Friday, April 4, 2014

You can't beat a sociopath but a BiGGER Sociopath can

Living well is the best revenge you can get on the sociopath...

Do not try to get the sociopath back for the harm they have caused you and your family. The truth is “NOTHING CAN OBSTRUCT THE WILL OF A SOCIOPATH”. You will fail if you are a normal person with a conscience. It's best to accept what happened to you and LEARN from it. But you must let it go. You are not going to get closure from a sociopath.

The reason we have a hard time letting go of the emotional harm that the sociopath causes is because they don't feel bad for what they did to us. They even continue to cause us more harm, well after they have slandered our name, stalked us, made us feel helpless and afraid. They are dangerous individuals.  Sociopaths are notorious for spreading lies, and attempting to destroy a person spirit, career, reputation, and life. 

The sociopathic predator turns on the charm, or plays the victim, and tries to convince everyone that you are mentally unstable. 


  • The best way to deal with a sociopath is knowing the person is a sociopath. Which most people associate the word sociopath with killers, rapist and those who commit sadistic crimes. They do not think the blonde, blue eyed, soccer mom is a candidate. In this particular situation (involving a female sociopath) usually takes an intelligent person on the outside looking in at the situation to identify what is going on.


I will not sugar coat this any. Because I have been targeted by a sociopath and I know the pain they cause. I have done my research. I realize that most people don't understand what a sociopath is until they are the victim of one. The sociopath can be anyone, and once targeted by one, you are going to lose everything. 
The only thing that can beat a sociopath is a bigger sociopath/psychopath. This means- only a person who is more cold and calculated, more heartless, smarter, and more physically at an advantage, while also lacking any conscience can take the "everyday sociopath" down. (Do not go searching for a bigger sociopath to take your textbook sociopath down)  Yes your chances of defeating one yourself is slim. But you put yourself in more danger by searching for an befriending someone you think is worse than the current sociopath you are dealing with. If you are lucky the sociopath will eventually target the "wrong" person - being the "bigger sociopath".  That will be the sociopaths demise. 
You will not see the sociopath demise, especially if you have no contact with them. And that is fine. The only reason you might see the demise of your sociopath is if you share children with the sociopathic slut. Then you have no choice but to deal with the sociopath occasionally. Knowing that you cannot beat the sociopath, you will get the advantage of seeing her slow demise when she has targeted a bigger sociopath accidentally. The sociopath is a bully and will target many people in her life. Eventually she goes after the wrong person. Due to drug use, and aging she is not as strategic as she use to be. A sociopath will not admit that her life is shit and she is losing all control of things she once had a strong control over.
All of the sudden she is not in control anymore. She is somehow exposed for a majority of her fraudulent dealings. Her career is what the “bigger” sociopath goes after first. The bigger sociopath will not stop until her career is destroyed. (The bigger sociopath has connections and has contacted people in high places that have the power to shut her down). Then the bigger sociopath goes after her finances. The bigger sociopath will figure out where and who she is getting money from and contact those sources. Until she no longer is financially secure. The bigger sociopath doesn't care in the least the impact it has on her children or her way of living. (Remember the bigger sociopath IS IN FACT A SOCIOPATH AND HAS NO 
CONSCIENCE OR REMORSE). The bigger sociopath is doing to the everyday sociopath what he/she has done to you! The bigger sociopath will not stop until the little sociopath loses all power and control they once possessed.  The bigger sociopath is able to take the
 typical everyday sociopath down. But DO NOT FORGET THAT THEY ARE STILL A SOCIOPATH. AND YOUR SOCIOPATH MESSED WITH THE WRONG PERSON – a more horrible person than them.... But the bigger sociopath has targeted the innocent before, and they are not a hero.  They are just doing what they do. Someone targeted them and they are fighting back, and they will win. 
The every day sociopath has no idea why their luck has turned and who is targeting them. They do not know they just f*cked with the wrong person. Because the bigger sociopath is able to cover all their tracks and unable to be exposed or discovered 

