The Reign of Terror Never Really Ends

Sociopaths really do not understand honesty, they believe it is something that only the weak and vulnerable does. Their mind is so warped and twisted, they truly cannot comprehend truth, love and compassion.


Being exposed for the shallow, manipulative, soulless liar is something that terrifies the sociopath/narcissist. 

The sociopath/narcissist has a few primary goals, that do not change much through out ones entire existence. That goal is to control others by any means possible.
Having control ensures the sociopath can live an easy, carefree life, never having any real responsibility. 

The sociopath wants the outer world to perceive him/her as a do-gooder. 
Someone who is empathic, and hard working.  Something all of us who have ever had to deal with this type for dysfunctional person know all to well.

All of us that have dealt with a character flawed individual (sociopath/narcissist) already know that they believe they are too "special" and "precious" to actually work hard for something. This is the reason they seek out people whom they believe to be “weak”. They target these types of people because they are compassionate, generous and loving. 
The sociopath knows that they will be able to fully take advantage of their kindness. 
They don't see people as potential friends or future lovers. They see them as an object they can use to do all the work that they believe they themselves are to good to do. 

The sociopath/narcissist will take the credit, and recognition for the hard work and responsibility that is done by someone else. 


People who are unaware that they are in a relationship with a sociopath do not realize it until their life has been turned upside down by one. 

There is never enough anyone can give the sociopath to satisfy them. 
Many have tried to give and give to the sociopath, only to exhaust themselves, and realize they are attempting to fill a black hole of nothingness. 
The sociopath is so shallow, there is nothing  in this world that will ever fill the emptiness that they are. 

YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PLEASE A SOCIOPATH! 
Everything is very temporary for them. They leave their victims feeling alone, defeated, and broken. 

The sociopath is envious of others. Not because of anything other than they want to be the center of attention at all times. 

I have personal experience with a female sociopath who has aged awfully.
I'm sure this person has always been hateful by nature. As she has aged, not so gracefully she has becomes even more hateful, bitter and resentful. 

I always wondered if the sociopath ever changes with age.. For most of us when we age we do not have the energy we did when we were younger. But I have experienced with a certain sociopath who I have to still somewhat deal with, that aging does not stop their  reign of terror. 

Marrying a psychopath, and how they portray you as the unstable perpetrator.

Sociopath, narcissist, psychopath... Whatever you want to call one. They have one similar quality..

They have NO remorse. 

They are capable of causing horrific pain and suffering. (mentally and physically)  They simply could care less about the damage they cause. When normal people cause pain others pain, it is usually under the circumstance of being hurt, afraid or simply not having the tools to handle confrontation and pain appropriately. The difference in normal and psychopathic is; Normal individuals feel remorse for what they have done to hurt a person. The guilt will affect them so much, they have a hard time living a happy life. Psychopaths are able to keep thriving, the pain they know they have caused someone, doesn't bother them. They probably won't ever think about it again, unless the person they caused the pain to, expresses that they are hurt. This doesn't evoke guilt in the psychopath. Instead it evokes ANGER, irritation, and then the psychopath continues to cause more hurt, and damage.

Psychopaths intentionally hurt others, without ever feeling any guilt. 

In fact, “guilt” is a foreign emotion to the psychopath. They do not know what guilt feels like because they have never felt it. Yet ‘guilt’ is used often by the psychopath to manipulate others. 

They are often able to get people to do what they want, by making the person feel guilty. 

From my own observations, guilt is one of the psychopaths favorite tools to use against an empathic, caring person. Especially when it comes to children. Having children with a person with psychopathic tendencies is a living hell. It is almost impossible to ever live a happy life when you share children with a psychopath. They will never leave you alone, they will use the children to manipulate and use you.  The psychopath pretends to be a caring parent who Loves their children, but the truth is, the psychopath is not capable of Love. They are only capable of Hate. And unfortunately the psychopath HATES their EX more than they LOVE their children. 
Even when the children are of adult age, the psychopath will still find a reason to torment you. 

