Marrying a sociopath is a horrible life changing experience. Having children with a sociopath is a horrific nightmare that will never end!!
Anyone who has to deal with these types of wicked, evil and inhumane beings, knows the damage they are capable of. Trying to break free from them, will leave you wounded for years and even a lifetime. That is just how poisonous and toxic they are to you. They will NEVER leave you alone.
Do Not think that "DIVORCE" means you are free of the sociopath. If there are children to use against you, they will use those children, even if it means emotionally f*cking them up for life. THE SOCIOPATH DOES NOT CARE. If they think you are suffering, then they don't mind hurting their own innocent children to ensure that. The sociopath will continue to make UNREASONABLE AND RIDICULOUS DEMANDS on you. They will refuse to allow you to have any peace in your life. One of the most absurd experiences I have experienced with my sociopath, is after being divorced for 8 years and separated for 4. The sociopath demands that we spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and birthday together. Even though both of us have remarried. And the reason for this (so the sociopath says) is because it's important for the children to see their parents getting along.. Ha ha... That's laughable! It HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WANTING the children to see their parents having a healthy relationship and getting along... It's all about control. They want to control you. They want to control your holidays. They want to make sure that you are not happy and enjoying Christmas with your new spouse. My sociopath has requested every year that I come over Christmas morning and put the kids toys together. I am thinking in my mind when I get these ridiculous request; SURE! I would love to wake up, drive 20 minutes to your home and put the children's toys together, while you are passed out in the other room and I have to chit chat with you new spouse... That's not awkward or weird, ya freak.. My children are now older (teenagers) and there is not any toys to put together this coming Christmas. I'm pretty my sociopath will still FIND a reason to harass me or my spouse and try to guilt us into why we should spend out Christmas with them. YOU REALLY WOULD THINK AFTER 8 YEARS OF DECLINING THE INVITATION AND 2 years of having NO CONTACT with the psychopath, they would eventually back off and take a "HINT" by now. But Nope..
The point is they want complete power, and control over their victims or targets. They will do anything to keep that power they once had. You have to refuse to engage. Refuse to react to them. And pray that they will leave you alone one day. It's been almost a decade and mine has yet to get the hint that I will never be manipulated again. I have tried to co parenting. When the other parent has evil and malicious intentions, every attempt to co parent will end up in disaster. You have to figure out how you can see your children without going through the sociopathic parent.
I'm going through this very thing right now! My ex is crazy and will not leave me alone. Nobody will believe what i tell them . He is now trying to get full custody. He lies to everyone. ..the lawyers the judge! He sat right in front of them and lied on the stand. He's trying to destroy me as he promised. My girls are devastated and having issues. I need help! Please! If i try to date he does background checks on them he goes to their exes (if they have one ) and tells them terrible things trying to get them to run me off.he's had me followed by a private investigator. . .. my children and I need help! He makes 3xs what I make .. I don't know what to do
ReplyDeleteYou must live your own life. No contact with him. Do not tell him you are dating. Important not to introduce your children to anyone you are dating for a while. The wknds your ex has the children, that is when you date and spend time with others. Do not tell the ex your plans or current life. Make yourself as unappealing and uninteresting as possible to your ex. Appear to look as if you have No life. That you are doing nothing but being depressed. Only appear this way to him. His goal is to Break you down. Let him believe he has. But do not be broken, live, date and go out on the wknds he has with the children. If things get serious with someone you are dating, then act accordingly. But take everything ONE DAY AT A TIME
DeleteI need help.I am the target parent of parental alienation Please somebody help me.
ReplyDeleteWe understand this. What help are you looking for?
DeleteAs californiagirl stated, what kind of help are you looking for? Dealing with sociopaths, is extremely difficult. But after what they have put you thru, you will feel alone and lost. It's important to get help or support from friends, family or a therapist, and get yourself emotionally healthy. If parental alienation is occurring, you must handle it as stable minded as possible.
DeleteI am dealing with one now even though he is in jail but he calls non-stop and has made threats of violence because he no longer has control over me. He is annoying as hell so it's easy to ignore him.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness! I thought I was the only one! This blog literally just sent chills down my spine. My spath continues with these types of advances...EVEN though we have another open court case (his doing) I've declined his requests repeatedly, he's tried to have me arrested, the list of why not goes on and on. It amazed and confused me so much that he would honestly think that I would agree to such. The only way he will agree for my child to go to counseling is IF the three of us go TOGETHER. He does not get that I want NOTHING to do with him. I only want my child. And each time he makes these advances and I decline, it pisses him off even more...he cannot take the rejection, yet he subjects himself to it. The lack of boundaries is unbelievable to me. I feel desperate to be heard. I feel desperate to be understood and believed. I feel like no one fully understands the magnitude of damage this has done to me. They just tell me to ignore it, that I have to grow thicker skin. That it's MY fault, I allow him to do it because I don't stand up for myself. I'd only they understood...
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