It's All About Control

A sociopath is a liar and a user... They lie about everything. They use people as and throw them out like garbage. 

Plain and simple. 

This is old news though. We have known that sociopaths do not have a conscious and they have No sympathy. 

Seeing others suffer doesn't bother them. They could careless about children who are starving, homeless people, abused animals. 

But they sure will pretend to care, when they are trying to hook you in to believing they are a good person.

Truth — they don't give a crap about ANYONE but themselves. 

Sadistic sociopaths enjoy the suffering of others, so much so that they do intentional things to see living beings in physical and emotional pain. It's disgusting. 

They do not know, or want to learn, how to care about someone else. 

They are excelled liars and are very convincing. They are able to convince others that they care and are compassionate —this is what makes them so dangerous!  

Once they think you have you convinced that they are good people, thats when they begin to set you up to rely on them. They want you to be totally dependent on them. Once they feel you are dependent on them, that is when they manipulate you in a way that isolates you from friends and family. Convincing you that you only need them. “They are your soulmate”

Once they have you brainwashed and dependent, they begin to mistreat you, verbally abuse you, so that your self esteem is destroyed. They are masters of making others feel inferior and even “crazy”

You become their victim. You are confused so you try to understand them - that make them want to hurt you more, they do not love you - in fact they hate you even more.  If you try to leave them, they make your life even worse. They will turn people against you. Play the victim, making you look like you are the one who is obsessed and psychotic and out of control. They tell others, they are worried for you, and you are unstable and they want to help you. THAT IS BULLSHIT. They are trying to make people feel sorry for them, because they have “deal” with such a sad pathetic and insecure person... 

It IS NOT JUST YOU THEY WANT TOTAL CONTROL OF. 

Their ultimate goal is to control everyone they know. 

They want to control the world. But for now they seek to control what is in their evil grasp. They want to control their exes, and their exes new partner. They want to control their family members.

Example - They want to control their mother and father and siblings. If they have a brother, they want to control the brother and his wife and their children. If they have a sister they want to control her and her husband and any children they have.

They want to control their parents. As their parents become older, the sociopath will manipulate their parents into controlling their money. They want control of the estate.  

Then once in control of all their parents  money and assetts they will not give their siblings any money that is owed to them from the estate. If they feel they are losing any control of a situation or a person, or if the person may expose them (the sociopath) for what they have been doing, the sociopath will go on a smear campaign to destroy the persons creditability and reputation. And will smile while doing it. 

The sociopath loves this kind of drama, it is just excitement for them. While you having Anxiety and are stressed and upset. It is like a walk in the park for them. They are not affected at all by any thing you do to them. In fact they do what they do to bait you to get that response. They enjoy being cruel, and keeping you on your toes.

BUT THE TRUTH IS — NONE OF IT IS REAL. They WERE LYING AND THEY STILL ARE! Rather they are lying to you or some other poor victim – they are LIARS - and they will always do what they do BEST - LIE! 

One trait I have noticed about sociopathic individuals (especially female sociopaths) but males also... 

They want EVERYTHING that EVERYONE else has. 

**They're very jealous of material things. 

**They have a huge sense of entitlement. 

The sociopath will tell you that money and materialistic things are not important to them. (Sorry folks lets get the laughing out now) BWAH HA HA HA HAAAA HAAA!! 

Ok... One has to laugh about that statement because it is so is so ridiculous. The sociopath cares ONLY about money! They have no feelings of love for anyone. They are hard wired to hate and take. They aren't concerned with the poor, the sick, children in foster homes or the elderly.

Their only purpose on this earth is to have more than Suzie has. Drive a nicer, more expensive car than Joe has. SOCIOPATHS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO “Keep up with the Joneses”. 

The difference between A Sociopath and the Joneses, is that the Jones actually work hard for what they have. THEY MAKE AN HONEST LIVING TO HAVE the NICER THINGS IN LIFE. The SOCIOPATH earns NOTHING... They steal, con, scam and deceive people to get what they have.

It is why the sociopath continues to do horrific things to people. Most of the horrible things the sociopath does is not done to strangers (all though they will if the stranger has something they want) Most of the horrific things they do are to their family, children, spouse, and their many ex spouses. Their horrid acts will even extend to their ex spouses new husband or wife and their children - that the sociopath has no relation to.

They are truly RUTHLESS, HATEFUL, and EVIL PEOPLE. They are the people in our world that do not want PEACE. They don't want to help people in need. 

