The OBSESSED Narcissist

The narcissist has a difficult time knowing what is real, and what is a delusional that they made up in their crazy minds..

As a DSM-IV trait, the narcissisit's need to fend off inner emptiness, feel special and in control, and avoid feeling defective. The narcissist can become so delusional that they are bordering on a fine line between their own delusions and what is actually real.  

As unhealthy this is for the narcissist, it is even more unhealthy for people in he narcissist life. And it usually will turn into to gaslighting for the narcissistic individuals family members. It causes them confusion, frustration, and delusional thinking...

A person trying to end a relationship or cut ties with a narcissist has a difficult doing so, because the narcissist becomes the person you always wanted them to be. Nice..but it is all an act... To get you to take them back so they can control and treat you like crap again. 

The narcissistic person becomes obsessed with their partner when the partner is not responding, and trying to have no contact. They are obsessed with getting the  CONTROL, they once had back. They can't stand the fact that someone has actually rejected them. Especially their partner, who they have viewed as weak and pathetic. They will not like the fact that you have made a good and healthy decision for yourself - which was to no longer be a part of their dysfunction! 

When the relationship is over, the narcissist can actually do become dangerously obsessed with their ex-partner.  

After failed attempts to get their ex back, the disordered narcissist will resort to stalking, destroying property, verbal attacks, ridiculous demands, and obsessive calling, emailing and obsessively text messaging. 

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder confuse the intensity they feel with intimacy. They do not know how to have healthy, loving, and intimate relationships. 

Being in a narcissistic relationship is painful. Narcissist cheat, lie and treat their partners as if they mean nothing to them.  The relationship is built around infidelity, the narcissist huge EGO and control. 

(The narcissist can also be jealous and fear losing control but it has more to do with maintaining their narcissistic supply source)

The fact is, that there are some people who are just unable to mentally “let go” of their partner after a break up — especially if there were children as a result from the relationship.

It is difficult to end a relationship with narcissist. The narcissist will keep calling, keep visiting, keep arguing and trying to reconcile. All while still having sex with other people. THE NARCISSIST NEVER CHANGES, THEY WILL ONLY PRETEND TO BE WHAT YOU WANT UNTIL THEY GET THAT CONTROL BACK.

The non-disordered person may take the narcissist back a few times before they realize that nothing will ever become better. 

Once you end the relationship for GOOD with the narcissist, you may be followed, stalked, threatened, put downed, and called nasty names by your ex. 

When left unaddressed, in extreme cases the disordered Narcissist becomes obsessed  and it may progress to the point that they will use the children to get their ex to respond, and if those tactics don't work they may threaten to hurt the children. 

Narcissist manipulate their ex by using the children. But when that DOES NOT work. The narcissist becomes desperate and angry - they are willing to do whatever they must to make contact with their ex.  

The narcissist knows their ex loves the children, then the disordered person will attempt to hurt their ex by hurting the children. 

In extreme cases they will actually cause harm to their children. Even kidnapping the child (children) from school or by refusing to return the child after their visitation is up. 

Narcissist and Sociopaths have very many similiar traits. The sociopath is usually more ruthless in their tactics to gain control or get what they want.

The psychopath targets empathic people

 

We all know by now that not all psychopaths are serial killers... 

But what a lot of us do not know is just how many psychopaths are actually women. We all believe psychopaths are men. Not women.. Women are mothers and lovers, and they create peace. That is very far from the truth. 

I have a good girl friend who remember her middle school, high school, and college years being a night mare – because of other women. She is a beautiful girl, and she always was able to get any guy she wanted. She became hesitant to date her senior year, because of the hate she got from other girls. The way these girls (practically adults 17, 18 years old) would treat her was horrible. She was picked on and bullied. She had rumors spread about her that were lies. All because she was pretty? And the guys liked her? Yep!

It's plain old jealousy. Psychpaths take their jealousy to a different level. They destroy those they envy. And women are the worst at this. I don't remember many dudes spreading rumors and gossiping in school ever. The girls though... They were awful to one another. My good friend was estatic the day she graduated. We kept in touch after high school. Things had become better, but she seemed to attract girlfriends who would eventually stab her in the back. I never understood it. She was so kind and one of the most empathic people I knew. Psychopaths target empathic individuals because they love to attack the kind. Psychopaths see kindness as weakness. This is true of male and female psychopaths...

Most female psychopaths even fool experts that had studied them their entire lives.  They are prevalent in society… selfish, greedy, evil, and uncaring. 

