Tuesday, December 31, 2013

DONT SEEK REVENGE - Sociopaths will destroy themselves sooner or later

Sociopaths are notorious for lying. To a sociopath, lying comes about as natural to them as breathing... They are not capable for telling the truth. They only know how to lie. They are aware of their lying though. They are aware when they are telling people you know lies about you in an attempt to ruin your reputation. They are seeking to destroy you. Why? Because they want to kill you emotionally. This is how they break you down. They are convincing. They are psychopaths. No conscience or remorse about anything. They are aware they are ruining your life, hurting your children, and they just do not give a crap. They want you to feel their wrath. They want to see you suffer. To a sociopath, the more they can destroy a strong person, the more proud they feel of what they see in their "warped" mind, as an accomplishment. 

If you confront them or retaliate, they will use that against you as well. Letting you act upset gives them ammo to say "I told you she was unstable". They are truly the product and proof that evil does exist in this world and they are morbidly evil. They are ruthless and unhappy people (if you even want to put them in the same category as human beings). 

Luckily as the sociopath ages, they become sloppy. They have more lies to remember and have more than likely lost many supporters and creditability. It is completely normal for you to want to seek revenge on the sociopath who has ruined your reputation, ruined your career, destroyed you financially and any of the other horrific things they are capable of. But PLEASE LISTEN TO ME ON THIS AS I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE! PLEASE Do Not Try to get Revenge. YOU CANNOT BEAT A SOCIOPATH. NOTHING CAN OBSTRUCT THE WILL OF AN EVIL, LYING SOCIOPATH. YOU MUST REMEMBER THESE CREATURES HAVE NO CONSCIOUS. THEY DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. THEY ARE UNABLE TO LOVE.UNLIKE NARCISSIST A SOCIOPATH IS NOT EVEN CAPABLE OF LOVING THEMSELVES.
If you are a Normal person, with a heart. You can't win against something made purely of hatred and now as an adult is pure evil. Remember a sociopath doesn't do hateful things to protect themselves because they have experienced pain in their life. They do HATEFUL things because they simply like to see the pain in others eyes. They feel proud if they can breakdown a strong person. If the person has accomplished many things the sociopath is even prouder of their evil work. SOCIOPATHS ARE EVIL. THEY DONT ALL KILL AND THEY ARE NOT ALL SERIEL KILLERS. BUT THEY ARE ALL RUTHLESS HATEFUL LIARS. THEY ARE TERRIBLE MOTHERS WHO VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY HURT THEIR OWN CHILDREN, ELDERLY PARENTS AND ANYONE ELSE.  Everyone to the sociopath is prey, ready to be used and abused.

My suggestion is get as far away from them as you can. Leave everything you had with them behind. I have fought for my child and lost because the sociopath is so convincing in court. She is a woman also.  What I have learned that if You give them enough rope, they will hang themselves eventually.
The sociopath that targeted me for so long, has hung herself. Metaphorically speaking. She has lost any support within community. Everyone knows from dealing with her she is nothing more than an old washed up druggie. Unreliable, dishonest, scandalous. My child hates her now and lives with me. It took years to get to this point. But I left the whore alone and she used up all her resources. She even had the nerve to try to come back to me and as for help. I laughed at her. She looked like an old bag lady. She lost all her looks. She looks 70 and she is in her 40's. Everyone that sees her tells me how horrible she looks. My child says she took them to the stores with a flip flop and high heel on she was so whacked out in drugs.

She is a loser,  it will take time but I promise revenge against a sociopath is not the answer,  they are so self destructive. Just let them hang themselves. They will. That is a fact.

Monday, December 23, 2013

The Ruthless Blamer - sociopaths

They may realize that blaming is how they control others to harm the targets they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests."
Sociopaths may be especially aware of the risk that people who they have used in order to abuse others might even turn against them, especially those who might be greatly angered by how they were manipulated into participating in such vindictive, malicious  and harmful activities against others. People like to blame others. Sociopaths have mastered it. They are the truly evil that lives amongst us, and drains our energy. Sociopaths are much like leeches and ticks. They will attach themselves to you and feed off you until you are sucked dry of everything. 
Sociopathic abusers often engage in distortion campaigns to control and manipulate others to believe lies about their target, so they will have false beliefs about the victim. It's called vilifying the victim. By the time the victim is aware of it, he or she may have been routinely trashed and lied about for several years to the point that anything he or she says or does will somehow be interpreted as evidence of them being the problem.
Many of the sociopaths recruit others to help them, typically using lies, exploitations,  and other people’s own experiences to convince them that they should help ruin another person’s life.  They are often called them the “minions” of the sociopath. Some of these minions later realize that they were used to harm innocent people and end up feeling very bad about their own actions. But they remain afraid of sociopath and what the sociopath may do to them if they confront the sociopath. So these people rarely will admit to what the sociopath did. In fear that they will be the next "victim" of the evil malicious sociopath 

Sunday, December 22, 2013

My Ex Wife - Satan's Best Creation Yet...

Being the victim of a vindictive, evil and malicious female sociopath, I am aware of exactly how they operate. Considering I married this evil whore twice, and had a child with her. It wasn't until she was having an affair with a man 30 years older than her for 5 years, when I realized how evil this blonde bitch was. She would project and blame me for what she, herself would do; i.e., accuse me of being negative. When she is the most negative person I have ever met in all my 47 years of living on this
earth.  She would gaslight me into believing that when i had a normal reaction to something she 
would do, like being angry and hurt because of her lying and stealing from me, breaking promises to our child to be with her lover, or cheating, she would act as if my reaction was the problem and there 
Was something wrong with me. Thats when I would call her out on her inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. By confronting this soulless monster, I was accused by her of being the 
abnormal. I was the one who is too sensitive, and not acting like a man for being hurt. I was one with the problem. I was the bad guy, I was critical, or always focusing on the negative. 

