Envy and Jealousy

Sociopaths run their smear campaigns, in an attempt to spread lies about you, and some even go to the extremes of impersonating you, just get a reaction out of you. 

IF YOU REACT - you give the sociopath what they wanted. You give a reason to turn it around on you, and tell others that you are attacking them. 

That's why it's important to not react to the sociopath.  No matter how badly you want to defend you me character. If you really want the sociopath to leave you alone. 

**Then going NO CONTACT is the only way to truly get  the sociopath out of your life completely.

So why do sociopaths want to destroy lives, spread lies, cause conflict, chaos and drama? The answer is pretty simple — “jealousy”

The sociopath is jealous and envious of everyone they know. The believe that everyone has something better than them. So they do anything to sabatoge that persons life by any means.  Sociopaths experience a level of envy toward their targets that is lethal. Whatever the sociopath or  narcissist  sees in you that he/she knows they cannot be, want to be, or with something that he/she views that you have ‘won’ in some way. They feel a incredible amount of envy. Their envy can appear as rage in the smear campaign. Don't ever expect the sociopath to admit they are envious for someone. They have NO SPINE OR BACKBONE  TO DO THAT. 

So they have to sneak around behind your back and do covert things to try to destroy you. Sometime the envy is obvious and sometimes it is not obvious. 

Sociopaths tend to be envious of their ex spouses new girlfriend/boyfriend, husband or wife. And soon the innocent person who is with the sociopaths ex spouse decides to target the new love. Why?

Because sociopaths are low life scum. 

They want to destroy their ex, and also want to destroy their happiness. So that means they work hard to make your relationship miserable. I’m hopes that they will destroy it.

The best thing to do is recognize that this is happening. Do not allow a hateful narcissistic sociopath destroy your happiness. 

Your Abuser Will Never Change

Sociopaths,  narcissist, psychopaths, and also the dark triad personality disordered person  has mastered how to attack and retreat. This is how they keep their victims off balance. They sociopath undermines the victim and works to lower the victims self esteem, confidence and independence 

Abuse sociopaths suffers from internal discomfort and conflicts that they have no clue how to deal with, due to their lack of being able to genuinely connect to others. Sociopaths do not have much practical and logical thinking inside their mind. Rational reasoning, kindness, and empathy, is just NOT there.  They do so many damaging things to their victim  is to compensate or satisfy their own insecurities. Sociopaths and narcissist will work  hard to give others the impression that they are Confident, self assured, independent, and basically “awesome” Human being. 

The sociopath does not ever look within themselves.  Because “within" them is hollow and empty. They don't seek to understand or respect others because they do not understand or respect themselves. The ONLY understanding the sociopath wants to find is how to better manipulate and control their victim.

The Truth is that narcissist and sociopaths are very insecure. The narcissist more so than the sociopath. The narcissist is very skilled at hiding their  own weaknesses. Their strategy is to make the victim look ‘unstable, dangerous, and suffering from low self esteem. The sociopath hides their insecurity and self-hatred by exploiting others, and portraying them as weak. 

Since these abusive types of people CaNNoT control their own life, and (malicious) emotions, they try to control others, through manipulation, lies, threat, blackmail, and for a lack of better words, causing their victims to doubt their self, and feel unworthy and not good enough. While if these malicious types may have some positive qualities. Although I have never seen anything positive come from a sociopath, ever ..  

The narcissistic sociopath will always hold very toxic and unrealistic expectations of victims and their family members, these expectations are to ridiculous to ever really met. Those who try to meet these expectations will become exhausted and drained. The sociopath convinces them that they a failure, and they will constantly berate them, and be verbally abuse. This is a game that the sociopath loves to play with people in their life. The sociopath has mastered this "game" and they know it is a game that they will win, and that their victims cannot win. 

Narcissist and sociopaths are ABUSERS. It's vital for all victims of these vile individuals to remember, the abuse more than likely has nothing to do with you. If they are not abusing You, they would be abusing someone else. They abuse family members as long as the family member stays in the sociopaths life. The actions of the abuser are not Your fault. Even though the sociopath will have you convinced and brainwashed that you are to blame for anything they may have done to hurt you.  One of the hardest things to accept and understand is You will have little or no impact on the sociopath. They will never change. They are wired the way they are. They aren't suffering from a mental illness, but they have a malevolent personality disorder,  the are unable to feel empathy when there is suffering, and they hurt and cause severe damage to anyone who meets them. 
They are basically soulless. So never expect these types to change. There may be a temporary change but it will not be lasting. It is only another tactic to get back in your life, once they do the abuse will start again. 

Even if the abusers wanted to change, they seldom want to put any real effort towards changing. Victims of emotional abuse often think otherwise. They stick around hoping they can fix things and hoping that their abuser will change. 

