Things to Remember after the Psychopath

If you have been in a relationship with a psychopathic personality there is some very important things to keep in mind — as these individuals are dangerous and are fully capable of causing you physical and psychological harm

Remember–  if you seek to expose them, keep in mind they will respond with bitter and malicious  rage, threats, vicious and hurtful communication, and attempts to destroy and discredit you, so your reputation is ruined 

Also – don’t beat yourself up because you did not recognize the the signs that they were a monster earlier; just act as soon as you do start to see them for who they really are.

Do Not be Ashamed to – seek therapy as soon as possible; the trauma of these encounters can be long-lasting and devastating to every aspect of your life. 

You should if possible - warn others of your experience with the sociopath/psychopath because you can bet that the sociopath will   be doing his/her best to cast you as irrational, mentally unstable, 

dangerous and downright crazy!

Psychopath Feels they are Better than that.,

Being in any kind of relationship with a psychopath/sociopath is devastating and debilitating. The psychopath is able to make their victim feel as if everything is their fault. 

The victim doesn't understand why the person they “love” and believe "loves" them, treats them like they are not important. The victim feel a constant rejection from the psychopath. Anytime the psychopath is "kind" the victim feels a brief sense of relief. 

This is only short lived for the victim. 

The psychopath uses this treatment to keep their victim feeling inadequate, worthless, and as if there is something wrong with them. This is ABUSE! 

Psychopaths are distinguished from other thugs or criminals because their extreme lack of empathy. Which causes them to act with complete indifference and without conscience.  That’s what makes them capable of some of the most cold-hearted actions toward others.  Psychopaths can project an air of charm and charisma, they can appear otherwise quite normal, they could be Susie soccer mom, or the little league coach.

They are notorious for being able to fly under the radar. They go through life pretending to be a wonderful kind and giving person. 

The only people who know what monsters these people really are is their family.  The psychopaths family sees their tantrums, and rants. It is their family who suffers the most abuse by the psychopath.

As tragic as it is, sometimes people are attracted to the confidence and charm that psychopathic personalities project.  It is this charm that causes normal and intelligent people to ignore their internal danger sensors. By the time the victim comes to their senses, they have already been manipulated, devalued and in the worst case scenarios destroyed by these pathologically arrogant and unloving individuals.  

Make no mistake, no one is more dangerous than a person who believes that he or she is above others, and that he/she is so much better than everyone else, that the rules simply do not apply to them.  

These types feels entitled to prey on those viewed as inferior. — which is basically everyone. 

Psychopaths believe that they are “above” the law, they believe that the world owes them something.

This is obvious in their absence of sensitivity to those who are suffering, that are less fortchante. The psychopath judges people who are not in an elite group of some sort. They gravitate to these elite types because they want to expand their social status. 

They are comtempuous individuals and use gossip to destroy those that they see as a threat. The gossiping is usually so damaging to the targeted individual, the victim feels as if their life has been destroyed by the psychopath... 

Sociopaths And Stalking

Sociopaths stalk their victims and exes because they feel as if their victim belongs to them. They see their victim not as a human being but as a ‘material possession’. 

This story is from a friend of mine who has been dealing with a sociopathic ex now for over 12 years. 

It can be quite a scary experience for the victim. Sociopaths stalk in different ways. Some in personate their victim online to destroy their victims reputation. Others keep up with their victims online activity. And the real psychotic sociopaths actually follow their victim. Making the victim feel their life and the life of their children is in danger. 

Stalking is a crime in most states. But unfortunately by the time police interact the victim has usually been harmed.

When my ex stalked me, she also stalked my new girlfriend who is now my wife. She kept up with my online activity. And also my wife's. She would get information from our children about what we did at home we are we were going. It became to the point where I could not tell my own children basic things because I was afraid the information would get back to my psychopathic ex. 

She really targeted my wife, by impersonating her online. She started a blog pretending to be my wife and pretending to have an in mental illness. She wanted other people to believe that it was my wife who made the blog and was looking for help for ‘borderline personality disorder’. 

My ex-wife has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, when her mother made her see a psychiatrist or else she would cut off her from the money she gave her monthly. I don't believe that she has borderline personality disorder. I believe that she is a sociopath, a common every day sociopath. - this is just my opinion from what I know of her.   

I have had emails made up in my name. I have had credit cards in my name that my ex-wife applied for. She has financially done everything she possibly could to destroy me. 

I have had no contact with my ex-wife now for over a year. But that does not stop her from continuingly contacting me. She gives our children notes for me to read. I do not read them throw them away. She believes that I am her material possession and I ‘owe’ her my loyalty. 

Even though when we were married she was anything but loyal. 

It seems to me that sociopaths have a really “bad” memory. When it comes to remembering the cheating and lying they do. But they have an excellent memory when it comes to bringing up any small mistake you have made, or any kind of help/service they “think” they did for you. For instance - the 1995 model Lexus that I drove for years was in my ex wife's names, she still continues to bring up “that if it weren't for her I wouldn't have had a car to drive”. Though I gave that car back to her 7 years ago when she didn't have a car due to all the accidents she had. Yet she is still bringing it up. 