This is part of the head-fuckery that she put me through. Acting inappropriately, unacceptable, and 
downright abusive, and then trying to turn it around to make it my fault. It's adding insult to injury at that point. Not only did my ex wife intentionally cause pain that I never deserved, all while denying 
that she ever did anything at all. She would try to make it my fault,  she wanted me to blame myself for something that supposedly didn't happen. Yes, re-read that. That is how illogical it is. She wanted to make sure that people thought I was the reason that the relationship failed. When the truth is the there never was a relationship. I wasn't in a relationship with a loving caring human being. I had been manipulated and led to believe I was in a relationship. But now I realize everything about her was fake, unauthentic and a lies. I was conned like many others before me. I can't really say I ever had a relationship with  my monster of an ex wife. There was never a relationship to begin with. I never had a chance. I never saw what happened until it was too late. And now an innocent child was involved.  

I knew it would only get worse from there. And I was right. It's been 8 years since separation and 5 since we were divorced and I still am harassed by her everyday. She uses our child to get things. It worked for a little while but I stopped feeling guilty. I knew what kind of man I was. I loved my daughter and would do anything for her. So I stopped listening to my whorish ex wife's bullshit, calling me a dead beat because I wouldn't give her $250 for gift card she supposedly bought my child's school teacher for Christmas gift.  I am a dead beat for her crap decisions. Knowing she didn't give any gift card. Just another scheme to get more money from me. As of the $3500 monthly in
support is not enough..

I was trapped by this evil monster of a female for so long. I didn't know how to stand up for myself. I didn't know how to get her to leave me alone.  I use to just give her the money. So she would leave me alone.  That was until I met my amazing wife now. We have been together for 5 years. She has stayed with me, even tho my ex wife has targeted her, ruined her reputation. She has stuck it out with me.. She taught me to stand up for myself. My ex wife is unemployed and a loser, and my new wife is the woman who made me see that I was not a piece of shit, my ex claimed I was. That I had more power than I knew. I had just been so broken down my evil bitch ex wife that I lost all confidence. I had been so attacked by her, that I was afraid.
I was afraid of what she may do to my child. Or what she would tell my child lies to make her hate her dad.
But now I am finally free of this psychopath. I give all the credit to my wife now. She stood up to the monster, and that is something no one would do.  It takes a strong person to stand up to any sociopath. But if the person has a healthy mind, and is strong and confident, the sociopath may destroy their reputation but never can hurt their self worth. My exwife would like to believe she is in control. She knows she has lost all control of me. I dont respond to her text.  I ignore her.  My new wife tries to keep peace for my daughters sake, but the ex is so evil there will never be peace.  I had so many years taken away from my life because of my ex wife,

So now I live everyday to the fullest. I know my ex is miserable and she makes her family miserable. And she wants me to be miserable. And wants my wife out of the picture. But that's never going to happen. I feel we beat the sociopath. We did the impossible. By working together, and being a team, and backing each other up. My wife now and me couldn't be happier - well we might be happier if my ex vanished ....

Sociopaths are good at playing Victim...

One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning. Smear campaigners carefully use lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying your credibility. They play victim, the tell their sob story and how "you" did all the horrible things to them, all while they are did nothing to deserve the horrible things you did to them. When in fact, when it comes to sociopaths ( especially female) they are doing to "you" all the horrible 
things they say you are doing to them. They do this so that your reputation and creditability is 
damaged. The sociopath will cry fake tears and claim their innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based not on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern.

The sociopath does this because of your refusal to give them what they want. They are angry that you 
will not be their puppet, so in all the only you are "guilty” of is saying no to someone who is, in some way, failing to respect your boundaries, abusing and bullying you for money. Since the sociopath 
refuses to follow the same rules as everyone else, because thy believe they are above the law. 
Sociopaths spread lies and rumors because they are toxic and manipulating. Sociopaths feel entitled to whatever they want, they are sneaky and vindictive. Sociopaths have no regrets when they hurt 
you. They are more than willing to take from you and never give back anything. They are takers, not 


Narcissistic Sociopaths will fly into a vindictive narcissistic rage if you dare to question them,  instead of just being compliant with their demands. Sociopaths often have anger management issues and are driven solely by their own selfish wants, with no regard for the rights of others or for consequences. Most female sociopaths have to create drama and conflict wherever possible, and 
they require little to no incentive to do so.  They have difficulty controlling their reactions, and may become intensely angered  by what others interpret to be minor matters. Sociopaths want drama and love to create conflict and make life difficult for everyone around them

Sunday, December 8, 2013

Victims of Narcissist

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder displays patterns of deceptive behaviors that can create havoc for those around them. Such as their spouse, children, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, peers, etc). Narcissistic Victim Abuse is abuse that has been caused by someone with a Narcissistic personality disorder. The Narcissist is not often medically diagnosed, so he/she goes 
undetected in society, but the people living with the narcissists know all too well the neglect, abuse 
the narcissists is capable of. The narcissist usually puts on a facade to everyone else. Usually it is the 
spouse of the narcissists who suffers the most at the hands of the narcissist, and the victim’s 
unfortunate and often dangerous situation goes unrecognized.

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder has an inflated ego, and a deep need for attention and 
admiration, they have a strong sense of entitlement, and their needs are more important than anyone 
else's - even their own children. They believe they are Superior and have little or NO regard for the 
feelings of others. 

So how did the Narcissist become such a Monster?