People who marry psychopaths, do not marry them knowing they are psychopathic. They were lied to and manipulated to believe the person was genuine and caring. But the person soon learns that person they married is not a good person. Some people will live in deniall, because accepting that you have married a monster is a hard pill to swallow. The marriage never last, but the abuse and trauma from the marriage does.. 
The psychopath becomes bored with their spouse/victim, because they have nothing more to offer the psychopath. So the psychopath simply moves on to their next victim, of course not before slandering, spreading lies, and accusing the victim of horrific acts against them. They do this to protect themselves against what the victim may say about the relationship. By bashing the victim first (before the relationship is even over) the psychopath is making sure their 'story' is heard before the victims. 
This makes the victims story look false. 

After all the psychopath has already warned others that their soon to be ex, would probably try to accuse them of abuse or cheating, to simply get revenge because they didn't want to be in a relationship with such a unstable person who has deep mental problems. 

The sociopathic grin - Smiling or Baring Teeth

This quote is talking about a sociopath.

And it is so true! 

Sociopaths smile so nicely to everyone, and look so friendly. Little do most know that they are actually planning on destroying someone.

The person they will always target is the caring, sympathic, loving and most genuine person. 

After all why  would a sociopath target someone like themselves? With someone with the same intentions that they have? When it's much easier for them to target a kind, trusting and giving individual. 

Sociopaths and narcissists have an unhealthy deep love for themselves and their own reflection in the mirror. 

Of course you will only see the hatred they have for you — after the honeymoon phase is over of course.

There is Life After the Narcissist/sociopath

We all go into a relationship with a narcissist/sociopath without knowing the trauma, pain, hurt, betrayal we will go through for this unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship. 

We become addicted  to the narcissistic sociopath, this explains why we find it so hard to maintain No Contact  and why we have such a hard time leaving and moving on with our life, or moving on to healthy relationships. Because after its over we may feel one excites us in quite the same way or with the same intensity as our toxic partner. 

We are not aware that we have become the suffering and the suffering becomes us.

We forget what normalcy feels like.

This is what the sociopath/narcissist does to us, they play so many mind games, that we forget what a healthy relationship feels like, the dysfunction becomes our new normal. We even question our own sanity, and our own true self. The narcissist is so toxic, they make us feel that it is us that attracts toxic people into our lives. We feel we are doomed, which in turn becomes everyday anxiety, that is crippling to our emotional and mental health. 

The truth is that, we are not doomed. We may have become addicted to the chaos, because that is what the narcissist has shown us. The narcissist will always worm their way back into our good graces and life, and  as soon as we feel stable, and believe that maybe this time things will be different, the narcissist disappears and causes us hurt once again.  We feel rejected once again by this toxic person. 

More than anything in the world we wonder, why this person can't love us, what is wrong with us?

We want answers and need validation. As we get to our lowest, the narcissist enters our life again, and we take him/her back because the pain and depression was so real, we will do anything to feel even the slightest bit better, it is these painful feelings that the narcissist counts on, to re-enter our life, only to repeat the same vicious cycle again. 

This is how we become addicted to the narcissist. They prey on our weakness, exploit our humanity, and they do it so well, we become blind to the dysfunction, the dysfunction becomes a part of our life. The dysfunction becomes normal to us. 

As sad as it all is, usually it takes the narcissist finding a new person to exploit and use, for the toxic, soul-devouring relationship to end. The truth is the narcissist becomes bored with us. They know they can always come back and we will be there. So they discard us like trash. Leaving us broken, lost, and emotionally scarred.

We feel all we want is closure from them. The narcissist will never give us closure. They will tell their 'new' victim that we are crazy and emotionally unstable, they spread untrue rumors about us. They discredit us to anyone who will listen. 

We feel defeated and utterly hopeless...

