Sociopaths And Stalking

Sociopaths stalk their victims and exes because they feel as if their victim belongs to them. They see their victim not as a human being but as a ‘material possession’. 

This story is from a friend of mine who has been dealing with a sociopathic ex now for over 12 years. 

It can be quite a scary experience for the victim. Sociopaths stalk in different ways. Some in personate their victim online to destroy their victims reputation. Others keep up with their victims online activity. And the real psychotic sociopaths actually follow their victim. Making the victim feel their life and the life of their children is in danger. 

Stalking is a crime in most states. But unfortunately by the time police interact the victim has usually been harmed.

When my ex stalked me, she also stalked my new girlfriend who is now my wife. She kept up with my online activity. And also my wife's. She would get information from our children about what we did at home we are we were going. It became to the point where I could not tell my own children basic things because I was afraid the information would get back to my psychopathic ex. 

She really targeted my wife, by impersonating her online. She started a blog pretending to be my wife and pretending to have an in mental illness. She wanted other people to believe that it was my wife who made the blog and was looking for help for ‘borderline personality disorder’. 

My ex-wife has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, when her mother made her see a psychiatrist or else she would cut off her from the money she gave her monthly. I don't believe that she has borderline personality disorder. I believe that she is a sociopath, a common every day sociopath. - this is just my opinion from what I know of her.   

I have had emails made up in my name. I have had credit cards in my name that my ex-wife applied for. She has financially done everything she possibly could to destroy me. 

I have had no contact with my ex-wife now for over a year. But that does not stop her from continuingly contacting me. She gives our children notes for me to read. I do not read them throw them away. She believes that I am her material possession and I ‘owe’ her my loyalty. 

Even though when we were married she was anything but loyal. 

It seems to me that sociopaths have a really “bad” memory. When it comes to remembering the cheating and lying they do. But they have an excellent memory when it comes to bringing up any small mistake you have made, or any kind of help/service they “think” they did for you. For instance - the 1995 model Lexus that I drove for years was in my ex wife's names, she still continues to bring up “that if it weren't for her I wouldn't have had a car to drive”. Though I gave that car back to her 7 years ago when she didn't have a car due to all the accidents she had. Yet she is still bringing it up. 

She got extremely angry when I bought my wife a new car. I simply told her, “that's my wife, it's not your business, tell your husband to buy you a car if you need one". As she had remarried as soon as our divorce finalized to the man she was cheating with so long. 

My children are almost adults (17 and 15). My daughter is responsible and has a car of her own now. Even though I was always planning to buy her a car, my ex wife's mother bought her the car. 

It's just another thing that my ex wife throws in my face. “What father doesn't buy his child a car on her 16th birthday?!” 

I wasn't given the option to even get my daughter a new car. Yet my ex wife is constantly telling anyone who will listen, what a piece of sh*t father I am. How I have completely abandoned my children, for my “new family”. Which could not be further from the truth. 

My daughter is on our insurance policy. I have paid my ex wife $3500 monthly since the day she said she was going to work out of town (she was really going to the Bahamas with her married boyfriend). She left me to take care of our then young children. I still had to work. It was hard for me, but I stepped up and did it. My children remember that. Though they rarely bring it up. 

I have never spread rumors about my ex wife. I remain Anonymous if I speak of my experience. Just as I am remaining anonymous on this blog post. 

I wish I could tell readers that this story has a happy ending. Unfortunately I cannot though. Even after being divorced for over 10 years, she has not stopped any of her craziness. 

I no longer try to please her, or give in to her, just for a day or two of peace. I realize that nothing I do will ever be enough. So when she tells people what a crappy father I am, I no longer get upset. My children know I am a good father. I support them emotionally, financially, and in any way they need me. My daughter now 17, comes over to spend time with us every week, and she brings her 15 year old brother. 

My ex wife wants to punish me. For what, I don't know. She cheated and left on her own. I was too busy caring for our young children to get angry or ‘revenge’.

It seems as though when I remarried, that is what really angered her. I suppose she feared that I would no longer be her puppet, and my new wife would influence me and point out that the way my ex treated me was not appropriate or right. And she was right.

I stopped allowing my ex wife to verbally abuse me and steal from me.

This has angered my ex, she really believed that she would be able to control me until the day I died. 

Unfortunately the only people who are really suffering from my ex-wife's a erratic and irrational behavior is our children. 

But fortunately my children have turned out to be wonderful, amazing, and brilliant little adults. It amazes me everyday at how smart and sweet they are. They have been through so much. 

My ex wife tells them terrible things about me and my wife. The children have chosen to make up their own minds about me and their step mother.  They see our actions, and how we do not speak ill of their mother, and we are consistent. 

I know that by having children with a sociopath, that my life will always have some sort of drama. My children will marry one day and have children and I  sure my ex wife will use what is suppose to be a wonderful occasions to make life unbearable. 

 

Sociopath - let them destroy themselves

To some degree, let them be the destroyer, but keep evidence along the way, so long as it’s not causing you physical or emotional harm.  However, when things get out of hand, let them know in no uncertain terms what evidence you have on them, because at the end of the day all they are doing is digging themselves an even bigger grave to put themselves in. Having said that, it’s not as if they need one, because they died (emotionally) a long time ago.