They wreak havoc on the lives of anyone and everyone they come into contact with. They will steal every dime you have. They believe in their twisted, evil brain that everyone “owes” them. That is their sense of entitlement issue...

Their sole purpose on this earth is to get more and more. They suck people dry. They drain your time, your energy, your life, your wallet, and your bank account. 

A SOCIOPATH ONLY loves themselves. If you have ever been fooled by a sociopath, don't feel bad, because you are not the first, and you will not be the last.  

Just REMEMBER what you have been through, and what you experienced. LEARN FROM IT. 

You now have the wisdom to help others, but also remember that you can bring awareness of a what a sociopath is and does. But you probably can't convince someone that the person they are with is a conscienceless, heartless sociopath. They will have to learn on their own, the same way you learned. 

A sociopath will exhaust every fiber in your being. It takes time to get yourself "well" again. It takes time to trust again. *Time is the key word here* Time heals all eventually. 

JUST NEVER BE FOOLED AGAIN. 

The Obsessed, Dangerous, and Desperate Sociopath

Sociopaths are toxic. They destroy others. They inflict emotional harm on family, ex spouses, spouses, children, and even strangers. Sociopaths will never leave you alone. Most ex spouses of a sociopath will usually  try to have "NO CONTACT" because of the harassment they receive on an everyday basis. 

The sociopath will obsessively call, text, email and harass. It can become so frequent, it disrupts the victims work, personal life, and peace. 

No Contact Does Not Always Work

Even when the victim establishes no contact with the sociopath, refusing to return or answer calls, not responding to text messages, or emails. The sociopath does not always get bored with you, and move on to their next victim. Sometimes they become obsessed with you. They will become desperate just to get a tiny response from you. They will make up lies to try to get a response. Some will tell you that they have a terminal illness (such as stage 4 ovarian cancer). Knowing you are not a monster, you probably will respond, because a normal person with a normal brain, will feel sad, and guilty to ignore someone who is supposedly “dying” . A person with an abnormal brain, that lacks so conscience and no heart is the only kind of person who will tell you they are dying when they are not, just to get you to respond. 

Why does a sociopath go to such extremes just to get a response?

                 CONTROL

The sociopath wants control. They had control over you at one time and they intended on keeping control over you. So when you move on with your life, and no longer allow the sociopath to control your life. They become desperate to get that control back. The sociopath can become most dangerous when they become obsessed with you. Most sociopaths go their entire life, and never kill anyone. Although they make life hell, and ruin many people. Many do not ever murder. An obsessed sociopath is dangerous because the fact is, they do not have a conscience. Since it is our conscience that keeps us from doing awful things to others, the sociopath is capable of almost anything. When a sociopath is stalking you, and has become obsessed with you. It's important that you live cautiously. Never forget what you are dealing with... A monster..

When you are the victim of a sociopath who is obsessed with controlling you, even though you ended the relationship. It's important to try to stay one step ahead of them. This can be difficult and exhausting, and not recommended, unless you feel you are being stalked by the sociopath. Being involved or around a sociopath for a long time, you will be able to see the patterns and can predict  some of their manipulation patterns and behaviors. Trying to stay one step ahead of the sociopath will eventually wreak havoc on your own sanity and health. So it is best to contact your local police department, let them be aware of the harassment. 

Most importantly DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT everything. Save emails, text, and record any phone calls, save any voice mails. You may need these things in order to file a protective order or restraining order against the sociopath, when they will not leave you alone. 

The sociopath will always have what seems to be a valid excuse to contact you. If you have children with the sociopath, the harassment you will get from the sociopath can cause stress, anger, frustration, depression, and even physical illness. Having children gives the sociopath a reason to contact you everyday.. Even though there is no reason to actually speak to your ex EVERY SINGLE DAY, the sociopath will find one – the children –

The sociopath is going to call, text and email just to bother you and annoy you most of the time. Sending text so minuscule like "Suzie has a dentist appointment today, and she is very scared of going" or "Bobby has a test in science and is worried he will fail". The strangest thing is when you speak with your children you will usually find out that Susie never went to the dentist. And bobby wasn't worried about a science test. The sociopath has no rhyme or reason why they send you text that are random and made up. It is just to disrupt your day. They hope you will respond, become upset (that your children are worried).