As a child, a healthy self-esteem aka "the true self" did not develop in the narcissist. So from an early age they built up defenses to create a ‘false self’ in public. This is similar to wearing an invisible 
mask. Wearing the mask is not only emotionally exhausting, it also means that the narcissist is 
constantly on guard at being found out. Although the narcissist is an excelled liar, and very 
convincing, they do live in a state of denial. 

They become overly sensitive to narcissistic injury which is any perceived threat, rather it be real or 
imagined the narcissist’s self-esteem or self-worth. In order to maintain their illusion and protec
their ‘false self’ they seek narcissistic supply from unsuspecting victims. 

The narcissist views people as objects which can feed their needs  become "sources of narcissistic 
supply".  The narcissist will use any tactic, with NO guilt, remorse, empathy or conscience, to make 
sure they get their narcissistic supply and that all their selfish and demanding needs are met. 
Narcissistic supply comes from public attention such as fame, notoriety, or infamy, since all 
narcissists can't be famous they seek the private attention such as admiration, flattery, acclaim, fear, 
or even repulsion. Regular bearers of narcissistic supply include the spouse, children, friends, colleagues, partners and clients. Anything that acts as a status symbol that attracts attention and   
admiration for the narcissist is narcissistic supply, for example, a flashy car, expensive property, designer clothes, being a member of an elite club, or a business. They narcissist always has cash and 
is flashing a wad of it when he goes out to a bar, or is gambling. To have large sums of cash, makes the narcissist feel empowered. 

With an inflated sense of their own superiority, power and control, the narcissist renders themselves 
susceptible to all sorts of obsessions, compulsions, and addictions, for example, addiction to; grandiosity, control, power, rage, perfectionism, attention, fame etc. The devastating impact of these addictions on their significant others can result in Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Most victims present with no idea about what has happened to them. 

Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is covert, cunning and indirect. Narcissists go to great pains to avoid being exposed publicly for what they truly are, which is an abusive monster. The Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde behaviour creates fear, distress, confusion, inner turmoil, and chaos for their victim. The constant ‘walking on eggshells’ and attempting to avoid further conflict can be crippling. To complicate matters, since the narcissist is rarely medically diagnosed and often goes undetected in society, they rarely are forced to seek treatment. Even if confronted the narcissist will become so 
defensive and turn everything around on the victim, the narcissist believes they ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, EVERYONE ELSE HAS A PROBLEM, NOT THEM. 

Victims present when they feel like they can’t cope. They are unaware that they have been living or working in a war zone. No-one has mentioned Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or narcissistic abuse to them. Victims of this narcissistic abuse often display a set, or cluster, of symptoms due to this physical, mental, emotional or spiritual abuse. In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are looking for a cluster of symptoms to emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma (avoidance behaviour, loss of interest, feeling detached, sense of a limited future, sleeping or eating difficulties, irritability, hyper-vigilance, easily startled, flashbacks, hopelessness, psychosomatic illnesses, self-harming, thoughts of suicide etc). Narcissistic abuse victims express feelings of humiliation and shame, and will begin to blame themselves for the abuse the narcissist inflicts upon them. They have learned to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behaviour because they are constantly told the problem is their fault.
 Some victims develop Stockholm Syndrome and want to support, defend, and love the abuser despite what they have gone through. 
The Victims of the Narcissist are often victimized by more than one person. They often internalize that something is wrong with them, that they deserve this kind of abuse, and then resign themselves to their fate. Victims may not have reached their potential in their personal or professional lives 
because they always have to stand in the shadow of their Abusive Narcissist, and careful not upstage them. They learn to live in the shadows, they know the consequences if they (even by accident) get more attention than their abuser...

Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or misheard something. Confidence may be so low that they have trouble making simple decisions. They will not be aware that this is caused by an abusive technique called ‘gaslighting’. Gaslighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by narcissists to instil 
confusion and anxiety in their victim to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. With gaslighting, the victim initially notices that something happens that is odd, but they don’t believe it. This moves to defence as the victim fights against the manipulation. Confusion sets in after constant degrading and belittling comments such as: "You're crazy" ‘You’re to sensitive’, ‘You’re imagining things’ or ‘I never said that.’ Gradually, the victim starts to not even trust their own perceptions. They start to doubt themselves, and feel like "maybe I am crazy". This leads to depression, feelings of hopelessness and emotional pain. The narcissist is able to break their victim down so that they are unable to trust themselves. They want their victim to feel helpless. So that they have total control of them. The victim doubts everything about themselves, their thoughts and opinions, their ideas and ideals. The victim isolates from friends and family. They become co-dependent on the abuser for their reality. 

Victims need validation and education about what has happened to them. They need information about the medical condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its toxicity in relationships. They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. It can take years of therapy to recover from the abuse the narcissist inflicts on their victims.  They will need support to remove themselves from their narcissistic relationship, and to not repeat the cycle of abuse in their next relationship. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the narcissist or 
because they themselves have been manipulated and pulled into the narcissist’s thrall. 

Sunday, November 24, 2013

The Monsters Among Us

When most people hear the word psychopath or sociopath they most think of famous serial killers locked away in prison. However, most do not end up in prison or mental hospitals. Most sociopaths have the ability to blend in with everyone else.  They don't look like monsters. But "MONSTER" is exactly what they are... They are the worst kind of monster there is. Because they look as normal as you and I. But they are far from being like the rest of us. 
The worst is the female sociopath. She will reproduce a few offspring, act like a soccer mom, and portray to others this amazing mother, who is hard working and "doing it all" but behind the scenes she terrorizes her close family. And if she is divorced - she will never leave her ex alone as long as their are children in the picture to use against him. She is one of the most dangerous, vindictive, evil, malicious, heartless, and morally corrupted monster among us. She flys under the radar, committing petty crimes of theft and is clever and slick. She has probably been doing these things since she was a teenager. 

