Sociopaths and Narcissist Both Cheat, but for different reasons..

Sociopaths and Narcissit are both serial cheaters. They cannot be faithful ever! 
Male or Female. Narcissist or Sociopath. They are all cheaters, in every way.  They cheat their way through life, they have affairs with other people while in relationship or marriage. Just like they not capable of the truth or remorse, they are also not capable of being loyal to anyone. 

Sociopaths and narcissists have different motivations for cheating. 

A narcissist, is truly a very insecure person. Even though they come off very self assured and confident. The narcissist cheats to build his/her ego. It is a constant source of narcissistic supply and reassurance. They do not feel good or energized with one partner. Their ego needs to be stroked and fed. This is how they get their narcissistic supply. And it's YOU ( the one person who has supported and loved them ) that will pay the price. And that is ok with the narcissist. You love them and they believe they will always be able to manipulate you into forgiving them. They will take advantage of your love and kindness just because they can...

A Sociopath on the other hand cheat because... well they can. Sociopaths feel entitled to do whatever they want, and expect to suffer no consequences, or ever even be held accountable. Sociopaths take what they want because they want it. 
There is no moral issue involved as far as they are concerned. Since the sociopath believes they are entitled to anything and deserve everything, they recognize NO RuLeS that apply to them. They believe there can be no violation against and no wrong. The rules normal people  follow, do not apply to the sociopath. This is what makes the sociopath very very dangerous. There is no limits on what they can do, and since they are without any conscience, they are capable of horrible things. Sociopaths have absolutely no sympathy  to the damage they do to innocent people.

To a sociopath, cheating is like a game where she/he maneuvers the man/woman into giving her/him what they want, and  it has no special meaning to them, though they will do everything to make you think otherwise. Sociopaths are all con artist. They are skilled pretenders and liars. 
You will notice that to both a sociopath and a narcissist, they think they can  have sex with many others, and arrogantly say  “Hey, I've still got it, I'm good looking. I'm irresistible.” But, to get what they want, they will focus on YOU, feeding you what they know you want to hear. They make you believe you are special, but in fact, you are like are just another thing  to be used. They are sick and twisted and cause so much pain and hurt to anyone who knows them. 
The sociopath and narcissist  both wreak havoc and destruction on the lives of the innocent.
There is only one way to deal with one once you have discovered that they are this way. 
It is to get far, far away from them. SEVER ALL TIES AND CUT OFF ALL CONTACT, immediately and totally.

The lies, rumors and pain that come with a sociopath

 When we have been abused, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, had rumors spread about us, lost friends, felt isolated, been afraid, lost everything, doubted ourselves, felt guilty, believed it was our fault - more than likely we were in a relationship with a sociopath. Or we were friends, or have a sociopathic family member.  

Once we discovered the truth, and realized we are not the only victim of this person, who had some how destroyed our life, our soul, and left us with little to no trust in the world. We are able to begin healing from the traumatic experience. Healing takes time. We are weak, alone, afraid, and don't know who we can trust.

The hardest part of healing is feeling safe and facing the world. 

We want to withdraw, because the sociopath has said so many horrible things about us, we feel shame. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE SOCIOPATH WANTS US TO FEEL. 

When my sociopath spread rumors about me all over town — to my child's  school, to my neighbors, to people who i respected in the community. I was afraid to leave the house. I was afraid of what others were thinking about me. What lies had my sociopath told everyone? And did anyone believe those lies. My sociopath alread had a reputation in town for stealing, and abusing drugs and sleeping around, so why would people believe the lies that were being  spread?

I felt that people would rather believe the bad they have heard about you - rather than the good. It seems people don't go around talking about the good about you. But they will go around talking about anything bad about you - even if it's not true.

For a while I felt isolated from the world. I did not want to leave my home. 

Even though the people who knew me, knew the hardships I had been through with this sociopath. They new that this person was very dangerous and hated me for moving on with my life. The sociopath wanted and still wants to hurt me, and make my life unbearable. I'm not sure why.. Boredom, or because I moved on and found someone who loves me for me and we were happy. 

What I have noticed is that all Sociopaths are jealous of everyone. 

