How the Female Narcissist Operates

The female narcissist is jealous of you.  She is jealous of who you are and what you have. She is jealous of other females. She does not have many female friends because it's difficult for her to maintain female friendships because her jealously comes out and most women do not want to keep that kind of friend in their circle. If you invited her into your circle, when you did not know what kind of female you were dealing with, she may have already started triangulation within your circle. Telling one person this, and another person else. Then turning those people against each other so that they do not speak. If they were to speak with one another - her lies would be exposed.  So always communicate in a group setting with any problems that are arising. 

You think your problems with the high school petty drama, were over in high school, right? Wrong, if a female narcissist has entered your life. 

A female narcissist will bring all that drama in, she always has and always will. She is not capable of having normal relationships with other females. Just like she can't be in a normal and healthy relationship with men.  

If you have caught on to her behavior, and she is unable to continue to manipulate and control the situation or you. She will attempt to control you another way. That is usually by controlling how others view you.  She will control you behind the scenes. By turning your fiends and others against you with lies. She will spread lies about you to your work. She will attempt to destroy you in the most covert way. After all she cannot allow you to possibly expose her for the evil manipulative human she is. She was prepared for this to happen long before you were. So the lies she began telling about you began long you became suspicious of her.  She was prepared to get revenge on you before things began to fall apart. 

She does so many manipulative, calculated, and underhanded things, the victims find themselves on the defense. Under normal circumstances, you wouldn’t feel insecure or like people were turning against you. But because your ex has etched it into your brain that you are at fault. You have begun to question everything about yourself. 

Don't question yourself. Go with your first instinct, trust your intuition. If you think this disordered soulless person is doing these awful things to you (even you have no proof) - they probably are!

Either way, the desired result is that you feel anxious, suspicious, and insecure about every little thing. You may even begin to feel guilty about your jealous thoughts and doubtful of your ability to act “normal”.  When and if you do confront the Narcissist/sociopath about your suspicions, she'll call you delusional or needy or bi-polar. 

The narcissist accuses you of everything that she really is herself. She also will do to you everything she accuses you of. 

So be alert and listen when she accuses you of something - because that accusation is about to happen to you! 

She will never admit to anything at all. She is able to look at you in the eyes with no emotion and claim she doesn’t have the slightest clue what you’re talking about…

The Reign of Terror Never Really Ends

Sociopaths really do not understand honesty, they believe it is something that only the weak and vulnerable does. Their mind is so warped and twisted, they truly cannot comprehend truth, love and compassion.


Being exposed for the shallow, manipulative, soulless liar is something that terrifies the sociopath/narcissist. 

The sociopath/narcissist has a few primary goals, that do not change much through out ones entire existence. That goal is to control others by any means possible.
Having control ensures the sociopath can live an easy, carefree life, never having any real responsibility. 

The sociopath wants the outer world to perceive him/her as a do-gooder. 
Someone who is empathic, and hard working.  Something all of us who have ever had to deal with this type for dysfunctional person know all to well.

All of us that have dealt with a character flawed individual (sociopath/narcissist) already know that they believe they are too "special" and "precious" to actually work hard for something. This is the reason they seek out people whom they believe to be “weak”. They target these types of people because they are compassionate, generous and loving. 
The sociopath knows that they will be able to fully take advantage of their kindness. 
They don't see people as potential friends or future lovers. They see them as an object they can use to do all the work that they believe they themselves are to good to do. 

The sociopath/narcissist will take the credit, and recognition for the hard work and responsibility that is done by someone else. 


People who are unaware that they are in a relationship with a sociopath do not realize it until their life has been turned upside down by one. 

There is never enough anyone can give the sociopath to satisfy them. 
Many have tried to give and give to the sociopath, only to exhaust themselves, and realize they are attempting to fill a black hole of nothingness. 
The sociopath is so shallow, there is nothing  in this world that will ever fill the emptiness that they are. 

YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PLEASE A SOCIOPATH! 
Everything is very temporary for them. They leave their victims feeling alone, defeated, and broken. 

The sociopath is envious of others. Not because of anything other than they want to be the center of attention at all times. 

I have personal experience with a female sociopath who has aged awfully.
I'm sure this person has always been hateful by nature. As she has aged, not so gracefully she has becomes even more hateful, bitter and resentful. 

I always wondered if the sociopath ever changes with age.. For most of us when we age we do not have the energy we did when we were younger. But I have experienced with a certain sociopath who I have to still somewhat deal with, that aging does not stop their  reign of terror. 