If you think the female sociopath is harmless -  THINK AGAIN! They do not pose a serious threat if you have no connection with her what so ever.  But if your child and her child are friends, that puts you at risk for becoming her target. Or she will view you as someone she can pawn off her child to. Because in reality, she loves to play "MOM OF THE YEAR" Role. But she is far from being a good or even decent mother.You would never even suspect she is the hideous monster that she is.

The female sociopath has a certain charisma and charm about her. Once you get to know her on a deeper level and you will start to see the "mask" slip. You will begin to notice that your friendship or 
relationship is not a give take relationship. You will find that you do a lot of giving and she does all the taking. There are inconsistencies in her stories. You feel something just "isn't right" but you can't figure out what it is..  Sociopaths are natural liars.. Lying comes as easy as breathing to them. But the lies start becoming more apparent to you, you notice the more in depth she tells you about something - the more likely it is a lie.  She is unreliable. She breaks promises, she disappears for long periods of time, no one really knows where goes. The closer you become to her is when you really start to see that things are not normal. She has a lack of empathy for others and you will start to notice that she lacks remorse - even for her children, parents and siblings. She has no life long friends. Her past is skeptical. She tells you what she wants you to think about her life. She will say what she a straight "A" student, popular, and homecoming queen and voted "most likely to succeed".  And it is far from the truth. She more than likely was in trouble majority of time she was in high school. If she had wealthy 
parents, they more than likely sent her away to military/boarding 
school. Because of her defiance at home. Her parents were unable to 
deal with her.  You will notice how everything is always someone else's fault, and that she is the victim of someone.. She blames her mother, and absent father, and her ex husbands (who she cheated on and tried to destroyed). 

Unfortunately by the time to you realize you may be dealing with this evil  monster, dressed In women's clothing.  ITS TOO LATE. And you never saw it coming. You don't know exactly what happened but your life is turned upside down.  And the sociopath has to silence you somehow, so that you do not tell others about the true monstrosity that she really is. 
So she goes on a smear campaign. She has to silence you and kill you. She won't kill you physically. She kills you emotionally and mentally.  She will torment you in covert, evil, ways. She will even make you question yourself, thinking "maybe this is my fault" she will make you question your own sanity. ITS SO IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT CRAZY, SHE IS INSANE, SHE IS THE DEVIL INCARNATE.  She wants you to feel like you are the crazy one. She will have no remorse about ruining your life. No matter how much you have done for her. No matter
 how kind you have been to her.  She doesn't give a shit about the pain she causes, in fact your 
suffering is what fuels her energy. She loves to watch you squirm. She enjoys watching you fall apart. 

She starts off by destroying you socially and tarnishing your reputation. She will make up any lie she can, no matter how disgusting the lies may be, she doesn't care. As long as you are silenced. She wants to discredit you to everyone so that no one will listen to you. She will get to all your friends before you can. She will call your work. She will claim you are stalking, harassing have been abusing her. When in fact the very things she is accusing you of doing to her - she is doing to you.

Recovering from being a victim of a sociopath takes time. You need supportive people around you. And to cut off all contact from the sociopath. When you try to have no contact with her, she will try even harder to get any response from you. Be strong though. Don't be a victim.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Warning Signs of a Psychopath

Warning Signs of a Psychopath

Hervey M. Cleckly was a psychiatrist and a pioneer in the field of psychopathy; the following are his 16 indicators of a psychopath:
  • Considerable superficial charm and average or above average intelligence
  • Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking
  • Absence of anxiety or other "neurotic" symptoms considerable poise, calmness, and verbal facility
  • Unreliability, disregard for obligations no sense of responsibility, in matters of little and great import.
  • Untruthfulness and insincerity
  • Antisocial behavior which is inadequately motivated and poorly planned, seeming to stem from an inexplicable impulsiveness.
  • Inadequately motivated antisocial behavior
  • Poor judgment and failure to learn from experience
  • Pathological egocentricity - total self-centeredness, incapacity for real love and attachment
  • No deep or lasting emotions
  • Lack of any true insight, complete inability to see themselves as others do
  • Ingratitude for any special considerations, act of kindness, and trust
  • Fantastic and objectionable behavior, after drinking and sometimes even when not drinking--vulgarity, rudeness, quick mood shifts, pranks
  • No history of genuine suicide attempts
  • An impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated sex life
  • Failure to have a life plan and to live in any ordered way, unless it is one promoting self-defeat
Mental health professionals often use the Hare Psychopathy Checklist in order to asses psychopathy:
Factor 1: Personality "Aggressive narcissism"
  • Glibness/superficial charm
  • Grandiose sense of self-worth
  • Pathological lying
  • Cunning/manipulative (Manipulation is their trademark)
  • Lack of remorse or guilt (They are often capable of violence)
  • Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived and egocentric)
  • Callous/lack of empathy
  • Failure to accept responsibility for own actions (Whatever the problem is, it is always someone else’s fault)
Factor 2: Case history "Socially deviant lifestyle"
  • Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
  • Parasitic lifestyle (They constantly take from others, and give nothing in return; money, love, time, etc.)
  • Poor behavioral control
  • Lack of realistic long-term goals
  • Impulsivity
  • Irresponsibility
  • Juvenile delinquency
  • Early behavior problems
  • Revocation of conditional release
To put it in plain terms, these people do not have a conscious or feelings, they wreak havoc in the lives of everyone within their reach (their parents, children, friends, etc.), and they constantly burn bridges and screw up opportunities in their lives.
To make matters worse, they are often heavy drinkers, they often have a criminal past and violent behavior, and they usually minimize or rationalize their shortcomings.
They often claim they do not care about what other people think about them because it is more important what a person thinks about oneself - this may be true, but this is NOT their real reason, in reality, psychopaths simply do not have the capacity to care about anyone else’s thoughts and feelings.