Since there is nothing real authentic and genuine about the sociopath, and they don't understand or care to understand emotions. They just see everyone as a conquest, or threat. Not as humans, who feel pain. There is not much "humanness" in a sociopath.. And when they get done with you, you may feel they stole some part of your humanness.

A close friend of mine has been dealing with a vindictive female sociopath.  It is his ex wife. He has been divorced from the sociopath for over 9 years and separated for over 14. She had numerous affairs after they adopted their 2nd child. Finally after one of the affairs became very public due to the fact the man she was cheating with was married, and they both held prominant careers in the community, he filed for divorce. He has been through hell and back. This is his story, in his words...

  

When I went no contact and chose to ignore my sociopath, that's when things got very ugly. I refused 

to communicate with the ex. So my ex decided to tell everyone, and put it on social media that i was a "cyber stalking troll". Even using my first and last name to slander me. My ex made up a fake domain site in my name. Pretending to be me, and impersonating me in an unfavorable manner.  Basically painting a picture of a very unstable person, that was trying to get help for my mental problems. The worst part was if you googled my name, the website that my ex started about me was the first thing that came up. That is  when I said “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.”

I contacted a friend of mine who is a police officer. And I ask what could be done about this website that my ex started about and was impersonating me in such a way. It was slander and defamation.

My friend informed me that it was cyber stalking, and I should file a police report. — so I did 

that. 

Which only made my ex crazier. Although the website was taken down, I was now being

accused of more horrific things. Now my sociopath ex wife was going to social media, claiming how she felt afraid for her children, because I was unstable, she believed I would kidnap them at a soccer game or from school. This was horrible because I felt afraid to go to my sons soccer game, because I didn't know what she would do or say, she had went to Facebook, and Twitter pretending to be living a life of fear because of me. 

What I began to notice was a pattern. She may have went to social media bashing me, but she expected me to pick up kids on my weekend. This is when I realized how unstable and deranged she was. She was only looking to ruin my reputation in the community, she still expected me to get the kids (even though she claimed she was in fear for their safety) 

I felt confused. I wanted to get my children. But with the unpredictable ex, I didn't know if I was being set up. Was I going to show up at the school to get my children, and the cops would be waiting to arrest me? Would my kids even be there, considering she loved leading me on wild gooses chases just to waste my time and make things difficult on me? 

I decided my children were worth whatever risk. And after all I had filed a complaint against her for impersonation and cyber stalking (which set her off to go on a rampant on social media) Bit it was still documentation, if my ex had something sinister planned. I remember so many times going to pick them up, feeling so much anxiety. Anxiety and fear consumed me. This woman had no limits and would not hesitate to destroy me, my new wife, and even my step daughter, who was at the time very little (5 years old). Sociopaths are so low, they will destroy children (even their own) just to hurt another person. 

I wondered if this crap would ever stop. I felt hopeless... I began to stop looking online, and begin to focus only on myself my children and healing. It was very tempting to want to get online and see what my ex was saying now.but I never did. I gave it a good eight months before I looked at anything my ex was doing online. I still do not look up my ex'a online activity. 

Confronting The Devil

 

Anyone who has ever confronted a narcissistic/sociopath knows the damage that they are capable of. 

These types of disordered people are revenge seeking people, will explode, exploit, and destroy anyone who does not agree with them. The sociopath fears being exposed for who they really are. So anyone who will confront them, poses as a threat to them.

Anyone who has attempted to get answers from the sociopath has surely experienced their wrath.. The sociopath will never answer you with the truth. 

Sociopaths will do everything they can to discredit whoever dares to confront them. They will make damaging false accusations about the victim. 

In my experience, all the accusations the  sociopath makes is actually what they are doing to the victim..

All accusations are projections. 

Rather than admitting to having a problem and dealing with it, the sociopath and the narcissist will scapegoat their target with false accusations based upon their own psychological issues, failures, and weaknesses.

They only know how to hurt others in order to make them look better. It is how they cover up their tracks. Vilifying the victim by making them seem like the “crazy” person, or the abuser. 