When you have finally had enough of their stupid games, make it very clear that you have been careful enough to have collected evidence on them and give them the shovel. Trust that like all good sociopaths, they will get caught eventually from their own stupidity, and will end up digging their own graves.

Revenge obsession occurs when the obsessive ex wants his/her partner to punished. With a sociopath, they are probably responsible for the relationships fall out. They are cheaters, liars, and professional scammers. Even knowing they are liars and cheaters they still become obsessed with causing their ex more pain. Although the obsessed ex may not be in love with their partner anymore, they want to make sure he or she is just as miserable as they are....

They will even want to punish anyone their ex moves on with. Like a new girlfriend/boyfriend. They will do everything they can to cause problem for their ex in order to destroy the relationship. Even if the sociopath has moved in with their own life, and has remarried. They still will harass, bother and stalk their ex, and in extreme cases they will stalk their exes new love interest, go on a smear campaign about their exes new lover, husband/ wife. 

They hope the drama, the character assassination, the stalking, the crazy behavior will scare the new love off. It takes a strong person, who is secure with who they are to not want to leave. Because the sociopath will project on that person everything they can to break them down. They will accuse their exes new love interest of being the "stalker". They will play victim. They will use the kids to manipulate. They will alienate the children from the other (non-sociopathic) parent. They tell the children lies about their other parent. Ex. - Your dad cares about his new family and doesn't care about us anymore. {keep in mind, the children have NO IDEA, why the relationship ended}. The sociopath has convinced the non-sociopathic parent to not tell the children why the relationship ended. **Not because they are concerned for the children's welfare. But because they do not want their children to know they were at fault.

This way they can tell the children "their version" of why “mommy and daddy” aren't together anymore. It's VERY IMPORTANT for the non-sociopathic parent to NEVER talk negatively about the other (sociopathic) parent to the children.  Even IF the Sociopathic parent is bad mouthing the other parent. The children will figure things out on their own. They will see, as they get older that one the one parent trash talks the other parent (and the other parents new wife/husband every chance they get. They will realize that the (non-disordered) parent has never spoken negatively about the other parent (the disordered parent). 

The children are not stupid, and they become more aware of what is really happening as they get older. The sociopath loses the control over their ex, as the children grow up. This is frustrating for the sociopath, so it's then when the sociopath feels they must use more extreme methods of manipulation. Ex. - When my daughter became older, the demands from my sociopathic ex became more frequent, and more outlandish. Her text messaging and calling became so bad that it interfered in with my work. Since neither my ex wife or her new husband have jobs, they are dependent on my ex wife's mother to give them money monthly and also on my $3000 monthly child support to pay their bills. So I always assumed eventually she would 
back off. NOPE. It only became worse, when I got my daughter a phone to communicate with her. So I didn't have to deal with my ex wife. Everything my ex said was a lie, she did things for malicious reasons only.  Telling me to pick my child up on Sunday at 5pm, then I would get there at 5pm and no one would be home.  My home is 30 minutes away from her home. So by the time I got to her house sat there for 30 minutes, I would text to let her know I was there to pick up. She would respond "oh we are in town getting this or that we will be there in 15 minutes". Needless to say 15 minutes into 45 minutes and they would still not be there. So I would eventually drive back to my house which is 30 minutes away. As soon as I would get home, my phone would begin ringing and it was my ex-wife asking me “where are you, Suzie is ready to see her dad". 

(The sociopaths version is the DISHONEST version)

Sociopaths are KNOWN FOR accusing others for things they are doing themselves. Example - If a sociopath is on a smear campaign, they will accuse the real victim of trying to "ruin there reputation", destroying their character. The sociopath will  accuse their target of stalking them.  

*RED FLAG* - The sociopath do whatever is necessary to humiliate their “TARGET” aka 
(the person they are stalking)

*** WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE CONTINUOUSLY RANTING ONLINE ABOUT  {Firstname} {Lastname} being a “CYBER TROLL” “BULLY” or “STALKER”,  going on to tell others (especially using social media) that “they are scared for their children's safety” (they love using innocent children to get pity from others.)  The sociopath is likely to accuse the person of being “mentally unstable” “dangerous” “jealous of them” “insecure”. They want to vilify the real victim, before their victim talks, so they use these kind of humiliating tactics to discredit, and destroy the real victim.

*** Notice a person calling someone a cyber troll, bully, or stalker  - Is the character assassin. The RED FLAG  that the person accusing another is when they chose to use the Other persons First and Last Name. It IS DEFAMATION, CHARACTER ASSASSINATION, AND SLANDER.

The classic symptom of someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, Sociopathic, Narcissistic, Histrionic, Anti-Social Personality Disorder is how they are “Always the Victim”

{If you are confused about who is telling the truth, check out the other persons social media (especially their blogs). Look to see if the other person has used First and Last Names (like the accuser is doing), look to see if the person is name calling and slandering, (like the accuser has)}

 If you see the person who is being accused - is not using name calling with humiliating words such as "cyber troll" or "stalker"

Then you can assume that the person being accused is actually the victim and the accuser is the sociopath, just trying to destroy another life... With no remorse or guilt for all the pain they cause..