The Sociopath uses projection to bully their victims

Sociopaths are Adult Bullies...

The have a particular hatred for anyone who can see through their deception and mask of deceit. They are the worst kind of bullies, because they aren't the big kid, openly picking on you so that others see it and you can ask for help. They take another approach to bully. They will launch a malicious personal attack on you. They will attack your credentials, qualifications, and your personality. They will tell others you suffer from a personality disorder, such a borderline or psychopathy.  They will tell people they think are important, hoping that those people will believe it and dismiss you. 

Sociopathic Bullies and Projection

Sociopathic bullies project their inadequacies, behaviors, and shortcomings onto other people to avoid facing up to their own inadequacy. They falsely accuse others of what they themselves are guilty of. This way they feel they distract and divert attention away from themselves and their own insecurities. Projection is achieved through critisim, blame and making false allegations, these allegations are actually admissions the sociopath is making  about themselves. 

Once you realize this, every accusation and critisim and lie that the sociopath makes toward you (or whoever their target is at the time) this is actually a revelation about who they are and what they have done.  This knowledge is good to have when you are the target of the sociopath. For instance – if the sociopathic bully accuses their target of cyber stalking, bullying their children, being a home wrecker, or being stupid. It is likely that the sociopath has committed these acts. They do not want others to figure out that they are cyber stalking, or physically stalking someone. The sociopath is a bully to their own children and also to other peoples children. Sociopaths are notorious for being promiscuous. They have no qualms about committing adultery or breaking up a family.  

But they do not want anyone to know about these indiscretions.... 

 

The sociopathic bully fears being exposed. That is why they point the finger and accuse others in a emotionally injuring way. If the sociopath thinks someone sees through there bullsh*t, and this person could expose them for who they really are. That person is a threat to the sociopath. 

The sociopath doesn't just target a person who sees through their crap. They also are bullying other targets for personal reasons. Sociopathic bullies usually have a few victims they are tormenting.  The goal of the sociopathic bully is to destroy the persons reputation, so that no one will believe the target when they speak up about being bullied or slandered. 

It is Highly likely that sociopathic bully is committing the same acts or has committed these acts against the person that they are making the accusation towards.

This is very important knowledge to have when you are dealing with a person who has psychopathic tendencies, or someone who fits the description of a personality disordered individual. 

When the sociopaths bullying and smear campaigning becomes apparent to other people, the sociopathic bully will play the “Mental Health Trap”. Claiming their target is “unstable” or “mentally ill” or has a “mental health problem”. 

  This allegation is a projection of the sociopaths own mental health issues, insecurities, and fear of being exposed. 

If this trap is being used on you, and it is damaging your career or your ability to find employment. You can take legal action against the sociopathic bully. You will have to assert “projection” as a defense against disciplinary action as a part of your legal proceedings.

Projection is a key feature in identifying a person who has a psychopathic or "cluster B" personality disorder.

It is a fact that when held accountable the psychopathic personality will accuse the person who is “unmasking” them of being the one with the “mental illness” or the one who has a personality disorder.

If you feel someone is targeting you. It's important to look closely at what they are saying about you and accusing you of. You will find that everything they accuse you of and slander you with, they in fact are guilty of doing.

Psycho ex with borderline personality disorder

   Psycho Ex Wife or Mentally ill? 

If you are divorced or married and you ex has doesn't call and text you a million times today just to tell you crazy lies about your children in order to get a reaction out of you. Consider yourself lucky. Not all psycho ex wife's are sociopaths. Some may show traits but they may actually have a mentally illness. Such as borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and schizoaffective disorder.  All these types often project there own issues and onto the people in their life. They rarely take responsiblity for their life, their actions and their mistakes. 

When you have children with these types the situation can be even worse. For you and you children. The children grow up in 

environment where their needs are often neglected. They are often left at home alone for hours or even days. They are left with relatives. Home is not a place of safety for them. It's an unstable place, filled with unstable people. 

When a woman has so much hatred for her ex husband she focuses much of her life trying to make his life hell. She uses parental alienation to turn his children against. By never letting the children see their father (the only stable person in their life). Of course mom tells the kids -"dad said he couldn't get you this weekend, he rather be with his girlfriend or new family". This is mentally hurting the children. They feel unwanted and unloved. They feel rejected by their father. Their mother is never around. The mentally ill mother doesn't see her dysfunctional behavior. She only sees rage. 

What can the father do? He world full time, he is paying the crazy ex child support and doesn't have time to take this unemployed woman to court. Yet she rarely let's him see the kids. 

When the kids get older the father can only hope that they see their mother for what she is and what she has done. And can make the decision to come see him without their mothers permission.

Even when the ex wife remarries and moves on she may still harass her ex husband. Why? Because she wants control.

So is the ex wife mentally ill or is she a sociopath? The way she acts can make it hard to know. But here are signs that you are dealing with a sociopath and not a mentally ill person. 

IS SHE A SOCIOPATH OR MENTALLY ILL —

1. The sociopath will make up lies and spread rumors, make up lies, try to ruin her ex's reputation, she will also target her ex's new wife. And make not only her ex's life hell, but also his new wife by spreading lies and rumors. SOCIOPATHS ARE NOTORIOUS FOR SLANDER AND DEFAMATION. 

 

2. After making up lies about her ex, the sociopath plays the victim. Whatever she has done to the ex (stalked, harassed,character assassination) she accuses the ex of doing to her. 

3. Sociopaths are pathological liars. They will lie even when the truth is in their best interest. They will lie about the children to their ex. Going as far as saying that one of the children has cancer or has to have surgery. Just to waste her ex's time. The lie for no reason. In fact the sociopath hasn't even taken the children to the doctor in years. 

4. Sociopaths speak fluently. Under pressure Normal people can get tongue tied and shows signs of being nervous. NOT THE SOCIOPATH. The have an overly complex speech and writing in order to look clever and often is contradictory from one sentence to the next. 

5. The Sociopath Feels They are Entitled to the Best of Everything and Expects everyone to give her what she wants. 

6. The Sociopath Twists Conversations to Suit her own Agenda. She diverts conversation to gain moral or intellectual higher ground—when stumped, changes the subject or gets angry.

7. The sociopath is an Energy Vampire. She drains her victims of energy, life, time, money, and vitality. With persistent harassment and constant drama. 

8. The Sociopath is Unreliable and Irresponsible. Sociopaths break promises. They lie. They hate responsibility. They take credit for everyone else's hard work.