Victims of sociopathic/narcissistic experience so many different painful emotions. These emotions do not stop just because the sociopath is now out of your life. In fact those painful emotions become even stronger at times. Especially during times of reflection and instrospection. The pain soon becomes anger. This anger is rightly justified. What the sociopath has done to us, is horrific.
The problem is with this anger, is that it becomes an obsession. We become obsessed with hatred of the sociopath/narcissist. Again, these feelings are certainly justified. But the problem with obsession is that it takes over our life. It interferes with our ability to regain control of our life, and move forward in a positive direction.
We were hurt and violated by a person who has no moral compass, unable to feel empathy, and is devoid of good and of a soul. Usually hurt people, hurt people. We want to see the person who caused us such an enormous amount of pain and turmoil suffer some kind of consequences.
We even become somewhat obsessed with thinking about revenge, feeling ill will towards the person, thinking about what they did to us a majority of the time, and when doing so, we are re-living that nightmare all over again.
So you see, the problem with obsession is that is wear us out. It takes away precious moments of life that are waiting to be lived.
Do not feel ashamed if you have become obsessed in this way. It is normal. What is important is that you become aware of these feelings and thoughts, and you have the ability to change them.
We must cope with obsession by compartmentalizing it, only allowing ourself to dwell on it for specific periods of time. This way you will be able to schedule your way out of it.
The sociopath/narcissist has stolen so much time from us, and we must accept that what happened, happened. Be thankful that now this evil individual is out of your life. Because now you are able to actually LIVE LIFE genuinely and joyfully.
Sociopaths lack decency, compassion, and care for anyone other than themselves. They may have a physical body, but they do not have a Soul. When one enters our life, we have a chance to learn and grow spiritually. They are all Pathological Liars, selfish, hateful, and cruel. They seek to ruin our spirit and cause us pain.
Thursday, December 17, 2015
Sunday, November 8, 2015
The long journey of healing after a psychopath
Healing after being in a relationship with a psychopathic person is a long hard journey. I have personally seen how a psychopath can turn a once vibrant, positive, assertive person into a passive, insecure and scared person.
It never really ends with a psychopath.
Sometimes a victim of a psychopath will go for years without hearing from the psychopath. Then one day, out of the blue the psychopath will call. This is usually because they have become tired of their last victim, and decide to contact someone that they believe they can trick again..
Psychopaths have no decency in them.
Psychopaths and Sociopaths have a negative energy that surrounds them.
Most of us are unaware of this negativity around them until it is too late. Once we do begin to realize that the psychopath is not who and what they say they say, the psychopath begins a campaign to destroy their victim before the victim can speak out about them, and expose who they really are. Even after the relationship is over, the psychopath will continue tо slander their victim by relentlessly attacking their reputation and character. The psychopath IS NOT looking to just hurt their victim, the psychopath is on a mission to DESTROY and ANNIHILATE their victim,
A psychopath will even attack their victims family (children included) and lie about people the victim loves, just to get the emotional reaction from their victim. This can go on for years, even after you have made no contact, moved away, and refused to react, or retaliate.
So why does the psychopath continue to harass, gossip about, and torment their victim even after their victim has moved on, and has no contact with the psychopath? One would think the psychopath would simply move on to their next victim. After all you have avoided the psychopath, and do not pose an immediate threat to them. The truth is, the psychopath continues to wreak havoc on a victims life because they simply can. And usually it is out of BOREDOM.... Yes, the psychopath remembers how they could get an emotional reaction out of their victim (you). They have exhausted and broken all of their other victims. So they look for someone familiar, someone who they think will “entertain” them temporarily.
To the psychopath, you are an object. Your pain is nothing to them,. Example - destroying a persons life is no less or greater to them than popping a balloon. If the psychopath can get a response, they will start their attack on you full force.
