Sociopaths and Narcissist Both Cheat, but for different reasons..

Sociopaths and Narcissit are both serial cheaters. They cannot be faithful ever! 
Male or Female. Narcissist or Sociopath. They are all cheaters, in every way.  They cheat their way through life, they have affairs with other people while in relationship or marriage. Just like they not capable of the truth or remorse, they are also not capable of being loyal to anyone. 

Sociopaths and narcissists have different motivations for cheating. 

A narcissist, is truly a very insecure person. Even though they come off very self assured and confident. The narcissist cheats to build his/her ego. It is a constant source of narcissistic supply and reassurance. They do not feel good or energized with one partner. Their ego needs to be stroked and fed. This is how they get their narcissistic supply. And it's YOU ( the one person who has supported and loved them ) that will pay the price. And that is ok with the narcissist. You love them and they believe they will always be able to manipulate you into forgiving them. They will take advantage of your love and kindness just because they can...

A Sociopath on the other hand cheat because... well they can. Sociopaths feel entitled to do whatever they want, and expect to suffer no consequences, or ever even be held accountable. Sociopaths take what they want because they want it. 
There is no moral issue involved as far as they are concerned. Since the sociopath believes they are entitled to anything and deserve everything, they recognize NO RuLeS that apply to them. They believe there can be no violation against and no wrong. The rules normal people  follow, do not apply to the sociopath. This is what makes the sociopath very very dangerous. There is no limits on what they can do, and since they are without any conscience, they are capable of horrible things. Sociopaths have absolutely no sympathy  to the damage they do to innocent people.

To a sociopath, cheating is like a game where she/he maneuvers the man/woman into giving her/him what they want, and  it has no special meaning to them, though they will do everything to make you think otherwise. Sociopaths are all con artist. They are skilled pretenders and liars. 
You will notice that to both a sociopath and a narcissist, they think they can  have sex with many others, and arrogantly say  “Hey, I've still got it, I'm good looking. I'm irresistible.” But, to get what they want, they will focus on YOU, feeding you what they know you want to hear. They make you believe you are special, but in fact, you are like are just another thing  to be used. They are sick and twisted and cause so much pain and hurt to anyone who knows them. 
The sociopath and narcissist  both wreak havoc and destruction on the lives of the innocent.
There is only one way to deal with one once you have discovered that they are this way. 
It is to get far, far away from them. SEVER ALL TIES AND CUT OFF ALL CONTACT, immediately and totally.

Narcissist Thrive on Emotional Reactions

Narcissist thrive on evoking both reactions and emotions from their victims.

The narcissist wants you to respond to their unrealistic demands. They are aware of what they are doing, that's exactly why they do it. When the narcissist isn't treating you like garbage or like your existence is irrelevant, they will be doing or saying things to cause you pain. Most victims do not understand the person they are in love with lacks the ability to Love them back. They believe they are to blame. They do not understand why they are being rejected.  So they keep trying to please.  
The narcissist sees this as weakness and continues to allow their victim to be in pain, by rejecting them, cheating on them, and lying to them. 

It is hard to get through to the narcissists victim at this time. But eventually the victim will have enough. Unfortunately by the time the victim realizes this, they have been beaten down 
emotionally. They are depleted of energy and hope. It usually can take the victim years to 
get over their ordeal with the narcissist. And in all truth, the abuse they suffered cannot be forgotten. 

Don't lose hope if this is you. Once you have gotten the narcissist out of your life. Begin to LIVE again. Focus on healing your mind, body, and soul. 

The sociopath will NEVER change. Ever

Sociopaths,  narcissist, psychopaths, and also the dark triad personality disordered person  has mastered how to attack and retreat. This is how they keep their victims off balance. They sociopath undermines the victim and works to lower the victims self esteem, confidence and independence 

Abusive sociopaths suffers from internal discomfort and conflicts that they have no clue how to deal with, due to their lack of being able to genuinely connect to others. Sociopaths do not have much practical and logical thinking inside their mind. Rational reasoning, kindness, and empathy, is just NOT there.  They do so many damaging things to their victim  is to compensate or satisfy their own insecurities. Sociopaths and narcissist will work  hard to give others the impression that they are Confident, self assured, independent, and basically “awesome” Human beings.

