Exposing a sociopath

It is difficult if not impossible to expose a sociopath for the lying, cheating, stealing, ruthless and soulless individual they really are. 

If you plan on exposing the sociopath it is important that you know what you are up against. They sociopath will not "go down" easily. You have to be the kind of person that can handle what the sociopath will do in retaliation to you. 

You MUST be strong, and confident and have a strong sense of self and high self esteem. Because the sociopath is going to try to rip you apart mentally. 

If you have been abused, and are still recovering from the abuse of a sociopathic individual then it is not advised that you try to expose them. You must focus on you, and your recovery. It is best that you just “cut them off” as best you can. Victims of sociopaths have been broken and are probably not equipped to seek revenge by exposing the sociopath. 

But if you have the strength, and you feel the need to expose a sociopath. Either to protect someone you love, a family member or someone that is in harms way. 

You must be able to really look at the person and see what they REALLY are. Which is a heartless, mean, evil, conscienceless, hateful, vindictive, and VENGEFUL. THEY HAVE NO QUALMS ABOUT DESTROYING YOU, YOUR FAMILY, or YOUR CHILDREN. 

The sociopaths only fear is really being exposed for who they really are. Because once they are exposed, it would make it difficult for them to continue to con, lie and get others to do what they want. 

You must know what you are up against and know what you are dealing with. 

If you choose to expose the sociopath this will put you at the mercy of the Sociopath. Nothing can or will obstruct the will of the sociopath. I cannot stress this to you enough. 

Only The real and the full you will be able defeat the Sociopath - and still that is sometimes not enough...

The sociopath is a person who HATES you (and everyone else), and a true Sociopath will do everything they can not to reveal what they are really thinking and what their true intentions are. He or she knows that they will be a “dead agent”* once she/he is seen for how who and what they really are. The sociopath is living  inside his head. 

One of the most important things you must understand about the sociopath is that the 'real' achilles heel of the Sociopath – is that they do not know how to have “normal responses” in their internal world, their entire life is made up of mimicking what they have seen others do and how others acted toward a situation that required an emotional response. Therefore they do not actually know what a sane, correct response IS.

This means that unless they are TOLD what to say that would get you to think they have the right response, or unless they see it done somewhere:

THEY DO NOT HAVE THE EMOTIONAL CAPABILITIES TO ORIGINATE THE RIGHT MORAL RESPONSE. 

Remove the parasites

Never feel guilt about removing TOXIC people from your life. 

It doesn't matter if that person is a blood relative, childhood friend, romantic partner, the mother/father of your children, a parent, a co-worker, or anyone who you at some point in your life were “close” to.

—You do not have to keep people in your life that cause you pain, make you feel inferior, lie to you, and belittle you.

It is one thing if a person owns up to their  behavior and takes responsibilty for the things they have done, then they make a conscious and genuine effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings over and over again, takes advantage of you, and uses you for their own selfish reasons, you must remove them from your life. These types of people will not leave willingly. They see any kindness on your part as weakness. They prey on those who they see weak. They ignore your request, they violate your boundaries and they are relentless in tearing you apart. 

Remove these individuals - they will never change. They don't want help. They can't be cured, nor do they want to. They are toxic, infectious parasites. They will suck the life out of you, if you let them. 

The impact of the sociopath

Millions of people are impacted by a sociopath or sociopaths. They cause so much damage, one wonders if the damage really ever heals. Does the anxiety ever really go away - even after the sociopath is gone? Do you ever learn to trust again. 

You can. And you will. It will take time. Time heals. It will take strength on your part, to let go and release all the pain and fear. You have to relearn how to love, and how you deserve to be love. You are worthy of unconditional love. The sociopath takes a lot from us. But they cannot take our spirit or our soul. 

Keep your head up. 

Sociopaths are Not Human

Sociopaths may look human like us. They have a body like us, they have faces like us, but they are not like us.  I believe being human means to have the higher intelligence than that of a primal animal. Being human means to have a conscious, and feel empathy for our fellow man. Love is part of being human. 

Since sociopaths lack a conscience and are incapable of demonstrating and feeling real empathy or remorse, it is hard to classify them in the same category as us.

Sociopaths are primitive, like wild animals  and act on primitive survival skills like wild animals. Sociopaths seem to be more of like reptilian snakes than humans. We know snakes and wolves kill to survive. Wild animals such as lions kill to provide to food for their young and their families. The sociopath destroys others, not for the anyone but themselves. They do it out of pure hatred and spite. 

So it's seems like the sociopath is less evolved than a wild animal on an emotional basis. 

One thing we know the sociopath does is try to be like us. They try to convince us that they are caring, empathetic, and loving. When they are anything but caring, empathetic and loving. 