Serial Bully

The serial Bully - Narcissist - Sociopath

  • is a convincing, practised liar and when called to account, will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment
  • has a Jekyll and Hyde nature - is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature - only the current target of the serial bully's aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as "charming" and convincing enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde side is frequently described as "evil"; Hyde is the real person, Jekyll is an act
  • excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive
  • uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy)
  • is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and lots of form - but there's no substance
  • is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will outmanoeuvre most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of conflict
  • is often described as smoothslippery, slimy, ingratiating, fawning, toadying, obsequious, sycophantic
  • relies on mimicry, repetition and regurgitation to convince others that he or she is both a "normal" human being and a tough dynamic manager, as in extolling the virtues of the latest management fads and pouring forth the accompanying jargon
  • is unusually skilled in being able to anticipate what people want to hear and then saying it plausibly
  • cannot be trusted or relied upon
  • fails to fulfil commitments
  • is emotionally retarded with an arrested level of emotional development; whilst language and intellect may appear to be that of an adult, the bully displays the emotional age of a five-year-old
  • is emotionally immature and emotionally untrustworthy
  • exhibits unusual and inappropriate attitudes to sexual matters, sexual behaviour and bodily functions; underneath the charming exterior there are often suspicions or hints of sex discrimination and sexual harassment, perhaps also sexual dysfunction, sexual inadequacy, sexual perversion, sexual violence or sexual abuse
  • in a relationship, is incapable of initiating or sustaining intimacy
  • holds deep prejudices (eg against the opposite gender, people of a different sexual orientation, other cultures and religious beliefs, foreigners, etc - prejudiced people are unvaryingly unimaginative) but goes to great lengths to keep this prejudicial aspect of their personality secret
  • is self-opinionated and displays arroganceaudacity, a superior sense of entitlement and sense of invulnerability and untouchability
  • has a deep-seated contempt of clients in contrast to his or her professed compassion
  • is a control freak and has a compulsive need to control everyone and everything you say, do, think and believe; for example, will launch an immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably about psychopathic personality or antisocial personality disorder in their presence - but aggressively maintains the right to talk (usually unknowledgeably) about anything they choose; serial bullies despise anyone who enables others to see through their deception and their mask of sanity
  • displays a compulsive need to criticise whilst simultaneously refusing to value, praise and acknowledge others, their achievements, or their existence
  • shows a lack of joined-up thinking with conversation that doesn't flow and arguments that don't hold water
  • flits from topic to topic so that you come away feeling you've never had a proper conversation
  • refuses to be specific and never gives a straight answer
  • is evasive and has a Houdini-like ability to escape accountability
  • undermines and destroys anyone who the bully perceives to be an adversary, a potential threat, or who can see through the bully's mask
  • is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise collate incriminating information about them
  • is quick to discredit and neutralise anyone who can talk knowledgeably about antisocial or sociopathic behaviors
  • may pursue a vindictive vendetta against anyone who dares to held them accountable, perhaps using others' resources and contemptuous of the damage caused to other people and organisations in pursuance of the vendetta
  • is also quick to belittle, undermine, denigrate and discredit anyone who calls, attempts to call, or might call the bully to account
  • gains gratification from denying people what they are entitled to
  • is highly manipulative, especially of people's perceptions and emotions (eg guilt)
  • poisons peoples' minds by manipulating their perceptions
  • when called upon to share or address the needs and concerns of others, responds with impatience, irritability and aggression
  • is arrogant, haughty, high-handed, and a know-all
  • often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic attention-seeking need to portray themselves as a wonderful, kind, caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour and treatment of others; the bully sees nothing wrong with their behavior and chooses to remain oblivious to the discrepancy between how they like to be seen and how they are seen by others
  • is spiritually dead although may loudly profess some religious belief or affiliation
  • is mean-spiritedofficious, and often unbelievably petty
  • is mean, stingy, and financially untrustworthy
  • is greedy, selfish, parasite and an emotional vampire
  • is always a taker and never a giver
  • is convinced of their superiority and has an overbearing belief in their qualities of leadership but cannot distinguish between leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, co-operation, trust, integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness, aggression, manipulation, distrust, deceitfulness)
  • often fraudulently claims qualifications, experience, titles, entitlements or affiliations which are ambiguous, misleading, or bogus
  • often misses the semantic meaning of language, misinterprets what is said, sometimes wrongly thinking that comments of a satirical, ironic or general negative nature apply to him or herself
  • knows the words but not the song
  • is constantly imposing on others a false reality made up of distortion and fabrication
  • sometimes displays a seemingly limitless demonic energy especially when engaged in attention-seeking activities or evasion of accountability and is often a committeeaholic or apparent workaholic

Monday, November 18, 2013

What Doesn't Work With a Sociopath

The sociopath is still playing the game. She is hell bent on carrying out smear campaigns against you, ruining your reputations with business associates, friends and even your close family. They will financially, socially, and emotionally stop at nothing, until you are destroyed. They gain too much pleasure from seeing you destroyed. This is just how a sociopath operates. They do not know how to end a relationship like "normal" people. This is what separates "THEM" from "US".

What Really DOES NOT work (and will make things worse)

Showing at any time, how upset you are, and how his/her actions are affecting you. The sociopath is looking for emotion. Is looking to control you. Is looking for reaction.

