The Sociopath uses projection to bully their victims

Sociopaths are Adult Bullies...

The have a particular hatred for anyone who can see through their deception and mask of deceit. They are the worst kind of bullies, because they aren't the big kid, openly picking on you so that others see it and you can ask for help. They take another approach to bully. They will launch a malicious personal attack on you. They will attack your credentials, qualifications, and your personality. They will tell others you suffer from a personality disorder, such a borderline or psychopathy.  They will tell people they think are important, hoping that those people will believe it and dismiss you. 

Sociopathic Bullies and Projection

Sociopathic bullies project their inadequacies, behaviors, and shortcomings onto other people to avoid facing up to their own inadequacy. They falsely accuse others of what they themselves are guilty of. This way they feel they distract and divert attention away from themselves and their own insecurities. Projection is achieved through critisim, blame and making false allegations, these allegations are actually admissions the sociopath is making  about themselves. 

Once you realize this, every accusation and critisim and lie that the sociopath makes toward you (or whoever their target is at the time) this is actually a revelation about who they are and what they have done.  This knowledge is good to have when you are the target of the sociopath. For instance – if the sociopathic bully accuses their target of cyber stalking, bullying their children, being a home wrecker, or being stupid. It is likely that the sociopath has committed these acts. They do not want others to figure out that they are cyber stalking, or physically stalking someone. The sociopath is a bully to their own children and also to other peoples children. Sociopaths are notorious for being promiscuous. They have no qualms about committing adultery or breaking up a family.  

But they do not want anyone to know about these indiscretions.... 

 

The sociopathic bully fears being exposed. That is why they point the finger and accuse others in a emotionally injuring way. If the sociopath thinks someone sees through there bullsh*t, and this person could expose them for who they really are. That person is a threat to the sociopath. 

The sociopath doesn't just target a person who sees through their crap. They also are bullying other targets for personal reasons. Sociopathic bullies usually have a few victims they are tormenting.  The goal of the sociopathic bully is to destroy the persons reputation, so that no one will believe the target when they speak up about being bullied or slandered. 

It is Highly likely that sociopathic bully is committing the same acts or has committed these acts against the person that they are making the accusation towards.

This is very important knowledge to have when you are dealing with a person who has psychopathic tendencies, or someone who fits the description of a personality disordered individual. 

When the sociopaths bullying and smear campaigning becomes apparent to other people, the sociopathic bully will play the “Mental Health Trap”. Claiming their target is “unstable” or “mentally ill” or has a “mental health problem”. 

  This allegation is a projection of the sociopaths own mental health issues, insecurities, and fear of being exposed. 

If this trap is being used on you, and it is damaging your career or your ability to find employment. You can take legal action against the sociopathic bully. You will have to assert “projection” as a defense against disciplinary action as a part of your legal proceedings.

Projection is a key feature in identifying a person who has a psychopathic or "cluster B" personality disorder.

It is a fact that when held accountable the psychopathic personality will accuse the person who is “unmasking” them of being the one with the “mental illness” or the one who has a personality disorder.

If you feel someone is targeting you. It's important to look closely at what they are saying about you and accusing you of. You will find that everything they accuse you of and slander you with, they in fact are guilty of doing.

They put others down - to make them look better

Sociopaths think that in order to make themselves look better, they must make others look bad. Sociopaths boost their egos by putting others down. The confident and arrogant act the sociopath, is just that — An Act.. They are actually self-centered individuals. The feel greed, rage, and jealousy.                             

They want what they don't have. They are not grateful for the things that they do have. They are always jealous of family members, such as a sister or brother, their own mother, any step or half siblings. Sociopath can even become jealous of their own children – if the child shines brighter than the sociopath. 

Sociopath usually befriend people that they think they can dominate - i.e. – caring, empathic people, nice guys. Basically anyone who has a good conscience and is not confrontational.  

The Nice Guy - Nice guys are easy targets for the female sociopath. They are  easy prey for the sociopath. The relationship will start out with the sociopath being nice. Always telling you how sweet and nice you are. As the relationship goes on, she will randomly be nasty and mean. Pretty soon the nastiness and mean performances become more frequent. Before you know it you are trapped in a negative, unloving, and exploitive life. While the sociopath disappears for days at a time. Leaving you to care for any children and household responsibilities. If the sociopath works – don't expect her to put any of her money in the bankin account and contribute to the house bills. She becomes ruthless and cold toward you. But she has ripped your self worth into shreds, so much so – you don't have the strength to confront her anymore. 

Female sociopaths are just as predatory as the male sociopath. They are just more covert about how they destroy you.

All sociopaths have a lifelong history of lying, manipulating, using, ending relationships abruptly - without any warning, distorts facts, shows no remorse, use children to manipulate, vilifying victims, does not get along with family members, always is in conflict with someone and always the victim. 

Sociopathic individuals do horrible things, destroy lives and families. They feel no remorse for anything they do. They leave a trail of shit behind them, expecting someone else to clean it up. They cheat, they lie, they abuse and they use the innocence of children to exploit others. 

They are the worst people in the world. They are capable of killing, although most never do. They kill your spirit and slaughter you emotionally but they won't physically kill you- usually. There of course is always exceptions 

Sociopaths and Envy

Envy- Sociopath/narcissist/psychopaths  all experience a level of envy toward their targets that is lethal. 

Whatever the sociopath sees in you that she/he knows they cannot be, want to be, or with something that she/he views that you have “won” in some way, envy can appear as rage in the smear campaign. The sociopath starts rumors and spreads lies to ruin your good reputation because they are jealous of your status and their reputation is usually pretty bad. 