She got extremely angry when I bought my wife a new car. I simply told her, “that's my wife, it's not your business, tell your husband to buy you a car if you need one". As she had remarried as soon as our divorce finalized to the man she was cheating with so long. 

My children are almost adults (17 and 15). My daughter is responsible and has a car of her own now. Even though I was always planning to buy her a car, my ex wife's mother bought her the car. 

It's just another thing that my ex wife throws in my face. “What father doesn't buy his child a car on her 16th birthday?!” 

I wasn't given the option to even get my daughter a new car. Yet my ex wife is constantly telling anyone who will listen, what a piece of sh*t father I am. How I have completely abandoned my children, for my “new family”. Which could not be further from the truth. 

My daughter is on our insurance policy. I have paid my ex wife $3500 monthly since the day she said she was going to work out of town (she was really going to the Bahamas with her married boyfriend). She left me to take care of our then young children. I still had to work. It was hard for me, but I stepped up and did it. My children remember that. Though they rarely bring it up. 

I have never spread rumors about my ex wife. I remain Anonymous if I speak of my experience. Just as I am remaining anonymous on this blog post. 

I wish I could tell readers that this story has a happy ending. Unfortunately I cannot though. Even after being divorced for over 10 years, she has not stopped any of her craziness. 

I no longer try to please her, or give in to her, just for a day or two of peace. I realize that nothing I do will ever be enough. So when she tells people what a crappy father I am, I no longer get upset. My children know I am a good father. I support them emotionally, financially, and in any way they need me. My daughter now 17, comes over to spend time with us every week, and she brings her 15 year old brother. 

My ex wife wants to punish me. For what, I don't know. She cheated and left on her own. I was too busy caring for our young children to get angry or ‘revenge’.

It seems as though when I remarried, that is what really angered her. I suppose she feared that I would no longer be her puppet, and my new wife would influence me and point out that the way my ex treated me was not appropriate or right. And she was right.

I stopped allowing my ex wife to verbally abuse me and steal from me.

This has angered my ex, she really believed that she would be able to control me until the day I died. 

Unfortunately the only people who are really suffering from my ex-wife's a erratic and irrational behavior is our children. 

But fortunately my children have turned out to be wonderful, amazing, and brilliant little adults. It amazes me everyday at how smart and sweet they are. They have been through so much. 

My ex wife tells them terrible things about me and my wife. The children have chosen to make up their own minds about me and their step mother.  They see our actions, and how we do not speak ill of their mother, and we are consistent. 

I know that by having children with a sociopath, that my life will always have some sort of drama. My children will marry one day and have children and I  sure my ex wife will use what is suppose to be a wonderful occasions to make life unbearable. 

 

Common everyday sociopaths

The common everyday sociopath is 

ia convincing, excelled liar and when called to account, will make up anything to fit their needs at that moment. 

The sociopath is a jealous individual, and will target and destroy any person they feel envy toward. They destroy by spreading lies to damage the persons reputation. The lies are completely made up, and have no truth to them. The sociopath is Very convincing...

Spciopaths will never take responsibility for anything. Nobody likes to be blamed, but a responsible person will accept blame for something appropriate. Sociopaths don’t like to accept blame for anything, even if it is well-earned. While part of this is likely from their typical “I am  better than you” attitude and “the rules don’t apply to me” attitudes, there’s more to it than that -  Sociopaths may realize that blaming is how they control others to cause harm and problems for their targets, whom they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests. They understand both the destructive and defensive powers of blaming and make regular use of both.

I have been targeted by a sociopath who spread Nasty lies about me. The lies were so damaging I was afraid to leave my home because I was scared that people believed the sociopath. 

The sociopath does fear

Sociopaths DO NOT want anyone to find out the TRUTH about who they really are.  

Sociopaths are all malicious and devious people. They know they are “different” than most people. Even as children they recognize that they are unable to make a connection to anyone. 

Sociopaths are unable to LOVE. They are unable to receive love and feel love. This causes them a deep rooted insecurity.  

Beyond being embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly fear of being exposed and rejected. 

Because they use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. They know that being exposed puts them at great risk of others finding out their true nature. 

Therefore sociopaths WILL ALWAYS attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who poses as a threat to them by presenting the facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their behaviors and their false statements.

The “charismatic” Abusers

Sociopaths are usually said to be charismatic. 

Unfortunately their charisma is only a facade. While others who do not know them well may see them as charismatic and even a respected leader. But the victim of the sociopath would describe them as anything but...

Because the abuser in this type of situation is “charismatic” and well-loved (by strangers), they are  usually dynamic speakers and are some of the greatest storytellers (Liars). They will present themselves who do not really know them, how they are a person who loves to help people. They are seeking to be seen as a “trustworthy” person. This is how they win others over, and will usually manipulate them into doing their dirty work. 