The sociopath does not ever look within themselves.  Because “within" them is hollow and empty. They don't seek to understand or respect others because they do not understand or respect themselves. The ONLY understanding the sociopath wants to find is how to better manipulate and control their victim.

The Truth is that narcissist and sociopaths are very insecure. The narcissist more so than the sociopath. The narcissist is very skilled at hiding their  own weaknesses. Their strategy is to make the victim look ‘unstable, dangerous, and suffering from low self esteem. The sociopath hides their insecurity and self-hatred by exploiting others, and portraying them as weak. 

Since these abusive types of people CaNNoT control their own life, and (malicious) emotions, they try to control others, through manipulation, lies, threat, blackmail, and for a lack of better words, causing their victims to doubt their self, and feel unworthy and not good enough. While if these malicious types may have some positive qualities. Although I have never seen anything positive come from a sociopath, ever ..  

The narcissistic sociopath will always hold very toxic and unrealistic expectations of victims and their family members, these expectations are to ridiculous to ever really met. Those who try to meet these expectations will become exhausted and drained. The sociopath convinces them that they a failure, and they will constantly berate them, and be verbally abuse. This is a game that the sociopath loves to play with people in their life. The sociopath has mastered this "game" and they know it is a game that they will win, and that their victims cannot win. 

Narcissist and sociopaths are ABUSERS. It's vital for all victims of these vile individuals to remember, the abuse more than likely has nothing to do with you. If they are not abusing You, they would be abusing someone else. They abuse family members as long as the family member stays in the sociopath life. The actions of the abuser are not Your fault. Even though the sociopath will have you convinced and brainwashed that you are to blame for anything they may have done to hurt you.  One of the hardest things to accept and understand is You will have little or no impact on the sociopath. They will never change. They are wired the way they are. They aren't suffering from a mental illness, but they have a malevolent personality and are basically soulless. So never expect these types to change. There may be a temporary change but it will not be lasting. It is only another tactic to get back in your life, once they do the abuse will start again. 

The abusers seldom wants to change.  Narcissist don't believe  that there is anything wrong with them. Sociopaths (this is my opinion) either know there is something wrong with them but refuse to admit it. Or they are so delusional. They really feel like the circumstances of their life and how it has turned out, is truly the fault of everyone else - but not them...they are never at fault. seldom want to put any real effort towards changing. Victims of sociopaths and narcissist often believe they can change them, and often end up blaming themselves for the state of the relationship.

The narcissistic sociopath wants to control you. And when you stay after all the abuse they subject you to. They feel in control of you

GET AWAY FROM YOUR ABUSER ASAP. It never gets better. It only gets worse 

 

Never React but always Remember and Document

Being a victim of a sociopath, I have learned how destructive, cruel and damaging they can are to ones emotional, mental and physical health. Some may have noticed this blog NEVER uses any names to point out a specific sociopath. The blog authors name is not real. 
Why? Because I am not here to defame or character assassinate anyone. Not even a sociopath.

This blog is to help the victims of sociopaths, narcissist and other dark personalities better understand how these cruel individuals operate, so if one ever becomes targeted by a sociopath, one will know what they are up against. 

I learned the hard way... I reacted to every single false accusation being made up about me by the sociopath. Little did I know at the time, my reacting was what the sociopath wanted.
The sociopath relies on their victims emotions to bait them into their trap. Sociopaths do not have the emotions that genuine human beings have, such as guilt, shame, love, and hurt. 
They only feel anger, entitlement, hate, and revenge. 

