Female Monster

We all know a sociopath is a person without a conscience, who doesn’t feel empathy or affection, although they are excellent at pretending and faking it. When combined with intelligence, a sociopath can rise to the heights of society and become or a successful CEO of a major company, or even the city's district attorney/prosecutor.  It’s much easier to grab power when you have no qualms about hurting others, or no moral code whatsoever. Most sociopaths are not killers, they just tend to wreak havoc on the lives of those around them.

Sociopaths manipulate, lie and scheme against you. They think nothing of spending countless hours on their computer making up false websites in your name or writing about you in blogs to discredit and ruin your character. They will tell anyone and everyone lie after lie about you. Your reputation will be in ruins by the time they are done. All sociopaths have no remorse. They do not feel sorrow when they destroy your life. In fact they feel a sense of accomplishment. And if they are able to bring down someone who is wealthy and successful, they feel very proud of what they have done. 

While the average person is working an honest job to support their family, and throughout the day they are thinking of the people they love, like their children, husband, parents, friends. A sociopath is not capable of having any emotional connections with anyone. So she spends her time scheming and manipulating ways to take you down and destroy you either literally or figuratively. In order to survive the sociopaths emotional abuse, you must remain consistent, and stop all contact with them.  You must change your phone number, if you are able you should move to a different area. And tell only trusted people where you live.  Do not let the sociopath fool you a second time with her charm. Although she will claim that she has changed, DO NOT believe this person has changed. Remember sociopaths can not be rehabilitated.  They cannot change. They are pathological liars, and will always be manipulative and self serving. 

Take steps to protect yourself and your family. Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Life is all a game to the sociopath. She does not care if you're hurt. She will always pretend to be the victim, and prey upon people with kind hearts and compassion. The sociopath wants to win at all cost. 

The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality that sociopath cannot and  do not change.  They are ruthless, heartless, hateful, 

vindictive, and dangerous. 

To a sociopath, you are just an object to be used. You are their source of money, sex, housing and even though she says, "I love you," and "I'll never do it again," the words mean nothing. Her sole 

objective is to take everything you have, emotionally, spiritually and physically and materially. Once you realize the person you are with is using you, you must cut your losses and GET OUT ASAP. If you're FORTUNATE enough to not have married the monster, you don't have children together, and you don't work together. You can just walk away and never see the whore again. But many situations are more complicated than that. If you have to deal with divorce or child custody, expect it to be nasty and the one of the most challenging experiences you will ever go through. The sociopath does not actually care about you or the kids. She only wants to win, and make your life miserable as miserable as possible. She wants to humiliate you, and portray you are a horrible human being, her goal is to destroys you before you can speak the truth and expose her for the monster she really is.  

Revenge Against the Sociopath...

My advice for others is if you are going to expose a sociopath, make sure you have the most very solid of evidence to use in any sort of court case, because they have zero qualms about lying and trying to ruin your life. They will lie and do it convincingly without hesitation. To a sociopath Lying is as natural as breathing.. They are able to lie when under pressure or stress and maintain composure and be cool and calm. I personally feel that sociopaths are capable of such mental and emotional damage, that it is not worth it to try to expose them. They have done you very wrong. Left you in ruins. Yes, one would want revenge. But when dealing with a sociopath the only way you can win is to forget about them, never speak to them again. Change your email and your phone number. Then begin to pick up the pieces of your life and start LIVING AGAIN...  

Best to go NO CONTACT when a sociopath is involved. When you respond to sociopath you are taking their “bait”. They want you to respond, they want a response or emotional reaction. This is how they take up all the spare time they have. So don't give them what they want. You have probably given them enough. They have taken enough of your life. Don't allow them to take anymore...

The sociopath, of course, will continue a life of destruction with or without you.. Eventually, she will target the wrong person.  Someone who will fight back. This person may one day try to contact you to find out what you know about this disordered individual. Then, in a calm and collected manner, you can describe your experience, provide evidence that proves a pattern of behavior, and contribute to some type of justice whether  it’s getting the individual prosecuted, exposed in the media, or just ruining her efforts with yet another potential victim.

It's natural and normal to want revenge against a sociopath. The things the sociopath has done to you has forever changed you, who you are, and what you believed. You want justice. You want your old self back. You must heal one day at a time.  And not waste anymore of your life. Thinking about revenge means that the sociopath is still controlling you. Don't allow it. Put them out of your thoughts. Just call the years you were with the sociopath a "loss" and cut your losses and let it go.