They also put this elaborate and ridiculous show on to gain the trust of others. So if any of their victims speaks the truth about them, then the victim will not believed.  And the sociopath will go into to portray themselves as if they are the victim and they will go on to vilify the real victim. 

Sociopaths give charisma a bad name. I don't believe we should associate charisma with the sociopath. The charisma that the sociopath uses is only a ploy to manipulate others in order to get what they want from them, it is far from real or genuine. Nothing the sociopath does is real or genuine. Once the sociopath has their victim hooked, the charismatic act they once displayed disappears and the abuse begins. 

The sociopath shows the rest of the world what they want them to see. Only the victim(s) of the sociopath sees them for the ruthless, heartless person they are. 

The sociopaths family also endures much of their wrath as well. They torment siblings, and manipulate their parents into giving in to them. The more elderly the parent becomes, the more the sociopath will try to be the "caretaker." 

Not because they care for the well being of their elderly parent, but in order to gain control of their money, and belongings. 

They will only appear to others as if they are taking care of their elderly parent, but in reality they are not taking care of anyone but themselves.  Instead of getting groceries or medical care for them, they use the money for themselves. They will tell others how much time and money they have been spending on their elderly mother or father.. 

It's a very sad way for an elderly person to spend their final years. 

The sociopath simply doesn't care though.

This is not what I consider to be charismatic. It is cruel and remorseless. That is what the sociopath really is though. Cruel and remorseless. You cannot make them care. You cannot make them feel empathy, they will never be sorry for the pain they have caused. In fact the sociopath will try to blame the victim for any emotional trauma they have caused. They accuse their victim of provoking them to act in such a way, or to have said such things that have caused the victim pain. 

The sociopath can be described as many things, but Charismatic is NOT one of them... 

Words as Weapons

The sociopath is motivated by control. The desire to be in control of any environment they are in. The sociopath wants to take credit for “making stuff happen”. But they are rarely the one who has made “stuff” happen.

They do not want anybody to know how irresponsible, and untrustworthy they really are. They seek out caring, kind, empathetic individuals (as they seem them as “weak” and easy prey) to do for them, what they just don't feel like doing - and the sociopath is always going to take the credit for someone else's hard work. 

Sociopaths do not have any real friends. Since they are unable to make a genuine connection with anyone. Any “friends” they may have had, more than likely became tired of emotionally giving so much and never receiving anything back. People find out quickly that being friends with the sociopath is emotionally exhausting. 

Sociopaths are emotional vampires. 

They may not suck your blood out, but they will suck the energy and life right out of you with their constant conflict and drama, and outrageous demands.

They behave in a non-human like way, they are unable to feel what you feel. 

A person who is in a relationship with a sociopath will feel drained, weak, exhausted - emotionally and physically. The sociopath ALWAYS plays the role of the victim, this is how they attempt to control you. They know you will feel sorry for them, they know you will feel guilt. The main emotion that the sociopath does not have — Guilt, is the emotion they will use the most to manipulate and control you with.

Sociopaths are so excelled in lying and pretending to be someone they are not that you will not be able to “spot a sociopath” by just looking for all the tale tell signs. 

Even though sociopaths are known for their dramatic displays, in attempt to elicit pity from others (to manipulate) 

They are so void of empathy and real emotion, they are unable to feel when another person is emotionally hurting - and mostly this is because they really just don't care. 

Even if you tell the sociopath that you are upset, hurt, devastated, and sad. THEY DO NOT CARE!  When you tell a heartless sociopath that you are sad, DO NOT expect a kind response. They will go on the attack. They will turn your emotions on you, and will convince you that you feel the way you do because of YOU! Not them! They will not take any responsibilty for anything. *They can become irate and angry and even enraged at the fact that you had the nerve to share these feelings with them, possibly insinuating that they are responsible for them! 😡

The basic responses that we expect from human beings are just not there. This leave the victim questioning themselves. Most people have no idea that these kinds of manipulators live among us. So the victim is left wondering what they have done to cause this..

All sociopaths and psychopaths use words as weapons, of deception and dominance. 

Robert Hare, PhD., says that the personality of a sociopath (psychopath) is essentially set in stone, so to speak, by adulthood, and incredibly hard to change. 

You cannot change a person who is evil. They are what they are. You must take care of you. Remove the evil from your life 

There is No closure with a sociopath

I have said this a million times and I may say it a million more but Sociopaths constantly make life hell for the people closest to them. Usually that is their spouse, children, siblings and parents and other family. 

Since being targeted by a spciopath, my life has changed in so many ways. I have gone through so many emotional  transformations, and spiritual transformation.                      

When looking for answers about ‘how to move on’ and ‘how to find my real self’ after I felt the sociopath had stolen my real self. 

I was desperate to find the person I was before I met the sociopath. This is when I became emotionally “stuck”. I so was desperate to heal and to move on, but I couldn't, because I still believed that I needed closure from the sociopath. 

I was “stuck” and I felt that the only way to get “unstuck” was to understand the sociopath. I thought that if I could understand why this person did the horrible things to me, and to others, then I would be able to finally move on with my life and put it all behind me. I wanted them to at least accept responsibility for what they did.... I soon figured out that “accepting responsibility” is something that a sociopath will never do.