It becomes impossible for us to move forward. We become angry and withdrawn. It's hard to even tell friends about our pain, because we don't want to hear "I told you so". Because every time we had taken the narcissist back, our friends and family didn't support our decision. They were right, and now being in pain after the narcissist final blow to us, hearing "I told you so" is just to painful.

And we just cannot take feeling anymore pain than we already in. 

So it is relieving when we find support in other places. When we read stories similar to our own, by other victims of a narcissist/sociopath. It is these supportive places that some of us find strength to begin to heal.

Once we start the healing process, it becomes easier to began to share our story. We don't feel so much shame about what happened to us. It becomes very clear that we were not betrayed by a normal human being, but we were betrayed by a personality disordered individual, with no moral compass, and unable to feel empathy for others. Knowing this helps us to realize we are not sick, or doomed.
What happened was not our fault, we were just another convenient victim of a very sick and twisted individual.
Knowing this helps us to begin to move forward and live life again with gratitude and a new appreciation for life. 

Obsession and Being a Victim of a Sociopath

Victims of sociopathic/narcissistic experience so many different painful emotions. These emotions do not stop just because the sociopath is now out of your life. In fact those painful emotions become even stronger at times. Especially during times of reflection and instrospection. The pain soon becomes anger. This anger is rightly justified. What the sociopath has done to us, is horrific.

The problem is with this anger, is that it becomes an obsession. We become obsessed with hatred of the sociopath/narcissist. Again, these feelings are certainly justified. But the problem with obsession is that it takes over our life. It interferes with our ability to regain control of our life, and move forward in a positive direction.

We were hurt and violated by a person who has no moral compass, unable to feel empathy, and is devoid of good and of a soul.  Usually hurt people, hurt people. We want to see the person who caused us such an enormous amount of pain and turmoil suffer some kind of consequences.
We even become somewhat obsessed with thinking about revenge, feeling ill will towards the person, thinking about what they did to us a majority of the time, and when doing so, we are re-living that nightmare all over again.

So you see, the problem with obsession is that is wear us out. It takes away precious moments of life that are waiting to be lived.
Do not feel ashamed if you have become obsessed in this way. It is normal. What is important is that you become aware of these feelings and thoughts, and you have the ability to change them.
We must cope with obsession by compartmentalizing it, only allowing ourself to dwell on it for specific periods of  time. This way you will be able to schedule your way out of it.

The sociopath/narcissist has stolen so much time from us, and we must accept that what happened, happened. Be thankful that now this evil individual is out of your life. Because now you are able to actually LIVE LIFE genuinely and joyfully.

The long journey of healing after a psychopath

Healing after being in a relationship with a psychopathic person is a long hard journey. I have personally seen how a psychopath can turn a once vibrant, positive, assertive person into a passive, insecure and scared person. 
It never really ends with a psychopath.  

Sometimes a victim of a psychopath will go for years without hearing from the psychopath. Then one day, out of the blue the psychopath will call. This is usually because they have become tired of their last victim, and decide to contact someone that they believe they can trick again..

Psychopaths have no decency in them.  

Psychopaths and Sociopaths have a negative energy that surrounds them. 
Most of us are unaware of this negativity around them until it is too late. Once we do begin to realize that the psychopath is not who and what they say they say, the psychopath begins a campaign to destroy their victim before the victim can speak out about them, and expose who they really are.  Even after the relationship is over, the psychopath will continue tо slander their victim by relentlessly attacking their reputation and character.  The psychopath IS NOT looking to just hurt their victim, the psychopath is on a mission to DESTROY and ANNIHILATE their victim,
 A psychopath will even attack their victims family (children included) and lie about people the victim loves, just to get the emotional reaction from their victim. This can go on for years, even after you have made no contact, moved away, and refused to react, or retaliate. 