Do Not Help the Sociopath

If you have ever been in a relationship with a sociopath, had a family member who is a sociopath. Then you already know the pain they are capable of inflicting on you, and your family and even your children. People who have been fortunate enough never to have been a target for the sociopath, will never understand what you have gone through or what you are going through. Although they will be sympathetic to your situation, (if they are a supportive and caring friend) but they will never understand what the sociopath has done to your mental health, self esteem, and over all well being. They probably will not understand why you cannot pull yourself out of the depression you are in. 

A sociopath can cause psychological damage and mental trauma, and even physical harm.  Having to deal with a sociopath is not just hard, it can feel like a fight for your life.  Because the sociopath is trying to emotionally destroy you. Even the strongest of people become broken down and weak after having to repair the damage the sociopath has done to them. The reason it is so hard to heal from being attacked by a sociopath, is because they are still trying to destroy you, while you are trying to heal. They are still out launching more smear campaigns, spreading more lies, and ruin you socially. They want others to question your morals and agenda. 

Although most people cannot beat a sociopath, that does not mean that you should just lay down and  die. Because that is EXACTLY  what they want you to do.  You do not have to be a low life as the sociopath is, and stoop to there classless low level, by seeking revenge. 

THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH A SOCIOPATH, IS TO NOT DEAL WITH THEM AT ALL! 
This means having Absolutely no contact with the sociopath AT ALL!  It means lcutting them out of your life. Don't respond to any text they send. Don't answer their calls. If they show up to your home, call the police ASAP. Because you are not dealing with a normal person. You are dealing with a monster. With no remorse, conscience, morals, ethics, and regard for human life, the sociopath is capable of the unthinkable. They are able to commit horrific acts and feel no guilt about it whatsoever. 

IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF A SOCIOPATH YOU MUST GET HIM/HER COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD!  This seems radical, but it is the only option you have to keep yourself safe, and your family safe. You MUST Protect yourself from the drain that the sociopath has on your time, attention, money, and good attitude. 

Do Not Even Consider or Believe that you or anyone else can try to help and heal the sociopath. It is a pointless waste of your time and of your life. It’s not your responsibility. The sociopath can't be healed, and the sociopath doesn't want help. In fact if you try to help them, they despise you even more.  Because they hate all people but they loathe people who are good and compassionate. 

You have your own goals and your own life, and those are your responsibility. YOU OWE OTHING 
TO THE SOCIOPATH! The sociopath has a huge sense of entitlement. They believe that they should 
have whatever they want and desire, without having to work for it, like everyone else.. 

I recommend that you severely challenge your need to be polite in absolutely all situations. Sociopaths take huge advantage of this automatic courtesy in exploitive situations. Do not be afraid to be unsmiling and calmly to the point.

Soulless

Narcissistic psychopaths are particularly ill-suited to participate in the give and take of civilized society. Many of them are misfits or criminals. White collar psychopaths (better known as the sociopath) are likely to be deceitful and engage in rampant identity theft, the use of aliases, constant lying, fraud, and con-artistry for gain or pleasure.
Sociopaths are irresponsible and unreliable. They do not honor contracts, undertakings, and obligations. They are unstable and unpredictable and rarely hold a job for long, repay their debts, or maintain long-term intimate relationships. They are unable to be faithful, they are cheaters and liars and even if they are married they will have numerous sexual relationships on the side. A sociopaths may marry up to 7-10 times in their life. The reason that sociopaths marry, is to have the look of the normal person - which they are not. So they want everyone to believe they are functioning in normal. They mimic what functioning normal people do; which is usually to get married, have a few kids..

Psychopaths are said to be fearless and cool and composed under pressure, or times of fear. . Their pain tolerance is very high. Still, contrary to popular perceptions and psychiatric orthodoxy, some psychopaths are actually anxious and fearful. Their psychopathy is a defense against an underlying and all-pervasive anxiety, either hereditary, or brought on by early childhood abuse, or neglect.
Most all psychopaths and sociopaths had an absent father in the life. They may have had a stepfather who never excepted them. And they feel rejected and insecure and have no sense of identity. A sociopath does not know who they are, they have no identity Of their own. The emotions that they display are what they have mimicked from others.. They are cruel, ruthless, soulless individuals...