Martha Stout’s rule of thumb… they constantly lobby for your pity while at the same time consistently hurting you and others.  In other words… they play the pity-play, the victim, the one whose life is a mess all because of someone else. 

Research on psychopathy shows a similar pattern.  Those women that are psychopaths are often not quite as psychopathic as their male counterparts. Meaning that women are not as violent as the male psychopath. That doesn't mean that they are not as ruthless though. Research has found that the female psychopath is more likely to engage in promiscuous behaviors. They tend to have higher unemployment rates, relationship instability, and dependency on social assistance programs… where males have more unlawful behavior and violent crimes. ..

These differences are small but significant.  They affect where one ends up.  Female psychopaths end up on welfare. Male psychopaths end up in prison. 

Our society does not want to admit that our mothers, and daughters can lack any morals and ethics, that they are capable of feeling no love toward their infant child, or their husband. It is an ugly situation. But it is so true. Thomas Sheridan seems to know better than anyone that the female psychopath is real and out their wreaking havoc on the lives of their children, family and spouse. 

The female psychopath will see you as a threat — if you are smart and attractive. If she thinks you are able to expose her, because you are one of the few people who see right through her bullshit. So she immediately will attempt to destroy you.  She starts with her lies and rumors she will make up about you and tell anyone who will listens. These lies won't be just any lies. These lies are meant to socially destroy you and kill your self esteem. Empathic and highly sensitive people are very affected by the lies. They become withdrawn from the world. Empathic people do not know how to fight a psychopath. They are naturally good people. They love life, animals, people, and helping others. So when attacked they are left emotionally paralyzed. The psychopath realizes this and keeps going at the person until they kill them emotionally. They are hateful, and they know what they are doing when they do this. 

Scary... That one person can cause so much harm to so many people and still fly under the radar, undetected for the heartless bitch they are... 

Why the Sociopath makes Life Hell...

No matter how you try to have NO COMMUNICATION with the sociopath, narcissist, psychopath. They will always still try to talk to you. They will stalk you online, send you text message (the first will be nice, as they are trying to get you to respond. After they realize your not going to respond to them — the text messages turn Hostile)

A sociopath will never stop trying to destroy you. Especially if you share children with them, or if you married their ex spouse, whom they share children with. Usually they are busy making their ex-spouses life hell. As soon as the ex-spouse of the sociopath remarries or gets in a serious relationship. The sociopath turns their focus and rage onto the ex-spouses new love.

Why does the sociopath do this? 

When the sociopath has ties to their Ex-spouse (such as children) the sociopath actually feels entitled to control their ex spouse forever by using the children against them. (This is more common in female sociopaths than the male) The female sociopath will see the new woman in her ex husband's life and children's life as a threat to her. She knows that her control of him may become harder, with his new wife's influence now on him. So she starts "damage control" as soon as she hears he is dating someone. She wants to destroy the relationship by either making life hell and hoping the new love in her ex spouses life will leave. Or by destroy her ex-husbands new love'a reputation. 

She will also make getting the children difficult, make everything 100 times as hard. She does this to make her ex husband see that everything was easier before he was in a new relationship. She will even say "we use to get along before you got married". The ex husband knows better. He remembers how she made his life miserable before he remarried. And they only got along when he gave her more money, and did what she told him to do. He basically paid her for peace. (The sociopath may seem delusional but she knows exactly what she is doing - she knows that she made life hell, before the new woman, and she is still making life hell now). 

The other reason the sociopath targets the ex- spouses new partner is JEALOUSY.  (This is also more common in female sociopaths than males)

The sociopath is jealous of her ex's new wife. Maybe she is younger, more ambitious, honest, the children like her, everyone seems to like her, and she makes the sociopaths ex happy. 

The sociopath does not want her ex to be happy. She has worked so hard for him to be miserable. Even when she was the cheater, liar, and the one who caused the demise of the marriage - and now she is even remarried to the man she was cheating with! It doesn't matter to the sociopath. She has no compassion for ANYONE. She has no conscience. She Never thinks about the pain she has inflicted on her children or her ex. She only thinks about the pain she wants to inflict. 

It takes a truly strong, confident, and secure person to deal with being the target of your husbands sociopathic ex wife. The sociopath will accuse you of being jealous of her, stalking her, being insecure, mentally unstable — basically everything she is. She is just projecting it onto you (the new wife of her ex)  because she knows how manipulative she is and sees the new wife as an easy target. Most genuinely good people have a hard time dealing with such abuse and exploitation. But all good people are not weak. They are strong. As long as you realize you are not dealing with a normal person, but a cold and cruel sociopath, and you have knowledge on these types of people. You will be better equip to handle it.