The sociopath does covert things to the target, and makes it seem as if they are supported by others. The Internet is one of the sociopaths favorite new weapons of destruction. While the Internet is also used by amazing individuals to do good. It can also be used to hurt, destroy and defame innocent people. 
One way to know if one is being genuine or just attempting to destroy another person reputation is the use of names. Using a person first, last and even surname followed by hate accusation is a RED FLAG. 

When normal healthy minded people have a problem with a person, they maybe upset, but they don't set out to destroy their life and reputation. The sociopath will immediately begin to destroy a person with spreading embarrassing, harmful lies. They will make sure that when their targets name is googled or looked up via Internet, that the slander will appear on the first page. This harms one from employment and future employment. This makes the victim feel helpless, powerless and hated. That's the goal of the sociopath, to convince the target that they have people on their side, and are supported. When they usually are not. Any supporter who leave comments on the sociopath slander campaign, are usually left by the sociopaths other aliases. 

The best way to handle a sociopath who is determined to destroy you by spreading rumors to anyone who will listen is to NOT REACT. They are counting on you reacting emotionally. They will use your genuine against you. They now are able to say "look, I told you he/she was unstable". Although you are not unstable, you are human with human emotions that sociopath lacks. The sociopath will twist and manipulate your assumedly appropriate emotional reaction to make you look crazy, unstable and even dangerous. 

It is VERY DIFFICULT to NOT react to the awful things the sociopath is doing to you. But I am telling from personal  experience.  It is in your best to not react, but to document, document, document. Save everything. Because the sociopath will continue to do vicious things in order to get a reaction. They WILL eventually cross the line, and you will have everything you need to take legal action. It will show that you were harassed, stalked, slandered by the sociopathic person, and by not reacting they have nothing on you. 

Psychopaths, sociopaths and Narcissist

Sociopaths, psychpaths, and narcissist have similiar traits. But they are are actually different. In my research I have found all in all they all destroy lives. They all shatter self esteem, rob people of their quality of living and hope. 

Psychopaths, Sociopaths and narcissist know exactly what they are doing to their victim. In fact they know what they are going to do to their victim before they do it. 

Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissist are able to sound as if they have a good sense and that they are of sound reasoning. They come across as charming and innocent. All people, even trained doctors may find that these disorders individuals seem to be pleasant people, that are fully functioning and have high capabilities. 

Psychometric tests also very frequently show the psychopath of superior intelligence. They may conclude that the sociopath is smarter than the average person. Both the sociopath and psychopath can appear brilliant. But it is the sociopath who is of average intelligent but has just convinced us that she/he is smarter than us all. The Narcissisit is likely to seem free from social or emotional impediments, from the minor distortions, peculiarities, and awkwardnesses so common even among the successful. 

The sociopath and the narcissist have shown many superficial characteristics and they are not universal, but they are very common.

The psychopath on the other hand is very smart, and rarely makes mistakes that will get him or her caught. Unlike the sociopath whose life begins to unravel around the age of 45 (especially the female sociopath). 

Old debts will catch up, and people have caught on to the scheme of the sociopath, and are no longer willing to do their dirty work for them. The sociopath being impulsive and having little self control, has probably been married over 3 times at this point, and is unable to keep a job. She relies on child support from the ex-spouses whom she has children with. The community is no stranger to his/her behaviors. 

The psychopath on the other hand is able to keep a steady job. And what the psychopath does is calculated and planned out. There are no holes in his story. Many sociopaths and psychopaths never commit murder. But all are capable of murder. A psychopath thinks about losing the ir freedom if they are caught for such acts, where is a sociopath is so impulsive, they do not think and do not care. They are only interested in themselves and what they want in that moment. 

Sociopaths (at least the ones I have observed) can only be “functioning” for so long... Before they get caught for the many deceptive things they do. They are very spiteful, jealous, angry individuals. They hate people who are successful, have a lot of money, or work hard. The sociopath wants all those things, but doesn't want to work to get them. 
There is a sense of entitlement there. They believe they are entitled to a BIG piece of the pie, even if they did nothing to earn or deserve. They will take credit for everyone else's hard work, and they never will acknowledge the person who actually deserves the credit. In fact they will end up destroying the person. Mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually in order to make sure that the person cannot speak out against them. 