This is why it is important to your well being that once a relationship has ended with one, that you never look at their social media page, and you have no contact ever again. If you have to change your life, and do thinks such as change your email, your cell phone, DO IT. And keep your distance no matter what. Usually you don't have to worry about running into the Sociopath in town, since the sociopath rarely attends social functions, due to their inner dysfunctional. The Psychopath is a little more function usually. The sociopath is not so functional. They can't handle any lack of stimulation, so they usually turn to drugs or alcohol to surpass the time.
It never really ends with a psychopath.
Sometimes a victim of a psychopath will go for years without hearing from the psychopath. Then one day, out of the blue the psychopath will call. This is usually because they have become tired of their last victim, and decide to contact someone that they believe they can trick again..
Psychopaths have no decency in them.
Psychopaths and Sociopaths have a negative energy that surrounds them.
Most of us are unaware of this negativity around them until it is too late. Once we do begin to realize that the psychopath is not who and what they say they say, the psychopath begins a campaign to destroy their victim before the victim can speak out about them, and expose who they really are. Even after the relationship is over, the psychopath will continue tо slander their victim by relentlessly attacking their reputation and character. The psychopath IS NOT looking to just hurt their victim, the psychopath is on a mission to DESTROY and ANNIHILATE their victim,
A psychopath will even attack their victims family (children included) and lie about people the victim loves, just to get the emotional reaction from their victim. This can go on for years, even after you have made no contact, moved away, and refused to react, or retaliate.
So why does the psychopath continue to harass, gossip about, and torment their victim even after their victim has moved on, and has no contact with the psychopath? One would think the psychopath would simply move on to their next victim. After all you have avoided the psychopath, and do not pose an immediate threat to them. The truth is, the psychopath continues to wreak havoc on a victims life because they simply can. And usually it is out of BOREDOM.... Yes, the psychopath remembers how they could get an emotional reaction out of their victim (you). They have exhausted and broken all of their other victims. So they look for someone familiar, someone who they think will “entertain” them temporarily.
To the psychopath, you are an object. Your pain is nothing to them,. Example - destroying a persons life is no less or greater to them than popping a balloon. If the psychopath can get a response, they will start their attack on you full force.
This is why it is important to your well being that once a relationship has ended with one, that you never look at their social media page, and you have no contact ever again. If you have to change your life, and do thinks such as change your email, your cell phone, DO IT. And keep your distance no matter what. Usually you don't have to worry about running into the Sociopath in town, since the sociopath rarely attends social functions, due to their inner dysfunctional. The Psychopath is a little more function usually. The sociopath is not so functional. They can't handle any lack of stimulation, so they usually turn to drugs or alcohol to surpass the time.
Sunday, October 25, 2015
When Reality Slaps You Hard
The realization that you are dealing with a sociopath. Or have been romantically involved or currently still are involved with a sociopath, narcissist or a psychopath is a very surreal and scary feeling. You have obviously realized something was not “right” with the person. So you did meticulous research and all signs point to a person who lacks a conscience.
A person who has no regard for the feelings of any other person but him/herself..
It is very difficult for most of us to understand and accept that there are people in our world that do not feel any empathy and have absolutely NO remorse.
What is even more devastating (besides finding out the person you have shared so many details of your life with has NO Soul). Is realizing that every moment you shared with this person was FAKE. It wasn't real.
The sociopath/narcissist has faked every emotion in order to manipulate you into believing they are normal with normal human emotions, just like you.
They have pretended to love you, just to manipulate you into giving them what they want.
How does one heal and recover from a deception so Big? You gave your time, energy, love and heart to someone, and you believed they loved you just as much. How does one ever trust again? Love again? I
Once you have accepted the harsh reality for what it is. It's time to move on.
It will Not be easy. The sociopath has left you feeling as if the energy/life force has been stolen right out of your soul. This is why healing takes time. You must take care of yourself, be good to yourself and never blame yourself for what happened. After all you were not this evil persons first victim and you will not be the last. This predator will continue this until their last day on this earth. They are simply soulless beings among us.