Being married to a sociopath or narcissist, you are likely to be accused of having an affair, financial irresponsibility, and other less serious accusations. The sociopath will accuse you of being insecure, needy, and ‘unstable’. All are just more projections they are putting on to you based on their own insecurities and short comings  

This is how they break down the victim so that the victim begins to question their own sanity and doubt their own thoughts.

Abusers manipulate their victims by belittling them in subtle ways. Sociopaths and Narcissist are the most verbally abusive people. Their words are the most efficient weapon in convincing their partner that it is not them who have the problem. They make their partners feel incompetent and worthless. 

Abusive people are so delusional that they eventually start to believe they are the victim of their partner who they have abused for so long.  Some even convince their partners/victims that they are lucky to have someone like “them” who will put up with their psychological problems. Sociopaths are masters at brainwashing their victims. The sociopath /narcissist seek to erode their targets self esteem, making them feel worthless, stupid and unworthy of respect.

This is why people who have been in relationships with these monsters have a hard time developing healthy relationships after the narcissistic sociopath. They have no confidence, no self worth, they feel ashamed of who they are. 

This is how the sociopath wants their victim to be. This is how the sociopath maintains control even after the relationship is over.  

It may take years of therapy for the victim to begin to heal, and see that they are not any of the horrible things the sociopath has accused them of being. 

Spciopaths and Narcissist are so EVIL. The only way to heal from the abuse inflicted there must be NO CONTACT with the abuser EVER AGAIN. 

If there are children involved, you should seek professional help on how to deal with the abuser. Usually having a third party to communicate with the abuser is the only way not to fall into their manipulation. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate and hurt you. The third party will be able to decide what information is beneficial for you and what is not. 

Sociopath and Narcissist cause so much irreparable damage to anyone they have a relationship with.

So when children are involved it becomes even harder if not impossible to separate totally from the sociopath. 

Covert Abuse and Emotional Manipulation

       

A sociopath wants to gain control over you. They will use deceptive and underhanded ways to change your thinking. Their victim doesn't realize that this is even happening, until it is too late. 

They sociopath says subtle things that are meant to erode your esteem and emotional well being. They will chip at you and your self worth until there is very little of it left. 

A sociopath sees themselves as superior and sees others as nothing now than an object to be used. Sociopaths have No Empathy, no guilt, no remorse, and no conscience. They use you for their entertainment purposes only. 

They become bored with you and start to hate you eventually, even when you have done nothing but try to please them. Their behavior is cruel, horrific, and can psychologically, mentally, and physically destroy you. 

A sociopath can spot your weakness, your strengths and your fears easily. They will use all of these against you to gain control over you. They will stop at nothing to get what they want out of you, even if it means hurting you. 

Next thing you realize is that your once loving relationship has turned into a demeaning, degrading relationship. Leaving you confused and diminishing your self respect, self worth, and self esteem. The sociopath wants you to feel like you are losing your mind. Their intention is to make you question reality. The victim finds him/herself blaming themself for the sociopath not loving them like they use to. The victim believes it is their fault their once loving relationship has turned cold. The sociopath wants you to feel this way. They relish in the fact that they have brought you down to a rock bottom level. The sociopath is evil. 

It's hard to imagine anyone treating someone like this ON PURPOSE. But that is exactly what the sociopath does. The sociopath wants to turn you into a crying and begging emotional wreck. The victim struggles with feelings of powerlessness, and deep knife stabbing pain. The victim loses all sense of their self worth, they sometimes may turn to drugs or alcohol. The victim is so damaged that they become depressed, and withdrawn. They start to isolate and lose the support of others they use to have. 

If you are the target of a malicious and vindictive sociopath, you must remember IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! The sociopaths plan from the beginning was to harm you emotionally. They enjoy seeing others beg and plead, and then they feel accomplished in the fact that they can deny the victim and walk away. 

This is emotional rape. A covert emotional manipulator methodically wears down their victim. At it's worse, victims lose all sense of self and their personal values. 

