Tuesday, December 31, 2013

DONT SEEK REVENGE - Sociopaths will destroy themselves sooner or later

Sociopaths are notorious for lying. To a sociopath, lying comes about as natural to them as breathing... They are not capable for telling the truth. They only know how to lie. They are aware of their lying though. They are aware when they are telling people you know lies about you in an attempt to ruin your reputation. They are seeking to destroy you. Why? Because they want to kill you emotionally. This is how they break you down. They are convincing. They are psychopaths. No conscience or remorse about anything. They are aware they are ruining your life, hurting your children, and they just do not give a crap. They want you to feel their wrath. They want to see you suffer. To a sociopath, the more they can destroy a strong person, the more proud they feel of what they see in their "warped" mind, as an accomplishment. 

If you confront them or retaliate, they will use that against you as well. Letting you act upset gives them ammo to say "I told you she was unstable". They are truly the product and proof that evil does exist in this world and they are morbidly evil. They are ruthless and unhappy people (if you even want to put them in the same category as human beings). 

Luckily as the sociopath ages, they become sloppy. They have more lies to remember and have more than likely lost many supporters and creditability. It is completely normal for you to want to seek revenge on the sociopath who has ruined your reputation, ruined your career, destroyed you financially and any of the other horrific things they are capable of. But PLEASE LISTEN TO ME ON THIS AS I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE! PLEASE Do Not Try to get Revenge. YOU CANNOT BEAT A SOCIOPATH. NOTHING CAN OBSTRUCT THE WILL OF AN EVIL, LYING SOCIOPATH. YOU MUST REMEMBER THESE CREATURES HAVE NO CONSCIOUS. THEY DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. THEY ARE UNABLE TO LOVE.UNLIKE NARCISSIST A SOCIOPATH IS NOT EVEN CAPABLE OF LOVING THEMSELVES.
If you are a Normal person, with a heart. You can't win against something made purely of hatred and now as an adult is pure evil. Remember a sociopath doesn't do hateful things to protect themselves because they have experienced pain in their life. They do HATEFUL things because they simply like to see the pain in others eyes. They feel proud if they can breakdown a strong person. If the person has accomplished many things the sociopath is even prouder of their evil work. SOCIOPATHS ARE EVIL. THEY DONT ALL KILL AND THEY ARE NOT ALL SERIEL KILLERS. BUT THEY ARE ALL RUTHLESS HATEFUL LIARS. THEY ARE TERRIBLE MOTHERS WHO VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY HURT THEIR OWN CHILDREN, ELDERLY PARENTS AND ANYONE ELSE.  Everyone to the sociopath is prey, ready to be used and abused.

My suggestion is get as far away from them as you can. Leave everything you had with them behind. I have fought for my child and lost because the sociopath is so convincing in court. She is a woman also.  What I have learned that if You give them enough rope, they will hang themselves eventually.
The sociopath that targeted me for so long, has hung herself. Metaphorically speaking. She has lost any support within community. Everyone knows from dealing with her she is nothing more than an old washed up druggie. Unreliable, dishonest, scandalous. My child hates her now and lives with me. It took years to get to this point. But I left the whore alone and she used up all her resources. She even had the nerve to try to come back to me and as for help. I laughed at her. She looked like an old bag lady. She lost all her looks. She looks 70 and she is in her 40's. Everyone that sees her tells me how horrible she looks. My child says she took them to the stores with a flip flop and high heel on she was so whacked out in drugs.

She is a loser,  it will take time but I promise revenge against a sociopath is not the answer,  they are so self destructive. Just let them hang themselves. They will. That is a fact.