Usually as soon as you begin the healing process, the narcissist will suddenly come back to your life, and they will say whatever they have to say to get you back. They will be that same great wonderful amaZing person you met in the beginning. Stay Strong!
Remember THE NARCISSIST/SOCIOPATH WILL NEVER CHANGE.
They are able to fake emotions like. remorse, sorrow, and even shame. They will act sorry to get you to forgive them for whatever they have done wrong. They are NOT sorry though. They know exactly what they are doing and plan on doing it again. They actually do not see anything wrong with their behavior. This is just how twisted they really are.
Narcissist/Sociopaths are serial cheaters. Every single one of them. Rather it's a man or woman. Just like they are not capable of feeling empathy, they are not capable of being loyal.
When you first caught them doing something wrong, they initially probably won you back fairly quickly or were able to deny any responsibility and convinced you they are not to blame. But after the 2nd, 3rd, even 4th time the issue came back up, you begin to have your suspicions. But of course the sociopath still tries to show you a great deal of sorrow, empathy and whatever other human emotions they know how to mimic, to manipulate you again.
They can look so damn genuine, it's really mind blowing to know its all bullsh*t.
They never feel bad that they have caused so much pain. They actually will feel bad for themselves, when you have had enough and are not so easily swayed and forgiving this
time. So what started with them apologizing and acting remorseful soon turns to them blaming you (once they realize that you don't believe them) There anger comes raging out at this point, not because they feel bad about anything, their mask is starting to slip because they were caught.
A person who has no regard for the feelings of any other person but him/herself..
It is very difficult for most of us to understand and accept that there are people in our world that do not feel any empathy and have absolutely NO remorse.
What is even more devastating (besides finding out the person you have shared so many details of your life with has NO Soul). Is realizing that every moment you shared with this person was FAKE. It wasn't real.
The sociopath/narcissist has faked every emotion in order to manipulate you into believing they are normal with normal human emotions, just like you.
They have pretended to love you, just to manipulate you into giving them what they want.
How does one heal and recover from a deception so Big? You gave your time, energy, love and heart to someone, and you believed they loved you just as much. How does one ever trust again? Love again? I
Once you have accepted the harsh reality for what it is. It's time to move on.
It will Not be easy. The sociopath has left you feeling as if the energy/life force has been stolen right out of your soul. This is why healing takes time. You must take care of yourself, be good to yourself and never blame yourself for what happened. After all you were not this evil persons first victim and you will not be the last. This predator will continue this until their last day on this earth. They are simply soulless beings among us.
Usually as soon as you begin the healing process, the narcissist will suddenly come back to your life, and they will say whatever they have to say to get you back. They will be that same great wonderful amaZing person you met in the beginning. Stay Strong!
Remember THE NARCISSIST/SOCIOPATH WILL NEVER CHANGE.
They are able to fake emotions like. remorse, sorrow, and even shame. They will act sorry to get you to forgive them for whatever they have done wrong. They are NOT sorry though. They know exactly what they are doing and plan on doing it again. They actually do not see anything wrong with their behavior. This is just how twisted they really are.
Narcissist/Sociopaths are serial cheaters. Every single one of them. Rather it's a man or woman. Just like they are not capable of feeling empathy, they are not capable of being loyal.
They can look so damn genuine, it's really mind blowing to know its all bullsh*t.
They never feel bad that they have caused so much pain. They actually will feel bad for themselves, when you have had enough and are not so easily swayed and forgiving this
time. So what started with them apologizing and acting remorseful soon turns to them blaming you (once they realize that you don't believe them) There anger comes raging out at this point, not because they feel bad about anything, their mask is starting to slip because they were caught.
Wednesday, September 30, 2015
The social manipulation of a psychopath is endless
Obviously if you are reading this post, you have probably had some sorta encounter with a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist.
A common feature of the psychopath is accusing others of the very thing the psychopath does (usually psycho's target, or person the psychopath feels is a threat, and could expose them) .