In order to convince us that they are like us, they watch others. They even do research on emotions. A sociopath I know has a notebook, writing down certain emotions to feel if this or that was to happen. Creepy...

The sociopath needs to know how to appropriately act and what emotion to use, or we may see through them. So they have perfected their lying, and manipulation. These are these are their  survival skills. Every life they have destroyed, they learn a little more about empathetic humans, and how to get what they want from them. They go through life using one person after the next. Destroying one life after another. And they never feel an ounce of remorse for it. They literally never feel any guilt or remorse. They rarely say sorry, but if they do they are not sorry because of what they did. They are sorry that they got caught for it. 

So we know sociopath’s look human, but I do not want to be in the same human classification as a sociopath. They do not possess enough emotional human qualities to be called human beings. 

Humans possess a light within. A soul. I am not sure if a sociopath has a soul. I believe they possess more a an entity within. Meaning when they die they do not go to the afterlife, they simply turn to dust. Souls live on forever. They sociopath does not.

Sociopaths try to be like us because we are unique and absolutely fascinating to them, because we are so unlike them.

Sociopaths do show emotion, in order to manipulate us into believing they are capable of having emotion.  

When first meeting a sociopath we are unsuspecting (unless we have been targeted by one before) The reason we are so attracted to the sociopath is because they are mimicking us, they are pretending to be like us. So we feel we have a connection with them, because we have so much in common. They pretend to be someone who has the same interest we do.  

As humans that emcompass a heart and soul, we have a hard time hiding our emotions. That is a characteristic of being human that the sociopath must be able to mimic. And they do it quiet well. Their entire life is hiding who they really are from the world. They never experience a truly joyful life. They just keep lying and pretending and destroying until they finally die 

Things to Remember after the Psychopath

If you have been in a relationship with a psychopathic personality there is some very important things to keep in mind — as these individuals are dangerous and are fully capable of causing you physical and psychological harm

Remember–  if you seek to expose them, keep in mind they will respond with bitter and malicious  rage, threats, vicious and hurtful communication, and attempts to destroy and discredit you, so your reputation is ruined 

Also – don’t beat yourself up because you did not recognize the the signs that they were a monster earlier; just act as soon as you do start to see them for who they really are.

Do Not be Ashamed to – seek therapy as soon as possible; the trauma of these encounters can be long-lasting and devastating to every aspect of your life. 

You should if possible - warn others of your experience with the sociopath/psychopath because you can bet that the sociopath will   be doing his/her best to cast you as irrational, mentally unstable, 

dangerous and downright crazy!

Psychopath Feels they are Better than that.,

Being in any kind of relationship with a psychopath/sociopath is devastating and debilitating. The psychopath is able to make their victim feel as if everything is their fault. 

The victim doesn't understand why the person they “love” and believe "loves" them, treats them like they are not important. The victim feel a constant rejection from the psychopath. Anytime the psychopath is "kind" the victim feels a brief sense of relief. 

This is only short lived for the victim. 

The psychopath uses this treatment to keep their victim feeling inadequate, worthless, and as if there is something wrong with them. This is ABUSE! 

Psychopaths are distinguished from other thugs or criminals because their extreme lack of empathy. Which causes them to act with complete indifference and without conscience.  That’s what makes them capable of some of the most cold-hearted actions toward others.  Psychopaths can project an air of charm and charisma, they can appear otherwise quite normal, they could be Susie soccer mom, or the little league coach.

They are notorious for being able to fly under the radar. They go through life pretending to be a wonderful kind and giving person. 

The only people who know what monsters these people really are is their family.  The psychopaths family sees their tantrums, and rants. It is their family who suffers the most abuse by the psychopath.

As tragic as it is, sometimes people are attracted to the confidence and charm that psychopathic personalities project.  It is this charm that causes normal and intelligent people to ignore their internal danger sensors. By the time the victim comes to their senses, they have already been manipulated, devalued and in the worst case scenarios destroyed by these pathologically arrogant and unloving individuals.  

Make no mistake, no one is more dangerous than a person who believes that he or she is above others, and that he/she is so much better than everyone else, that the rules simply do not apply to them.  

These types feels entitled to prey on those viewed as inferior. — which is basically everyone. 

Psychopaths believe that they are “above” the law, they believe that the world owes them something.

This is obvious in their absence of sensitivity to those who are suffering, that are less fortchante. The psychopath judges people who are not in an elite group of some sort. They gravitate to these elite types because they want to expand their social status. 

They are comtempuous individuals and use gossip to destroy those that they see as a threat. The gossiping is usually so damaging to the targeted individual, the victim feels as if their life has been destroyed by the psychopath... 

Sociopaths And Stalking

Sociopaths stalk their victims and exes because they feel as if their victim belongs to them. They see their victim not as a human being but as a ‘material possession’. 