Monday, December 23, 2013

The Ruthless Blamer - sociopaths

They may realize that blaming is how they control others to harm the targets they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests."
Sociopaths may be especially aware of the risk that people who they have used in order to abuse others might even turn against them, especially those who might be greatly angered by how they were manipulated into participating in such vindictive, malicious  and harmful activities against others. People like to blame others. Sociopaths have mastered it. They are the truly evil that lives amongst us, and drains our energy. Sociopaths are much like leeches and ticks. They will attach themselves to you and feed off you until you are sucked dry of everything. 
Sociopathic abusers often engage in distortion campaigns to control and manipulate others to believe lies about their target, so they will have false beliefs about the victim. It's called vilifying the victim. By the time the victim is aware of it, he or she may have been routinely trashed and lied about for several years to the point that anything he or she says or does will somehow be interpreted as evidence of them being the problem.
Many of the sociopaths recruit others to help them, typically using lies, exploitations,  and other people’s own experiences to convince them that they should help ruin another person’s life.  They are often called them the “minions” of the sociopath. Some of these minions later realize that they were used to harm innocent people and end up feeling very bad about their own actions. But they remain afraid of sociopath and what the sociopath may do to them if they confront the sociopath. So these people rarely will admit to what the sociopath did. In fear that they will be the next "victim" of the evil malicious sociopath 

Sunday, December 22, 2013

My Ex Wife - Satan's Best Creation Yet...

Being the victim of a vindictive, evil and malicious female sociopath, I am aware of exactly how they operate. Considering I married this evil whore twice, and had a child with her. It wasn't until she was having an affair with a man 30 years older than her for 5 years, when I realized how evil this blonde bitch was. She would project and blame me for what she, herself would do; i.e., accuse me of being negative. When she is the most negative person I have ever met in all my 47 years of living on this
earth.  She would gaslight me into believing that when i had a normal reaction to something she 
would do, like being angry and hurt because of her lying and stealing from me, breaking promises to our child to be with her lover, or cheating, she would act as if my reaction was the problem and there 
Was something wrong with me. Thats when I would call her out on her inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. By confronting this soulless monster, I was accused by her of being the 
abnormal. I was the one who is too sensitive, and not acting like a man for being hurt. I was one with the problem. I was the bad guy, I was critical, or always focusing on the negative. 

This is part of the head-fuckery that she put me through. Acting inappropriately, unacceptable, and 
downright abusive, and then trying to turn it around to make it my fault. It's adding insult to injury at that point. Not only did my ex wife intentionally cause pain that I never deserved, all while denying 
that she ever did anything at all. She would try to make it my fault,  she wanted me to blame myself for something that supposedly didn't happen. Yes, re-read that. That is how illogical it is. She wanted to make sure that people thought I was the reason that the relationship failed. When the truth is the there never was a relationship. I wasn't in a relationship with a loving caring human being. I had been manipulated and led to believe I was in a relationship. But now I realize everything about her was fake, unauthentic and a lies. I was conned like many others before me. I can't really say I ever had a relationship with  my monster of an ex wife. There was never a relationship to begin with. I never had a chance. I never saw what happened until it was too late. And now an innocent child was involved.  

I knew it would only get worse from there. And I was right. It's been 8 years since separation and 5 since we were divorced and I still am harassed by her everyday. She uses our child to get things. It worked for a little while but I stopped feeling guilty. I knew what kind of man I was. I loved my daughter and would do anything for her. So I stopped listening to my whorish ex wife's bullshit, calling me a dead beat because I wouldn't give her $250 for gift card she supposedly bought my child's school teacher for Christmas gift.  I am a dead beat for her crap decisions. Knowing she didn't give any gift card. Just another scheme to get more money from me. As of the $3500 monthly in
support is not enough..

I was trapped by this evil monster of a female for so long. I didn't know how to stand up for myself. I didn't know how to get her to leave me alone.  I use to just give her the money. So she would leave me alone.  That was until I met my amazing wife now. We have been together for 5 years. She has stayed with me, even tho my ex wife has targeted her, ruined her reputation. She has stuck it out with me.. She taught me to stand up for myself. My ex wife is unemployed and a loser, and my new wife is the woman who made me see that I was not a piece of shit, my ex claimed I was. That I had more power than I knew. I had just been so broken down my evil bitch ex wife that I lost all confidence. I had been so attacked by her, that I was afraid.
I was afraid of what she may do to my child. Or what she would tell my child lies to make her hate her dad.
But now I am finally free of this psychopath. I give all the credit to my wife now. She stood up to the monster, and that is something no one would do.  It takes a strong person to stand up to any sociopath. But if the person has a healthy mind, and is strong and confident, the sociopath may destroy their reputation but never can hurt their self worth. My exwife would like to believe she is in control. She knows she has lost all control of me. I dont respond to her text.  I ignore her.  My new wife tries to keep peace for my daughters sake, but the ex is so evil there will never be peace.  I had so many years taken away from my life because of my ex wife,