Because psychopaths are excelled in lying. They can turn any situation into pure chaos, confusion and misery. Psychopaths will often create dissent by playing parties against each other. The psychopaths mind set is to DIVIDE AND CONQUER by presenting one person a completely different story, than they had previously presented to another person.
Psychopaths are often very difficult or impossible to detect, because they present themselves as genuine and caring. Especially to a potential victim. Once they hook their victim, the mask comes off, and the psychopaths ugly comes out. They are abusive, condescending, manipulative, mean-spirited Tyrants!
Since the psychopath doesn't want others to KNOW their True Nature and Malicious Intentions, they will rarely act out in front of anyone but the victim. So there is usually no other people around to view their sinister activities. If the victim speaks out against the psychopath, the psychopath is able to make the victim look like a liar, who is mentally unstable. This is a very defeating feeling for the victim. The victim is isolated by the psychopath.
The psychopath works to isolate their victim(s) in order to keep them quiet. The psychopath especially works hard to keep previous victims and the current victim apart. So they are unable to put together the lies, abuse, and vindictivenes.
The variations that a psychopath will use on social manipulation are endless. The are professionals at this, they have been doing this to people all their life.
Do not feel bad that you are unable to beat them at this game. It only means you are a genuine human being, with a kind soul. The psychopath lacks a soul, a heart, and any compassion. Having a soul is a beautiful thing. Underneath the psychopaths exterior is an ugly monster.
A common feature of the psychopath is accusing others of the very thing the psychopath does (usually psycho's target, or person the psychopath feels is a threat, and could expose them) .
Because psychopaths are excelled in lying. They can turn any situation into pure chaos, confusion and misery. Psychopaths will often create dissent by playing parties against each other. The psychopaths mind set is to DIVIDE AND CONQUER by presenting one person a completely different story, than they had previously presented to another person.
Psychopaths are often very difficult or impossible to detect, because they present themselves as genuine and caring. Especially to a potential victim. Once they hook their victim, the mask comes off, and the psychopaths ugly comes out. They are abusive, condescending, manipulative, mean-spirited Tyrants!
Since the psychopath doesn't want others to KNOW their True Nature and Malicious Intentions, they will rarely act out in front of anyone but the victim. So there is usually no other people around to view their sinister activities. If the victim speaks out against the psychopath, the psychopath is able to make the victim look like a liar, who is mentally unstable. This is a very defeating feeling for the victim. The victim is isolated by the psychopath.
The psychopath works to isolate their victim(s) in order to keep them quiet. The psychopath especially works hard to keep previous victims and the current victim apart. So they are unable to put together the lies, abuse, and vindictivenes.
The variations that a psychopath will use on social manipulation are endless. The are professionals at this, they have been doing this to people all their life.
Do not feel bad that you are unable to beat them at this game. It only means you are a genuine human being, with a kind soul. The psychopath lacks a soul, a heart, and any compassion. Having a soul is a beautiful thing. Underneath the psychopaths exterior is an ugly monster.
Thursday, September 10, 2015
CrazyMakers.... Get out if you still can
Crazy makers...
There are people in this world that are “crazy makers".
These people will always set you up to lose.
No matter how hard you try with these types you are sure to be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
They put you in lose-lose situations. They have mastered manipulating others in random and various ways. These people will play mind games that are confusing, frustrating and down right cruel.
There is no rhyme, reason, or emotional understanding of why these people do what they do. The best way to describe them is that they are crazy-makers.
Crazy makers are abusers. Their behavior can not only be vindictive and malicious, but it can erode the other persons self esteem and self worth. This is their attempt to control you by means of confusing you, and making your life hard.
These "crazy makers" want you to feel insane, or worthless, it is how they are able to feel better about themselves. They are usually insecure people. People who feel good about themselves do not have to knock others down in order to feel superior. This is the only way they believe they can be loved, by causing the other person to feel as if no one else will love them or tolerate their "craziness" like the crazy maker.
