When a sociopath is the mother of your children

Psychologists and therapist agree that sociopaths cannot be treated effectively. There is no cure for a sociopath. The sociopath doesn't think there is anything wrong with their behavior. They never truly apologize for what they have done. They are only sorry that they got caught. Never sorry or remorseful for anything they did. They just wish they would of done it differently, so that they would of got away with it. 

Instead of trying to help the sociopath — accept that you can never help them. They will never change. And take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your family. 

Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Remember that it is all a game to the sociopath. She or he does not care if you're hurt. The only goal they have is winning. The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality sociopaths do not change.. 
Your only option is cutting off all contact - NO MATTER WHAT. 

If your a man that shares children with a sociopath. Do what you can for your children but never speak to the sociopath. Have a third party who is a professional and aware that the person is a sociopath - communicate with them. If the sociopath makes it difficult to get your children. Don't play the game with them. They actually want you to get the children. They hate responsibility. They don't want you to know that though. So when they make it hard for you, simply let them do so and ignore them. They will start to believe you don't care - which will make them feel out of control. Because if you don't care - how will they manipulate you and make your life hard. So once they see this in you. They will temporarily stop making it difficult to get the children. They will find another tactic that makes your life hard in about 3-6 months. This can go on forever. It's important to be emotionally strong and disciplined.

So what do you do when you share children with sociopath. Are you forever fucked? Are you going to be miserable the rest of your life? 

You must Accept the reality that it is possible... That the sociopath has a reason to always try to make contact with you because of the children.  

This is from my personal experience of sharing children with a sociopath. It has been hell. I do not get to enjoy my children. I don't get to feel happy about getting my children. I worry before it is time to get them because I have no clue what the sociopath has in store for me. 

Children are suppose to bring you happiness and fulfillment. If you have children with a sociopath - you don't get to experience that. Instead you are having to deal with your child's other parent. She is always trying to squeeze more money out of you. She sends you text after text trying to make you feel guilty. She wants more money from you, yet she is disturbing you at work. Always saying how the child or children are sad, or need this and that. She brainwashes the children to believe you are not a good parent, that you have abandoned them for your "new family".  She finds a way to make things for you and your children uncomfortable. Even when she is not there . It's always a dramatic circus...  You learn to distance yourself emotionally from it all. You either keep on living, or you choose to let the sociopath take your spirit. It's important you stay strong and remember that it is the sociopath. Not you. Many others are suffering as you are. There is hope and support out there for you. 

Sociopaths are so f*cked up

If you know that all sociopaths are compulsive character assassins, and pathological liars – it's easy to spot them. A sociopath has a trail of trashed good names and careers in her wake. She will even have told you strange and terrible lies about a person in her own immediate family - like her sister. She is jealous of her sister. She will trash her to everyone. But then pretend to be a loving family member. Sociopaths are so f*cked up.. They are the most evil of evil and have the most malicious intentions toward everyone. INCLUDING THEIR OWN CHILDREN 

If you know the person that the sociopath is telling you something strange about, compare the accusation with your own observations. A sociopath will have ignored that person's real faults and smeared one of his or her virtues as a vice! 

And, if you know the sociopath , you'll find the sociopath  is guilty of the very thing she's accusing this other person of. Once you figure this out - watch out because you may find yourself the next victim of her lies and defamation...

The sweet innocent victim...

The sociopath will attempt to make everyone else look so guilty, and act themselves like the sweet innocent victim of the evil of others. 
Thereby, the sociopath hopes to evade being identified as the culprit.

The seeking sympathy route is usually short, for the track record of most sociopaths is so littered with victims that the idea that they are a victim themselves is hard to accept.

They are so full if lies and manipulation.  They twist the words of others, then by adding a twist of their own former words meant exactly as you properly hear them, only to turn around and say what they said was not something they meant - "you just are trying to make something out of nothing". This manipulation tactic is to make you doubt your own judgement and evidence. You may even doubt your own mind, remembering words that the sociopath said — that are now denied as ever being said. (This may be difficult to understand if you have never been targeted or abused by a sociopath) But the victims of sociopaths know this all to well. 

Sociopaths go as far as to accuse YOU of falsely accusing them.  And use the correct charge against them, as evidence of your desire to spread false lies about them. All the while they are spreading lies about you. Trying to discredit and destroy you. 