Please leave and get out before you wake up one day and notice you look older and feel older and realize you have given all your good years and all your energy to this person, who has never valued and never will value you for the amazing person  that you are. 

Narcissist are broken and want to break you.

Narcissist are broken mentally and emotionally. You made them feel amazing for a certain period of time obviously that time is over since you are asking this question.

Narcissist  fear abandonment so deeply that they could leave you for someone else and be so hurt that you moved on and are dating again.

The reason to make you suffer is because they are the ones suffering worse then you ever could. 

 But this the only way they know how to function. 

So by punishing you they are desperate for a reaction good or bad makes no difference to them as it is attention and shows they still have control.

Ignoring them causes a HUGE blow to their ego and they HATE it! It EATS them ALIVE!

They will abuse the new supply or smear you to their friends and family to try and maintain control over their own emotions since YOU wont give them what they want.

Seeing you hurt give the narcissist power!

 Seeing you happy makes them ANGRY!

The Reign of Terror Never Really Ends

Sociopaths really do not understand honesty, they believe it is something that only the weak and vulnerable does. Their mind is so warped and twisted, they truly cannot comprehend truth, love and compassion.


Being exposed for the shallow, manipulative, soulless liar is something that terrifies the sociopath/narcissist. 

The sociopath/narcissist has a few primary goals, that do not change much through out ones entire existence. That goal is to control others by any means possible.
Having control ensures the sociopath can live an easy, carefree life, never having any real responsibility. 

The sociopath wants the outer world to perceive him/her as a do-gooder. 
Someone who is empathic, and hard working.  Something all of us who have ever had to deal with this type for dysfunctional person know all to well.

All of us that have dealt with a character flawed individual (sociopath/narcissist) already know that they believe they are too "special" and "precious" to actually work hard for something. This is the reason they seek out people whom they believe to be “weak”. They target these types of people because they are compassionate, generous and loving. 
The sociopath knows that they will be able to fully take advantage of their kindness. 
They don't see people as potential friends or future lovers. They see them as an object they can use to do all the work that they believe they themselves are to good to do. 

The sociopath/narcissist will take the credit, and recognition for the hard work and responsibility that is done by someone else. 


People who are unaware that they are in a relationship with a sociopath do not realize it until their life has been turned upside down by one. 

There is never enough anyone can give the sociopath to satisfy them. 
Many have tried to give and give to the sociopath, only to exhaust themselves, and realize they are attempting to fill a black hole of nothingness. 
The sociopath is so shallow, there is nothing  in this world that will ever fill the emptiness that they are. 

YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PLEASE A SOCIOPATH! 
Everything is very temporary for them. They leave their victims feeling alone, defeated, and broken. 

The sociopath is envious of others. Not because of anything other than they want to be the center of attention at all times. 

I have personal experience with a female sociopath who has aged awfully.
I'm sure this person has always been hateful by nature. As she has aged, not so gracefully she has becomes even more hateful, bitter and resentful. 

I always wondered if the sociopath ever changes with age.. For most of us when we age we do not have the energy we did when we were younger. But I have experienced with a certain sociopath who I have to still somewhat deal with, that aging does not stop their  reign of terror. 

When Reality Slaps You Hard

The realization that you are dealing with a sociopath. Or have been romantically involved or currently still are involved with a sociopath, narcissist or a psychopath is a very surreal and scary feeling. You have obviously realized something was not “right” with the person. So you did meticulous research and all signs point to a person who lacks a conscience.
A person who has no regard for the feelings of any other person but him/herself..

It is very difficult for most of us to understand and accept that there are people in our world that do not feel any empathy and have absolutely NO remorse. 
What is even more devastating (besides finding out the person you have shared so many details of your life with has NO Soul). Is realizing that every moment you shared with this person was FAKE. It wasn't real. 

The sociopath/narcissist has faked every emotion in order to manipulate you into believing they are normal with normal human emotions, just like you. 
They have pretended to love you, just to manipulate you into giving them what they want. 
How does one heal and recover from a deception so Big? You gave your time, energy, love and heart to someone, and you believed they loved you just as much. How does one ever trust again? Love again?  I

Once you have accepted the harsh reality for what it is. It's time to move on. 
It will Not be easy. The sociopath has left you feeling as if the energy/life force has been stolen right out of your soul. This is why healing takes time. You must take care of yourself, be good to yourself and never blame yourself for what happened. After all you were not this evil persons first victim and you will not be the last. This predator will continue this until their last day on this earth. They are simply soulless beings among us. 

Usually as soon as you begin the healing process, the narcissist will suddenly come back to your life, and they will say whatever they have to say to get you back. They will be that same great wonderful amaZing person you met in the beginning. Stay Strong! 

