Sociopath's refuse to EVER leave their Victims Alone

Sociopaths, narcissist, and psychopaths are dangerous  parasites. If you ever want to be rid of these parasites – you must understand how they function. It is important that you see them for the evil they  are. Understand that they are soulless and heartless beings who has no conscience, no empathy, and they are capable of destroying you and your children. Most importantly KNOW THAT THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE. YOU CANNOT HELP THEM, they DO NOT WANT HELP, THEY DO NOT THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THEM. They see anyone who cares for them as a weak idiot who they can manipulate and take advantage of. They are ruthless and will destroy anyone they can to get their way or sometimes just for their own enjoyment.

The sociopath will intentionally cause you problem after problem. They want you to feel mental confusion, question your self, and in general destroy your confidence and self worth. 

They refuse to leave you alone so you can move forward and live what's left of your life, that they sociopath hasn't stolen. 

You have to be able to put your emotions aside, and “stop trying” to understand them. You will never understand them, as long as you have a conscience and you care for others. For an empath it's impossible to assimilate and comprehend how another human being can be so evil and cruel to a fellow human. 

You must Always remember you are not dealing with a normal healthy human being. You are dealing with someone who has a defective soul. These people are spectacular actors, they put on an a show to others and pretend as if they are capable of empathy, love and concern. They are liars, cheaters, and cons. They do not know how to be honest and even make an honest living. They will always be involved in something that is scamming another person, causing harm (emotional or physical) to someone. 

Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist lack EMPATHY. 

They have No empathy for any kind of life. They are empty inside, and they will never experience life on a deeper level. The sociopath is so shallow and superficial, they really believe that their materials define them. They want to dress with name brand clothing, because that is the only way they can feel good about themselves. 

Normal people feel fulfilled by their children, their family, and their interaction with other people. Not the sociopath. The sociopath must knock others down to feel successful. Destroying someone else makes them feel “on top”. Especially if they feel threatened by someone. They seek to destroy the person, and usually the person has no idea what the sociopath is doing until the damage has been done. 

The best option when dealing with a sociopathic, narcissistic ex is to BLOCK THEM FROM YOUR LIFE! Never respond to them or give them a reason to talk to you. They will bait you and they are relentless predators. 

STAY STRONG

Psychopaths are everywhere in life.

The term was first used two hundred years ago when doctors noticed some of their patients had no ethical sense, and couldn’t grasp that other people had rights. 

Psychologist and psychiatrists preferred the term sociopaths for a while, but have now returned to using the original term psychopath. In general terms psychopaths are cold-hearted, insincere, over-confident, irresponsible, selfish, and have little to no empathy for anyone. 

That lack of empathy, lack of caring, and lack of a functioning conscience, allows the psychopath to do awful things to others, only to advance their own cause.

The Psychopathy Checklist — devised by psychologist Robert Hare, is the tool most widely used to diagnose the psychopath. It shows that about one percent of the world’s population are what we might call “full-blown psychopaths” — by the way that’s around seventy million people....

Unless a psychopath  is dead, they might never leave you alone. Especially if you share any children with a psychopath. They feel that they have the right to bother, stalk, harass, and make your life a living hell — and they will use the children to do so. A female psychopath will turn your children against you if she has primary custody. A male psychopath will do the same, even if he is not the primary caregiver. Every chance he will get he will tell the children what a whore you are and all kinds of nasty lies.

Psychopaths do not care about how they destroy their children's sense of security and take away their right to have a normal home life. They only care about hurting you. 

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Healing from the pain

Healing from there pain a sociopath has caused is difficult. It is not impossible though. The reason healing can be so hard, is because the sociopath gives us no closure, and they are more than likely still tormenting us with harassment and smear campaigns.

  

The emotional abuse from a psychopath/sociopath and narcissist is debilitating, devastating and takes a toll on your heart and soul. The sociopath is so vindictive and hateful. They inflict so much damage because it is hard wired in their brains to be evil, to lie, to manipulate and to destroy others. Psychopaths have significant molecular differences in ther brain. They are without a conscious, and have no feelings of remorse, guilt, empathy or genuine love. They are abusively exploitative and incapable of true love or intimacy. They are self centered, impulsive, reckless, aggressive and irritable. They never will take any responsibility for the actions, and believe they are immune to consequences. Don't think back about the "good time" that you had with the sociopath. It was all a lie. The sociopath gets a rush from destroying human hearts and lives. The worst of it all is that they pretend to care. They are able to show as if they have empathy. When they have none..

So how do we heal from this?