So why does the psychopath continue to harass, gossip about, and torment their victim even after their victim has moved on, and has no contact with the psychopath? One would think the psychopath would simply move on to their next victim. After all you have avoided the psychopath, and do not pose an immediate threat to them. The truth is,  the psychopath continues to wreak havoc on a victims life because they simply can. And usually it is out of  BOREDOM....  Yes, the psychopath remembers how they could get an emotional reaction out of their victim (you). They have exhausted and broken all of their other victims.  So they look for someone familiar, someone who they think will “entertain” them temporarily. 
To the psychopath, you are an object. Your pain is nothing to them,. Example - destroying a persons life is no less or greater to them than popping a balloon.  If the psychopath can get a response, they will start their attack on you full force. 

This is why it is important to your well being that once a relationship has ended with one, that you never look at their social media page, and you have no contact ever again. If you have to change your life, and do thinks such as change your email, your cell phone, DO IT. And keep your distance no matter what. Usually you don't have to worry about running into the Sociopath in town, since the sociopath rarely attends social functions, due to their inner dysfunctional. The Psychopath is a little more function usually. The sociopath is not so functional. They can't handle any lack of stimulation, so they usually turn to drugs or alcohol to surpass the time. 

When Reality Slaps You Hard

The realization that you are dealing with a sociopath. Or have been romantically involved or currently still are involved with a sociopath, narcissist or a psychopath is a very surreal and scary feeling. You have obviously realized something was not “right” with the person. So you did meticulous research and all signs point to a person who lacks a conscience.
A person who has no regard for the feelings of any other person but him/herself..

It is very difficult for most of us to understand and accept that there are people in our world that do not feel any empathy and have absolutely NO remorse. 
What is even more devastating (besides finding out the person you have shared so many details of your life with has NO Soul). Is realizing that every moment you shared with this person was FAKE. It wasn't real. 

The sociopath/narcissist has faked every emotion in order to manipulate you into believing they are normal with normal human emotions, just like you. 
They have pretended to love you, just to manipulate you into giving them what they want. 
How does one heal and recover from a deception so Big? You gave your time, energy, love and heart to someone, and you believed they loved you just as much. How does one ever trust again? Love again?  I

Once you have accepted the harsh reality for what it is. It's time to move on. 
It will Not be easy. The sociopath has left you feeling as if the energy/life force has been stolen right out of your soul. This is why healing takes time. You must take care of yourself, be good to yourself and never blame yourself for what happened. After all you were not this evil persons first victim and you will not be the last. This predator will continue this until their last day on this earth. They are simply soulless beings among us. 

Usually as soon as you begin the healing process, the narcissist will suddenly come back to your life, and they will say whatever they have to say to get you back. They will be that same great wonderful amaZing person you met in the beginning. Stay Strong! 

Remember THE NARCISSIST/SOCIOPATH WILL NEVER CHANGE. 

They are able to  fake emotions like. remorse,  sorrow, and even shame. They will act sorry to get you to forgive them for whatever they have done wrong.  They are NOT sorry though. They know exactly what they are doing and plan on doing it again. They actually do not see anything wrong with their behavior.  This is just how twisted they really are.

Narcissist/Sociopaths are serial cheaters.  Every single one of them. Rather it's a man or woman. Just like they are not capable of feeling empathy, they are not capable of being loyal. 

When you first caught them doing something wrong, they initially probably won you back fairly quickly or were able to deny any responsibility and convinced you they are not to blame. But after the 2nd, 3rd, even 4th time the issue came back up, you begin to have your suspicions. But of course the sociopath still tries to show you a great deal of sorrow, empathy and whatever other human emotions they know how to mimic, to manipulate you again. 

They can look so damn genuine, it's really mind blowing to know its all bullsh*t. 

They never feel bad that they have caused so much pain. They actually will feel bad for themselves, when you have had enough and are not so easily swayed and forgiving this 
time. So what started with them apologizing and acting remorseful soon turns to them blaming you (once they realize that you don't believe them) There anger comes raging out at this point, not because they feel bad about anything, their mask is starting to slip  because they were caught.