The Borderline Psychopath

The female sociopath can be the most difficult and exhausting of personality disordered women to deal with. "Borderline psychopath" is usually the diagnosis a psychiatrist will give to the female sociopath. Female sociopaths are much more spiteful, vindictive and manipulation than their male counterpart. Women are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed as a “borderline psychopath” than men. 

Borderline psychopaths are mean, conniving, hateful, vengeful, superficial, ruthless and dangerous. They are the like sociopaths, having no conscience, no remorse, and no empathy for life, but the borderline psychopath is worse. 

They want to be in control and are demanding. Most of them are attention seekers. Any relationship (lovers, family or the few friends the sociopath may have) are constantly having to deal with the consequences of “knowing” this unstable & unpredictable woman. They create problems, they stir up drama, and they never take responsibility for their behaviors. 

Female sociopaths are relentless, they will tear the victim to shreds given over time. Their goal is destroy the persons self esteem, and confidence. So that they can more easily control and influence their victim.

It's very hard to deal with these types. The best way is to not deal with them. Be courteous if you were to see them, but limite any contact with them. If they are trying to contact you, they will use any strategy they can think of to get you to respond. If you have children with this person (God bless your soul) then you can expect them to make up lies about the children to try to guilt you to respond to them. *Remember most everything they tell you will BE A LIE, it's just a desperate attempt to get you to talk to them*. Why? 

Because it's all about control. If you are limiting your contact with the borderline psychopath. They are not in control of you. They want to have that control of you. Either because at one time they had that control, and they feel you are a possession they rightfully own. They don't see you as a human being. But more as an object to be used to their expense. The best thing for you to do is ignore them and have little to No contact with them. This doesn't necessarily mean they will leave you alone, a good friend of mine still receives 10-20 text messages a day from his borderline psyhotic ex wife. And he hasn't responded in over 2 years. Yet her relentlessness and desperation continues. Everything from one of the kids have depression due to his lack of responding, to cancer. Yet he does not fight with her, he just refuses to be manipulated and controlled. From the kids point of view they would never see their parents fighting. The borderline psychopath has more than likely told the children that their father will not get along with her and she is trying so hard to get along with him - poor poor victim - she is always the victim. When the reality is, he is simply limiting his contact. The borderline psychopath will try every trick she can to get a response. 

The borderline psychopath and the sociopathic female will spread all kinds of lies and nasty rumors (this is something she is notorious for) and she has usually been doing this since  childhood.  She is an accomplished liar and professional cheater, she is always looking for the easier road to travel (she is lazy). Her kind of personality does not know anything about honesty. They have perfected conniving and manipulation with a malicious intent. 

Female sociopaths have an uncanny ability to find a character flaw in their target that can be exploited to destroy whoever they feel is a threat to their control and power. 

Women are usually more co-operative and caring. But not the female sociopath (borderline psychopath). They do not feel any empathy towards their victims. They do not feel bad about bullying and destroying people. They are seeking dominance and control. Women are usually mothers, nurturers and caregivers. Not the female sociopath.

Many people do not realize how emotionally and mentally damaging this particular type of woman can be. She is cold hearted and ruthless, while pretending to be so compassionate. She will always tell her sad story. Like how her mother neglected her as a child, and her ex husband was an abusive alcoholic who took advantage of her kindness. If you think you might be dealing with one of these women, watch how she claims to be the victim of everyone else, but notice how aggressive she is going about it. 

Real Victims are not aggressive and vengeful. Real victims are focused on how they heal from the abuse they suffered. They are not looking for pity or retribution. Real victims are looking for peace of mind and recovery. Real victims rarely talk about how they were abused, and rarely mention their abusers name. 

While the borderline psychopath is looking to defame and destroy the reputation of their victim by vilifying them and accusing them of heinous and horrific behaviors. Usually the borderline psychopath will accuse their victim of acts that they themselves are guilty of. I.E. — stalking, cyber bullying, obsession, verbal abuse, impersonation, character assassination, etc.... 

Female Sociopaths are difficult to spot because most of them are incredibly good at hiding their true self and their motives. It is really difficult to believe the extent that the sociopath will go to, in order to destroy their target. The dirty tricks and unproven rumors that female sociopath/borderline psychopath  regularly uses against their victims can be devastating. 

The female sociopath is an out of control individual, she manipulates and punishes at will. Unfortunately the female sociopath is described as the vindictive or alienating abusive ex-wife. Who uses the children to manipulate and control her ex-husband. The children are passed around to relatives and friends like a rag doll, in order to keep them away from their father, only so the sociopath can say what a shit father he is. Until the sociopath gets what she wants she will use her children against their father, in another desperate attempt to gain control over him. 

Unfortunately this does not end when the children are of legal age, the female sociopath will still try to use them against her ex-husband, even when they are adults. Most cases I have seen either end with the adult children seeing what their mother is doing and eventually they will refuse to have anymore contact with her.  Or sadly, they fall into the trap the mother has set, and the father has no relationship with his adult children. 

