The Borderline Psychopath

The female sociopath can be the most difficult and exhausting of personality disordered women to deal with. "Borderline psychopath" is usually the diagnosis a psychiatrist will give to the female sociopath. Female sociopaths are much more spiteful, vindictive and manipulation than their male counterpart. Women are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed as a “borderline psychopath” than men. 

Borderline psychopaths are mean, conniving, hateful, vengeful, superficial, ruthless and dangerous. They are the like sociopaths, having no conscience, no remorse, and no empathy for life, but the borderline psychopath is worse. 

They want to be in control and are demanding. Most of them are attention seekers. Any relationship (lovers, family or the few friends the sociopath may have) are constantly having to deal with the consequences of “knowing” this unstable & unpredictable woman. They create problems, they stir up drama, and they never take responsibility for their behaviors. 

Female sociopaths are relentless, they will tear the victim to shreds given over time. Their goal is destroy the persons self esteem, and confidence. So that they can more easily control and influence their victim.

It's very hard to deal with these types. The best way is to not deal with them. Be courteous if you were to see them, but limite any contact with them. If they are trying to contact you, they will use any strategy they can think of to get you to respond. If you have children with this person (God bless your soul) then you can expect them to make up lies about the children to try to guilt you to respond to them. *Remember most everything they tell you will BE A LIE, it's just a desperate attempt to get you to talk to them*. Why? 

Because it's all about control. If you are limiting your contact with the borderline psychopath. They are not in control of you. They want to have that control of you. Either because at one time they had that control, and they feel you are a possession they rightfully own. They don't see you as a human being. But more as an object to be used to their expense. The best thing for you to do is ignore them and have little to No contact with them. This doesn't necessarily mean they will leave you alone, a good friend of mine still receives 10-20 text messages a day from his borderline psyhotic ex wife. And he hasn't responded in over 2 years. Yet her relentlessness and desperation continues. Everything from one of the kids have depression due to his lack of responding, to cancer. Yet he does not fight with her, he just refuses to be manipulated and controlled. From the kids point of view they would never see their parents fighting. The borderline psychopath has more than likely told the children that their father will not get along with her and she is trying so hard to get along with him - poor poor victim - she is always the victim. When the reality is, he is simply limiting his contact. The borderline psychopath will try every trick she can to get a response. 

The borderline psychopath and the sociopathic female will spread all kinds of lies and nasty rumors (this is something she is notorious for) and she has usually been doing this since  childhood.  She is an accomplished liar and professional cheater, she is always looking for the easier road to travel (she is lazy). Her kind of personality does not know anything about honesty. They have perfected conniving and manipulation with a malicious intent. 

Female sociopaths have an uncanny ability to find a character flaw in their target that can be exploited to destroy whoever they feel is a threat to their control and power. 

Women are usually more co-operative and caring. But not the female sociopath (borderline psychopath). They do not feel any empathy towards their victims. They do not feel bad about bullying and destroying people. They are seeking dominance and control. Women are usually mothers, nurturers and caregivers. Not the female sociopath.

Many people do not realize how emotionally and mentally damaging this particular type of woman can be. She is cold hearted and ruthless, while pretending to be so compassionate. She will always tell her sad story. Like how her mother neglected her as a child, and her ex husband was an abusive alcoholic who took advantage of her kindness. If you think you might be dealing with one of these women, watch how she claims to be the victim of everyone else, but notice how aggressive she is going about it. 

Real Victims are not aggressive and vengeful. Real victims are focused on how they heal from the abuse they suffered. They are not looking for pity or retribution. Real victims are looking for peace of mind and recovery. Real victims rarely talk about how they were abused, and rarely mention their abusers name. 

While the borderline psychopath is looking to defame and destroy the reputation of their victim by vilifying them and accusing them of heinous and horrific behaviors. Usually the borderline psychopath will accuse their victim of acts that they themselves are guilty of. I.E. — stalking, cyber bullying, obsession, verbal abuse, impersonation, character assassination, etc.... 