Being in a relationship with this disordered person feels like you’re caught in a whirlwind of chaos, with the life force being sucked from you as you are manipulated with nonstop crazy-making tactics. It's very mentally, physically, and spiritually exhausting to stay in a relationship with these types.
If you are in a relationship with someone like this, try to get out of the relationship. You do not want to marry or have children with this type of person. As they will make your life miserable and will use children to do so. Severe the connection while you still can. It will save you much heartache, money, and problems in the future.
There are people in this world that are “crazy makers".
These people will always set you up to lose.
No matter how hard you try with these types you are sure to be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
They put you in lose-lose situations. They have mastered manipulating others in random and various ways. These people will play mind games that are confusing, frustrating and down right cruel.
There is no rhyme, reason, or emotional understanding of why these people do what they do. The best way to describe them is that they are crazy-makers.
Crazy makers are abusers. Their behavior can not only be vindictive and malicious, but it can erode the other persons self esteem and self worth. This is their attempt to control you by means of confusing you, and making your life hard.
These "crazy makers" want you to feel insane, or worthless, it is how they are able to feel better about themselves. They are usually insecure people. People who feel good about themselves do not have to knock others down in order to feel superior. This is the only way they believe they can be loved, by causing the other person to feel as if no one else will love them or tolerate their "craziness" like the crazy maker.
Being in a relationship with this disordered person feels like you’re caught in a whirlwind of chaos, with the life force being sucked from you as you are manipulated with nonstop crazy-making tactics. It's very mentally, physically, and spiritually exhausting to stay in a relationship with these types.
If you are in a relationship with someone like this, try to get out of the relationship. You do not want to marry or have children with this type of person. As they will make your life miserable and will use children to do so. Severe the connection while you still can. It will save you much heartache, money, and problems in the future.
Wednesday, September 2, 2015
Obsessive vindictive Exes
Unhealthy ex obsession occurs when an ex partner will stop at nothing to make the life of their ex unbearable and miserable.
Even if the obsessive ex has moved on, and re-married the next “victim”. They obsessive ex will still continue to believe that they have the right to abuse you. They feel a sense of entitlement, that even though they cheated on you, and left you, they pretend all of their horrible violations against you were/are justified. So when you try to move on with your life, they will be hell bent on making your life difficult.
Often times, the obsessive ex wants things to be just as they were before they lied to you, cheated on you, destroyed your family, and drained your finances, energy, and spirit. Unstable people believe that all the rules apply to everyone but them. They believe that they are allowed to move on with a new partner, but they do not believe that their Ex is allowed to move on or be happy. Once the obsessive ex finds out that their ex has found someone, they become obsessed with making their ex life hell, and the man/woman that they have moved on with. They still want to control their Ex, they realize with a new someone that they may lose control.
Even if the obsessive ex has moved on, and re-married the next “victim”. They obsessive ex will still continue to believe that they have the right to abuse you. They feel a sense of entitlement, that even though they cheated on you, and left you, they pretend all of their horrible violations against you were/are justified. So when you try to move on with your life, they will be hell bent on making your life difficult.
Often times, the obsessive ex wants things to be just as they were before they lied to you, cheated on you, destroyed your family, and drained your finances, energy, and spirit. Unstable people believe that all the rules apply to everyone but them. They believe that they are allowed to move on with a new partner, but they do not believe that their Ex is allowed to move on or be happy. Once the obsessive ex finds out that their ex has found someone, they become obsessed with making their ex life hell, and the man/woman that they have moved on with. They still want to control their Ex, they realize with a new someone that they may lose control.
This type of behavior is delusional. The obsessive Ex has a sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectation. They believe that they are entitled to be with other people, but that their ex is not allowed to do so.
This is a very difficult situation to deal with. One begins to feel hopeless about ever moving forward and being happy. With an ex hell-bent on trying to make life as difficult as possible. New relationships seem impossible because the ex will attempt to destroy anything that may bring you happiness. And they have probably been successful at doing that since the beginning of the relationship, all the way to the end.
