Covert Abuse and Emotional Manipulation

       

A sociopath wants to gain control over you. They will use deceptive and underhanded ways to change your thinking. Their victim doesn't realize that this is even happening, until it is too late. 

They sociopath says subtle things that are meant to erode your esteem and emotional well being. They will chip at you and your self worth until there is very little of it left. 

A sociopath sees themselves as superior and sees others as nothing now than an object to be used. Sociopaths have No Empathy, no guilt, no remorse, and no conscience. They use you for their entertainment purposes only. 

They become bored with you and start to hate you eventually, even when you have done nothing but try to please them. Their behavior is cruel, horrific, and can psychologically, mentally, and physically destroy you. 

A sociopath can spot your weakness, your strengths and your fears easily. They will use all of these against you to gain control over you. They will stop at nothing to get what they want out of you, even if it means hurting you. 

Next thing you realize is that your once loving relationship has turned into a demeaning, degrading relationship. Leaving you confused and diminishing your self respect, self worth, and self esteem. The sociopath wants you to feel like you are losing your mind. Their intention is to make you question reality. The victim finds him/herself blaming themself for the sociopath not loving them like they use to. The victim believes it is their fault their once loving relationship has turned cold. The sociopath wants you to feel this way. They relish in the fact that they have brought you down to a rock bottom level. The sociopath is evil. 

It's hard to imagine anyone treating someone like this ON PURPOSE. But that is exactly what the sociopath does. The sociopath wants to turn you into a crying and begging emotional wreck. The victim struggles with feelings of powerlessness, and deep knife stabbing pain. The victim loses all sense of their self worth, they sometimes may turn to drugs or alcohol. The victim is so damaged that they become depressed, and withdrawn. They start to isolate and lose the support of others they use to have. 

If you are the target of a malicious and vindictive sociopath, you must remember IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! The sociopaths plan from the beginning was to harm you emotionally. They enjoy seeing others beg and plead, and then they feel accomplished in the fact that they can deny the victim and walk away. 

This is emotional rape. A covert emotional manipulator methodically wears down their victim. At it's worse, victims lose all sense of self and their personal values. 

Sociopaths do not look like monsters. Most of them are someone that looks just like Suzie soccer mom, or dan the loving father who attends all his kids PTA meetings. These sociopaths are so dangerous because they blend end so well, that the only people who suffer are the sociopaths children and partner and other family members. They fly under the radar, committing small crimes like fraud, identity theft, slander and defamation, and if they are in a business where money can be laundered and stolen – you can bet the sociopath is doing these things. They are 100% stealing from their partner and family. They will take out credit cards and loans in their victims name. When caught they use excuses and other manipulations, such as gas- lighting. Saying to the victim “you knew I got this card, you knew about this loan, we talked about it, remember?”

The victim is then left confused and questioning their own sanity. 

Sociopaths have contempt for their victims. They have no remorse about any of the deceptive things they do to their partner. They cheat with other people, they lie, steal, and destroy their victim one piece at a time. 

When confronted for any of these behaviors the sociopath blames and will spin the story, to make you look crazy. 

Why does the sociopath do this to someone who loves them, and has continued to make efforts to save the marriage, to fix things, and to please them? It's because they have no love inside them. They have no good in them. They have an evil mentality that aims to destroy anyone or anything that they cross paths with. 

Sociopaths feels a sense of entitlement. They are not capable of having  a meaningful and honest relationship with anyone...

They will never be able to form healthy attachments to another person. Being that they are incaple of loving anyone or receiving love from anyone. Even if their victim loves them, they are unable to feel it. All they feel is hate and anger toward the person who tries to love them.

At their core, the sociopath is filled with rage, and mental issues. The sociopath  will attempt to project their own mental instability onto their partner or the person who confronts them. 

When you are in a relationship with a sociopath, you will come to realize that they are unreliable and irresponsible. Yet, the sociopath becomes enraged and vengeful if they believe you have not followed through on something you said you will do. Even if you were unable to do something due to illness or a death in your family. The sociopath doesn't care. They will never be there for you emotionally. They see you as emotionally weak, and usually when you are feeling more vulnerable and weak, the sociopath sees it as am opportunity to kick you while you are down.

This is a very abusive and vicious cycle that the sociopath always puts you in. Rarely sociopaths abuse you physically. It is all about controlling and abusing you psychologically and emotionally. But that is not to say that the sociopath will NOT become physically violent with you. They are capable of physical abuse. More so in men than women.. 

What is so "crazy making" about the sociopath is that they actually expect you  to show them gratitude for any menial task they have done. Even after neglecting you for months and emotionally abusing you. If they do the smallest thing, they expect you to kiss their feet and adore them for that. 

When you know something in your relationship is just not quite “right”. And you suspect that your partner is a sociopath. The best thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your children, is to get out of that abusive situation. No matter what. If you are married and share children with the sociopath, you can expect life long drama and conflict. They will resent you for leaving them! How dare you! And even after moving on, and remarrying, they will always use your children to torment you. 