One thing that the psychopath, narcissist, and sociopath all have in common is they all have NO EMPATHY FOR ANY FORM OF LIFE. They have no emotional connection to others {all though they are able to fake sympathy and concern VERY well. But they truly do not care, they NEVER WILL care, and there is nothing you can ever in this life do to make them care. They are EMPTY, hollow, shallow and ruthless people who will look you in the eyes, smile and then turn around and destroy you every chance they get 

Narcissistic Sociopath - NEVER takes any responsibility

A narcissistic sociopath will never take responsibility for anything. 
A sociopath always puts on a good show. Pretending to care and be compassionate. But he/she has no compassion. The sociopath only knows how to show compassion because she/he has seen someone else show this emotion. Compassion and sympathy are alien to them. 
Sociopaths make promises that they NEVER intend to keep. 

Sociopaths abandon those who care about them, especially at the most critical of times in their lives. 

The sociopath is a cheater. She/he cheats and does not care of the pain it will cause to their spouse/children or anyone else. The sociopath ONLY cares about getting their needs met, no matter how sick they are. 
Narcissist and Sociopaths sometimes will act stunned that the person is hurt by their infidelities.
Their emotional logic is not there. They do not think like normal, healthy, caring human beings.
They are soulless.... 

Sociopaths will disappear for hours and even days. Not telling anyone where they are. Then the sociopath will reappear as if everything is normal. They expect others to go along with this, and if anyone confronts them, they will lash out at them, they will try to switch the focus off of them, and turn it around on whoever is confronting them. Sometimes convincing the victim it is their fault, the victim may even end up apologizing. 
They cause their victims anxiety, stress and heartbreak. The sociopath will NEVER explain what they’ve been up to. They will though always make excuses, and tell More lies. The sociopath blames everyone else. And it is always someone else’s fault why they behaved a certain way, did something immoral, all without admitting what they did was wrong. 

It is a waste of time and energy to argue with a sociopath. It is easier to squeeze blood out of a 
stone than to get a sociopath to admit that they were wrong or even to apologize.

Sociopaths cheat and abandon their husbands and wives. The only reason a sociopath will act as if they are concerned for their children is to continue to manipuale  and control their ex. 

The reality is that the sociopath does not have the slightest concern about anyone but themselves.

Sociopaths may not commit crimes like murder, but they are capable of anything. Most of their crimes are smaller crimes but have a significant effect on their victims. A sociopath is so "good" at what they do that they often do not get caught and convicted for these crimes that devastate many lives.  

It is not worth your time and energy to try to expose a sociopath. It is more beneficial for you to walk away and get the sociopath completely out of your life. If you share children with them, then 
be patient. As the children get older, you will find that you can have less contact with the sociopath.

If the sociopath is a man, he will usually lose interest in his children and that will be the best 
thing for you and your children. As much as a child needs a father - REMEMBER THAT THIS PERSON IS A MONSTER, and EVIL. He has no compassion and unable to empathize or really care about anyone but himself and it is best that he dissapears from your child's life. As all interaction is toxic and could permanently damage your child's emotional well being 

If the sociopath is a woman - this is more difficult. The sociopathic female doesn't want her mask to slip. If she was to forget about her children, she risk being exposed for the cold heartless monster she is.  She is smart enough to know that society views women as mothers and natural nurturers. So she will want custody of the children for face value only. She puts on a show for others that she is the best mommy in the world, she tries to play the Susie soccer mom role. Also she see her children as her meal ticket. She will drain the wallet of her ex and the father of her children.

Not only will his finances suffer. He will also be drained emotionally and physically. She will wear him down, belittle him, turn his children against him. The female sociopath is like a blood sucking tick. She latches on and will not let go until she has bled him dry. 

THIS IS A DIFFICULT SITUATION FOR THE MAN. He loves his children. He wants to be a good father but to do so he must endure all the manipulation and torment that his sociopathic ex wife will do. 