Remember THE NARCISSIST/SOCIOPATH WILL NEVER CHANGE. 

They are able to  fake emotions like. remorse,  sorrow, and even shame. They will act sorry to get you to forgive them for whatever they have done wrong.  They are NOT sorry though. They know exactly what they are doing and plan on doing it again. They actually do not see anything wrong with their behavior.  This is just how twisted they really are.

Narcissist/Sociopaths are serial cheaters.  Every single one of them. Rather it's a man or woman. Just like they are not capable of feeling empathy, they are not capable of being loyal. 

When you first caught them doing something wrong, they initially probably won you back fairly quickly or were able to deny any responsibility and convinced you they are not to blame. But after the 2nd, 3rd, even 4th time the issue came back up, you begin to have your suspicions. But of course the sociopath still tries to show you a great deal of sorrow, empathy and whatever other human emotions they know how to mimic, to manipulate you again. 

They can look so damn genuine, it's really mind blowing to know its all bullsh*t. 

They never feel bad that they have caused so much pain. They actually will feel bad for themselves, when you have had enough and are not so easily swayed and forgiving this 
time. So what started with them apologizing and acting remorseful soon turns to them blaming you (once they realize that you don't believe them) There anger comes raging out at this point, not because they feel bad about anything, their mask is starting to slip  because they were caught.

Psychopaths, sociopaths and Narcissist

Sociopaths, psychpaths, and narcissist have similiar traits. But they are are actually different. In my research I have found all in all they all destroy lives. They all shatter self esteem, rob people of their quality of living and hope. 

Psychopaths, Sociopaths and narcissist know exactly what they are doing to their victim. In fact they know what they are going to do to their victim before they do it. 

Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissist are able to sound as if they have a good sense and that they are of sound reasoning. They come across as charming and innocent. All people, even trained doctors may find that these disorders individuals seem to be pleasant people, that are fully functioning and have high capabilities. 

Psychometric tests also very frequently show the psychopath of superior intelligence. They may conclude that the sociopath is smarter than the average person. Both the sociopath and psychopath can appear brilliant. But it is the sociopath who is of average intelligent but has just convinced us that she/he is smarter than us all. The Narcissisit is likely to seem free from social or emotional impediments, from the minor distortions, peculiarities, and awkwardnesses so common even among the successful. 

The sociopath and the narcissist have shown many superficial characteristics and they are not universal, but they are very common.

The psychopath on the other hand is very smart, and rarely makes mistakes that will get him or her caught. Unlike the sociopath whose life begins to unravel around the age of 45 (especially the female sociopath). 

Old debts will catch up, and people have caught on to the scheme of the sociopath, and are no longer willing to do their dirty work for them. The sociopath being impulsive and having little self control, has probably been married over 3 times at this point, and is unable to keep a job. She relies on child support from the ex-spouses whom she has children with. The community is no stranger to his/her behaviors. 

The psychopath on the other hand is able to keep a steady job. And what the psychopath does is calculated and planned out. There are no holes in his story. Many sociopaths and psychopaths never commit murder. But all are capable of murder. A psychopath thinks about losing the ir freedom if they are caught for such acts, where is a sociopath is so impulsive, they do not think and do not care. They are only interested in themselves and what they want in that moment. 

Sociopaths (at least the ones I have observed) can only be “functioning” for so long... Before they get caught for the many deceptive things they do. They are very spiteful, jealous, angry individuals. They hate people who are successful, have a lot of money, or work hard. The sociopath wants all those things, but doesn't want to work to get them. 
There is a sense of entitlement there. They believe they are entitled to a BIG piece of the pie, even if they did nothing to earn or deserve. They will take credit for everyone else's hard work, and they never will acknowledge the person who actually deserves the credit. In fact they will end up destroying the person. Mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually in order to make sure that the person cannot speak out against them. 

One thing that the psychopath, narcissist, and sociopath all have in common is they all have NO EMPATHY FOR ANY FORM OF LIFE. They have no emotional connection to others {all though they are able to fake sympathy and concern VERY well. But they truly do not care, they NEVER WILL care, and there is nothing you can ever in this life do to make them care. They are EMPTY, hollow, shallow and ruthless people who will look you in the eyes, smile and then turn around and destroy you every chance they get 

Common everyday sociopaths

The common everyday sociopath is 

ia convincing, excelled liar and when called to account, will make up anything to fit their needs at that moment. 

The sociopath is a jealous individual, and will target and destroy any person they feel envy toward. They destroy by spreading lies to damage the persons reputation. The lies are completely made up, and have no truth to them. The sociopath is Very convincing...