The children who take the side of  their sociopathic mother can end up as crazy as she is. On a positive note, the father usually ends up ok, despite a few psychological wounds (that can be healed). He has dealt with this raging lunatic for decades. He has been insulted, manipulated, and verbally abused by her. It usually comes as no surprise to him that his ex has turned his children against him. The man has usually remarried a supportive, and caring woman (opposite of his psychopathic ex-wife). He is able to move forward and accept the situation that his vindictive ex-wife has created. He is able to accept the loss, because he is emotionally mature enough to realize that there is NOTHING he can do to change anything.  The ex has lied and brainwashed the children for years. He is just too physically & emotionally exhausted. He has no fight left.   So he chooses to invest the little energy he has left on his current family. He usually can see that fighting with a borderline psychopath (his ex) is useless. She is evil, and she wants him to pay (as if he hasn't paid enough, when she cheated and lied to him for years). 

She is so delusional that after playing the victim for so long she actually believes she is the victim. Trait of a truly psychotic and dangerous woman. 

You can't beat a sociopath but a BiGGER Sociopath can

Living well is the best revenge you can get on the sociopath...

Do not try to get the sociopath back for the harm they have caused you and your family. The truth is “NOTHING CAN OBSTRUCT THE WILL OF A SOCIOPATH”. You will fail if you are a normal person with a conscience. It's best to accept what happened to you and LEARN from it. But you must let it go. You are not going to get closure from a sociopath.

The reason we have a hard time letting go of the emotional harm that the sociopath causes is because they don't feel bad for what they did to us. They even continue to cause us more harm, well after they have slandered our name, stalked us, made us feel helpless and afraid. They are dangerous individuals.  Sociopaths are notorious for spreading lies, and attempting to destroy a person spirit, career, reputation, and life. 

The sociopathic predator turns on the charm, or plays the victim, and tries to convince everyone that you are mentally unstable. 

• The best way to deal with a sociopath is knowing the person is a sociopath. Which most people associate the word sociopath with killers, rapist and those who commit sadistic crimes. They do not think the blonde, blue eyed, soccer mom is a candidate. In this particular situation (involving a female sociopath) usually takes an intelligent person on the outside looking in at the situation to identify what is going on.

I will not sugar coat this any. Because I have been targeted by a sociopath and I know the pain they cause. I have done my research. I realize that most people don't understand what a sociopath is until they are the victim of one. The sociopath can be anyone, and once targeted by one, you are going to lose everything. 
The only thing that can beat a sociopath is a bigger sociopath/psychopath. This means- only a person who is more cold and calculated, more heartless, smarter, and more physically at an advantage, while also lacking any conscience can take the "everyday sociopath" down. (Do not go searching for a bigger sociopath to take your textbook sociopath down)  Yes your chances of defeating one yourself is slim. But you put yourself in more danger by searching for an befriending someone you think is worse than the current sociopath you are dealing with. If you are lucky the sociopath will eventually target the "wrong" person - being the "bigger sociopath".  That will be the sociopaths demise. 
You will not see the sociopath demise, especially if you have no contact with them. And that is fine. The only reason you might see the demise of your sociopath is if you share children with the sociopathic slut. Then you have no choice but to deal with the sociopath occasionally. Knowing that you cannot beat the sociopath, you will get the advantage of seeing her slow demise when she has targeted a bigger sociopath accidentally. The sociopath is a bully and will target many people in her life. Eventually she goes after the wrong person. Due to drug use, and aging she is not as strategic as she use to be. A sociopath will not admit that her life is shit and she is losing all control of things she once had a strong control over.
All of the sudden she is not in control anymore. She is somehow exposed for a majority of her fraudulent dealings. Her career is what the “bigger” sociopath goes after first. The bigger sociopath will not stop until her career is destroyed. (The bigger sociopath has connections and has contacted people in high places that have the power to shut her down). Then the bigger sociopath goes after her finances. The bigger sociopath will figure out where and who she is getting money from and contact those sources. Until she no longer is financially secure. The bigger sociopath doesn't care in the least the impact it has on her children or her way of living. (Remember the bigger sociopath IS IN FACT A SOCIOPATH AND HAS NO 
CONSCIENCE OR REMORSE). The bigger sociopath is doing to the everyday sociopath what he/she has done to you! The bigger sociopath will not stop until the little sociopath loses all power and control they once possessed.  The bigger sociopath is able to take the
 typical everyday sociopath down. But DO NOT FORGET THAT THEY ARE STILL A SOCIOPATH. AND YOUR SOCIOPATH MESSED WITH THE WRONG PERSON – a more horrible person than them.... But the bigger sociopath has targeted the innocent before, and they are not a hero.  They are just doing what they do. Someone targeted them and they are fighting back, and they will win. 
The every day sociopath has no idea why their luck has turned and who is targeting them. They do not know they just f*cked with the wrong person. Because the bigger sociopath is able to cover all their tracks and unable to be exposed or discovered 

I have actually seen this happen to a friend of mines ex wife.  She caused so much chaos and problems. Used the kids against him to hurt and manipulate him. She tried to assassinate his character, and would just tell lies about him to his childrens school.  He paid her whatever she wanted just to get her to leave him alone. Then all the sudden she was exposed from stealing from clients and family. It was like it all just started going down hill for her. She lost her job. Was even publicly humiliated by having her name on the front news of the paper. Rather it was for the money she was stealing from clients, or for the hot checks she was writing. It was in the paper for everyone to see.  My friend had nothing to do with his ex wife spiral downward. We have come to the conclusion she picked the wrong person to target. Now she is an unemployed loser, and every time she tries to come back and regain trust in the community – but is unsuccessful. I'm assume a bigger sociopath is responsible... 

That's karma —