I have actually seen this happen to a friend of mines ex wife.  She caused so much chaos and problems. Used the kids against him to hurt and manipulate him. She tried to assassinate his character, and would just tell lies about him to his childrens school.  He paid her whatever she wanted just to get her to leave him alone. Then all the sudden she was exposed from stealing from clients and family. It was like it all just started going down hill for her. She lost her job. Was even publicly humiliated by having her name on the front news of the paper. Rather it was for the money she was stealing from clients, or for the hot checks she was writing. It was in the paper for everyone to see.  My friend had nothing to do with his ex wife spiral downward. We have come to the conclusion she picked the wrong person to target. Now she is an unemployed loser, and every time she tries to come back and regain trust in the community – but is unsuccessful. I'm assume a bigger sociopath is responsible... 

That's karma —


18 comments:

  1. Wow, just stumbled upon this article and this is totally speaking to me. I'm at a loss, because I've been deaLing with an ex that by far takes the cake. I need more information and would love to become as educated on this as possible because she won't leave me alone. We have cholden and she is supposed to be paying child support but she is getting away with skipping it right now, I need to arm myself with the knowledge to defeat her and wondered if you could suggest anything ?

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  2. Wow. As I was reading the article, I was thinking, "Great, another piece of passivist advice to let 'em get away with what was done to you and basically saying that karma will get 'em". No shit, at the end of the article it said "that's karma". However, you CAN beat a psychopath, if you learn how to be as wise as serpents. You have to learn how to be the bigger psychopath, but ONLY towards THEM. You cannot look at them as human. Humanizing them is how they play you, your morality and your unwillingness to do what has to be done. If they think there's something you won't do, they got ya. Everyone has a "darker side" and you must find yours, harness it, and use it appropriately. Much like self defense skills. You don't use them on everyone, just those you need to. I will say that it does require a fair amount of intelligence, study, and above all, courage.

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    1. For some reason I missed this comment. Just seeing it now. Honestly that is pretty good advice. I should have done it a long time ago. But I didn't know at the time how to deal with what was happening. So I was very reactive. Giving the sociopath exactly what they wanted. I'm at a point now in my life where it would be a waste of my time to care at all about them or change my character at all. I have simply put them out of my life. I never respond or react or acknowledge their existence.
      But I agree with you on what you said. If you must deal with one because they are family or you share small children with them - what you said is the way to go about handling them.

      Thank you

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  3. Wow, I know someone in my family who fits this criteria. A normal person on the outside would say "of all people, they stole from their own family, not even friends but your own blood? But yes, family is a never ending supply to this person because yes, I will always be around, sadly. This older this person gets the worse she gets, no job just bamboozles you out of money here and there, steals your belongings that they themselves wouldn't pay for even if they did have a job, and lies straight to your face. Has a child they do not ever want to see again obviously, because they've given up their rights but twisted the story about that too to make it look like she was SELFLESS MOM, a great mom trying to get on their feet, right. All of the money she manages to get from enabling family members is spent on useless drugs. But hides the fact that she was indeed doing drugs, because she's a MOM. I get disgusted anytime she even calls herself a parent. She is completely absent but makes it out to be their fault for not being available the minute she wants to see her kid. it's sad really, and that's why I've always been there, because I feel BAD for this person having nothing but its absolutely this persons fault all the way. I did not start working at 16 to give her cute clothes to wear. I started working because I was bored and tired of being broke and I did want those nice things and it's easier to me to work for it than to beg for it, or con people into getting it for me because hello, my pride? obvs this person has no shame in the first place so there's no point in pointing out flaws besides I'm just not that type of person. I'm just sick of my things going missing and hearing bs lies about it. and the energy sucking, this person is just a black shameless spiteful rage filled hole and I can't wait until she realizes this and gets her life together. doubt it though, bc my family just enables. always have.