Spciopaths will never take responsibility for anything. Nobody likes to be blamed, but a responsible person will accept blame for something appropriate. Sociopaths don’t like to accept blame for anything, even if it is well-earned. While part of this is likely from their typical “I am  better than you” attitude and “the rules don’t apply to me” attitudes, there’s more to it than that -  Sociopaths may realize that blaming is how they control others to cause harm and problems for their targets, whom they viciously attack, often family members or former love interests. They understand both the destructive and defensive powers of blaming and make regular use of both.

I have been targeted by a sociopath who spread Nasty lies about me. The lies were so damaging I was afraid to leave my home because I was scared that people believed the sociopath. 

The OBSESSED Narcissist

The narcissist has a difficult time knowing what is real, and what is a delusional that they made up in their crazy minds..

As a DSM-IV trait, the narcissisit's need to fend off inner emptiness, feel special and in control, and avoid feeling defective. The narcissist can become so delusional that they are bordering on a fine line between their own delusions and what is actually real.  

As unhealthy this is for the narcissist, it is even more unhealthy for people in he narcissist life. And it usually will turn into to gaslighting for the narcissistic individuals family members. It causes them confusion, frustration, and delusional thinking...

A person trying to end a relationship or cut ties with a narcissist has a difficult doing so, because the narcissist becomes the person you always wanted them to be. Nice..but it is all an act... To get you to take them back so they can control and treat you like crap again. 

The narcissistic person becomes obsessed with their partner when the partner is not responding, and trying to have no contact. They are obsessed with getting the  CONTROL, they once had back. They can't stand the fact that someone has actually rejected them. Especially their partner, who they have viewed as weak and pathetic. They will not like the fact that you have made a good and healthy decision for yourself - which was to no longer be a part of their dysfunction! 

When the relationship is over, the narcissist can actually do become dangerously obsessed with their ex-partner.  

After failed attempts to get their ex back, the disordered narcissist will resort to stalking, destroying property, verbal attacks, ridiculous demands, and obsessive calling, emailing and obsessively text messaging. 

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder confuse the intensity they feel with intimacy. They do not know how to have healthy, loving, and intimate relationships. 

Being in a narcissistic relationship is painful. Narcissist cheat, lie and treat their partners as if they mean nothing to them.  The relationship is built around infidelity, the narcissist huge EGO and control. 

(The narcissist can also be jealous and fear losing control but it has more to do with maintaining their narcissistic supply source)

The fact is, that there are some people who are just unable to mentally “let go” of their partner after a break up — especially if there were children as a result from the relationship.

It is difficult to end a relationship with narcissist. The narcissist will keep calling, keep visiting, keep arguing and trying to reconcile. All while still having sex with other people. THE NARCISSIST NEVER CHANGES, THEY WILL ONLY PRETEND TO BE WHAT YOU WANT UNTIL THEY GET THAT CONTROL BACK.

The non-disordered person may take the narcissist back a few times before they realize that nothing will ever become better. 

Once you end the relationship for GOOD with the narcissist, you may be followed, stalked, threatened, put downed, and called nasty names by your ex. 

When left unaddressed, in extreme cases the disordered Narcissist becomes obsessed  and it may progress to the point that they will use the children to get their ex to respond, and if those tactics don't work they may threaten to hurt the children. 

Narcissist manipulate their ex by using the children. But when that DOES NOT work. The narcissist becomes desperate and angry - they are willing to do whatever they must to make contact with their ex.  

The narcissist knows their ex loves the children, then the disordered person will attempt to hurt their ex by hurting the children. 

In extreme cases they will actually cause harm to their children. Even kidnapping the child (children) from school or by refusing to return the child after their visitation is up. 

Narcissist and Sociopaths have very many similiar traits. The sociopath is usually more ruthless in their tactics to gain control or get what they want.

Narcissist do Not allow their Ex's to Move On

Sociopathic narcissist will do horrendous things to others. They will lie, cheat and steal from their family, their spouses and their exes. Sociopathic narcissist will slander anyone's name who they feel inferior to, or threatened by. Threatened by meaning the other persons success, good looks, youth, and status. Especially in the work place or if a new person has entered the sociopaths exes life. 

When the narcissist shares children with their ex, and a new person enters the picture, the narcissisit immediately feels that the new person will be liked more than they will, by their own children. So the narcissist begins to try to turn their children against the new person in their ex's life. The narcissist is notorious for slandering others. Making up lies about the person to destroy their reputation in the community. The narcissist knows that by doing these things, it will cause stress in the relationship of the other person, and the narcissist hopes that will be enough to cause the person to leave.