In an attempt to understand the sociopath, I was keeping myself ‘stuck’. I was spending my time reading self help books, looking for answers on the Internet. I did find a lot of support, and found many people were suffering just like I was. Some of them didn't even realize that they were the victim of a sociopath. They were suffering because, like me they wanted answers. They wanted to understand. They wanted so badly to move on, but like me they were STUCK. 

This was when I realized and begin to accept that I was never going to get the answers I was looking for. The reality was, I was looking that the sociopath will never give you closure. The reason is because they feel if you are still suffering and depressed, they are still controlling you. 

They do not care. They are so evil, that they know you want closure, and that is one reason they will never give it to you. Even though they caused your pain by cheating and abusing you, they do NOT care. They want to will remain in control of you, if you are unable to move on with your life because of them that makes them feel as if they “WON”. 

It was at this moment I had that “Ah ha” moment. I had been wasting all my time looking for something that I would never find.  I had wasted enough of my life (the years the sociopath had taken) and I was still wasting my life. Every minute spent thinking about the sociopath, trying to understand why they did what they did to me, was just wasting my life more. 

That moment I felt all kinds of emotions. Anger, frustration, depression, but I also felt a sense of awakening, and contentment. A contentment that I would never understand evil, and that I was free to move on and live again. I am OKAY with never understanding evil. 

Pathological People Use the Internet to do their Dirty Work

Anyone who uses the internet or has a social media account (facebook, Twitter, MySpace, Instagram, Blogger)  any kind of online network — then chances are you have encountered some type of cyberbully, Internet troll or stalker. 

Some of them confine themselves to one site and just like to stir people up. Others enjoy having their own site where they can torment their victims by using the victims full name, and then accusing the victim of disgusting things. They are using the Internet to destroy the victims reputation and ruin their life and take away their peace of mind. *A HUGE REDFLAG THAT YOU HAVE A SOCIOPATHIC CYBER TROLL ON YOUR HANDS IS WHEN THE TROLL USES the victims —first* last* middle* even maiden name.  

They enjoy the attention and reaction they get from others. They especially enjoy the emotional reaction they get from the target. Once the target responds emotionally - the troll turns everything around on the target. Making the target look “CRAZY” and verifies that everything they had accused the target of was true. These people are Trolls. They are sociopaths. They are dangerous. As disturbing and hurtful as they may be on the internet. When their attempts to harass and defame you online fails. They will not stop, they only look for more clever ways to stalk you online and they may even begin to stalk you in real life. 

These people are so dangerous.  Majority of these kind of people that engage in cyber stalking are sociopaths. They go way beyond the annoying activities of a troll.  They try to destroy peoples lives, and anyone who is close to the person (like children, spouses, friends, and family) Sociopaths derive satisfaction from the pain and suffering they inflict on others. Sociopaths are very disturbed and sick and people. They DO NOT CARE how about anyone, the more pain and suffering they cause, the more satisfied they are. 

There is no negotiating with a sociopath. They are pathological liars, filled with hate and deceit. They only know how to be hateful and vindictive. They live their entire life this way. They WILL NEVER CHANGE. Some people find this a harsh reality to accept. The sooner you can accept this, the safer you are and the happier you will be. 

I know this because I have been the victim of a sociopath. I was cyber stalked, I was falsely accused of horrible things. My reputation was being torn to shreds. My self esteem was being ripped apart. I was emotionally and physically exhausted from how much time the sociopath spent on writing about me, talking to anyone who would listen about me. Even saying nasty things about my young child. Sociopaths will hurt your children of they believe it will cause you (their real target pain and distress) - this is what makes them so dangerous. They have no qualms about hurting children, even killing a pet if they think it will cause you devastation and hurt. 

Some cyber stalkers have a personal vendetta against the individual they are stalking and bullying online. They set up dozens of fake profiles and account to harass the victim. The sociopath cyber stalker uses first and last name so that anytime the victims name is run on a search engine, the negative, defamatory, and damaging lies, are the first thing to show up. 

Anyone that is being cyber stalked should take comfort in the fact that the material a cyber stalker publishes seldom is of little interest to anyone. 

I have been a victim of a particularly nasty sociopath. I have been cyber stalked, bullied, harassed, slandered and scared for the past five years.

Things today are better. I survived. I like to consider myself a survivor more so than a victim of a pathological person. I know there are so many others who are going through an ordeal like i have. Feel free to email me if you are going through this kind of torment. It's important to talk with someone who understands and believes you. They can help you to handle the ordeal, and put the broken pieces back together. 

Recovery and healing

Some people are fascinated with sociopaths... I am not one of those people.

To me there is nothing fascinating about a person who is evil. There is nothing special about a person who hurts everyone that is “nearest and dearest” to them. Maybe people are fascinated because they understand so little about these ruthless individuals. I doubt they have been the victim of one or targeted. If they were, they would not be so fascinated with them. 