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    1. If she is a narcissist or sociopath, unfortunately she will never realize anything she has done. She will not take responsibility for anything. And she will always place anything she has done and been caught for on another person.
      On the other hand if this person just has a serious drug problem, and some mental illness, there maybe hope that once she stops using drugs, she will see what she has done and will feel remorse for it.
      But a sociopath is incapable of remorse or admitting guilt or feeling guilty and feeling bad about anything they have done. They are however able to mimic empathy quite well and may pretend to feel remorse and promise to never do this again (usually this only happens because family or the money source is refusing to enable them anymore) so they straighten up long enough to get back in the good graces and once they are back in, the manipulation and other negative behaviors will start back again, but the sociopath will be much more discreet with them.

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  4. I've been dealing with a sociopath for 10 years, and now his son. His son was brought up the same way by his father. What they are doing now is marking my car, making it look like stone chips and then leaving something in front of my door so I know they were there. The police will not do anything, since I never see these people do it. These people are such jokes.

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  5. I've been dealing with a sociopath for 10 years, and now his son. His son was brought up the same way by his father. What they are doing now is marking my car, making it look like stone chips and then leaving something in front of my door so I know they were there. The police will not do anything, since I never see these people do it. These people are such jokes.

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    1. I have had the same problem for going on five years now. Thus man is not an ex just someone who has a history of bullying and targeting disabled women but stays away when a man is here. What is worse is he is the first selectman of a very small (400 people) town in central Maine. I don't know what started him stalking me...maybe because I became disabled after retuning from Iraq. I moved out onto my property off grid and am homesteading. Maybe my isolation from the public maybe because of PTSD or that I am female, which seems to be his primary targets. He has had me served out of the blue with little to no contact with a restraining order to attempt to have me removed from my property. He has successfully done this to another disabled woman who moved. He has tried to use my military trying and 20 career against me.Ge gas lied and put on his deed that the public way is a private road that belongs to him. He has block me in with 20' long 8' high and 10' deep snow banks with wood and boulders in them so they could not be plowed he has tried to smear my name and character. He uses his children to harass me as well. I did not could not understand that how a person could behave this way. It all was devastating and very hurtful to my recovery from the war. I decided to fight back and have exposed him to the police using video cameras and deer cams. The police and troopers and wardens know what he is now but do very little to help even when he breaks the law. I have spent much money to prove and expose him yet he still stalks me breaking the law to the point the police won't even respond. I have researching his behavior and him to be the epitome of a sociopath. Even though he has been shown for what he is he still attempts to corner me for his needs. He has contaminated the district attorney so that I couldn't use him for simple things. He went after my dogs...the things I love. He attempted to be nice to me and I blew him off not stopping to talk. I hold my head high and show that I am happy. Now he creates situation's where I have to talk to him such as, blocking my private deeded ROW on his ATV where I cannot pass, waiting on the road for me trying to have me arrested for improving my ROW target shooting on my own property. Please know that this man does not live anywhere near me and his other lot is 2.5 mile's away from me, he lives 5 miles away from me. He was especially pissed when I was on the front page of the local paper describing his lies and behavior about his claim the road was in fact public... I spent more money to prove the road was indeed open to the public. At any rate with my research I have learned much and can better handle the forced meetings he sets up and feel so much better about myself. My joy in providing for myself and my animals has returned to a very enlightening state, my smile is genuine in simply knowing what drives thus monster.

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    1. Dear administrator, I would like to ask you to remove this comment I did (ABetterWorldDecember 16, 2016 at 11:42 PM).
      After some more reflection, I don't think it is something really worth to share about why/how someone is going to hurt some other person. This is just igniting more hatress in this world. "A better world" means more love should be given not poison.
      Thanks

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  7. You can defeat them. I am a Christian and prayed to God. God punished the psychopath directly. Today is this person behind bars thanks to God. God sees and hears evil psychopath and will sooner or later punish evil person.

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    1. That is good news to hear that the person who was making your life difficult and miserable is where they belong. Behind bars.
      I support everyone's religious beliefs, as in sometimes those beliefs are the only thing we have to hold on to, in order to get through such a unbearable situation. Aka the sociopath, narcissist, psychopath

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    2. I´d like it was true, my father is a SP, I ´ve prayed for more than 3 years now and simply NOTHING changed. Will he be punished after death????