The narcissist does not want their ex to ever move on with their life. They have a ridiculous expectation that they should be able to move on with their life, but their ex should stay alone and single forever. When their ex tries to move on, the narcissist makes it extremely hard to do so. They will attempt to sabotage the relationship by causing problems, creating stress, and spreading lies about their ex and their ex's new love interest. 

It takes a strong person and confident person to stay in a relationship with an individual with a disordered ex with narcissistic personality disorder, with sociopathic tendencies. 

When the narcissist needs cooperation from their ex because of children, the narcissist will pretend they have done nothing wrong, and expect everyone else to pretend that everything is bunnies and rainbows as well... They do not expect anyone will call out their bad behavior. No matter how Nasty their behavior has been — and the narcissist can be very NASTY! 

They expect bygones to be bygones, until the next time they don't get their every demand met, and go on the attack again.. Narcissisit may come off as "better than everyone else". It is only a mask to hide their deep rooted insecurities and jealousy of others. Most narcissist are very materialistic. They think they are entitled to the best of everything. Keyword - entitled. They believe they are entitled. It's an over sense of entitlement. 

Sociopaths are Internet trolls

Sociopaths are Internet trolls. 

    This troll reminds me of my sociopath, with iPhone in hand!!

The Internet is the sociopaths favorite weapon of mass destruction against their targeted vicitm. Sociopaths troll the Internet because they enjoy making others feel bad. Even if they don't know the other person (persons) 

It is a way they can harass anonymously and terrorize others. All while hiding behind their computer screen. 

Sociopaths are sadist, and love to cause others distress. Normal personalities become upset or feel guilty if they have hurt someone. Not the sociopath. Once they realize that someone is upset, they take advantage of that, by provoking some more.

The narcissist lives in a meaningless wasteland

Narcissist people are deceptive liars. Being with a narcissist is painful, and at times you can feel like you are the crazy one! When you are not aware of what narcissism is. Having little knowledge of personality disorders, such as a sociopathic, psychopathic, and narcissistic, makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. The narcissist is so quick to lie, and will put all the blame on you, leaving you feeling guilty for even confronting them. This can be confusing for the person who feels they are being betrayed and lied to. Eventually the persons self esteem begins to erode away. They don't understand why they are ignored, and put down. They believe something is wrong with them. So they try even harder to please the narcissist. 

Only to be more rejected by the narcissist. 

So why would a person continue to stay in a relationship that is so emotionally abusive and damaging to their personal growth? 

I believe it stems from the person being rejected by a parent, or from many rejections in their past. Rejection hurts the rejected person so badly, they feel  as long as the narcissist hasn't left them yet, that feel that they can change the narcissist, and one day the narcissist will see how much they care for them, and the narcissist will change. 

Unfortunately this will never happen...  

Narcissistic personalities CANNOT and will not ever change. They have an ego so large, it doesn't allow them to see anything but the superficial, and what is most beneficial for them and their ego. 

Narcissist Do Not think there is anything wrong with them. If a narcissist seeks therapy, it is only because they have been forced, by someone who financially supports them or holds some other power over them. They will never genuinely try to get help, because they don't think they need help.  They believe that the problem is not them. They are perfect. The problem is everyone else.  Specifically they think the people who are asking them to seek professional help. The person most affected by the narcissist is his spouse or significant other. 

To the rest of the world the narcissist will portray himself as the nice guy, and can usually get along with anyone. The narcissist has no real sense of who he or she is.  

Narcissist are compulsive liars. These people have made such a habit out of lying, their entire existence is built solely on lies. They live a life of deceit. Narcassist (and sociopaths) live in an a false reality that they start to believe. They lie about anything and everything. They are making it up as they go. They will go to extremes to lie. Anything from lying about where they work, (in an attempt to make it seem like they are hard working, interesting people - which they are not) They are actually lazy individuals who are looking for a handout. 

A narcissist will lie about everything. They become such bold liars, they will make up things that can be easily proved wrong. For example, the narcissist says things that they believe will make then look good, like they wrote a book and got the book published, and it was on the NY times best seller, but all the money the book made, she/he donated to the neo-natal unit at the hospital. Why would someone lie about something like this? Since it can be proved that it isn't true? It's because they have lied so long, and no one has ever held them accountable, they see themselves as invisible to being caught. So they tell the most extreme lies.  Most psychiatrist call these people “delusional”. 

It is the person in a relationship with this disordered individual that suffers the most. Being with a pathological liar can ruin your life and the lives of those around you. 

So what is the reason narcissist lies?

It is complicated but quite simple to understand why the narcissist and the sociopath habitually lies to everyone. First and foremost they are in love with themselves.. 