The first thing we can do is forgive ourself. Be kind to ourself and love ourself. We were betrayed and it was not our fault. In order to heal we have to HAVE NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN WITH THE PSYCHOPATH. Revenge is not possible. It may sound good to picture in your mind the sociopath suffering the way you have suffered. Trying to get revenge will only make healing more difficult. Because when we are focused on revenge. We are no longer focused on ourselves. We cannot move on when we are still thinking about the sociopath. Remember the sociopath/psychopath has no conscious and feelings. You will not be able to hurt them emotionally. It will only trigger them to cause more problems in your life. 

What you really want is for the psychopath/sociopath to leave you alone. Yes they caused you pain, financial problems, and wasted so much of your life. That is the past and it can't be changed. What can be changed is you. You can't allow the sociopath to continue to hurt you. The only way that can happen, is if you walk away and never look back. No contact is so important because it puts the sociopath in the position of no longer having any control of your life. They know how their words can be powerful and convincing. So cutting off any and all contact will be beneficial to you. 

You owe the sociopath Nothing... If you have to change your phone number then do it. Avoid the sociopath at all cost. 

You are human. The sociopath/psychopath is not. They may look like a human being but they do not manifest any human being traits. Such as love and empathy. Care and concern for the well being of others.

 

In order to truly heal and move forward with your life, detachment is necessary. Detach ourself from the disordered person. You may feel so devastated that you will want to isolate and be alone. That is ok... As long as it is not for a long period of time. The sooner you get back out there. The sooner  you will start the healing process. 

We will do a lot of questioning, and try to figure out what we did to deserve this. The fact is we did nothing to deserve it. The sociopath has done this before and will do it again. There is nothing you did to cause them to treat you this way. 

Repair what is broken - force yourself to take back control of your life. Realize that no one can take away your soul. It is yours and yours alone. Start making goals. Find what inspires you. What do you love? What can you do to be a better person and live a fulfilling life? You have survived a sociopath. That is not easy to do. You know you have strength and wisdom to do whatever you set your mind to do. Healing from the abuse and betrayal you have experienced, is a chance to really learn about yourself, and to grow emotionally. You will go through many stages while healing. You will learn more about yourself than you ever have before. 

When you feel like giving up and like things couldn't be worse. It's always to remember — this to shall pass...

In moments if despair, know you are not alone. You are supported. There are others who have gone through the exact same thing you have. See how they made it through this horrific experience. Talk with people who can understand what you are going through,  because they too have been there and can understand. People who have not been through this will have a difficult time understanding how one person can be responsible for all your troubles. Their intentions may be good, but their advice usually doesn't help you heal.  

Healing comes from within you and time. Time heals all. Once the sociopath is out of your life, you will find your true self. You have to look for it though. Sometimes it is something we cannot do alone. When you are feeling hopeless and depressed and just can't seem to get out of being "stuck". It's ok to seek professional help, especially from someone who is educated about how a sociopath destroys lives. Just because you needed to seek counseling or therapy doesn't make you weak. The fact that you have realized that you are stuck and unable to move forward, and you are stepping out of your comfort zone and seeking help shows you have determination and strength. You are dedicated to living a happy life no matter what. 

Why the Sociopath makes Life Hell...

No matter how you try to have NO COMMUNICATION with the sociopath, narcissist, psychopath. They will always still try to talk to you. They will stalk you online, send you text message (the first will be nice, as they are trying to get you to respond. After they realize your not going to respond to them — the text messages turn Hostile)

A sociopath will never stop trying to destroy you. Especially if you share children with them, or if you married their ex spouse, whom they share children with. Usually they are busy making their ex-spouses life hell. As soon as the ex-spouse of the sociopath remarries or gets in a serious relationship. The sociopath turns their focus and rage onto the ex-spouses new love.

Why does the sociopath do this? 

When the sociopath has ties to their Ex-spouse (such as children) the sociopath actually feels entitled to control their ex spouse forever by using the children against them. (This is more common in female sociopaths than the male) The female sociopath will see the new woman in her ex husband's life and children's life as a threat to her. She knows that her control of him may become harder, with his new wife's influence now on him. So she starts "damage control" as soon as she hears he is dating someone. She wants to destroy the relationship by either making life hell and hoping the new love in her ex spouses life will leave. Or by destroy her ex-husbands new love'a reputation. 

She will also make getting the children difficult, make everything 100 times as hard. She does this to make her ex husband see that everything was easier before he was in a new relationship. She will even say "we use to get along before you got married". The ex husband knows better. He remembers how she made his life miserable before he remarried. And they only got along when he gave her more money, and did what she told him to do. He basically paid her for peace. (The sociopath may seem delusional but she knows exactly what she is doing - she knows that she made life hell, before the new woman, and she is still making life hell now). 