So now I live everyday to the fullest. I know my ex is miserable and she makes her family miserable. And she wants me to be miserable. And wants my wife out of the picture. But that's never going to happen. I feel we beat the sociopath. We did the impossible. By working together, and being a team, and backing each other up. My wife now and me couldn't be happier - well we might be happier if my ex vanished ....

Sociopaths are good at playing Victim...

One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning. Smear campaigners carefully use lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying your credibility. They play victim, the tell their sob story and how "you" did all the horrible things to them, all while they are did nothing to deserve the horrible things you did to them. When in fact, when it comes to sociopaths ( especially female) they are doing to "you" all the horrible 
things they say you are doing to them. They do this so that your reputation and creditability is 
damaged. The sociopath will cry fake tears and claim their innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based not on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern.

The sociopath does this because of your refusal to give them what they want. They are angry that you 
will not be their puppet, so in all the only you are "guilty” of is saying no to someone who is, in some way, failing to respect your boundaries, abusing and bullying you for money. Since the sociopath 
refuses to follow the same rules as everyone else, because thy believe they are above the law. 
Sociopaths spread lies and rumors because they are toxic and manipulating. Sociopaths feel entitled to whatever they want, they are sneaky and vindictive. Sociopaths have no regrets when they hurt 
you. They are more than willing to take from you and never give back anything. They are takers, not 


Narcissistic Sociopaths will fly into a vindictive narcissistic rage if you dare to question them,  instead of just being compliant with their demands. Sociopaths often have anger management issues and are driven solely by their own selfish wants, with no regard for the rights of others or for consequences. Most female sociopaths have to create drama and conflict wherever possible, and 
they require little to no incentive to do so.  They have difficulty controlling their reactions, and may become intensely angered  by what others interpret to be minor matters. Sociopaths want drama and love to create conflict and make life difficult for everyone around them

Sunday, December 8, 2013

Victims of Narcissist

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder displays patterns of deceptive behaviors that can create havoc for those around them. Such as their spouse, children, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, peers, etc). Narcissistic Victim Abuse is abuse that has been caused by someone with a Narcissistic personality disorder. The Narcissist is not often medically diagnosed, so he/she goes 
undetected in society, but the people living with the narcissists know all too well the neglect, abuse 
the narcissists is capable of. The narcissist usually puts on a facade to everyone else. Usually it is the 
spouse of the narcissists who suffers the most at the hands of the narcissist, and the victim’s 
unfortunate and often dangerous situation goes unrecognized.

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder has an inflated ego, and a deep need for attention and 
admiration, they have a strong sense of entitlement, and their needs are more important than anyone 
else's - even their own children. They believe they are Superior and have little or NO regard for the 
feelings of others. 

So how did the Narcissist become such a Monster?

As a child, a healthy self-esteem aka "the true self" did not develop in the narcissist. So from an early age they built up defenses to create a ‘false self’ in public. This is similar to wearing an invisible 
mask. Wearing the mask is not only emotionally exhausting, it also means that the narcissist is 
constantly on guard at being found out. Although the narcissist is an excelled liar, and very 
convincing, they do live in a state of denial. 

They become overly sensitive to narcissistic injury which is any perceived threat, rather it be real or 
imagined the narcissist’s self-esteem or self-worth. In order to maintain their illusion and protec
their ‘false self’ they seek narcissistic supply from unsuspecting victims. 