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  8. I have had the unfortunate case of falling for a female sociopath. She came as I was getting divorced and was the best thing I could imagine! WRONG
    She went from being perfect and trying to instantly marry me,wanted to get pregnant buy things to almost ruining my health,taking my house, ruining my business, and making me feel insane. But I got lucky in that modern technology has the ability to catch things. I was told start recording things when we talked because I started feeling it in my gut and reached out to someone who thought I should record them and have a true memory of the crazy attacks that she said never happened. She tried to use cops,false info for protective order,lied in court and said we never had a realtionship. Even convinced ex wife of it and uses her as a flying monkey to attack me. It got so crazy that my sociopath was a nurse who had stole drugs prior to meeting me and during from different hospitals that were still in their coded packages that I found when she had me evicted from my own house which I was paying mortgage on. She accused me of having drugs, those were mine,spy cams,stealing money etc. Well guess what...I have video and audio that my lawyer suggested to do anytime I dealt with her. So now she is on third lawyer,moved in immediately with new guy and pregnant week into it. Hauling me into court again. She is a nurse and we turned over drugs and has a state investigation with dea going on because of her lies I had to turn them in to protect myself. I have audio of her being high on Adderall while working in a i.c.u. unit, audio of threatening to burn house down with me in it, promise to make my life a living hell, tons of her saying I am crazy,delusional,etc..and text of proof on proof of her violations that we turned over as a reaction to her accusations. She thinks she has beat it all and is above all and crushed me because I have gone silent for months on fb etc and scared. I was a wreck mentally but got lucky because I have a great family and when I had to get a protective order ,which she broke and said didn't exist and I was delusional in front of her new source and have video on, the cops after seeing the text and hearing audio,video used the term sociopath and I started reading up and I have a bad one..every guy she dated or ex husband she says beat her,raped her, on drugs and we are all narcissist. I have found most of us are empaths and others had no proof or the info of multiple felonies,her lies and proof from court etc. So she uses technology and fb to attack me and it now is coming back to haunt her because I have proof that is going to kill her career and possibly put her in jail. So if you get a gut feeling when the tide starts getting rough and your gut tells you.....DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT...CALLS,TEXT,emails, protect yourself and keep it all away from them or lock your phone...whatever you have to do. I'm I am strong enough to fight back because of it and she is a danger to her patients etc and this is maybe 20 percent of what has happened. But keep yourself safe at all cost. I had a close call as did her ex when he stood his ground. VERY VERY DANGEROUS
    If you dealing with one good.luck and you are not alone and not crazy.

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  9. how do you handle the sociopath's many many minions who are mocking you, making fun of you behind your back but while you're near enough to hear it all. doing & saying the same things over & over just to drive you mad & for their "inside joke" with each other, their entertainment. they think it's funny & fun to bully you. they think it's a big joke. they love it.
    what do you do? respond to it or pretend you dont know what they are doing to you. beside leaving the workplace where this is happening & besides trying to ignore them as they are terrorizing you & stressing you out, making you depressed. what can or what should you do in response to their harmful actions? what if some of management is also involved in the minion behavior? besides flat out leaving the job, what is the best way to handle the situation? i have been ingnoring & pretending I dont know what they are doing although the look on my face or my sudden depressed attitude probably says it all. how are you suppose to deal with the minions?

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  10. Do you just let them go on to do it to someone else . That's just wrong. Cause what this man has done to has taken my life away from me . I have no friends I'm alone all the time I have so much hate in me . It's not even over yet

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  11. It's a sickening disorder. What is the right way to go about dealing with these paths?
    From all the articles I've read I still don't feel satisfied with the answers I've read.
    What is the right thing to do to make it stop?
    Unfortunately my conclusion is it will never go away. These paths are dispicable people, they are mentally ill, its a mental disorder & sometimes that is hard to remember with the pain they've inflicted is so bad.

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