Sociopaths do not look like monsters. Most of them are someone that looks just like Suzie soccer mom, or dan the loving father who attends all his kids PTA meetings. These sociopaths are so dangerous because they blend end so well, that the only people who suffer are the sociopaths children and partner and other family members. They fly under the radar, committing small crimes like fraud, identity theft, slander and defamation, and if they are in a business where money can be laundered and stolen – you can bet the sociopath is doing these things. They are 100% stealing from their partner and family. They will take out credit cards and loans in their victims name. When caught they use excuses and other manipulations, such as gas- lighting. Saying to the victim “you knew I got this card, you knew about this loan, we talked about it, remember?”

The victim is then left confused and questioning their own sanity. 

Sociopaths have contempt for their victims. They have no remorse about any of the deceptive things they do to their partner. They cheat with other people, they lie, steal, and destroy their victim one piece at a time. 

When confronted for any of these behaviors the sociopath blames and will spin the story, to make you look crazy. 

Why does the sociopath do this to someone who loves them, and has continued to make efforts to save the marriage, to fix things, and to please them? It's because they have no love inside them. They have no good in them. They have an evil mentality that aims to destroy anyone or anything that they cross paths with. 

Sociopaths feels a sense of entitlement. They are not capable of having  a meaningful and honest relationship with anyone...

They will never be able to form healthy attachments to another person. Being that they are incaple of loving anyone or receiving love from anyone. Even if their victim loves them, they are unable to feel it. All they feel is hate and anger toward the person who tries to love them.

At their core, the sociopath is filled with rage, and mental issues. The sociopath  will attempt to project their own mental instability onto their partner or the person who confronts them. 

When you are in a relationship with a sociopath, you will come to realize that they are unreliable and irresponsible. Yet, the sociopath becomes enraged and vengeful if they believe you have not followed through on something you said you will do. Even if you were unable to do something due to illness or a death in your family. The sociopath doesn't care. They will never be there for you emotionally. They see you as emotionally weak, and usually when you are feeling more vulnerable and weak, the sociopath sees it as am opportunity to kick you while you are down.

This is a very abusive and vicious cycle that the sociopath always puts you in. Rarely sociopaths abuse you physically. It is all about controlling and abusing you psychologically and emotionally. But that is not to say that the sociopath will NOT become physically violent with you. They are capable of physical abuse. More so in men than women.. 

What is so "crazy making" about the sociopath is that they actually expect you  to show them gratitude for any menial task they have done. Even after neglecting you for months and emotionally abusing you. If they do the smallest thing, they expect you to kiss their feet and adore them for that. 

When you know something in your relationship is just not quite “right”. And you suspect that your partner is a sociopath. The best thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your children, is to get out of that abusive situation. No matter what. If you are married and share children with the sociopath, you can expect life long drama and conflict. They will resent you for leaving them! How dare you! And even after moving on, and remarrying, they will always use your children to torment you. 

Unless you have experienced this kind of abuse, it's hard to understand the damage that is has taken on the victim. If the victim finally realizes that their quality of life has been suffering and that they have been living in fear and misery and decides to leave the sociopath. They realize the harm that the sociopath will cause them. They have to see that leaving the sociopath is more beneficial than staying with them to endure abuse the rest of their life. 

Healing from the pain

Healing from there pain a sociopath has caused is difficult. It is not impossible though. The reason healing can be so hard, is because the sociopath gives us no closure, and they are more than likely still tormenting us with harassment and smear campaigns.

  

The emotional abuse from a psychopath/sociopath and narcissist is debilitating, devastating and takes a toll on your heart and soul. The sociopath is so vindictive and hateful. They inflict so much damage because it is hard wired in their brains to be evil, to lie, to manipulate and to destroy others. Psychopaths have significant molecular differences in ther brain. They are without a conscious, and have no feelings of remorse, guilt, empathy or genuine love. They are abusively exploitative and incapable of true love or intimacy. They are self centered, impulsive, reckless, aggressive and irritable. They never will take any responsibility for the actions, and believe they are immune to consequences. Don't think back about the "good time" that you had with the sociopath. It was all a lie. The sociopath gets a rush from destroying human hearts and lives. The worst of it all is that they pretend to care. They are able to show as if they have empathy. When they have none..

So how do we heal from this?