The narcissist views people as objects which can feed their needs  become "sources of narcissistic 
supply".  The narcissist will use any tactic, with NO guilt, remorse, empathy or conscience, to make 
sure they get their narcissistic supply and that all their selfish and demanding needs are met. 
Narcissistic supply comes from public attention such as fame, notoriety, or infamy, since all 
narcissists can't be famous they seek the private attention such as admiration, flattery, acclaim, fear, 
or even repulsion. Regular bearers of narcissistic supply include the spouse, children, friends, colleagues, partners and clients. Anything that acts as a status symbol that attracts attention and   
admiration for the narcissist is narcissistic supply, for example, a flashy car, expensive property, designer clothes, being a member of an elite club, or a business. They narcissist always has cash and 
is flashing a wad of it when he goes out to a bar, or is gambling. To have large sums of cash, makes the narcissist feel empowered. 

With an inflated sense of their own superiority, power and control, the narcissist renders themselves 
susceptible to all sorts of obsessions, compulsions, and addictions, for example, addiction to; grandiosity, control, power, rage, perfectionism, attention, fame etc. The devastating impact of these addictions on their significant others can result in Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Most victims present with no idea about what has happened to them. 

Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is covert, cunning and indirect. Narcissists go to great pains to avoid being exposed publicly for what they truly are, which is an abusive monster. The Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde behaviour creates fear, distress, confusion, inner turmoil, and chaos for their victim. The constant ‘walking on eggshells’ and attempting to avoid further conflict can be crippling. To complicate matters, since the narcissist is rarely medically diagnosed and often goes undetected in society, they rarely are forced to seek treatment. Even if confronted the narcissist will become so 
defensive and turn everything around on the victim, the narcissist believes they ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, EVERYONE ELSE HAS A PROBLEM, NOT THEM. 

Victims present when they feel like they can’t cope. They are unaware that they have been living or working in a war zone. No-one has mentioned Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or narcissistic abuse to them. Victims of this narcissistic abuse often display a set, or cluster, of symptoms due to this physical, mental, emotional or spiritual abuse. In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are looking for a cluster of symptoms to emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma (avoidance behaviour, loss of interest, feeling detached, sense of a limited future, sleeping or eating difficulties, irritability, hyper-vigilance, easily startled, flashbacks, hopelessness, psychosomatic illnesses, self-harming, thoughts of suicide etc). Narcissistic abuse victims express feelings of humiliation and shame, and will begin to blame themselves for the abuse the narcissist inflicts upon them. They have learned to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behaviour because they are constantly told the problem is their fault.
 Some victims develop Stockholm Syndrome and want to support, defend, and love the abuser despite what they have gone through. 
The Victims of the Narcissist are often victimized by more than one person. They often internalize that something is wrong with them, that they deserve this kind of abuse, and then resign themselves to their fate. Victims may not have reached their potential in their personal or professional lives 
because they always have to stand in the shadow of their Abusive Narcissist, and careful not upstage them. They learn to live in the shadows, they know the consequences if they (even by accident) get more attention than their abuser...

Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or misheard something. Confidence may be so low that they have trouble making simple decisions. They will not be aware that this is caused by an abusive technique called ‘gaslighting’. Gaslighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by narcissists to instil 
confusion and anxiety in their victim to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. With gaslighting, the victim initially notices that something happens that is odd, but they don’t believe it. This moves to defence as the victim fights against the manipulation. Confusion sets in after constant degrading and belittling comments such as: "You're crazy" ‘You’re to sensitive’, ‘You’re imagining things’ or ‘I never said that.’ Gradually, the victim starts to not even trust their own perceptions. They start to doubt themselves, and feel like "maybe I am crazy". This leads to depression, feelings of hopelessness and emotional pain. The narcissist is able to break their victim down so that they are unable to trust themselves. They want their victim to feel helpless. So that they have total control of them. The victim doubts everything about themselves, their thoughts and opinions, their ideas and ideals. The victim isolates from friends and family. They become co-dependent on the abuser for their reality. 

Victims need validation and education about what has happened to them. They need information about the medical condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its toxicity in relationships. They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. It can take years of therapy to recover from the abuse the narcissist inflicts on their victims.  They will need support to remove themselves from their narcissistic relationship, and to not repeat the cycle of abuse in their next relationship. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the narcissist or 
because they themselves have been manipulated and pulled into the narcissist’s thrall.