Sociopaths are bad people. They have bad intentions. They are aware of the misery they cause, yet they don't give a damn. 

I don't like to call myself a victim of a narcissistic sociopath. I prefer to think I am a survivor.

It has taken some time to heal, and recover, but I like to think I have come a long way from where I was about 7 years ago. None of it has been easy, there was a time when I believed that nothing would ever be “ok” again. I was completely hopeless. I felt that I didn't even know who I was anymore. I was so lost I even questioned my own morals, wondering what did I do, there has to be an explanation why someone would do these awful things to me. 

I have suffered. I admit I have felt like nothing mattered anymore. Because of my bad decision to marry a snake, my life would never be happy, I would never find peace.

What happened to me? 

I have felt just about every emotion one can feel. I was depressed, then I was angry. I was exhausted mentally and physically. I was hopeless. I was scared, alone, and living in fear. 

I have been through it all. I have had to really look at myself, my real self. I didn't always see what I liked. What my ex sociopath did isn't important to me anymore. The things I lost are no longer important to me either. 

What matters most to me is the here and the now. I continue to take things one day at a time. 

Once I stopped feeling like a was a victim and I started looking at myself, I learned that I was responsible for myself and my feelings. It is up to me to establish boundaries with people, and walk away from people and situations that make me feel belittled and taken advantage of. What has happened in the past is over and done. Can't change any of that. But I can learn from it all. No matter how much I do not like what I have been through, I do believe there is a bigger learning experience in it. Eveything happened the way it happened because that was the way it was meant to be. It really is what it is. 

Accepting that everything that happens, happens so for a reason, and even though I don't know what that reason is, I have to trust that it is the way it is suppose to be. 

Trusting that everything is the way it is suppose to be, is what made me realize that I do not have to be a victim anymore.

Being a victim was a not a choice, but being a survivor is. 

I know now I AM NOT THE PERSON I use to be. I am much more than the person I use to be. I am stronger now, I have lived through something that forced me to look at myself, my flaws, my insecurities, and as ugly as they were at times, there was a reason I had to go through this. 

Sociopathic Parents destroy children and the ex partner

Recognizing that you are in a relationship with a sociopath is so important. Sociopaths have certain patterns of exaggerations, blaming, and distortions, that are obvious early on in a relationship. 

This can save you years of emotional and psychological damage that the sociopath will cause you. 

It is never easy to end any relationship with a sociopath.  

But a relationship is much less complicated to end than a marriage!

Marrying a sociopath is a life sentence of hell, the sociopath will try to keep you in legal battles for years. Sociopaths LOVE going to court. They are convincing and skilled liars. They have a fearlessness about them, that they are able to stand up in front of a court of law and make up one lie after another, portraying you as the crazy out of control spouse, and they are the victim. All while remaining cool, calm, and collected. 

When normal people face going to court for any reason they are usually nervous. Rather it be for a traffic violation, or for child custody case. Either way the sociopath is completely comfortable and at ease in any situation, that the rest of us would feel tremendous anxiety. This is because we have something the sociopath DOES NOT HAVE — “emotions” and genuine feelings.

It's important to recognize patterns of abuse before committing to a disordered person.

The last thing you want is to bring Innocent children into such a dysfunctional environment. 

Please listen when I say NOTHING good can come out of marrying the sociopath – ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. 

The marriage will end. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate, harass and basically make life feel it's not worth living. They will so malicious things just to make sure their ex partner is miserable. 

Children who have a sociopathic parent never get a fair chance in life. They will always suffer at the hands of their vindictive, abusive and  unstable sociopathic parent, who will always  be in and out of their life. Sociopaths hate responsibility, so taking care of children isn't that appealing to them, but having children as trophies is appealing to them. The sociopathic parent is  constantly interfering and disrupting the child's life.

In the children's earlier years the sociopath disrupts their life only to manipulate and control the other parent. Sociopaths use the children as a tool to manipulate to get what they need or want. Or to just to make problems and cause suffering. The sociopath wants their ex to be miserable. They use the children to make sure that this happens. 

When the children become adults the aging sociopath has burned all their bridges and does not have the abilities to manipulate others anymore (as their looks have withered, and they have posse off to many people - and no one is buying their shit anymore. So the sociopath uses their children to get what they want. Still using guilt as their weapon of choice. They will usually tell the an adult child how they took care of them for 18 years provided them with a roof over their head and a supportive parental figure. Basically making the child feel as if they owe them. 

Fortunately most children of sociopaths are very aware of the pain that the dysfunctional parent caused them and their supportive parent. They are able to see right through the sociopathic parents billshit, deception and manipulation. They usually choose to have no contact and no relationship with the sociopath when they become adults 

But unfortunately not all children of sociopaths turn out to be okay. Many become manipulated by the sociopathic parent. The sociopath wants to hurt you through your children. So will always seek full custody. So they will always be in control. Living with a sociopath full time can take its toll on a child's mental state. The children grow up with many psychological issues because sociopaths are abusive individuals, rather it is neglect or verbal and physical abuse.