Do NOT give emotion/reaction anything. By doing so, this motivates the sociopath to destroy those emotions (you are still living), so the game continues

Do not respond to contact

Do not write a personal blog about them, and mention them by name

Do not write how you are feeling over social networks

Do not engage with the Sociopath in any way at all BLOCK ALL CONTACT

Do not talk to, or confide in people who are mutual friends. Only confide in people that you trust

Do not expect other people to understand. Unless they are trained psychologists, they won’t understand

When you respond, in anyway at all, you are feeding the Sociopath further Narcissistic Supply. 

This is what they want. It makes them feel good.

Remember that they are the expert liars, and experts at being manipulative and deceptive – NOT YOU!

You need to stop playing the game. Each time you respond. Each time to give a reaction, you are playing the game.

The sociopath likes two things
1. Winning
2. Being in Control

Take away those two things. The Sociopath will get bored eventually. Has he/she not taken enough?

What Can You Do?

-Use the law to control the Sociopath. Each time something happens, call the police!

*Keep evidence of EVERYTHING*

***Keep calling the police***

Contact a local DV unit in your area, to ensure that you get support (Google or your phone directory for domestic violent services in your area) find someone else who is trained has experience to help you with this – A DV worker offer support and help you to obtain an injunction order. This is harassment, there are legal remedies against harassment

Find victim support groups, and talk to others who really do understand.
The Sociopath is NOT the person to ask to stop the behaviour (he/she likely won’t)

ONLY spend time and confide in those people who you trust. Remember that the Sociopath is likely spreading lies about you, saying how ‘crazy and obsessed’ you are. REMOVE yourself from this, even if only temporarily

Withdraw from ‘mutual friends’ so that the Sociopath is unable to use third party people to continue the abuse (whilst looking like an angel and you looking like the nut job) SOCIOPATHS LOVE TO VILIFY THEIR VICTIMS -- this is one of their specialties  

Remember that this will NOT go on forever

By responding you are giving the Sociopath supply

Only legal remedies will stop the Sociopath – they will not listen to begging, pleading any of this, in fact this can make things worse

Remove yourself. Stop focusing on the Sociopaths behaviour. Instead focus on you

Do NOT. I repeat DO NOT respond in anyway. When you respond with tears, begging, pleads to stop. You are simply giving the Sociopath exactly what they want.

Please stop playing the game with the Sociopath. Yes I know that this is affecting YOUR life. It is. If someone was at you with a knife and terrorising you… who do you think would help you more? The Psycho, or the Police and third party services who could offer support?

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Female sociopaths are more dangerous than males

Male sociopaths are dangerous, but female sociopaths are even more dangerous. Our society has more protections available for female sociopaths than the males ones due to traditional norms held by society. Generally, women are viewed as nurturers, caregivers, compassionate, and the primary pillars holding up their families. However, in reality, there are a lot of women that fail to meet those standards. They get joy from breaking down others, playing mind games to deteriorate a person’s sense of worth or get people to join their mission. These women are treacherous, remorseless, 
leeches, narcissistic, and lack the ability to emotionally connect with others. Thus, making them a danger to their significant other (or husband), children and anyone of their targets (or projects). Dr. Robert D. Hare, a psychopath expert and an author ofWithout Conscience The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us, “believes that about 1% of the population fits the profile of [sociopath], 
and male [sociopaths] are 7 times more common than female [sociopaths].

Female Sociopaths are much more subtle, covert, and manipulative than their male counter parts. They wouldn't dare pick another sociopath as a partner. They prefer men who are kind, compassionate, forgiving, and have the ability to feel guilt. They choose someone that is stable and hardworking, so that they forgive their affairs, or so that they can use their children as pawns against them the rest of their life to get what they want - money, bills paid, etc... Basically the father will be taking care of the children, and the mother wants the status quo of "wonderful doting mommy" while she does nothing.

Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The reason the sociopath is so dangerous because she Is able to convince you that you are being in an honest thoughtful and genuine relationship, for as long as she must until it's yo late.. Then when you realize what you are dealing with and what has happened you are so confused, so scattered, trying yo put together the pieces, she is tying up any loose ends to destroy your creditability you may use against her..

Dr. Hare goes on to say that the psychopathic bond can take place very quickly, sometimes within hours. That means it could happen over coffee, drinks, in a business meeting or, as Dr. Hare mentions, on a cross-country airplane trip.

The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that their victim is no longer useful. They abandon their vicim and move on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationshps, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning their current victim. Abandonment can happen quickly and can occur without the current victim knowing that the psychopath was looking for someone new. There will be no apologies for the hurt and pain they cause because psychopaths do not appreciate these emotions.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Pure Evil and all it's Hatred

You will never understand Evil. No matter how many books you study, degrees you earn, or hours you put into working out a relationship with a sociopath or a narcissist. You cannot possibly understand what you are up against, how it will destroy you and the depth of its Evil. You can, however, understand how Evil manipulates and attempts to subjugate you, control you, and suck the life out of you. Once you can see what Evil is, how it works, you can reclaim some of what it has stolen from you and learn how to safely get away. Nothing can obstruct the will of a sociopath.  So never try to fight this Evil Monster aka the Sociopath/psychopath/narcissists 


Obsession with self
Experiences during the formative years
Addiction of anger
Blow to inflated sense of self-worth
Self-defense against perceived or provoked insults
Unfulfilled needs and requirements
Expression of power through anger

It is believed that narcissism is an attitude which is present in every individual. Self-love is actually important to be a confident individual. However, when this feeling of self-worth exceeds certain limits, where one cannot recognize anyone's feelings except her own, then that person is believed to be a narcissist.

Anger is a natural reaction that comes to humans when exposed to provocative situations. However, such anger arises from a rational cause and dies down when one is able to express it. However, the fury felt by a narcissist is different from the anger that people usually feel. People who suffer from this disorder need constant adulation, attention, compliments and subservience. Their narcissistic 

behavior makes them live in the illusion that they are perfectionists and revered by people, irrespective of whether or not they have any accomplishments of their own.