Sometimes this envy is obvious and sometimes it is not obvious. But when it is, the sociopath in your life will leave you no doubt as to what that envy might be.

The sociopath will often accuse you of being jealous of them, stalking them. They do this because they are actually the jealous and they are probably staling you. 

Remember what the sociopath accuses you of IS USUALLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO YOU. 

Sociopathic women are usually more prone to smear campaigns than men. They are  less violent than men, but they are just as destructive if not more so than a sociopathic man. Becauee they seek to destroy you emotionally, mentally and socially 

The best way to handle a sociopathic woman. Is to never give her that reaction she craves. Limit contact or No contact. 

No contact if you have no connections like children with this woman. Limited if you have children. Only respond to her if it is absolutely necessary. She will make every situation an emergency when it is not. She will lie about kids in order to get her ex husband to respond. Learn to ignore her and realize that 99% of what she says is NOT TRUE 

The Psychopath aka My ex wife and BiGGest mistake

Sociopathic and psychopathic women are some of the worlds greatest deceivers, liars, and con artist.

They seem innocent and confident. They are always charming and precise in everything. In the beginning they will use their charismatic persona to make a great impression on you. They will drop surprise gifts with a smile on their face, without any notable reason. They will talk to you about subjects that are important to you. At times, they will ask you why something is important to you. They are trying to find out things about you - to use it against you later. They are looking for your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. They will ask personal questions, asking as if they care so much - then use your answer later on in order to destroy you with it. 

Know that, even though they seem nice and friendly, Trustworthy and ethical, understand that they are FAR from it. If your skin crawls for no reason while talking to someone, it’s best to get away from them and avoid that person in the future. REMEMBER YOUR LIFE IS AT STAKE. Once involved with this "wolf in sheeps clothing" you are at risk for living a very unhappy life. If you happen to have children with this psychopath, you will spend the rest of your life being bullied, threatened, black mailed, guilt tripped and manipulated. 

The Psychopathic/Sociopathic Personality is extremely dangerous. Not only are they skilled in destroying you from the inside, out, they are also very adept at ruining other’s lives, while using the victim as their own pawn.  There are no limits to what the Psychopathic/Sociopathic personality is capable of. They will blind-side you, even when you feel you have done well to cut him/her off at the pass. When you have trained yourself to think like them, in order to protect yourself. You will never be fully aware of what this individual is doing, until it’s already happened.  Many tend to become more care-less with age. Meaning the older they get, they less cerebral they are, the more lies they have to remember, the more fried their brain is from their careless lifestyle, of drinking and a using drugs. 

Sociopaths will not usually keep there facade up after the age of 40. They begin to slip up, the mask begins to come off and they become exposed. Then once people figure them out - it's over for them. They are reduced to committing petty fraudulent acts, but are unable to manipulate others like they use to - because now everyone has been screwed over or lied to by the sociopath and no one wants anything to do with her. Yet she will still parade around like she is above everyone else. She will usually turn to the Internet to project her lies and manipulation. 

I still remember all the horrific things my ex wife did to me, and that she still is doing to me, and my wife, and my child and even to my step daughter, who is very young. All her extreme manipulation, guilt tripping, blaming, accusing, bullying my wife, and my step daughter. It was when she verbally attacked my step daughter, I realized I was not dealing with a normal person anymore, I was dealing with a monster, who had no conscious and didn't care who she hurt. She was evil. She is a bad human being.  I was and am 100% positive I am dealing with a Psychopath. 

She knows I am no longer the person she "thought" she could manipulate and put down. Even after our divorce, I still did as she told me to. It was my wife who made me realize there was something "NOT NORMAL" about the situation. That ex wives are ex wives for a reason. I did not owe her anything. All I was responsible for was making sure my child was taken care of. She expected me to come to her home in Christmas morning and put together toys for our child, in the house she shared with her new husband (one of the many men she was having an affair with during our marriage) I had a new family and once I remarried my obligation is to my wife. I see my child and he opens the gifts we get him at our house on Christmas. I will NEVER SPEND ANOTHER HOLIDAY WITH MY EX AGAIN. Recently her mother threatened me in a text message, threatening my life. Then proceeded to call my work and change up very important meetings. That's when I knew I had to take drastic measures. Even if it that means taking legal action against her, filing a protection order, it's obvious she doesn't plan on respecting my boundaries or me. She is an evil, conscienceless, lying, and conning Psychopath. 

She has made accusations on my wife. Everything from posting all over the Internet that my wife is obsessed with her. Jealous of her. Insecure. And when my wife had enough she defended herself, which made the psychopath even more fueled to post slander and defamation about my wife.  She was vilifying the real victim. Everything she accused my wife of - was exactly the things she was doing to my wife. It is obvious to me, my wife and the rest of the world who is really insecure and jealous. The psychopath! My wife Has everything the psychopath wishes she possessed. Which is beauty, youth, intelligence, persistence, and what the psychopath really hates about my wife is her kindness, and how liked she is by everyone. The psychopaths actions are so predictable that my wife is afraid for her safety and her daughters. Now the psychopath can finally see that she is unable to manipulate me anymore. I never respond to her. What is the point? Everything she says is a lie, 100% a lie. For. Telling me that my child had cancer, to depression. I communicate with my child, not the mother because she is so insane. 

I have to re-emphasize the fact that I am NOT a Psychological professional of any sort. Everything I post about is from my personal experience with a sociopathic woman, and the information I have found out about my sociopath and sociopaths/psychopaths in general .  I am still learning. I feel it is important to share what i have been through and what I’m learning with others, so hopefully they will not ever have to go what I have been through and am still going through. If I am incorrect in my thinking. I always welcome comments from others, so I can Learn more and here their story as well...