They don't actually care about the children. 

They care about the control they have over the children, to hurt their ex. 

Sociopaths are verbally and even physically abusive to everyone, the ex and children are not an exception. 

Children suffer from low self esteem, shame issues and depression when raised by a sociopathic parent

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Confronting The Devil

 

Anyone who has ever confronted a narcissistic/sociopath knows the damage that they are capable of. 

These types of disordered people are revenge seeking people, will explode, exploit, and destroy anyone who does not agree with them. The sociopath fears being exposed for who they really are. So anyone who will confront them, poses as a threat to them.

Anyone who has attempted to get answers from the sociopath has surely experienced their wrath.. The sociopath will never answer you with the truth. 

Sociopaths will do everything they can to discredit whoever dares to confront them. They will make damaging false accusations about the victim. 

In my experience, all the accusations the  sociopath makes is actually what they are doing to the victim..

All accusations are projections. 

Rather than admitting to having a problem and dealing with it, the sociopath and the narcissist will scapegoat their target with false accusations based upon their own psychological issues, failures, and weaknesses.

They only know how to hurt others in order to make them look better. It is how they cover up their tracks. Vilifying the victim by making them seem like the “crazy” person, or the abuser. 

Being married to a sociopath or narcissist, you are likely to be accused of having an affair, financial irresponsibility, and other less serious accusations. The sociopath will accuse you of being insecure, needy, and ‘unstable’. All are just more projections they are putting on to you based on their own insecurities and short comings  

This is how they break down the victim so that the victim begins to question their own sanity and doubt their own thoughts.

Abusers manipulate their victims by belittling them in subtle ways. Sociopaths and Narcissist are the most verbally abusive people. Their words are the most efficient weapon in convincing their partner that it is not them who have the problem. They make their partners feel incompetent and worthless. 

Abusive people are so delusional that they eventually start to believe they are the victim of their partner who they have abused for so long.  Some even convince their partners/victims that they are lucky to have someone like “them” who will put up with their psychological problems. Sociopaths are masters at brainwashing their victims. The sociopath /narcissist seek to erode their targets self esteem, making them feel worthless, stupid and unworthy of respect.

This is why people who have been in relationships with these monsters have a hard time developing healthy relationships after the narcissistic sociopath. They have no confidence, no self worth, they feel ashamed of who they are. 

This is how the sociopath wants their victim to be. This is how the sociopath maintains control even after the relationship is over.  

It may take years of therapy for the victim to begin to heal, and see that they are not any of the horrible things the sociopath has accused them of being. 

Spciopaths and Narcissist are so EVIL. The only way to heal from the abuse inflicted there must be NO CONTACT with the abuser EVER AGAIN. 

If there are children involved, you should seek professional help on how to deal with the abuser. Usually having a third party to communicate with the abuser is the only way not to fall into their manipulation. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate and hurt you. The third party will be able to decide what information is beneficial for you and what is not. 

Sociopath and Narcissist cause so much irreparable damage to anyone they have a relationship with.

So when children are involved it becomes even harder if not impossible to separate totally from the sociopath. 

Psychopath vs Sociopath vs Psychotic

People always want to know what is the difference between and psychopath and sociopath? 

In my experience sociopaths and psychopaths are the same thing. There has been some confusion with the term psychopath and sociopath. 

The original name for this disorder was “psychopath”  but most people and the media confused it with “psychotic". The difference in a person being a psychopath and a person being psychotic is that a psychotic person is truly unaware of what is really going on around them, they have a chemical imbalance in their brain. 

When a psychopath is fully aware of what they are doing when they harm someone. When someone who is psychotic is not fully aware of what they are doing is wrong.

Example - If a psychopath kills your dog, it is because he wants to hurt you, and knows by killing your dog will hurt you. 

If a psychotic person kills your dog, it is because he believes the dog is evil, and the dog is trying to kill him, and take over the world, so he thinks he must kill the dog before the dog kills him. 

As you can see the psychotic person is not in touch with reality and has literally lost his mind, and is hearing voices and seeing things that are not real. The person is suffering from psychosis and some sort of chemical imbalance such as schizophrenia, and hallucinations. 

The psychopath is not hearing voices or seeing hallucinations. The psychopath is just evil and has no conscience. The psychopath does horrible and evil things because he intends to hurt and cause another person emotional harm and psychological damage 

The name was changed to sociopath in the 1930's in attempt to lesson the confusion between a psychopath and a psychotic person. 

Recently the media again caused confusion to the public and made misperceptions that all sociopaths were vicious serial killers, like Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, and Charles Manson. 

The truth is that a majority of sociopaths are not violent, and do not kill (kill you physically, yes they may kill your spirit and soul) And they will destroy your life, they are all pathological liars, con artist and have no moral compass. Some are capable of murder, but they rarely do murder a person. That's what makes them so hard to detect, is that they are able to look as is they are normal. They just go through life, flying under the radar, making people around them miserable. They leave a path of destruction (financial and emotional) everywhere they go. 