Since they usually don't have much truth that verifies how wonderful they are. They must make up their own truth. Narcissist also never want to be wrong, so if they have to lie in order to prove they are right then they have no qualms about doing so. Narcissist also feel entitled to have whatever they want. If lying gets them what they want then they will not think twice about lying. Lying comes so natural to these types of personalities. It's second nature to them.  Narcissists must make every situation all about them.. 

The narcissist never thinks to himself, “how will this impact the people in my life?”  The narcissist will never worry about the consequences of lying. 

Narcissist are so shallow that they cannot see any further than their own nose. They only focus on the immediate gratification they want. Narcissists like sociopaths are always looking for the easy way out of a situation. 

The truth is the narcissist will never have a healthy relationship with anyone. It is impossible to have a long-term, healthy relationship built on mutual trust and honesty with a narcissist because they are all compulsive liars and they live such a shallow existence.  They are never able to accept that all their failed relationships is because of their own flawed personality. They believe they are perfect.

Narcissist are essentially only in a relationship with themselves. 

The narcissist is actually a coward. They lack the courage to look at the truth. Anyone who believes that they do not have to accept any responsibilty for anything in their life, is a coward. Narcassists are covert cowards. Narcissist will say what they think will get them back on good graces with a person, but as soon as you accept a narcissist back. It is not long before they are back to doing what led to you trying to end the relationship in the first place.  Liars are very hard to love. They will perpetually frustrate you. Instead of admitting their flaws, shortcomings, and their failures  {which is what makes us human} The narcissist will lie in order to cover it up. They’re so busy keeping up appearances that they destroy their closest relationships in the process. Narcissist rarely (I'm talking about RARELY - almost never) will change. It takes courage to admit wrong, and a narcissist is a coward. So they will always live a lifestyle of deceit and denial. 

Narcissist live meaningless lives.

If everything in your life was suddenly taken away from you. Like your fancy car, nice home, your high paying career...  What do you have besides your good name or your reputation? Narcassistic people have essentially burned all bridges and alienated everyone they have ever known.  They have lied and deceived so many people and caused so much emotional damage. 

They eventually self destruct and destroy their own reputations. They have ruined their own name in the community. 

Narcissist never form any real connections with anyone. The narcissists life becomes nothing more than a meaningless wasteland. As they age they  are easily forgotten and dismissed. No one with any real discernment will trust them. The narcissist will end up isolated and ostracized in their lifestyle of lies and deceit. 

Even then, they are unable to see why their life has ended up so miserable... They blame their pathetic life on their last lover, or on their parents, or on the “asshole” boss who fired them and couldn't see their potential. It's always someone else's fault. 

If you suspect you are in a relationship with someone who is a narcassist, get out now. It will save you a lot of heart ache and disappointment to leave sooner than later. They will never change. You cannot change them. No one can.

THE ONLY WAY TO HEAL - No Contact Ever Again

Once you have realized that the destructive person in your life is a sociopath/psychopath - Get Away From That Person ASAP!

The sociopath is so good at making you believe that they are a "good" person with "good" intentions. Notice that it is their words that have convinced you. But look at their Actions. Do their words match up with their actions?

If the sociopath in your life is your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or the mother or father of your child. Or even someone within your own family — you must walk away from this person and never look back. If you share children with this person, walking away and never looking back will not be as easy. You will need a plan. You will have to plan your escape before you leave. It's so important that you are documenting every word the sociopath says to you. Document it and have proof of it. You need to save all voicemails, text messages they send you that are threatening or abusive. 

In order to prove that you are in danger and scared for your life, and for the well being of your children – you must be able to show proof. 

**Sociopaths are very skilled in court, they know how to work the system, and they want to make the victim look like the unstable, neurotic, and crazy person. They usually tell so many lies, the victim ends up breaking down in court (this is exactly what the sociopath wanted the victim to do). The victim breaks down, because they are human.

While the sociopath remains calm, and looks on as if they are concerned for the person who they have systematically destroyed. The sociopath has vilified the victim. 

This is why it is so important NOT to tell your plans of leaving to anyone. If you have realized that the person you live with is a sociopath DO NOT tell them that you think they are a sociopath or psychopath! This could put your life in danger. 

Do not be concerned about hurting their feelings — a sociopath/psychopath cannot  be really “hurt” — they do not have the emotions to feel emotional pain or hurt, they are only able to feel RAGE AND ANGER and the need to destroy others..

You must accept that you mean nothing to the sociopath – and that you never meant anything to the sociopath. They see you as an object, not a human being with feelings, to them you are nothing. 

If the sociopath leaves you, BE THANKFUL! Pray to your Higher Power that they never try to contact you again. Unfortunately the sociopath  will always try to establish contact with you. They had control over you once and believe they can have control over you again. They don't try to come back because they missed you. They come back to dominate you and control you again.  