Female Sociopaths are difficult to spot because most of them are incredibly good at hiding their true self and their motives. It is really difficult to believe the extent that the sociopath will go to, in order to destroy their target. The dirty tricks and unproven rumors that female sociopath/borderline psychopath  regularly uses against their victims can be devastating. 

The female sociopath is an out of control individual, she manipulates and punishes at will. Unfortunately the female sociopath is described as the vindictive or alienating abusive ex-wife. Who uses the children to manipulate and control her ex-husband. The children are passed around to relatives and friends like a rag doll, in order to keep them away from their father, only so the sociopath can say what a shit father he is. Until the sociopath gets what she wants she will use her children against their father, in another desperate attempt to gain control over him. 

Unfortunately this does not end when the children are of legal age, the female sociopath will still try to use them against her ex-husband, even when they are adults. Most cases I have seen either end with the adult children seeing what their mother is doing and eventually they will refuse to have anymore contact with her.  Or sadly, they fall into the trap the mother has set, and the father has no relationship with his adult children. 

The children who take the side of  their sociopathic mother can end up as crazy as she is. On a positive note, the father usually ends up ok, despite a few psychological wounds (that can be healed). He has dealt with this raging lunatic for decades. He has been insulted, manipulated, and verbally abused by her. It usually comes as no surprise to him that his ex has turned his children against him. The man has usually remarried a supportive, and caring woman (opposite of his psychopathic ex-wife). He is able to move forward and accept the situation that his vindictive ex-wife has created. He is able to accept the loss, because he is emotionally mature enough to realize that there is NOTHING he can do to change anything.  The ex has lied and brainwashed the children for years. He is just too physically & emotionally exhausted. He has no fight left.   So he chooses to invest the little energy he has left on his current family. He usually can see that fighting with a borderline psychopath (his ex) is useless. She is evil, and she wants him to pay (as if he hasn't paid enough, when she cheated and lied to him for years). 

She is so delusional that after playing the victim for so long she actually believes she is the victim. Trait of a truly psychotic and dangerous woman. 

The Adult Bully

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are all Bullies. They use social aggression to destroy their victims. They may indirectly do things to their victim to attempt to make the victim feel alone and out numbered. The victim will usually socially isolate. 

The bully uses social isolation to make their victim feel that everyone is against them and hate them. This kind of isolation is achieved by a wide variety of techniques. One of the sociopath favorite techniques is spread rumors about the victim. Making up lies about their target, that are embarrassing and shameful. Then the sociopath will spread the rumor to many people. Urging others to not acknowledge the victim. And to ignore the victim. The sociopath tries to turn the victims own social circle against her, with false accusations, and lies.

Adult Bullies are name callers. Most girls remember what it was like in middle school, they were bullied at one point. They were called names, and given the silent treatment. Or they urged others to laugh when the victim walks by. The bully mock the victim. Makes them feel as if no one likes them. 

The victim feels alone, and dreads going anywhere they feel the bully may be. So the victim Isolates and becomes depressed. 

One thing I have noticed with adult bullies is that they usually accuse the victim of the things that they are doing to the I victim. They will be stalking their victims and put out on twitter/Facebook -  how "they have a stalker" saying things such as "my stalker is back”. Anything that the bully can do to the destroy the victims creditability. Adult bullies can be mothers, fathers, mangers, etc... 

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Adult bullies will use their children. Saying things such as "I am being stalked and I am scared for my children". This way the sociopathic bully gains more sympathy by others by saying she if afraid for her children. When her children are Not in any danger! It is just how the sociopath makes her target (victim) look more like a bad guy — which this is really unfortunate for mothers and children of REAL domestic violence. Sociopaths look for what the media is talking about and something going on in our world that is effecting large groups of people and uses that to destroy her enemies. She has seen how bullying has impacted so many innocent people and how the world has sympathy for the victims of bullying. So she decides to become a victim of bullying - taking attention away from Real people who are being bullied to the point of suicide. 

