally abuse you, so that your self esteem is destroyed. They are masters of making others feel inferior and even “crazy”

You become their victim. You are confused so you try to understand them - that make them want to hurt you more, they do not love you - in fact they hate you even more.  If you try to leave them, they make your life even worse. They will turn people against you. Play the victim, making you look like you are the one who is obsessed and psychotic and out of control. They tell others, they are worried for you, and you are unstable and they want to help you. THAT IS BULLSHIT. They are trying to make people feel sorry for them, because they have “deal” with such a sad pathetic and insecure person... 

It IS NOT JUST YOU THEY WANT TOTAL CONTROL OF. 

Their ultimate goal is to control everyone they know. 

They want to control the world. But for now they seek to control what is in their evil grasp. They want to control their exes, and their exes new partner. They want to control their family members.

Example - They want to control their mother and father and siblings. If they have a brother, they want to control the brother and his wife and their children. If they have a sister they want to control her and her husband and any children they have.

They want to control their parents. As their parents become older, the sociopath will manipulate their parents into controlling their money. They want control of the estate.  

Then once in control of all their parents  money and assetts they will not give their siblings any money that is owed to them from the estate. If they feel they are losing any control of a situation or a person, or if the person may expose them (the sociopath) for what they have been doing, the sociopath will go on a smear campaign to destroy the persons creditability and reputation. And will smile while doing it. 

The sociopath loves this kind of drama, it is just excitement for them. While you having Anxiety and are stressed and upset. It is like a walk in the park for them. They are not affected at all by any thing you do to them. In fact they do what they do to bait you to get that response. They enjoy being cruel, and keeping you on your toes.

BUT THE TRUTH IS — NONE OF IT IS REAL. They WERE LYING AND THEY STILL ARE! Rather they are lying to you or some other poor victim – they are LIARS - and they will always do what they do BEST - LIE! 

One trait I have noticed about sociopathic individuals (especially female sociopaths) but males also... 

They want EVERYTHING that EVERYONE else has. 

**They're very jealous of material things. 

**They have a huge sense of entitlement. 

The sociopath will tell you that money and materialistic things are not important to them. (Sorry folks lets get the laughing out now) BWAH HA HA HA HAAAA HAAA!! 

Ok... One has to laugh about that statement because it is so is so ridiculous. The sociopath cares ONLY about money! They have no feelings of love for anyone. They are hard wired to hate and take. They aren't concerned with the poor, the sick, children in foster homes or the elderly.

Their only purpose on this earth is to have more than Suzie has. Drive a nicer, more expensive car than Joe has. SOCIOPATHS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO “Keep up with the Joneses”. 

The difference between A Sociopath and the Joneses, is that the Jones actually work hard for what they have. THEY MAKE AN HONEST LIVING TO HAVE the NICER THINGS IN LIFE. The SOCIOPATH earns NOTHING... They steal, con, scam and deceive people to get what they have.

It is why the sociopath continues to do horrific things to people. Most of the horrible things the sociopath does is not done to strangers (all though they will if the stranger has something they want) Most of the horrific things they do are to their family, children, spouse, and their many ex spouses. Their horrid acts will even extend to their ex spouses new husband or wife and their children - that the sociopath has no relation to.

They are truly RUTHLESS, HATEFUL, and EVIL PEOPLE. They are the people in our world that do not want PEACE. They don't want to help people in need. 

They wreak havoc on the lives of anyone and everyone they come into contact with. They will steal every dime you have. They believe in their twisted, evil brain that everyone “owes” them. That is their sense of entitlement issue...

Their sole purpose on this earth is to get more and more. They suck people dry. They drain your time, your energy, your life, your wallet, and your bank account. 

A SOCIOPATH ONLY loves themselves. If you have ever been fooled by a sociopath, don't feel bad, because you are not the first, and you will not be the last.  

Just REMEMBER what you have been through, and what you experienced. LEARN FROM IT. 

You now have the wisdom to help others, but also remember that you can bring awareness of a what a sociopath is and does. But you probably can't convince someone that the person they are with is a conscienceless, heartless sociopath. They will have to learn on their own, the same way you learned. 

A sociopath will exhaust every fiber in your being. It takes time to get yourself "well" again. It takes time to trust again. *Time is the key word here* Time heals all eventually. 

JUST NEVER BE FOOLED AGAIN. 