In a situation like this it is important for the man to be in his children's life. They truly need him, he is the only stable figure they have and can rely on. It is hard, but once he children get older, it gets easier. The man will be able to communicate with his children without having to go through the sociopath.  Of course she will contest this. Because she wants to be in control. She will do everything she can to get control back. It's important for the man to not give in to her manipulations. As soon as the man realizes his children are able to communicate their needs 
and make decisions, that is when ALL CONTACT SHOULD BE CUT OFF WITH THE FEMALE SOCIOPATH. She will be consistent in trying to get any response. Never respond. Change your number. 

The unpredictable, unstable, obsessive EX

It is always hard when a relationship ends, a divorce or break up takes place. But when the relationship was/is toxic, it is in the best interest of our Emotional Health and Stability to end toxic relationships. 
Toxic individuals do not change. They may seek counseling, but they do not seek it because they genuinely want to change and be better persons.. The only reason a toxic person agrees to counseling or help, is so that their victim "believes" that they are trying hard to change. Once they have their victim believing that they have changed, the abuse (lying, manipulating, cheating, stealing) will start again, and continue until they are caught again. 

TOXIC PEOPLE WASTE SO SO SO MUCH OF OUR TIME, AND THEY SIMPLY DO NOT CARE. You cannot make them feel bad or remorseful, because they do not have a conscience. They lack inner depth and love. When a person does not have consciousness and awareness of the feelings and pain of others, they are capable of terrible and evil things. 
Just look at how they recklessly live. They have no concern for their own life. Much less the life of anyone else. 

When the toxic relationship ends, because you have had enough. Even though you are able to let go and you are ready to move forward in life, doesn't mean the toxic person is.  
Even if it is the toxic person ENDS the relationship, and moves on to another person. They will still feel the need to punish you every chance they can get.  Especially if you decide to move on as well and begin to see other people and date again. Once the toxic person finds out you are moving on and thinks you may even be Happy, that is when they may become obsessed with getting you back, reconciling, or just making your life miserable. 

This behavior becomes an obsession.  Your ex develops an unhealthy and dangerous obsession with you. If you have children with this person, your situation can become so miserable that you begin to feel hopeless. 

This is called the obsessive EX syndrome. It is when your Ex-Wife/Husband will stop at nothing to make your life unbearable and miserable. They will even use their own children as mass weapons of destruction to punish you and make your suffering even worse. 

Even if the ex has moved on, even re-married. Often times, the obsessive ex that you are dealing with wants you to still give to them, do things for them, and be around when they call.  They are very delusional, they truly believe that they are allowed  to move on with their new partner, but they do not believe that YOU (their Ex) is allowed to move on or be happy. Once your obsessive ex finds out that you have found someone else, they become obsessed with making your  life hell. They do not stop with just tormenting you.  They also will harass and stalk the man/woman that you have moved on with. They will use the children that you share to hurt you. They do not CARE, the psychological damage they are causing their Own children. As long as they are in control. They want to control You. This is usually because the  obsessive Ex realizes that if You find someone else, they will lose the control they have had on you for so long. 
This type of behavior is delusional, and it can become very dangerous. They may not harm you physically but they find Many other ways to harm you. Such as accusing you of abuse, physical and emotional, they will turn the children against you, and slander you to friends, colleagues and the entire community. An obsessive ex knows what they are doing, but justifies it to their own self. They are selfish, but are too self centered and narcissistic to take responsibility for anything in their life that they are doing or that they have done.  These people do not always have a chemical brain imbalance. They usually just lack compassionate for anyone, anything, except themselves. They have a sense of entitlement, and they expect impossible and unrealistic 
expectations for everyone — EXCEPT FOR THEMSELVES! 

This can be extremely hard for you, but you must be strong. I have found that once the children get older that you must apply the NO CONTACT RULE. This is helpful. But it takes a significant amount of time before your unstable ex leaves you alone.