Warning sign of the Psychopath - Sociopath

Warning Signs of a Psychopath

Hervey M. Cleckly was a psychiatrist and a pioneer in the field of psychopathy; the following are his 16 indicators of a psychopath:

• Considerable superficial charm and average or above average intelligence
• Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking
• Absence of anxiety or other "neurotic" symptoms considerable poise, calmness, and verbal facility
• Unreliability, disregard for obligations no sense of responsibility, in matters of little and great import.
• Untruthfulness and insincerity
• Antisocial behavior which is inadequately motivated and poorly planned, seeming to stem from an inexplicable impulsiveness.
• Inadequately motivated antisocial behavior
• Poor judgment and failure to learn from experience
• Pathological egocentricity - total self-centeredness, incapacity for real love and attachment
• No deep or lasting emotions
• Lack of any true insight, complete inability to see themselves as others do
• Ingratitude for any special considerations, act of kindness, and trust
• Fantastic and objectionable behavior, after drinking and sometimes even when not drinking--vulgarity, rudeness, quick mood shifts, pranks
• No history of genuine suicide attempts
• An impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated sex life
• Failure to have a life plan and to live in any ordered way, unless it is one promoting self-defeat

Mental health professionals often use the Hare Psychopathy Checklist in order to asses psychopathy:

Factor 1: Personality "Aggressive narcissism"

• Glibness/superficial charm
• Grandiose sense of self-worth
• Pathological lying
• Cunning/manipulative (Manipulation is their trademark)
• Lack of remorse or guilt (They are often capable of violence)
• Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived and egocentric)
• Callous/lack of empathy
• Failure to accept responsibility for own actions (Whatever the problem is, it is always someone else’s fault)

Factor 2: Case history "Socially deviant lifestyle"

• Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
• Parasitic lifestyle (They constantly take from others, and give nothing in return; money, love, time, etc.)
• Poor behavioral control
• Lack of realistic long-term goals
• Impulsivity
• Irresponsibility
• Juvenile delinquency
• Early behavior problems
• Revocation of conditional release

To put it in plain terms, these people do not have a conscious or feelings, they wreak havoc in the lives of everyone within their reach (their parents, children, friends, etc.), and they constantly burn bridges and screw up opportunities in 
their lives.

To make matters worse, they are often heavy drinkers, and drug users and they often have a criminal past and violent behavior, and they usually minimize or rationalize their shortcomings.

They often claim they do not care about what other people think about them because it is more important what a person thinks about oneself - this may be true, but this is NOT their real reason, in reality, psychopaths simply do not have the capacity to care about anyone else’s thoughts and feelings.

Sociopaths are what defines evil and soulless. They are capable of the most heinous acts. Never try to figure out what the sociopath is doing, because if you find out, they will KILL YOU, TO SILENCE YOU.

Sociopath - let them destroy themselves

To some degree, let them be the destroyer, but keep evidence along the way, so long as it’s not causing you physical or emotional harm.  However, when things get out of hand, let them know in no uncertain terms what evidence you have on them, because at the end of the day all they are doing is digging themselves an even bigger grave to put themselves in. Having said that, it’s not as if they need one, because they died (emotionally) a long time ago.

When you have finally had enough of their stupid games, make it very clear that you have been careful enough to have collected evidence on them and give them the shovel. Trust that like all good sociopaths, they will get caught eventually from their own stupidity, and will end up digging their own graves.

Revenge obsession occurs when the obsessive ex wants his/her partner to punished. With a sociopath, they are probably responsible for the relationships fall out. They are cheaters, liars, and professional scammers. Even knowing they are liars and cheaters they still become obsessed with causing their ex more pain. Although the obsessed ex may not be in love with their partner anymore, they want to make sure he or she is just as miserable as they are....

They will even want to punish anyone their ex moves on with. Like a new girlfriend/boyfriend. They will do everything they can to cause problem for their ex in order to destroy the relationship. Even if the sociopath has moved in with their own life, and has remarried. They still will harass, bother and stalk their ex, and in extreme cases they will stalk their exes new love interest, go on a smear campaign about their exes new lover, husband/ wife. 