The sociopath has the ability to think quickly, having trained their mind to come up with deceptive excuses and unrealistic reasons for all their behaviors. If the situation is critical, they will stall for time with distraction, or simply change the subject. They are masters at not answering questions that are straight forward. I suppose they think they have gotten away with something, but usually the person dealing with the sociopath has just stopped caring and doesn't care. So they are not going to waste their time arguing with sociopath. Or trying to make them answer the question they ask. 
After all the sociopath will never be honest, so why waste anytime asking 
them questions... 

Monster under that Mask.

The emotions of a sociopath are false, because they have no feelings. They emulate others. They try to give the world an impression of a caring person. But they are anything but caring. They want to try to make the world view them as whatever they "think" the world wants them to be.  If others were to find out how cruel they really are, they would not be able to manipulate so effectively. 

They don't think twice about hurting their family. They are sexually driven and cheat on their spouses. They are always promiscuous. They usually have a number of untreated STD's.  When they want something. They will attempt to get it - NO matter what. 

Drama is one thing the sociopath loves. They love any kind of drama that let's them be the center of attention. Ex. If someone dies that they are related to. They make it all about them. The dead person can't even have a quiet funeral to celebrate the life they lived. The sociopath takes that away from them and makes someone else's death - their day. It's there opportunity to manipulate vulnerable and sad people. They are evil and heartless. 

Sociopaths will become irate and angry if things don't go their way. They will go to great lengths to hurt someone who has done so much for them - if the person decides that they can not do anymore for the sociopath. They do not give to anyone. They are takers. They take take take. They take advantage of everyone. They take advantage of life. Life is all about them (in their small minds) 

There is no hope for the sociopath. They can't be reformed or change. If they are forced to be "reformed" they lie and pretend that they have changed. They really have just learned better tricks to manipulate the emotions of others. They become more adept to not "getting caught". 

The sociopath is always wearing a mask. But sometimes the mask slips off and you may get a glimpse of their rage and hate. The emptiness in their eyes. They stare right through you. They are monsters. The sooner we accept that they are real and destroying many lives. The safer we all will be.

The Sociopathic "Mom"

 

I don't think all sociopaths are insane. They are mostly "crazy makers". They know exactly what they are doing. It's all premeditated. They know when they meet someone that if the person can't  serve a purpose for them then they want nothing to do with them (consider yourself extremely lucky if they want nothing to do with you)! 

They are calculating and methodical and cold. They don't plan there lies out. They lie so naturally that there is no need to plan a lie out. They only know how to lie. 

Most sociopaths don't murder people. But when threatened to be exposed or if you threaten the sociopaths position - they are capable of murder. As they only see people as objects, not breathing, living, human being - that feel pain (mental and emotional and physical). 

Sociopaths feel no guilt, or remorse. They are slick people. They are sneaky. A sociopath thinks nothing is wrong with conning their elderly mother or father. Sociopaths know what others want to hear and they tell whatever that is when they need to manipulate someone. 

If the sociopath can't con you – they don't want to be around you. You wasting their time. Even tho the sociopath thinks NOTHING of wasting everyone else's time. That's basically all they do. Waste our damn time. They love knowing they are ruining your plans with their drama. They love being the center of attention. If they are not the center of attention they get upset and can throw temper tantrums like a child. 

Sociopaths and psychopath are emotional manipulators. Sometimes it takes someone other than yourself to point out that a sociopath is a sociopath and that they have been manipulating and lying to you. Kind and empathic people are good people and they sometimes live in denial that such evil exist. (And even worst - share a child with such a monster) 

Sometime when the sociopath is the mother of a mans children. He will do anything to get away from her emotional torment and manipulation. He realizes that everytime he gets his Children she will make it difficult and dramatic. And soon the man has no energy left to keep going through this every other weekend. He will simply pay his child support. Try to be there for his children. But give and stop fighting his sociopathic "baby mama" just to see them. This is not good for anyone involved. Especially the children, becauee now they are spending majority of their time with a very unstable and hateful monster - they have to call mom. 

They don't understand that "mom" drove their dad to mental and emotional and even physical exhaustion. And that he simply can't fight anymore. He removes himself from the drama. Which means he doesn't respond to her jack cracked messages and bullshit. The minute she gets involved in him picking up the children and starts in on him about everything he "must" do in order to get the children. He instantly gives up.  

Not because he is a bad man. But because he is broken and exhausted. And the life has been drained out of him by the sociopathic female...