Traits of a Victim

Being a victim of a malicious sociopath is devastating. Surviving the after math of the sociopath is even more so.. 

Usually the victim is so broken and beaten down by the sociopath, once the sociopath has drained the life and finances out of their target, they dispose of them like garbage. Leaving their victim confused, depressed, and without any closure. 

The victim must become the survivor

In order to heal from the devastation of a sociopath. The victim must cut off any and all contact from the sociopath, the hope that they will ever get closure, and any desire to get revenge on the sociopath. 

After the pain and hurt is gone, it is quickly replaced with anger. It's important to not live in denial of what happened, but more important to let go of the anger towards the sociopath. This means not seeking revenge in any form. Any revenge on the sociopath will probably blow up in your face. The sociopath is a skilled con artist and an excellent liar. They have been using and abusing people their whole life. Hurting others comes as natural as breathing to a sociopath. It's hard wired in their brains to manipulate, lie and cheat in order to get what they want. They do not have a functioning conscience, so any pain they inflict onto any living thing will not cause them to lose sleep at night 

I came across this website -sociopathicstyle.com 

They define the "traits of a victim" as

 

• A belief that if you love enough the person will change
• A belief that if you love enough the relationship will succeed
• Difficulty establishing and maintaining boundaries
• Not being able to say no
• Being easily influenced by others
• Wanting to be rescued from your life situation
• Wanting to rescue others from their distress
• Being over (sic) nurturing particularly when not asked
• Feelings of shame and self doubt
• Low self esteem
• A lack of memories about childhood or periods of adulthood
• Shyness
• Difficulty communicating
• A lack of self confidence
• Wanting to please
• A lack of motivation from within and being motivated by what others want

You can decide to be a Survivor. You do not have to be a victim forever. It's being able learn from your mistakes. And become the person you are destined to be. The sociopath always tries to steal what you have, the light in your eyes... They do not have a light in their eyes like you, that is why they have to take yours. 

You must get the sociopath out of your life, and any other toxic people that are draining your energy, time, finances, and life out of you. 

Evil just keeps on being Evil

When you have been targeted by a hateful and vindictive sociopath, you feel alone and isolated. You begin to lose all faith in humanity and people. You start to lose your compassion for others. Because you are on guard with human beings. You have trouble trusting anyone. You don't want to socialize the way you did before you met the sociopath. You prefer to be alone. You prefer to stay in your comfort zone, where you feel safe. 

The sociopath robs you of your sense of emotional security. You feel self conscience inside. When you do go out - you wonder if any of the people around you have heard the nasty rumors the sociopath spread about you. 

Sociopaths can make you feel like the sky is falling.. When it actuality it is not. Nothing is falling. The sociopath is very convincing though. They tell you how everyone hates you. They go to the internet and spread their lies about you. It looks to you as if the sociopath has succeeded in turning others against you. You see people commenting and giving the sociopath support, because they have told others how horrible you were to them. They have even made a blog about you! Ex - If your name is Mary Jane Doe. They have made a blog called Maryjane_doe.com. The title says "My Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder, and Low Self Esteem". The sociopath is impersonating you - in an unfavorable manner. They have spent an enormous amount of time doing this. Scary... Right? 

This can feel extremely defeating. You realize you are fighting with a monster that is so ruthless, cunning, and methodical – that you will not win. 

So what do you do? Everything you try to do to stop this monster has back fired. 

When a sociopath is targeting you in such a vile way. The only thing you can do is STOP RESPONDING. STOP REACTING AND STOP LOOKING ONLINE TO SEE WHAT THE SOCIOPATH IS SAYING. If you want the site shut down that the sociopath has made up. File a complaint with the domain provider. You can file a report with the police, just so everything is documented. The police probably won't do a lot to help with the site being taken down. You are more likely to be able to get the site taken down by reporting the site. Even though it could take time. In the mean time. Cut off any contact with the sociopath. They are doing these things in order to get a response and attention from you. Don't allow them to take your power like that. 

The sociopath is evil. They will always be evil. They will never change. They cannot be reformed. They see nothing wrong with themselves. They don't care about people. They only care about themselves. Once you refuse to react to them and respond and sever all contact with them. Hopefully they will get bored and move on to another person. 

It's so important that you do not lose your faith in humanity or God. Do not let the sociopath steal your spirit. Do not allow them to turn you into a bitter, defense person. Stay good. Stay hopeful.

You hate what the the sociopath has done. That's understandable. You never want to be like this devil..