THE SOCIOPATH IS THE BIGGEST BULLY OF THEM ALL...

The sociopath is such a manipulative liar that unless you know them closely (like you are family). They are convincing and believable. They don't have real emotions, that is why they look for things that people have sympathy for in the news and media and exploit others with it.  It is very sad for the real victims of bullies ...

Sociopaths and Envy

Envy- Sociopath/narcissist/psychopaths  all experience a level of envy toward their targets that is lethal. 

Whatever the sociopath sees in you that she/he knows they cannot be, want to be, or with something that she/he views that you have “won” in some way, envy can appear as rage in the smear campaign. The sociopath starts rumors and spreads lies to ruin your good reputation because they are jealous of your status and their reputation is usually pretty bad. 

Sometimes this envy is obvious and sometimes it is not obvious. But when it is, the sociopath in your life will leave you no doubt as to what that envy might be.

The sociopath will often accuse you of being jealous of them, stalking them. They do this because they are actually the jealous and they are probably staling you. 

Remember what the sociopath accuses you of IS USUALLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO YOU. 

Sociopathic women are usually more prone to smear campaigns than men. They are  less violent than men, but they are just as destructive if not more so than a sociopathic man. Becauee they seek to destroy you emotionally, mentally and socially 

The best way to handle a sociopathic woman. Is to never give her that reaction she craves. Limit contact or No contact. 

No contact if you have no connections like children with this woman. Limited if you have children. Only respond to her if it is absolutely necessary. She will make every situation an emergency when it is not. She will lie about kids in order to get her ex husband to respond. Learn to ignore her and realize that 99% of what she says is NOT TRUE 

Parasites... in the form of a woman,

Sociopathic people are black holes.  Sociopathic females are black holes, with black hearts, and lack spirit and soul. They are horrible mothers. They are sluts, whores, cheaters, and commonly spread STD's to their unsuspecting partners

They are parasites, and are capable of inflicting unspeakable psychological abuse. 
They will blame you for everything that they perceive is wrong with their lives (and there will always be plenty). 
If you ever are going through a tough time, or any difficulty, prepare to be kicked while you are down by a sociopath. They love to prey on the weak and the defenseless.

The Female Sociopath is fake to her evil core. She uses her fake charismatic and charming personality to draw victims in. She plays the helpless or needy, pitiful, inept or emotionally unable to cope. She has no problem taking from total strangers, she gratefully accepts or she aggressively TAKES.  Always claiming to be the victim, she is the most passive parasite living among us. She lures and abuses the men who have instincts as a protector.  When her real self comes to the surface — she is cunning, ruthless, predatory, and loveless.

SPREADING DIRTY RUMORS  is the specialty of female sociopath. She will make up a lie about her target (victim) and tell others this lie in an attempt to discredit the person. The female sociopath wants to destroy others. She takes pleasure in this. 
YOU KNOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH A SOCIOPATH IF THE PERSON IS SPREADING RUMORS THAT ARE ABSOLUTE LIES ABOUT YOU. 

Normal people do not go around spreading lies about another person. It's just not in their minds to do this. Only in the minds of the truly evil - go about this method of character assassination. 

Female sociopaths are accomplished in cheating, conniving and manipulation with malicious intent. 
Like all sociopaths they have an uncanny ability to find a character flaw that can to be exploited to their advantage. 

LYING COMES AS NATURAL AS BREATHING TO A FEMALE SOCIOPATH.

Female sociopaths never pay their bill, they fails to honor other promises and commitments. She blames her behavior on somebody else. 
She never takes responsibility and will never admit to be wrong. But she knows exactly what she did and difference between right and wrong. Because she’s out to control, she manipulates and punishes at will. She is the witness, the judge, the lawyer, the jury, the executioner - but never the accused.