The first thing we can do is forgive ourself. Be kind to ourself and love ourself. We were betrayed and it was not our fault. In order to heal we have to HAVE NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN WITH THE PSYCHOPATH. Revenge is not possible. It may sound good to picture in your mind the sociopath suffering the way you have suffered. Trying to get revenge will only make healing more difficult. Because when we are focused on revenge. We are no longer focused on ourselves. We cannot move on when we are still thinking about the sociopath. Remember the sociopath/psychopath has no conscious and feelings. You will not be able to hurt them emotionally. It will only trigger them to cause more problems in your life. 

What you really want is for the psychopath/sociopath to leave you alone. Yes they caused you pain, financial problems, and wasted so much of your life. That is the past and it can't be changed. What can be changed is you. You can't allow the sociopath to continue to hurt you. The only way that can happen, is if you walk away and never look back. No contact is so important because it puts the sociopath in the position of no longer having any control of your life. They know how their words can be powerful and convincing. So cutting off any and all contact will be beneficial to you. 

You owe the sociopath Nothing... If you have to change your phone number then do it. Avoid the sociopath at all cost. 

You are human. The sociopath/psychopath is not. They may look like a human being but they do not manifest any human being traits. Such as love and empathy. Care and concern for the well being of others.

 

In order to truly heal and move forward with your life, detachment is necessary. Detach ourself from the disordered person. You may feel so devastated that you will want to isolate and be alone. That is ok... As long as it is not for a long period of time. The sooner you get back out there. The sooner  you will start the healing process. 

We will do a lot of questioning, and try to figure out what we did to deserve this. The fact is we did nothing to deserve it. The sociopath has done this before and will do it again. There is nothing you did to cause them to treat you this way. 

Repair what is broken - force yourself to take back control of your life. Realize that no one can take away your soul. It is yours and yours alone. Start making goals. Find what inspires you. What do you love? What can you do to be a better person and live a fulfilling life? You have survived a sociopath. That is not easy to do. You know you have strength and wisdom to do whatever you set your mind to do. Healing from the abuse and betrayal you have experienced, is a chance to really learn about yourself, and to grow emotionally. You will go through many stages while healing. You will learn more about yourself than you ever have before. 

When you feel like giving up and like things couldn't be worse. It's always to remember — this to shall pass...

In moments if despair, know you are not alone. You are supported. There are others who have gone through the exact same thing you have. See how they made it through this horrific experience. Talk with people who can understand what you are going through,  because they too have been there and can understand. People who have not been through this will have a difficult time understanding how one person can be responsible for all your troubles. Their intentions may be good, but their advice usually doesn't help you heal.  

Healing comes from within you and time. Time heals all. Once the sociopath is out of your life, you will find your true self. You have to look for it though. Sometimes it is something we cannot do alone. When you are feeling hopeless and depressed and just can't seem to get out of being "stuck". It's ok to seek professional help, especially from someone who is educated about how a sociopath destroys lives. Just because you needed to seek counseling or therapy doesn't make you weak. The fact that you have realized that you are stuck and unable to move forward, and you are stepping out of your comfort zone and seeking help shows you have determination and strength. You are dedicated to living a happy life no matter what. 

Doing the Devils Dirty Work

There are normal people who manipulate, but it isn't an evil type of manipulation. As human beings we do things we aren't always proud of. But normal human beings will usually feel bad about manipulating someone or lying to someone they care about. 

This is Not the case with the Sociopath. They have NO shame or guilt. They don't feel bad or remorseful for the horrific pain they cause others. Sociopathic manipulators are pathological liars. They NEVER TELL THE TRUTH. They Do Not even know the truth anymore, because lying so much more familiar to them.  Sociopaths withholding import at information from people. Sociopaths deny that they are ever responsible for causing pain or lying. They will Always find an excuse or justify what they did or they blatantly deny it. 

Sociopaths are notorious for playing the victim. If they are confronted they may pretend to be confused, or they try to convince the person that is confronting them that his or her tactics are intended to help because they are very concerned. It's all a bunch of bullshit.  