The sociopath loves keeping you on your toes and causing drama in your life. Even when you have moved on and they have moved on. They still want to bother you just because they can. They want to be able to feel that they have that control over you. They need to know that if they want to, they can disrupt your mind state, foil your plans, stress you out, cause chaos in your life, and control your emotions. 

They do this because they are disturbed people. They are desperate and pathetic. They do not realize what they are doing is harming their children emotionally. Most of the time the parent who is being harassed on a daily basis. Will feel anxiety and fear about having to deal with their ex spouse. They want to avoid the ex. Because of the constant contact and harassment. This affects the children, because they may not be able to see both parents as much. THE SOCIOPATH MAKES GETTING THE CHILDREN SO DIFFICULT, and So STRESSFUL. The other parent shuts down. They are emotionally drained after dealing with a psycho for so long. They even suffer from a form of Emotional PTSD. 

Once the sociopath sees that their ex is avoiding them. They will push even more. By be-littling, degrading, putting down, trying to instill shame and guilt about not being a good parent. How the children are embarrassed by their family and it is all that parents fault, because of the lack of co parenting. It is all a ploy to get control and to get that response. 

The best thing the parent who is being harassed can do is; do right by your children when they are with you. Know that you cannot control what the sociopath does. Taking the sociopath to court will only make the situation worse. Sociopaths are able to work the legal system and you will probably lose that battle. So don't take them to court unless you feel the children are being physically or sexually abused. Do the best you can for your children when they are in your care. DO NOT EVER speak negatively of the sociopathic parent. Just be the best parent you can be. 

AND ABOVE ALL IGNORE THE SOCIOPATH, CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER IF YOU MUST. 

**NEVER ALLOW THE SOCIOPATH TO AFFECT YOUR LIFE, IT IS HARD BUT IF YOU MAINTAIN NO CONTACT THEN THEY ARE BASICALLY HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH THEMSELF EVERYTIME THEY CALL AND LEAVE A MESSAGE Or TEXT YOU 

When a sociopath is the mother of your children

Psychologists and therapist agree that sociopaths cannot be treated effectively. There is no cure for a sociopath. The sociopath doesn't think there is anything wrong with their behavior. They never truly apologize for what they have done. They are only sorry that they got caught. Never sorry or remorseful for anything they did. They just wish they would of done it differently, so that they would of got away with it. 

Instead of trying to help the sociopath — accept that you can never help them. They will never change. And take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your family. 

Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Remember that it is all a game to the sociopath. She or he does not care if you're hurt. The only goal they have is winning. The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality sociopaths do not change.. 
Your only option is cutting off all contact - NO MATTER WHAT. 

If your a man that shares children with a sociopath. Do what you can for your children but never speak to the sociopath. Have a third party who is a professional and aware that the person is a sociopath - communicate with them. If the sociopath makes it difficult to get your children. Don't play the game with them. They actually want you to get the children. They hate responsibility. They don't want you to know that though. So when they make it hard for you, simply let them do so and ignore them. They will start to believe you don't care - which will make them feel out of control. Because if you don't care - how will they manipulate you and make your life hard. So once they see this in you. They will temporarily stop making it difficult to get the children. They will find another tactic that makes your life hard in about 3-6 months. This can go on forever. It's important to be emotionally strong and disciplined.

So what do you do when you share children with sociopath. Are you forever fucked? Are you going to be miserable the rest of your life? 

You must Accept the reality that it is possible... That the sociopath has a reason to always try to make contact with you because of the children.  

This is from my personal experience of sharing children with a sociopath. It has been hell. I do not get to enjoy my children. I don't get to feel happy about getting my children. I worry before it is time to get them because I have no clue what the sociopath has in store for me. 

Children are suppose to bring you happiness and fulfillment. If you have children with a sociopath - you don't get to experience that. Instead you are having to deal with your child's other parent. She is always trying to squeeze more money out of you. She sends you text after text trying to make you feel guilty. She wants more money from you, yet she is disturbing you at work. Always saying how the child or children are sad, or need this and that. She brainwashes the children to believe you are not a good parent, that you have abandoned them for your "new family".  She finds a way to make things for you and your children uncomfortable. Even when she is not there . It's always a dramatic circus...  You learn to distance yourself emotionally from it all. You either keep on living, or you choose to let the sociopath take your spirit. It's important you stay strong and remember that it is the sociopath. Not you. Many others are suffering as you are. There is hope and support out there for you.