So now psychiatrists and psychologists call the condition “antisocial personality disorder” (ASPD). 

Sociopaths may look like us, but they are not like us. Sociopaths are ruthless. Normal people are not “ruthless”. 

Ruthless is basically someone with no pity or compassion for life, all forms of life. 

The best way to protect yourself from a sociopath is to avoid him or her. And refuse to have any kind of contact or communication.

The problem is — spotting a sociopath. They blend in, and are able to pretend to have compassion and care. By the time you realize that you are dealing with someone who is ruthless, callous and conscienceless, they have probably already caused irreparable damage to you.  

The most dangerous of the sociopath is the female sociopath, she could be the soccer mom, the pta parent, the blonde hair, blue eyed, sweet woman who most people have no idea what her life is like behind closed doors. But her children and family. She is charismatic and wants everyone to believe she is the best mother ever. And will do anything for her children. But the truth is, she is able to convince others she is doing all these wonderful things, when she is doing nothing. She has minions who support her and do her work for. They will pick up her children, take to the doctor, they will also lie for her and do what she tells them to do.

Men are more common than women sociopaths. But do not ever believe that the men are more dangerous. That is not true, the female sociopath is just as dangerous. If not more because she will use the fact that she is a woman, to hide her true self. Because as a society, we view all woman as mothers, care takers and nurturers. So we are less likely to believe a mother can be capable of such disgusting and horrific acts on others...

 

The Cyberpath Psychopath

Narcissisit's and sociopaths in our world make it hard to trust others, especially when we have been victimized by one. A victim feels alone and isolated. When the relationship goes sour the sociopath goes on a campaign to destroy your reputation, and make your life so miserable and difficult. They hope you take your own life. The victim has to keep up their guard and protect themselves from the abuse and the trouble and pain that the sociopath/narcissist can cause. 

Being in an intimate relationships with a sociopath can cause severe emotional damage to our soul. Victims are often physically assaulted and emotionally beaten and injured. 

With all the new age technology sociopaths use the Internet to do the majority or their dirty work. They are online bullies. They are able to use a veil of anonymity to harass, threaten and stalk their victims. Sociopaths torment their victims by impersonating them online in a unfavorable manner. They may post vulgar pictures of their victim. 

They are creative in how they torment their target. Sometimes they pretend to be the victim. All while vilifying the victim. They are trying to get others to hate the victim - so the victim feels they do not have anyone to turn to. 

Fortunately there are now some state and federal laws against cyber-stalking and harassment. Unfortunately they are not always enforced and can be difficult to get enforced. 

The more knowledge we have on sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissist. The less likely we will become victims. The road to recovery is a long one, and sometimes it feels as if the horror never ends. If children have been brought into the relationship. Then the hell last longer. The psychopath will use the children as a tool against you. To hurt you. To harass you. To bother you. To cause you pain and suffering. 

Remember the psychopath HATES you more than they love their children. The children are seen only as the psychopaths weapon to hurt you more with. 

The book Snakes in Suits  describes;

...the psychopath has an ulterior-- some would say "evil" --and at the very least, selfish motive. This victimization goes far beyond trying to take advantage of someone on a date or during a simple business transaction. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical, or emotional harm for the individual."

Sociopath ruin Christmas

Evil people have no ethics, no empathy and no compassion.  Sociopaths and Psychopaths and narcissist are evil.  They are characterized by a conscious and concern for others. They lack human emotions, they are ruthless, mean, and cruel. 

Evil people are hollow inside. Seeing a person in psychical or emotional pain does not bother evil people. Some even enjoy the suffering of others, and intentionally cause the suffering for their own sick and twisted pleasure. 

It's like there is no soul in side of them. They may look human, but their actions and mannerisms, make them more like monsters. 

Unfortunately these evil people need others to fufill their wants and needs. They depend on others to get want they want. They don't care how they get it. As long as they get it and are in control. They love keeping the people who they are in relationships with on their toes. They love keeping them doubting theirselves. They are evil 

Sociopaths don't give a shit. No use on wasting anytime trying to tell them how you are hurt. They truly truly DO NOT care. They believe the rules don't apply to them. Sociopaths think they are entitled to do what they what to whoever they want. 

Nothing good can come from having a relationship with a sociopath. In an intimate relationship, they are cheaters and will rob you blind. In friendships they will manipulate you and stab you in the back. If they are a family member, they ruin every holiday, birthday and they will use you and make life horrible. 

I use to LOVE Christmas. But I dread it now. Even with no contact the sociopath still tries to ruin every holiday. Especially my birthday, Christmas and Father's Day. It's so much superficial drama and bullshit, the sociopath has taken away the love that Christmas is suppose to be. 

It's All About Control

A sociopath is a liar and a user... They lie about everything. They use people as and throw them out like garbage. 

Plain and simple. 

This is old news though. We have known that sociopaths do not have a conscious and they have No sympathy. 

Seeing others suffer doesn't bother them. They could careless about children who are starving, homeless people, abused animals. 

But they sure will pretend to care, when they are trying to hook you in to believing they are a good person.