This story is from a friend of mine who has been dealing with a sociopathic ex now for over 12 years. 

It can be quite a scary experience for the victim. Sociopaths stalk in different ways. Some in personate their victim online to destroy their victims reputation. Others keep up with their victims online activity. And the real psychotic sociopaths actually follow their victim. Making the victim feel their life and the life of their children is in danger. 

Stalking is a crime in most states. But unfortunately by the time police interact the victim has usually been harmed.

When my ex stalked me, she also stalked my new girlfriend who is now my wife. She kept up with my online activity. And also my wife's. She would get information from our children about what we did at home we are we were going. It became to the point where I could not tell my own children basic things because I was afraid the information would get back to my psychopathic ex. 

She really targeted my wife, by impersonating her online. She started a blog pretending to be my wife and pretending to have an in mental illness. She wanted other people to believe that it was my wife who made the blog and was looking for help for ‘borderline personality disorder’. 

My ex-wife has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, when her mother made her see a psychiatrist or else she would cut off her from the money she gave her monthly. I don't believe that she has borderline personality disorder. I believe that she is a sociopath, a common every day sociopath. - this is just my opinion from what I know of her.   

I have had emails made up in my name. I have had credit cards in my name that my ex-wife applied for. She has financially done everything she possibly could to destroy me. 

I have had no contact with my ex-wife now for over a year. But that does not stop her from continuingly contacting me. She gives our children notes for me to read. I do not read them throw them away. She believes that I am her material possession and I ‘owe’ her my loyalty. 

Even though when we were married she was anything but loyal. 

It seems to me that sociopaths have a really “bad” memory. When it comes to remembering the cheating and lying they do. But they have an excellent memory when it comes to bringing up any small mistake you have made, or any kind of help/service they “think” they did for you. For instance - the 1995 model Lexus that I drove for years was in my ex wife's names, she still continues to bring up “that if it weren't for her I wouldn't have had a car to drive”. Though I gave that car back to her 7 years ago when she didn't have a car due to all the accidents she had. Yet she is still bringing it up. 

She got extremely angry when I bought my wife a new car. I simply told her, “that's my wife, it's not your business, tell your husband to buy you a car if you need one". As she had remarried as soon as our divorce finalized to the man she was cheating with so long. 

My children are almost adults (17 and 15). My daughter is responsible and has a car of her own now. Even though I was always planning to buy her a car, my ex wife's mother bought her the car. 

It's just another thing that my ex wife throws in my face. “What father doesn't buy his child a car on her 16th birthday?!” 

I wasn't given the option to even get my daughter a new car. Yet my ex wife is constantly telling anyone who will listen, what a piece of sh*t father I am. How I have completely abandoned my children, for my “new family”. Which could not be further from the truth. 

My daughter is on our insurance policy. I have paid my ex wife $3500 monthly since the day she said she was going to work out of town (she was really going to the Bahamas with her married boyfriend). She left me to take care of our then young children. I still had to work. It was hard for me, but I stepped up and did it. My children remember that. Though they rarely bring it up. 

I have never spread rumors about my ex wife. I remain Anonymous if I speak of my experience. Just as I am remaining anonymous on this blog post. 

I wish I could tell readers that this story has a happy ending. Unfortunately I cannot though. Even after being divorced for over 10 years, she has not stopped any of her craziness. 

I no longer try to please her, or give in to her, just for a day or two of peace. I realize that nothing I do will ever be enough. So when she tells people what a crappy father I am, I no longer get upset. My children know I am a good father. I support them emotionally, financially, and in any way they need me. My daughter now 17, comes over to spend time with us every week, and she brings her 15 year old brother. 

My ex wife wants to punish me. For what, I don't know. She cheated and left on her own. I was too busy caring for our young children to get angry or ‘revenge’.

It seems as though when I remarried, that is what really angered her. I suppose she feared that I would no longer be her puppet, and my new wife would influence me and point out that the way my ex treated me was not appropriate or right. And she was right.

I stopped allowing my ex wife to verbally abuse me and steal from me.

This has angered my ex, she really believed that she would be able to control me until the day I died. 

Unfortunately the only people who are really suffering from my ex-wife's a erratic and irrational behavior is our children. 

But fortunately my children have turned out to be wonderful, amazing, and brilliant little adults. It amazes me everyday at how smart and sweet they are. They have been through so much. 

My ex wife tells them terrible things about me and my wife. The children have chosen to make up their own minds about me and their step mother.  They see our actions, and how we do not speak ill of their mother, and we are consistent. 

I know that by having children with a sociopath, that my life will always have some sort of drama. My children will marry one day and have children and I  sure my ex wife will use what is suppose to be a wonderful occasions to make life unbearable.