Psychopaths

Psychopath. Sociopaths. Narcissist. 

No matter what you call them. They are all ruthless people, who are ONLY concerned with themselves. They are not concerned with anyone's feelings. They abuse, hurt, cheat, lie, and use people. 

They excel in lying. They are even able to pass lie detector test. They have no qualms about lying. They are incaple of the truth - even if the truth is a better option. They are hard wired in their brains to lie. 

Scientist's have proven that the Female psychopath have a high testosterone level. Elevated levels higher than a normal woman. 

All psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissist are serial cheaters. A sociopathic woman has usually been married over 4 times by the time she turns 40, even more strangely she may have married one of the same man twice. This is because she becomes bored with just one lover. And she gets caught - and moves on to the next, but if that man doesn't prove that he is "father" material. And will be able to support the children she wants to have. She may choose to leave that man. And will call up the last who seemed to be a better "father". She doesn't do this for the welfare of her children. She doesn't this to ensure her own future. A future of living the good life and not have to lift a finger to do it. Of course after the children are conceived, she goes back to her cheating ways – very soon. She is sexually motivated. And in all – it's all about control and power over her male victim.

Same with the male psychopath. He wants to control his victims. He wants to have other women on the side. 

Both the female and the male psychopath are incaple of being faithful lovers. They are usually charismatic in their youth. But for the female psychopath, age takes a toll on her. She is unable to manipulate with her looks. As they have become withered and worn. And she can't have any man she wants. She loses most of her power and all her control. So she resorts to getting what she wants with deception and fraud. She is a menice to society and an aged loser.

Consider yourself lucky if you have gotten away from this filthy woman. 

The narcissist

Narcissist are extremely abusive. Emotionally, mentally and even physically. 

It's hard to leave a narcissist – because after years of mental abuse. You become brainwashed by the narcissist. You feel you need the narcissist, you recognize the relationship is not healthy. But you believe that one day they will change. You hope that they will realize how much you love them and that they will change for you. 

Unfortunately the narcissist will never change. The narcissist does not want to change. The narcissist does not believe they are to blame for anything. It's always YOUR fault as far as the Narcissist is concerned.  

If you ever have tried to leave the narcissist. You know that they will pursue you. They all the suddenly become the person you want them to be, for a short period of time. They treat you with love and care. They tell you they are sorry for what they have done. You believe them, because you want to believe that they are capable of being a good person, a good boyfriend, a good husband. But unfortunately their kindness is short-lived...

As soon as they know they have you back, the old behaviors begin to rear their ugly head. You catch them in lies, they deny anything you ask them. You suspect them of cheating again, they adamantly deny it. They have done it before, so you know they can do it again.  And the narcissist will. 

You may think you need to narcissist, but in fact it is the narcissist that needs you. They need you to feed them their narcissistic supply. If you are not giving them the narcissistic supply that they need, they have no problem finding someone who will. 

Narcissist love to cheat on their partners with strippers, prostitutes, anyone who will make you question your own self. Many women ask themselves "why would he cheat on me with someone like that". Many women feel they are to blame for their partners infidelities. Maybe they feel they were not meeting their partners needs. This kind of thinking is exactly what the narcissist wants you to think. When you have been a good girlfriend, wife, or partner to the narcissist. The narcissist knows that he must keep you feeling inferior to him in order for you to do what he says. 

Some people leave their narcissistic partners, others do not. 

It can take years and years to recover from the mental abuse the narcissist inflicts. Your self-esteem is shattered, your confidence is gone, and you feel very alone. You  feel depressed and defeated because you  have wasted a majority of your life, that you will never get back on the narcissist. While you are in a pit of despair, the narcissist is doing what he does best. He is out with his fake friends, hooking up with women, and acting as if the breakup between the two of you has no effect on him. Honestly the breakup does not have an effect on him, because he lacks the ability to feel empathy for anyone but himself. He actually blames you for the demise of the relationship. 

Once the narcissist realizes that he cannot get you back, he stops pretending to care and the real monster comes out. You see who he really is, and you have seen this before. He is cold, mean, and has no sympathy, and no remorse. This person is the real person. Any kindness he had ever shown was just an act, it wasn't real. 

You must know you did not waste your life. You were manipulated by one of the best. Even if you only live one more day. It is a day well lived once the narcissist is out of your life. But once you realize that, you will live many well lived days.