But you must BE STRONG and have no contact with them. You will need to change your phone number, and only give it to only a few people who you trust and are aware of the situation. 

A lot of times victims of sociopaths and psychopaths, want closure. Accept the fact that YOU WILL NEVER get CLOSURE WITH A SOCIOPATH.. If you find yourself thinking about “the good old days” you may have had with the sociopath. Remember that the sociopath was not the person you thought they were. The person you knew wasn't real. The words they told you were not real. Every word out of the sociopaths mouth is a lie. The "relationship" might have felt real, but it wasn't.  The sociopath only used you and manipulated you for their own sick reasons. It does hurts to think that this person you believed loved you, never really loved you.

The Only Way To Truly Heal From the Emotional Trauma that the sociopath has caused you, is to establish NO CONTACT!

This can be a very difficult thing to do, especially if you "want closure" but you must stop thinking that you will get closure. You will never get closure, the sociopath will not give you that, simply because they know you want it! 

Eventually though you will heal. The feelings you have of missing the sociopath will pass. The longer you have no contact with the sociopath, the sooner you will be able to heal, and find yourself again. You will become stronger everyday, because the sociopath is no longer in your life, influencing you in a negative way. Once you have made peace with YOURSELF, and LOVE yourself again — the tables will turn and the sociopath will no longer have any control on you. The hunted becomes becomes the hunter.. 

The amazing thing about Establishing No Contact, is that victim is able to feel liberation from the sociopath. The victim is able to re-build their self esteem. The victim becomes stronger and more confident everyday they do not talk to the sociopath. The victim will no longer feel like a “victim” but they begin to feel like a “survivor.”

Refusing to speak with, respond to text or emails, meet up with or listen to  anything the sociopath has to say can be extremely effective.

***NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN*** 

The best thing about having NO Contact is that you do not have to do anything to achieve results — and these results can change your life for the better. You are free from the pain, manipulation and the emotional abuse the sociopath caused you. You are free to Heal, Love, and Live... 

You also are free to Love again. Remember that you did not choose the sociopath. They chose you because of you kindness, caring and loving personality. Sociopaths can't appreciate any of that, all they saw was weakness. But you are not weak. You are an amazing person with so much to offer the world. Do not let the betrayal from the sociopath stop you from being who you were meant to be. There ARE good, kind and caring people out there. Don't lose faith in humanity because of one evil person you have encountered. See this all as a learning experience that has made you stronger.. 

They put others down - to make them look better

Sociopaths think that in order to make themselves look better, they must make others look bad. Sociopaths boost their egos by putting others down. The confident and arrogant act the sociopath, is just that — An Act.. They are actually self-centered individuals. The feel greed, rage, and jealousy.                             

They want what they don't have. They are not grateful for the things that they do have. They are always jealous of family members, such as a sister or brother, their own mother, any step or half siblings. Sociopath can even become jealous of their own children – if the child shines brighter than the sociopath. 

Sociopath usually befriend people that they think they can dominate - i.e. – caring, empathic people, nice guys. Basically anyone who has a good conscience and is not confrontational.  

The Nice Guy - Nice guys are easy targets for the female sociopath. They are  easy prey for the sociopath. The relationship will start out with the sociopath being nice. Always telling you how sweet and nice you are. As the relationship goes on, she will randomly be nasty and mean. Pretty soon the nastiness and mean performances become more frequent. Before you know it you are trapped in a negative, unloving, and exploitive life. While the sociopath disappears for days at a time. Leaving you to care for any children and household responsibilities. If the sociopath works – don't expect her to put any of her money in the bankin account and contribute to the house bills. She becomes ruthless and cold toward you. But she has ripped your self worth into shreds, so much so – you don't have the strength to confront her anymore. 

Female sociopaths are just as predatory as the male sociopath. They are just more covert about how they destroy you.

All sociopaths have a lifelong history of lying, manipulating, using, ending relationships abruptly - without any warning, distorts facts, shows no remorse, use children to manipulate, vilifying victims, does not get along with family members, always is in conflict with someone and always the victim. 

Sociopathic individuals do horrible things, destroy lives and families. They feel no remorse for anything they do. They leave a trail of shit behind them, expecting someone else to clean it up. They cheat, they lie, they abuse and they use the innocence of children to exploit others. 

They are the worst people in the world. They are capable of killing, although most never do. They kill your spirit and slaughter you emotionally but they won't physically kill you- usually. There of course is always exceptions 

Narcissism Running Rampant

It is often very difficult to help a narcissistic person, because their narcissism prevents them from accepting help. 

Narcissistic people are difficult to live with. It is their significant others who are witness and victims to their inner rage and abuse. 