When a sociopath is the mother of your children

Psychologists and therapist agree that sociopaths cannot be treated effectively. There is no cure for a sociopath. The sociopath doesn't think there is anything wrong with their behavior. They never truly apologize for what they have done. They are only sorry that they got caught. Never sorry or remorseful for anything they did. They just wish they would of done it differently, so that they would of got away with it. 

Instead of trying to help the sociopath — accept that you can never help them. They will never change. And take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your family. 

Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Remember that it is all a game to the sociopath. She or he does not care if you're hurt. The only goal they have is winning. The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality sociopaths do not change.. 
Your only option is cutting off all contact - NO MATTER WHAT. 

If your a man that shares children with a sociopath. Do what you can for your children but never speak to the sociopath. Have a third party who is a professional and aware that the person is a sociopath - communicate with them. If the sociopath makes it difficult to get your children. Don't play the game with them. They actually want you to get the children. They hate responsibility. They don't want you to know that though. So when they make it hard for you, simply let them do so and ignore them. They will start to believe you don't care - which will make them feel out of control. Because if you don't care - how will they manipulate you and make your life hard. So once they see this in you. They will temporarily stop making it difficult to get the children. They will find another tactic that makes your life hard in about 3-6 months. This can go on forever. It's important to be emotionally strong and disciplined.

So what do you do when you share children with sociopath. Are you forever fucked? Are you going to be miserable the rest of your life? 

You must Accept the reality that it is possible... That the sociopath has a reason to always try to make contact with you because of the children.  

This is from my personal experience of sharing children with a sociopath. It has been hell. I do not get to enjoy my children. I don't get to feel happy about getting my children. I worry before it is time to get them because I have no clue what the sociopath has in store for me. 

Children are suppose to bring you happiness and fulfillment. If you have children with a sociopath - you don't get to experience that. Instead you are having to deal with your child's other parent. She is always trying to squeeze more money out of you. She sends you text after text trying to make you feel guilty. She wants more money from you, yet she is disturbing you at work. Always saying how the child or children are sad, or need this and that. She brainwashes the children to believe you are not a good parent, that you have abandoned them for your "new family".  She finds a way to make things for you and your children uncomfortable. Even when she is not there . It's always a dramatic circus...  You learn to distance yourself emotionally from it all. You either keep on living, or you choose to let the sociopath take your spirit. It's important you stay strong and remember that it is the sociopath. Not you. Many others are suffering as you are. There is hope and support out there for you. 

No contact

No contact is the only way to go when dealing with a sociopathic predator. It does not matter if you have children with this predator. You will need to find a third-party to communicate between the two of you. A sociopath is a master manipulator and would do anything to manipulate you, lie to you and continue to cause harm to you. By finding a third-party to communicate between the two of you the third-party will not be affected by the sociopaths lies. You will need to inform the third-party that the person is a sociopath and give them information on how to deal with the sociopathic person. Sometimes it is best to hire a lawyer or a trained professional to help you with this.

Of course the sociopath will lie to third-party communicator in an attempt to manipulate you and cause harm to you. That is why it is so important to give information on how the sociopath works.
Once the children have reached a certain age you will be able to communicate with your children and will no longer have to communicate with the sociopath. The sociopath will do anything to get your attention. They want to be in control. DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO BE. The sociopath will tell lies about the children. They will tell you one of the children has cancer, or one of the children is depressed and needs counseling. That's why it is important that you keep in communication with your children because the children will verify that they are not depressed or have cancer. The sociopath is so good at portraying something that feels real. It is so important to remember that everything is sociopaths says is a lie. When they tell the children something and the children tells you remember it is a lie.

The sociopath uses half-truths to make the lie seem more believable. It takes a while for a person to really understand the depth of evil in a sociopath. Some people can see right through the sociopath very quickly. They understand that the sociopath has nothing but evil intentions. They do not fall for any of the sociopaths crap, they do not believe a word the sociopath says, and they do not fall for the trap the sociopath has set.

If you have been fooled by a sociopath — do not feel bad. They are master manipulators and they
excel in lies and deception. Good and honest and kind people fall for the lies, empathic people fall for the guilt trip the sociopath makes. And there is nothing wrong with being a kind empathetic person.
Unfortunately the sociopath depends on the kind and empathetic people, in order to manipulate and deceive.

Anyone who has been targeted by the sociopath knows the destruction and damage that they can cause to another human being. The sociopath has no conscience, has no heart, and has no soul. They
use, they abuse, and they inflict pain on anyone who crosses their path. They have no kindness in their hearts because they have no heart. They are evil. You can never change the sociopath, they are
hardwired to be evil, bad, manipulative, and destructive.