Unless you have experienced this kind of abuse, it's hard to understand the damage that is has taken on the victim. If the victim finally realizes that their quality of life has been suffering and that they have been living in fear and misery and decides to leave the sociopath. They realize the harm that the sociopath will cause them. They have to see that leaving the sociopath is more beneficial than staying with them to endure abuse the rest of their life. 

The Psychopath aka My ex wife and BiGGest mistake

Sociopathic and psychopathic women are some of the worlds greatest deceivers, liars, and con artist.

They seem innocent and confident. They are always charming and precise in everything. In the beginning they will use their charismatic persona to make a great impression on you. They will drop surprise gifts with a smile on their face, without any notable reason. They will talk to you about subjects that are important to you. At times, they will ask you why something is important to you. They are trying to find out things about you - to use it against you later. They are looking for your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. They will ask personal questions, asking as if they care so much - then use your answer later on in order to destroy you with it. 

Know that, even though they seem nice and friendly, Trustworthy and ethical, understand that they are FAR from it. If your skin crawls for no reason while talking to someone, it’s best to get away from them and avoid that person in the future. REMEMBER YOUR LIFE IS AT STAKE. Once involved with this "wolf in sheeps clothing" you are at risk for living a very unhappy life. If you happen to have children with this psychopath, you will spend the rest of your life being bullied, threatened, black mailed, guilt tripped and manipulated. 

The Psychopathic/Sociopathic Personality is extremely dangerous. Not only are they skilled in destroying you from the inside, out, they are also very adept at ruining other’s lives, while using the victim as their own pawn.  There are no limits to what the Psychopathic/Sociopathic personality is capable of. They will blind-side you, even when you feel you have done well to cut him/her off at the pass. When you have trained yourself to think like them, in order to protect yourself. You will never be fully aware of what this individual is doing, until it’s already happened.  Many tend to become more care-less with age. Meaning the older they get, they less cerebral they are, the more lies they have to remember, the more fried their brain is from their careless lifestyle, of drinking and a using drugs. 

Sociopaths will not usually keep there facade up after the age of 40. They begin to slip up, the mask begins to come off and they become exposed. Then once people figure them out - it's over for them. They are reduced to committing petty fraudulent acts, but are unable to manipulate others like they use to - because now everyone has been screwed over or lied to by the sociopath and no one wants anything to do with her. Yet she will still parade around like she is above everyone else. She will usually turn to the Internet to project her lies and manipulation. 

I still remember all the horrific things my ex wife did to me, and that she still is doing to me, and my wife, and my child and even to my step daughter, who is very young. All her extreme manipulation, guilt tripping, blaming, accusing, bullying my wife, and my step daughter. It was when she verbally attacked my step daughter, I realized I was not dealing with a normal person anymore, I was dealing with a monster, who had no conscious and didn't care who she hurt. She was evil. She is a bad human being.  I was and am 100% positive I am dealing with a Psychopath. 

She knows I am no longer the person she "thought" she could manipulate and put down. Even after our divorce, I still did as she told me to. It was my wife who made me realize there was something "NOT NORMAL" about the situation. That ex wives are ex wives for a reason. I did not owe her anything. All I was responsible for was making sure my child was taken care of. She expected me to come to her home in Christmas morning and put together toys for our child, in the house she shared with her new husband (one of the many men she was having an affair with during our marriage) I had a new family and once I remarried my obligation is to my wife. I see my child and he opens the gifts we get him at our house on Christmas. I will NEVER SPEND ANOTHER HOLIDAY WITH MY EX AGAIN. Recently her mother threatened me in a text message, threatening my life. Then proceeded to call my work and change up very important meetings. That's when I knew I had to take drastic measures. Even if it that means taking legal action against her, filing a protection order, it's obvious she doesn't plan on respecting my boundaries or me. She is an evil, conscienceless, lying, and conning Psychopath. 

She has made accusations on my wife. Everything from posting all over the Internet that my wife is obsessed with her. Jealous of her. Insecure. And when my wife had enough she defended herself, which made the psychopath even more fueled to post slander and defamation about my wife.  She was vilifying the real victim. Everything she accused my wife of - was exactly the things she was doing to my wife. It is obvious to me, my wife and the rest of the world who is really insecure and jealous. The psychopath! My wife Has everything the psychopath wishes she possessed. Which is beauty, youth, intelligence, persistence, and what the psychopath really hates about my wife is her kindness, and how liked she is by everyone. The psychopaths actions are so predictable that my wife is afraid for her safety and her daughters. Now the psychopath can finally see that she is unable to manipulate me anymore. I never respond to her. What is the point? Everything she says is a lie, 100% a lie. For. Telling me that my child had cancer, to depression. I communicate with my child, not the mother because she is so insane. 

I have to re-emphasize the fact that I am NOT a Psychological professional of any sort. Everything I post about is from my personal experience with a sociopathic woman, and the information I have found out about my sociopath and sociopaths/psychopaths in general .  I am still learning. I feel it is important to share what i have been through and what I’m learning with others, so hopefully they will not ever have to go what I have been through and am still going through. If I am incorrect in my thinking. I always welcome comments from others, so I can Learn more and here their story as well...