It's important to remember that if you share children with this person, that to keep contact as simple and as minimal as possible. They vindictive ex will constantly be asking favors or demanding you do this or that, always using the children to manipulate you into doing. Important to remember, that they are only doing this to inconvenience you, and whatever they are demanding is probably exaggerated and is only meant to waste your time. Don't buy into it. Ignore 95% of any text or calls. When your children are with you, ignore 99% of text or calls, because you have the children, and there is no need to listen to the BS, that the ex is telling you that you MUST do, while your children are with you.
Sunday, August 30, 2015
Sociopaths, Psycho's & Narcissist - The Most Dangerous Predators
Psychopaths lie to everybody because they are predators.
If you are reading this, more than likely you have been attacked, hurt, betrayed, deceived, or discarded by a psychopath.
You are well aware of how destructive and painful just knowing such a disordered individual can be. They are takers, not givers. They steal precious energy and time from you. stealers. It is a soul crushing reality check. It feels unfair that you were so unfortunate to have become entangled with a person that is unable to feel remorse, love, or care about the harm they have caused you and many many others. Yet they are still standing, and look as if they have never suffered any kind of loss, ever.
While you feel your energy has been drained, you are alone, and completely defeated.
Anytime with spent with a psychopath, is dangerous. If they don't kill you physically, they sure will kill you emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. The is no use in trying to get revenge on this morally corrupt individual, because they never fight fair. They also have no conscience to stop them from completely ripping you to pieces. The more hurt they see they have caused, the more they will continue to rip into you. Your hurt is their motivation.
They have no care in the world, when you are their perceived target, they will have no qualms spending every minute of their day trying to destroy you. They will spread rumors to your friends, to people who barley know you, and warn people who don't know you, about you. The play the victim the whole time. Telling others how you have wronged them, how you are stalking them. When in truth, they are spending all of their time doing all of those things to you. It doesn't cost the psychopath any energy to do these things, because they are using your energy to do it with, and probably using the energy from all their other victims. And believe me, there are many of victims. You are not the first victim and you surely will Not be the last.
Healing is your only option after being targeted by one of these predators. Do not think of ways to get revenge, because it will only drain more energy out of you. They have stolen enough of your precious energy. Focus on healing your mind, body and spirit.
If you are reading this, more than likely you have been attacked, hurt, betrayed, deceived, or discarded by a psychopath.
You are well aware of how destructive and painful just knowing such a disordered individual can be. They are takers, not givers. They steal precious energy and time from you. stealers. It is a soul crushing reality check. It feels unfair that you were so unfortunate to have become entangled with a person that is unable to feel remorse, love, or care about the harm they have caused you and many many others. Yet they are still standing, and look as if they have never suffered any kind of loss, ever.
While you feel your energy has been drained, you are alone, and completely defeated.
Anytime with spent with a psychopath, is dangerous. If they don't kill you physically, they sure will kill you emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. The is no use in trying to get revenge on this morally corrupt individual, because they never fight fair. They also have no conscience to stop them from completely ripping you to pieces. The more hurt they see they have caused, the more they will continue to rip into you. Your hurt is their motivation.
They have no care in the world, when you are their perceived target, they will have no qualms spending every minute of their day trying to destroy you. They will spread rumors to your friends, to people who barley know you, and warn people who don't know you, about you. The play the victim the whole time. Telling others how you have wronged them, how you are stalking them. When in truth, they are spending all of their time doing all of those things to you. It doesn't cost the psychopath any energy to do these things, because they are using your energy to do it with, and probably using the energy from all their other victims. And believe me, there are many of victims. You are not the first victim and you surely will Not be the last.
Healing is your only option after being targeted by one of these predators. Do not think of ways to get revenge, because it will only drain more energy out of you. They have stolen enough of your precious energy. Focus on healing your mind, body and spirit.
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