They hope the drama, the character assassination, the stalking, the crazy behavior will scare the new love off. It takes a strong person, who is secure with who they are to not want to leave. Because the sociopath will project on that person everything they can to break them down. They will accuse their exes new love interest of being the "stalker". They will play victim. They will use the kids to manipulate. They will alienate the children from the other (non-sociopathic) parent. They tell the children lies about their other parent. Ex. - Your dad cares about his new family and doesn't care about us anymore. {keep in mind, the children have NO IDEA, why the relationship ended}. The sociopath has convinced the non-sociopathic parent to not tell the children why the relationship ended. **Not because they are concerned for the children's welfare. But because they do not want their children to know they were at fault.

This way they can tell the children "their version" of why “mommy and daddy” aren't together anymore. It's VERY IMPORTANT for the non-sociopathic parent to NEVER talk negatively about the other (sociopathic) parent to the children.  Even IF the Sociopathic parent is bad mouthing the other parent. The children will figure things out on their own. They will see, as they get older that one the one parent trash talks the other parent (and the other parents new wife/husband every chance they get. They will realize that the (non-disordered) parent has never spoken negatively about the other parent (the disordered parent). 

The children are not stupid, and they become more aware of what is really happening as they get older. The sociopath loses the control over their ex, as the children grow up. This is frustrating for the sociopath, so it's then when the sociopath feels they must use more extreme methods of manipulation. Ex. - When my daughter became older, the demands from my sociopathic ex became more frequent, and more outlandish. Her text messaging and calling became so bad that it interfered in with my work. Since neither my ex wife or her new husband have jobs, they are dependent on my ex wife's mother to give them money monthly and also on my $3000 monthly child support to pay their bills. So I always assumed eventually she would 
back off. NOPE. It only became worse, when I got my daughter a phone to communicate with her. So I didn't have to deal with my ex wife. Everything my ex said was a lie, she did things for malicious reasons only.  Telling me to pick my child up on Sunday at 5pm, then I would get there at 5pm and no one would be home.  My home is 30 minutes away from her home. So by the time I got to her house sat there for 30 minutes, I would text to let her know I was there to pick up. She would respond "oh we are in town getting this or that we will be there in 15 minutes". Needless to say 15 minutes into 45 minutes and they would still not be there. So I would eventually drive back to my house which is 30 minutes away. As soon as I would get home, my phone would begin ringing and it was my ex-wife asking me “where are you, Suzie is ready to see her dad". 

(The sociopaths version is the DISHONEST version)

Sociopaths are KNOWN FOR accusing others for things they are doing themselves. Example - If a sociopath is on a smear campaign, they will accuse the real victim of trying to "ruin there reputation", destroying their character. The sociopath will  accuse their target of stalking them.  

*RED FLAG* - The sociopath do whatever is necessary to humiliate their “TARGET” aka 
(the person they are stalking)

*** WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE CONTINUOUSLY RANTING ONLINE ABOUT  {Firstname} {Lastname} being a “CYBER TROLL” “BULLY” or “STALKER”,  going on to tell others (especially using social media) that “they are scared for their children's safety” (they love using innocent children to get pity from others.)  The sociopath is likely to accuse the person of being “mentally unstable” “dangerous” “jealous of them” “insecure”. They want to vilify the real victim, before their victim talks, so they use these kind of humiliating tactics to discredit, and destroy the real victim.

*** Notice a person calling someone a cyber troll, bully, or stalker  - Is the character assassin. The RED FLAG  that the person accusing another is when they chose to use the Other persons First and Last Name. It IS DEFAMATION, CHARACTER ASSASSINATION, AND SLANDER.

The classic symptom of someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, Sociopathic, Narcissistic, Histrionic, Anti-Social Personality Disorder is how they are “Always the Victim”

{If you are confused about who is telling the truth, check out the other persons social media (especially their blogs). Look to see if the other person has used First and Last Names (like the accuser is doing), look to see if the person is name calling and slandering, (like the accuser has)}

 If you see the person who is being accused - is not using name calling with humiliating words such as "cyber troll" or "stalker"

Then you can assume that the person being accused is actually the victim and the accuser is the sociopath, just trying to destroy another life... With no remorse or guilt for all the pain they cause.. 

The Psychopath aka My ex wife and BiGGest mistake

Sociopathic and psychopathic women are some of the worlds greatest deceivers, liars, and con artist.

They seem innocent and confident. They are always charming and precise in everything. In the beginning they will use their charismatic persona to make a great impression on you. They will drop surprise gifts with a smile on their face, without any notable reason. They will talk to you about subjects that are important to you. At times, they will ask you why something is important to you. They are trying to find out things about you - to use it against you later. They are looking for your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. They will ask personal questions, asking as if they care so much - then use your answer later on in order to destroy you with it. 