Narcissit do not know who the hell they are. And they do not care. They are self absorbed, selfish, inconsiderate, vain, and impulsive individuals, that violate others and have no sympathy for the pain they have caused. 

There is no cure for narcissism. The narcissist sees nothing wrong with themselves. A million people could tell them they are not "normal" or that they are "abusive". They disregard others and believe it is other people who are not normal. It is not them! They are perfect

A relationship with a narcissist is impossible. And years are wasted hoping that the narcissist will change. Or see the light and realize their abuse and get help. Unfortunately they never change. And they leave behind broken families and emotionally distraught and conflicted victims. 

A narcissist is mean spirited. They are malicious. They are never faithful to their significant other. They will cheat just because they opportunity presents itself. 

These individuals are so toxic and vile. It will take a victim years of therapy to deal with all the issues the narcissist left them to deal with 

Sociopaths and narcissist

When you're not accustomed to dealing with distorted personalities like the narcissist and the sociopath, you will be totally caught off guard - especially when you are a genuinely good person. It's hard to realize that their are people among us with NO conscience and No Guilt or remorse.. 

Narcissist and sociopaths create fear in good people. You see these people committ other atrocities (and get away with it). Why wouldn't the atrocities they are doing to you be any different. 

Your fear of the narcissist and sociopath is valid. It is not just a misplaced feeling. Your fear is a warning and it is entirely justified. 

The best thing you can do for you and your loved ones is to get away from the distorted person -NO MATTER WHAT. If that means moving - DO IT. 

Sociopaths and Narcissist are extremely dangerous. 

Aggression and insecurity

The aggression of a sociopath is actually an overcompensation for lack of real love, the ability to feel genuinely happy and joyful. They lack understanding and knowledge. They are mimickers and frauds. They harass their ex's til they die. They don't get the hint that nothing they can say will ever make their ex listen to or respect them. They have burned that bridge. They usually move on to the next target unless children are shared. They use their sharp tongue to slice you in half. So in other words - they cut you down to make themselves bigger. Typical tactic of an insecure, hateful, and vengeful bully 

The narcissist

Narcissist are extremely abusive. Emotionally, mentally and even physically. 

It's hard to leave a narcissist – because after years of mental abuse. You become brainwashed by the narcissist. You feel you need the narcissist, you recognize the relationship is not healthy. But you believe that one day they will change. You hope that they will realize how much you love them and that they will change for you. 

Unfortunately the narcissist will never change. The narcissist does not want to change. The narcissist does not believe they are to blame for anything. It's always YOUR fault as far as the Narcissist is concerned.  

If you ever have tried to leave the narcissist. You know that they will pursue you. They all the suddenly become the person you want them to be, for a short period of time. They treat you with love and care. They tell you they are sorry for what they have done. You believe them, because you want to believe that they are capable of being a good person, a good boyfriend, a good husband. But unfortunately their kindness is short-lived...

As soon as they know they have you back, the old behaviors begin to rear their ugly head. You catch them in lies, they deny anything you ask them. You suspect them of cheating again, they adamantly deny it. They have done it before, so you know they can do it again.  And the narcissist will. 

You may think you need to narcissist, but in fact it is the narcissist that needs you. They need you to feed them their narcissistic supply. If you are not giving them the narcissistic supply that they need, they have no problem finding someone who will. 

Narcissist love to cheat on their partners with strippers, prostitutes, anyone who will make you question your own self. Many women ask themselves "why would he cheat on me with someone like that". Many women feel they are to blame for their partners infidelities. Maybe they feel they were not meeting their partners needs. This kind of thinking is exactly what the narcissist wants you to think. When you have been a good girlfriend, wife, or partner to the narcissist. The narcissist knows that he must keep you feeling inferior to him in order for you to do what he says. 

Some people leave their narcissistic partners, others do not. 

It can take years and years to recover from the mental abuse the narcissist inflicts. Your self-esteem is shattered, your confidence is gone, and you feel very alone. You  feel depressed and defeated because you  have wasted a majority of your life, that you will never get back on the narcissist. While you are in a pit of despair, the narcissist is doing what he does best. He is out with his fake friends, hooking up with women, and acting as if the breakup between the two of you has no effect on him. Honestly the breakup does not have an effect on him, because he lacks the ability to feel empathy for anyone but himself. He actually blames you for the demise of the relationship. 

Once the narcissist realizes that he cannot get you back, he stops pretending to care and the real monster comes out. You see who he really is, and you have seen this before. He is cold, mean, and has no sympathy, and no remorse. This person is the real person. Any kindness he had ever shown was just an act, it wasn't real. 

You must know you did not waste your life. You were manipulated by one of the best. Even if you only live one more day. It is a day well lived once the narcissist is out of your life. But once you realize that, you will live many well lived days.