As narcissistic people are dependent on other people to boost their self-esteem, any challenge, negative remark or disagreement from other people can be considered to be criticism, rejection and mockery. They take it as a personal assault and lash out at the person who provoked them. Such behavior can sometimes lead to physical as well as psychological harm to the other person.

Sociopaths are also dependent upon people, but they look at people more as objects, like a meal or a toy. They are dependent on finding and using kind people for their own personal gain. They want to live the grand life. But they don't want to do anything that most have to do, in order to live it. They rather latch on to others (like a leech would do) and get all their wants and desires by sucking it out of a kind and easily manipulated person.. A person with a conscience. Something the sociopath does not have..

Read more at Buzzle: http://www.buzzle.com/articles/narcissistic-rage.html

Evil Women

Traits of a Truly Evil Bitch -- the sociopathic woman

The female sociopath is evil. Crazy, sadistically EVIL.  She plays an Excellent Vicitm though.  How does she do it? If you have been the target of one of these monsters, like I have you probably had no idea that women like this existed until you met her. 
SHE TARGETS MEN FOR THEIR MONEY. SHE ALSO TARGETS OTHER WOMEN THAT ARE A THREAT TO HER. SO IF YOU ARE AN ATTRACTIVE INTELLIGENT WOMEN - YOU COULD BE ANOTHER POTENTIAL TARGET. Why? Because inside the female sociopath she is so insecure and jealous of other women (especially attractive smart ones) she will try to destroy anyone who crosses her path that could be a potential threat.. Threat being -- The woman is likely to be promoted before her, or could mess up he financial scams. Usually she will target one of many ex's  new girlfriend of wife. IF THIS EVIL BITCH HAS CHILDREN WITH AN EX - NOT ONLY WILL SHE HARRASS HER EX EVERYDAY FOR MORE MONEY, AND TRY TO CONTROL HIS LIFE. SHE WILL TRY TO DESTROY ANY LOVE INTEREST HE HAS. She doesn't want him but she wants to make sure he stays 100%  controlled by her. It takes a VERY Strong woman to stay in a relationship with a man who has children by a sociopath. The women better be prepared to fight for her life. The female fatale sociopath may not physically murder her, but the evil whore will murder her spirit, self esteem, repuation, and her zest for life. The sociopath thinks " How DARE this woman come in and mess up MY LIFE  by marrying MY EX, and making it so he is not under my complete control, I am still using him, I have not bled him dry yet, he still has money left that is mine!"

Does this excerpt give you an idea about what you are dealing with? Well, these are just few among the many many masks that she wears, and when she let goes, she still manages to have a soft corner for herself in your heart. So, how do you identify if this 'female' you are interacting with is a sociopath? What are the traits that you should look for? Are sociopaths so easy to identify? Well, if that was the case, then there wouldn't be much of a problem, right? Nevertheless, mentioned below are some points that will help you understand how this sometimes beautiful and attractive predator uses her charms and lies to deceit you; she does it due to a mental disorder but will make you believe that you are the one who is insane! ( not all of them are actually drop dead gorgeous, they are average looking but their charisma is what you feel attracted too, once the female sociopath hits 40 she is looking like a used wash cloth, and it becomes harder to snatch her prey)

This is what the female sociopath looks like inside and after the age of 46 - the whore I know 

SHE BELIEVES SHE IS GOOD - {evil - crazy - and delusional}

Another classic characteristic of a female sociopath is that she believes that she is simply the best, be it in looks, in intelligence, or in taking control of your life! Her self-worth and superior belief is always too high as compared to others. So, if you are with a woman who says, "Why should I be doing this, these things are meant for the lowlifes?" or, "I am so beautiful and intelligent, I don't need 
to do this at all!", then there are chances that she can turn out to be the sociopath you should be away from! Her superior beliefs also make her arrogant and harsh towards others, but if you are the potential prey, she will treat you like there can be no one as sweet as her ... at least initially.

 No Respect for Rules and Responsibilities!

For her, rules are meant to be broken, and responsibilities, why should she even care! She can never follow rules because she is way too impulsive. She cannot overcome temptations, and when she wants something, there is no rule that can stop her. Her actions are never governed by morals and she never thinks about the consequences. Therefore, you can never expect things like planning, focusing, and commitment from a sociopath. If you confront her, she will cry, she will make you believe that she will change, but then you're a fool to believe her words, and she is way too smart for you not to believe her.

STIMULATION JUNKY - She is not only a pill popping, drug user junky!

Another interesting thing about a female sociopath is that she tends to get bored way too easily. You cannot expect stability, or being involved in the same routine for long. Which is why she will change jobs within sort span of time, she will move from places to places living a nomadic life. She needs something new, exciting, and stimulating all the time. If drug abuse, multiple sexual partners, or abusing a person gives her a high, or stimulates her in any way, she will easily do that without giving it a second thought.

She is a Pathological LIAR To GAIN ATTENTION and SYMPATHY 
A female sociopath is called the best actress in the whole world! You act when you need to hide your reality, and she is really good at that. She will lie to come closer to you, she will lie to gain your attention, she will lie to make you want her, she will lie to make you believe her lies and bond with her emotionally ... and when that happens, she will start to manipulate you, she will trap you in her 

stories and talks, and make you believe that all that she is doing is justified, at least from her point of view! She will be dishonest, deceitful and cleverly sly. If you're smart, you should get out as soon as she starts behaving like this.