Know that, even though they seem nice and friendly, Trustworthy and ethical, understand that they are FAR from it. If your skin crawls for no reason while talking to someone, it’s best to get away from them and avoid that person in the future. REMEMBER YOUR LIFE IS AT STAKE. Once involved with this "wolf in sheeps clothing" you are at risk for living a very unhappy life. If you happen to have children with this psychopath, you will spend the rest of your life being bullied, threatened, black mailed, guilt tripped and manipulated. 

The Psychopathic/Sociopathic Personality is extremely dangerous. Not only are they skilled in destroying you from the inside, out, they are also very adept at ruining other’s lives, while using the victim as their own pawn.  There are no limits to what the Psychopathic/Sociopathic personality is capable of. They will blind-side you, even when you feel you have done well to cut him/her off at the pass. When you have trained yourself to think like them, in order to protect yourself. You will never be fully aware of what this individual is doing, until it’s already happened.  Many tend to become more care-less with age. Meaning the older they get, they less cerebral they are, the more lies they have to remember, the more fried their brain is from their careless lifestyle, of drinking and a using drugs. 

Sociopaths will not usually keep there facade up after the age of 40. They begin to slip up, the mask begins to come off and they become exposed. Then once people figure them out - it's over for them. They are reduced to committing petty fraudulent acts, but are unable to manipulate others like they use to - because now everyone has been screwed over or lied to by the sociopath and no one wants anything to do with her. Yet she will still parade around like she is above everyone else. She will usually turn to the Internet to project her lies and manipulation. 

I still remember all the horrific things my ex wife did to me, and that she still is doing to me, and my wife, and my child and even to my step daughter, who is very young. All her extreme manipulation, guilt tripping, blaming, accusing, bullying my wife, and my step daughter. It was when she verbally attacked my step daughter, I realized I was not dealing with a normal person anymore, I was dealing with a monster, who had no conscious and didn't care who she hurt. She was evil. She is a bad human being.  I was and am 100% positive I am dealing with a Psychopath. 

She knows I am no longer the person she "thought" she could manipulate and put down. Even after our divorce, I still did as she told me to. It was my wife who made me realize there was something "NOT NORMAL" about the situation. That ex wives are ex wives for a reason. I did not owe her anything. All I was responsible for was making sure my child was taken care of. She expected me to come to her home in Christmas morning and put together toys for our child, in the house she shared with her new husband (one of the many men she was having an affair with during our marriage) I had a new family and once I remarried my obligation is to my wife. I see my child and he opens the gifts we get him at our house on Christmas. I will NEVER SPEND ANOTHER HOLIDAY WITH MY EX AGAIN. Recently her mother threatened me in a text message, threatening my life. Then proceeded to call my work and change up very important meetings. That's when I knew I had to take drastic measures. Even if it that means taking legal action against her, filing a protection order, it's obvious she doesn't plan on respecting my boundaries or me. She is an evil, conscienceless, lying, and conning Psychopath. 

She has made accusations on my wife. Everything from posting all over the Internet that my wife is obsessed with her. Jealous of her. Insecure. And when my wife had enough she defended herself, which made the psychopath even more fueled to post slander and defamation about my wife.  She was vilifying the real victim. Everything she accused my wife of - was exactly the things she was doing to my wife. It is obvious to me, my wife and the rest of the world who is really insecure and jealous. The psychopath! My wife Has everything the psychopath wishes she possessed. Which is beauty, youth, intelligence, persistence, and what the psychopath really hates about my wife is her kindness, and how liked she is by everyone. The psychopaths actions are so predictable that my wife is afraid for her safety and her daughters. Now the psychopath can finally see that she is unable to manipulate me anymore. I never respond to her. What is the point? Everything she says is a lie, 100% a lie. For. Telling me that my child had cancer, to depression. I communicate with my child, not the mother because she is so insane. 

I have to re-emphasize the fact that I am NOT a Psychological professional of any sort. Everything I post about is from my personal experience with a sociopathic woman, and the information I have found out about my sociopath and sociopaths/psychopaths in general .  I am still learning. I feel it is important to share what i have been through and what I’m learning with others, so hopefully they will not ever have to go what I have been through and am still going through. If I am incorrect in my thinking. I always welcome comments from others, so I can Learn more and here their story as well...