Truth — they don't give a crap about ANYONE but themselves. 

Sadistic sociopaths enjoy the suffering of others, so much so that they do intentional things to see living beings in physical and emotional pain. It's disgusting. 

They do not know, or want to learn, how to care about someone else. 

They are excelled liars and are very convincing. They are able to convince others that they care and are compassionate —this is what makes them so dangerous!  

Once they think you have you convinced that they are good people, thats when they begin to set you up to rely on them. They want you to be totally dependent on them. Once they feel you are dependent on them, that is when they manipulate you in a way that isolates you from friends and family. Convincing you that you only need them. “They are your soulmate”

Once they have you brainwashed and dependent, they begin to mistreat you, verbally abuse you, so that your self esteem is destroyed. They are masters of making others feel inferior and even “crazy”

You become their victim. You are confused so you try to understand them - that make them want to hurt you more, they do not love you - in fact they hate you even more.  If you try to leave them, they make your life even worse. They will turn people against you. Play the victim, making you look like you are the one who is obsessed and psychotic and out of control. They tell others, they are worried for you, and you are unstable and they want to help you. THAT IS BULLSHIT. They are trying to make people feel sorry for them, because they have “deal” with such a sad pathetic and insecure person... 

It IS NOT JUST YOU THEY WANT TOTAL CONTROL OF. 

Their ultimate goal is to control everyone they know. 

They want to control the world. But for now they seek to control what is in their evil grasp. They want to control their exes, and their exes new partner. They want to control their family members.

Example - They want to control their mother and father and siblings. If they have a brother, they want to control the brother and his wife and their children. If they have a sister they want to control her and her husband and any children they have.

They want to control their parents. As their parents become older, the sociopath will manipulate their parents into controlling their money. They want control of the estate.  

Then once in control of all their parents  money and assetts they will not give their siblings any money that is owed to them from the estate. If they feel they are losing any control of a situation or a person, or if the person may expose them (the sociopath) for what they have been doing, the sociopath will go on a smear campaign to destroy the persons creditability and reputation. And will smile while doing it. 

The sociopath loves this kind of drama, it is just excitement for them. While you having Anxiety and are stressed and upset. It is like a walk in the park for them. They are not affected at all by any thing you do to them. In fact they do what they do to bait you to get that response. They enjoy being cruel, and keeping you on your toes.

BUT THE TRUTH IS — NONE OF IT IS REAL. They WERE LYING AND THEY STILL ARE! Rather they are lying to you or some other poor victim – they are LIARS - and they will always do what they do BEST - LIE! 

One trait I have noticed about sociopathic individuals (especially female sociopaths) but males also... 

They want EVERYTHING that EVERYONE else has. 

**They're very jealous of material things. 

**They have a huge sense of entitlement. 

The sociopath will tell you that money and materialistic things are not important to them. (Sorry folks lets get the laughing out now) BWAH HA HA HA HAAAA HAAA!! 

Ok... One has to laugh about that statement because it is so is so ridiculous. The sociopath cares ONLY about money! They have no feelings of love for anyone. They are hard wired to hate and take. They aren't concerned with the poor, the sick, children in foster homes or the elderly.

Their only purpose on this earth is to have more than Suzie has. Drive a nicer, more expensive car than Joe has. SOCIOPATHS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO “Keep up with the Joneses”. 

The difference between A Sociopath and the Joneses, is that the Jones actually work hard for what they have. THEY MAKE AN HONEST LIVING TO HAVE the NICER THINGS IN LIFE. The SOCIOPATH earns NOTHING... They steal, con, scam and deceive people to get what they have.

It is why the sociopath continues to do horrific things to people. Most of the horrible things the sociopath does is not done to strangers (all though they will if the stranger has something they want) Most of the horrific things they do are to their family, children, spouse, and their many ex spouses. Their horrid acts will even extend to their ex spouses new husband or wife and their children - that the sociopath has no relation to.

They are truly RUTHLESS, HATEFUL, and EVIL PEOPLE. They are the people in our world that do not want PEACE. They don't want to help people in need. 

They wreak havoc on the lives of anyone and everyone they come into contact with. They will steal every dime you have. They believe in their twisted, evil brain that everyone “owes” them. That is their sense of entitlement issue...

Their sole purpose on this earth is to get more and more. They suck people dry. They drain your time, your energy, your life, your wallet, and your bank account. 

A SOCIOPATH ONLY loves themselves. If you have ever been fooled by a sociopath, don't feel bad, because you are not the first, and you will not be the last.  

Just REMEMBER what you have been through, and what you experienced. LEARN FROM IT. 

You now have the wisdom to help others, but also remember that you can bring awareness of a what a sociopath is and does. But you probably can't convince someone that the person they are with is a conscienceless, heartless sociopath. They will have to learn on their own, the same way you learned. 

A sociopath will exhaust every fiber in your being. It takes time to get yourself "well" again. It takes time to trust again. *Time is the key word here* Time heals all eventually. 

JUST NEVER BE FOOLED AGAIN.