 She IS A PARASITE THAT WILL FEED ON YOU!  {Literally draining the life out of you}
If you think that she is there with you because she genuinely likes you, think again! Are you the kind of person who is financially stable, who is responsible, who believes in helping and sympathizing with others, and who can forgive and give the 'benefit of doubt'; then probably that is the reason why she is there with you. She indulges in a parasitic living. She will exploit you emotionally, financially, may be even physically to fulfill her own shallow desires. She cannot feel your pain, she has shallow emotions, and although at times, she might appear to be caring and loving, the truth is that she is coldhearted and will be nice to you only if you comply with her wishes and desires.

Read more at Buzzle: http://www.buzzle.com/articles/female-sociopaths.html

Super Sociopath pretends to be Super Mom but is Super Evil

It's not your fault if you fall for a sociopath. Because up until the minute you realize what you had sex with was a monster - ITS TOO LATE. She is able too pretend. Hell, her whole life she has been pretending. She has no real emotions of love. If she stopped pretending the world would see the hideous monster she really is. Being involved with a callous sociopath is bad, having children with one is hell on earth. She will become bored with you, and she never shows affection for kids, so she starts sleeping around with men, never coming home.  Finally she ends up leaving you. At first she is ecstatic to leave. Once divorce papers start getting filed she manipulates you to let her have full custody but you will still pay her child support. You are so exhausted and mentally beaten down, you give her what she wants -- Just SO IT WILL END. SO SHE WILL BE OUT OF YOUR LIFE. But she is never out of your life. She will text you, call you, go up to your office everyday demanding money for THE KIDS. SHE NEEDS MORE EVERY TIME. If you DARE deny her money - get ready for this queens wrath. She does after all believe she is the highest of all... She will lure you in, abuse you, use you, and financially and socially destroy you - WHY? Because she has nothing else to do... She doesn't work, even though she will tell everyone how she is a practicing lawyer - although her license was suspended for stealing from her clients. Or she will claim to be starting a business that doesn't exist. The real crazy ones will claim to be a working mother, and writing a successful thriller novel at the same time -- ALL LIES. NOT A WORD SHE SAYS IS TRUE. LIES. SHE CANNOT STOP LYING. EVEN IF HER LIFE DEPENDED ON IT 

Most all Sociopaths, men and women come across charming, self-assured, the perfect catch. They put out a charisma that draws you in. In the beginning they say things to you that make you feel amazing, you pinch yourself with glee at your good fortune. You won't ever know what hit you until it's too late.

A female sociopath is one of the most evil beings on the earth. They can attend a PTA meeting then they will disappear for 2 days doing God knows what.. Drugs, random sex with strangers. The female sociopath sees nothing wrong with infidelity. She only sees wrong in getting caught and not looking like the picture perfect family she wants to imitate. Lying to her is as easy as breathing. Destroying the lives of women she is jealous of and jilted lovers is what she does best. She has no soul. She uses her children to get money and manipulate her ex's. She uses guilt? What may look like a good family is only a facade. What is really going on in the home is far from good. It's downright bad. Abuse, neglect, tantrums, lies, drugs, alcohol - the sociopath will pretend to be a great mom, she is convincing to those who do not know her. Only close family knows how bad she is. People close to her are sworn to secrecy because of intimidation . Those are the people she is using as Slaves to do the things she doesn't want to do. She has others picking up the children, keeping the children, but she wants everyone to believe she is actually doing those things. She takes credit for someone else's hardwork. She is a back stabber. Her family knows the pain and torment her wrath is capable of. They have lived with her to see it.  They are scared of her. They cannot get away from her though, she will 
find them, bully them, and intimidate them. 

Lying, deceiving, and manipulation are natural talents for psychopaths, When caught in a lie or challenged with the truth, they are seldom perplexed or embarrassed–they simply change their stories or attempt to rework the facts so that they appear to be consistent with the lies.

Since the female sociopath loves a fast buck but doesn't like to work. She uses others to get everything she wants -- because she feels she is entitled to anything her tiny black hollow heart desires, she finds a way to live a luxurious life. She manipulates men, friends and family. She will steal, rob and use deception to get what she wants. But still it is never enough.  The more you give her, the more she will ask for later.  If you don't give her what she wants, BE PREPARED FOR HER TO UNLEASH THE FURY OF HELL ON YOU. She will stop at nothing to destroy you. She wants you to feel the pain for crossing her or telling her no.
The female sociopath is rarely violent. Most WOULD prefer that she beat the shit out of them with a crow bar, than the emotional, mental, and verbal beating she inflicts upon them. She will focus on destroying you day and night. She will call people on the phone and make up random lies about you, she wants others to think you are a horrible person.  She will play the victim and attack a persons character, ruin their reputation, make you look like the worst piece of shit in the world. She will even claim you beat her, broke her bones,  or forced them to have sex (we all know you can't rape the willing) but these tactics work for them, by being the victim, people will feel sorry for them and this lessons her chance of being exposed for the monster she is. HER ONLY FEAR IS BEING EXPOSED FOR THE MONSTER SHE REALLY IS. PEOPLE FINDING OUT SHE HAS NO HEART AND SOUL-- HOW WILL SHE MANIPULATE AND GET WHAT SHE WANTS IF YOU BELIEVE SHE IS A BAD PERSON. She will fight to the death to keep her dark secret a secret. If you pose a threat of exposing her, watch your back. She is capable of murder, if she sees you as a threat to her.


When you leave – if you can leave – you're faced with a monster, who looks like your average soccer mom, blends into a crowd, an imposter who has hidden the money, isolated you from family and friends, and driven a wedge between you and your children. Her explanations are rehearsed and twisted, painting you as the instigator, the abuser, the money-grubbing, shallow asshole. She is a 
formidable verbal foe with her credible and plausible explanations of every interaction you've ever 
had, and you find yourself on the losing end of every session with friends and well-meaning family members.