The other reason the sociopath targets the ex- spouses new partner is JEALOUSY.  (This is also more common in female sociopaths than males)

The sociopath is jealous of her ex's new wife. Maybe she is younger, more ambitious, honest, the children like her, everyone seems to like her, and she makes the sociopaths ex happy. 

The sociopath does not want her ex to be happy. She has worked so hard for him to be miserable. Even when she was the cheater, liar, and the one who caused the demise of the marriage - and now she is even remarried to the man she was cheating with! It doesn't matter to the sociopath. She has no compassion for ANYONE. She has no conscience. She Never thinks about the pain she has inflicted on her children or her ex. She only thinks about the pain she wants to inflict. 

It takes a truly strong, confident, and secure person to deal with being the target of your husbands sociopathic ex wife. The sociopath will accuse you of being jealous of her, stalking her, being insecure, mentally unstable — basically everything she is. She is just projecting it onto you (the new wife of her ex)  because she knows how manipulative she is and sees the new wife as an easy target. Most genuinely good people have a hard time dealing with such abuse and exploitation. But all good people are not weak. They are strong. As long as you realize you are not dealing with a normal person, but a cold and cruel sociopath, and you have knowledge on these types of people. You will be better equip to handle it. 

Masters of Deception and Lies

Sociopaths are master manipulators... They are hard wired in their evil brains to manipulate and lie. If you suspect that you are dealing with a sociopath or any other cluster B personality disordered individual, always assume that they are lying until proven otherwise. 

Some people have a hard time imagining that a person would lie about having cancer... Or lying about their daughter having cancer. But NEVER put anything past a sociopath. I have seen sociopaths lie about having uterine cancer, in order to gain sympathy from people whom she owed a large amount of money too. I have seen a sociopath tell the father of her children that their daughter (who was 12) found a lump in her breast and it was cancer and she was going to have to have surgery to have it removed. She even told her ex husband what time to be at the hospital and what hospital room it was and the dr performing surgery. Luckily my friend knew the doctor, and got in contact with his daughter, and he found out it was all a lie. He knew she was a pathological liar but he had know idea she would stoop so low as in to say his daughter had breast cancer. That was his “Ahh Haa” moment when it came to his sociopathic ex wife. He realized then that she was truly disordered and that he could not believe a word she said. So what was the point in communicating with her regarding the children? He knew that she would tell devastating lies for no reason. Now his daughter is 16 and his son is 13. And they both have cell phones. And he only communicates through his children. And very very rarely will have any communication with his sociopathic ex wife. Even though he has been consistent in having “No Contact” with her for over 3 years. She refuses to let go and leave him alone. He still is receiving text messages 4-6 times a week that are so long his phone can only receive half of the message. 

Before he implemented the No Contact Rule he was receiving 5-10 text messages from her per day, and at least 2 phone calls. 

Sociopaths are persistent but not in a positively driven way. Everything a sociopath does is because they are trying to control a person, control a situation, or seek revenge on those they cannot control. 

Unfortunately sociopaths, psychopaths, and narcissists, will never change. They will make the lives of anyone who is unfortunate enough to be related to them, or in a relationship with them -completely miserable. Sociopaths choose a partner who is empathic and kind (an easy target to manipulate). They lie to their families and their partner, and cheat with multiple partners, and when confronted they deny and blame. Making the person feel as is they are going crazy. The sociopath projects all their mental issues, and shames onto their partner, or their target, or a family member – especially when confronted with something that they have done or are doing wrong. Eventually people who know the sociopath STOP confronting him/her, because of the brutal backlash that it will cause. So most people who are not family, and that do not have children with the sociopath will eventually cut contact with the sociopath, because it is so hard to be friends with him/her. 

Sociopaths are takers. They take, take and take some more. They NEVER give anything back. 

They are parasites, and people are their host. They attach themselves to someone who has something to offer them, and suck the energy, life, and joy right out of that person. They drain people emotionally, physically, and financially. Once they have taken everything from that person, and the person has nothing left to give them, they discard them like yesterday's newspaper. 

So when you know that the person you are dealing with is a sociopath. Always check other sources when they tell you anything. Never repeat to anyone something they tell you about another person that is negative. Because more than likely they are attempting to start a smear campaign about that person.  All sociopaths, and psychopaths Do Not have a Conscience. They Do Not feel any remorse for destroying lives, stealing, lying, and cheating. No one can help the sociopath or reform them. Psychiatrists cannot help a sociopath. The sociopath will only lie to any trained mental health care professional. Therapy only enables the sociopath to learn more about human emotion, so they can manipulate even better. 

The best and only option for dealing with a sociopath or psychopath is cutting all ties, and communication. You have to take care of yourself. You will feel broken, and drained after knowing a sociopath. But it is possible to save what little you may have left if you can get away from one .