Sociopathic Manipulators frequently use gas-lighting. They love provoking someone, just to get an angry reaction out of them, then the sociopath will  blame the victim and tell them and other that the 'victim' is acting crazy and is unstable because of their reaction. The sociopath will proclaim that they are the victim of this angry person. When in reality the sociopath has been pushing the persons buttons and provoking them to react.

As normals human beings, we can only take so much poking at us, harassing, slandering, provoking before we do react. After all WE ARE HUMAN... 

The sociopath may look human on the outside, but inside they act nothing like a human being that God intended. They act more like a product made by Satan himelf. Sociopaths seem to be working for satan. Doing the devils dirty work. They are puppets for satan. They are skilled abusers. Sociopathic individuals exploit the trust they have gained through deception.

Sociopaths are very much like venomous snakes... 

Plain and simple — Sociopaths are bad people. They will always be bad people. They will never change. Their brain is dysfunctional. They are deprived of the very thing that makes us human – COMPASSION. 

Sociopaths — HAVE NO COMPASSION for anyone. They will destroy whoever it is they feel is a threat to their situation by slandering, mocking and ostracizing their victim. A sociopaths harassment is not violent, but it is covert and persistent 

Sociopathic men tend to be physically abusive as well as emotionally abusive. 

Female sociopaths on the other hand, portray themselves to be kind and caring and helpful, and are rarely violent. But the abuse and emotional scars they inflict on their victim is so damaging, that some never heal from it.

The lucky ones sometimes are able to get out of the clutches of the sociopath and can overcome the pain and abuse they have suffered at the hands of the sociopath.

Those people live to tell their story and to help others who are victims. They become stronger, and make others aware of the "sociopaths" among us. How sociopaths operate. These people are not victims of the sociopath anymore... They are Survivors 

Evil just keeps on being Evil

When you have been targeted by a hateful and vindictive sociopath, you feel alone and isolated. You begin to lose all faith in humanity and people. You start to lose your compassion for others. Because you are on guard with human beings. You have trouble trusting anyone. You don't want to socialize the way you did before you met the sociopath. You prefer to be alone. You prefer to stay in your comfort zone, where you feel safe. 

The sociopath robs you of your sense of emotional security. You feel self conscience inside. When you do go out - you wonder if any of the people around you have heard the nasty rumors the sociopath spread about you. 

Sociopaths can make you feel like the sky is falling.. When it actuality it is not. Nothing is falling. The sociopath is very convincing though. They tell you how everyone hates you. They go to the internet and spread their lies about you. It looks to you as if the sociopath has succeeded in turning others against you. You see people commenting and giving the sociopath support, because they have told others how horrible you were to them. They have even made a blog about you! Ex - If your name is Mary Jane Doe. They have made a blog called Maryjane_doe.com. The title says "My Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder, and Low Self Esteem". The sociopath is impersonating you - in an unfavorable manner. They have spent an enormous amount of time doing this. Scary... Right? 

This can feel extremely defeating. You realize you are fighting with a monster that is so ruthless, cunning, and methodical – that you will not win. 

So what do you do? Everything you try to do to stop this monster has back fired. 

When a sociopath is targeting you in such a vile way. The only thing you can do is STOP RESPONDING. STOP REACTING AND STOP LOOKING ONLINE TO SEE WHAT THE SOCIOPATH IS SAYING. If you want the site shut down that the sociopath has made up. File a complaint with the domain provider. You can file a report with the police, just so everything is documented. The police probably won't do a lot to help with the site being taken down. You are more likely to be able to get the site taken down by reporting the site. Even though it could take time. In the mean time. Cut off any contact with the sociopath. They are doing these things in order to get a response and attention from you. Don't allow them to take your power like that. 

The sociopath is evil. They will always be evil. They will never change. They cannot be reformed. They see nothing wrong with themselves. They don't care about people. They only care about themselves. Once you refuse to react to them and respond and sever all contact with them. Hopefully they will get bored and move on to another person. 

It's so important that you do not lose your faith in humanity or God. Do not let the sociopath steal your spirit. Do not allow them to turn you into a bitter, defense person. Stay good. Stay hopeful.

You hate what the the sociopath has done. That's understandable. You never want to be like this devil..