Sociopathic Parents destroy children and the ex partner

Recognizing that you are in a relationship with a sociopath is so important. Sociopaths have certain patterns of exaggerations, blaming, and distortions, that are obvious early on in a relationship. 

This can save you years of emotional and psychological damage that the sociopath will cause you. 

It is never easy to end any relationship with a sociopath.  

But a relationship is much less complicated to end than a marriage!

Marrying a sociopath is a life sentence of hell, the sociopath will try to keep you in legal battles for years. Sociopaths LOVE going to court. They are convincing and skilled liars. They have a fearlessness about them, that they are able to stand up in front of a court of law and make up one lie after another, portraying you as the crazy out of control spouse, and they are the victim. All while remaining cool, calm, and collected. 

When normal people face going to court for any reason they are usually nervous. Rather it be for a traffic violation, or for child custody case. Either way the sociopath is completely comfortable and at ease in any situation, that the rest of us would feel tremendous anxiety. This is because we have something the sociopath DOES NOT HAVE — “emotions” and genuine feelings.

It's important to recognize patterns of abuse before committing to a disordered person.

The last thing you want is to bring Innocent children into such a dysfunctional environment. 

Please listen when I say NOTHING good can come out of marrying the sociopath – ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. 

The marriage will end. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate, harass and basically make life feel it's not worth living. They will so malicious things just to make sure their ex partner is miserable. 

Children who have a sociopathic parent never get a fair chance in life. They will always suffer at the hands of their vindictive, abusive and  unstable sociopathic parent, who will always  be in and out of their life. Sociopaths hate responsibility, so taking care of children isn't that appealing to them, but having children as trophies is appealing to them. The sociopathic parent is  constantly interfering and disrupting the child's life.

In the children's earlier years the sociopath disrupts their life only to manipulate and control the other parent. Sociopaths use the children as a tool to manipulate to get what they need or want. Or to just to make problems and cause suffering. The sociopath wants their ex to be miserable. They use the children to make sure that this happens. 

When the children become adults the aging sociopath has burned all their bridges and does not have the abilities to manipulate others anymore (as their looks have withered, and they have posse off to many people - and no one is buying their shit anymore. So the sociopath uses their children to get what they want. Still using guilt as their weapon of choice. They will usually tell the an adult child how they took care of them for 18 years provided them with a roof over their head and a supportive parental figure. Basically making the child feel as if they owe them. 

Fortunately most children of sociopaths are very aware of the pain that the dysfunctional parent caused them and their supportive parent. They are able to see right through the sociopathic parents billshit, deception and manipulation. They usually choose to have no contact and no relationship with the sociopath when they become adults 

But unfortunately not all children of sociopaths turn out to be okay. Many become manipulated by the sociopathic parent. The sociopath wants to hurt you through your children. So will always seek full custody. So they will always be in control. Living with a sociopath full time can take its toll on a child's mental state. The children grow up with many psychological issues because sociopaths are abusive individuals, rather it is neglect or verbal and physical abuse.

They don't actually care about the children. 

They care about the control they have over the children, to hurt their ex. 

Sociopaths are verbally and even physically abusive to everyone, the ex and children are not an exception. 

Children suffer from low self esteem, shame issues and depression when raised by a sociopathic parent

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Confronting The Devil

 

Anyone who has ever confronted a narcissistic/sociopath knows the damage that they are capable of. 

These types of disordered people are revenge seeking people, will explode, exploit, and destroy anyone who does not agree with them. The sociopath fears being exposed for who they really are. So anyone who will confront them, poses as a threat to them.

Anyone who has attempted to get answers from the sociopath has surely experienced their wrath.. The sociopath will never answer you with the truth. 

Sociopaths will do everything they can to discredit whoever dares to confront them. They will make damaging false accusations about the victim. 

In my experience, all the accusations the  sociopath makes is actually what they are doing to the victim..

All accusations are projections. 

Rather than admitting to having a problem and dealing with it, the sociopath and the narcissist will scapegoat their target with false accusations based upon their own psychological issues, failures, and weaknesses.

They only know how to hurt others in order to make them look better. It is how they cover up their tracks. Vilifying the victim by making them seem like the “crazy” person, or the abuser. 

Being married to a sociopath or narcissist, you are likely to be accused of having an affair, financial irresponsibility, and other less serious accusations. The sociopath will accuse you of being insecure, needy, and ‘unstable’. All are just more projections they are putting on to you based on their own insecurities and short comings  

This is how they break down the victim so that the victim begins to question their own sanity and doubt their own thoughts.

Abusers manipulate their victims by belittling them in subtle ways. Sociopaths and Narcissist are the most verbally abusive people. Their words are the most efficient weapon in convincing their partner that it is not them who have the problem. They make their partners feel incompetent and worthless. 

Abusive people are so delusional that they eventually start to believe they are the victim of their partner who they have abused for so long.  Some even convince their partners/victims that they are lucky to have someone like “them” who will put up with their psychological problems. Sociopaths are masters at brainwashing their victims. The sociopath /narcissist seek to erode their targets self esteem, making them feel worthless, stupid and unworthy of respect.

This is why people who have been in relationships with these monsters have a hard time developing healthy relationships after the narcissistic sociopath. They have no confidence, no self worth, they feel ashamed of who they are. 

This is how the sociopath wants their victim to be. This is how the sociopath maintains control even after the relationship is over.  

It may take years of therapy for the victim to begin to heal, and see that they are not any of the horrible things the sociopath has accused them of being. 

Spciopaths and Narcissist are so EVIL. The only way to heal from the abuse inflicted there must be NO CONTACT with the abuser EVER AGAIN. 

If there are children involved, you should seek professional help on how to deal with the abuser. Usually having a third party to communicate with the abuser is the only way not to fall into their manipulation. The sociopath will use the children to manipulate and hurt you. The third party will be able to decide what information is beneficial for you and what is not. 

Sociopath and Narcissist cause so much irreparable damage to anyone they have a relationship with.

So when children are involved it becomes even harder if not impossible to separate totally from the sociopath. 

Sociopathic Parents = Abuse

When sociopaths become parents, it is scary. The sociopathic parent is irresponsible, manipulative, hateful, spiteful, and has no consideration the feelings of her/his children. 
Is that surprising?? That the sociopath is inconsiderate of the feelings of the children?  
It shouldn't be... The sociopath has NO consideration for ANYONE'S feelings. Children are no different. The sociopath views their children as just another "object" to use, to manipulate others. Especially the non-sociopathic parent. 

The sociopath will never care about the children. The sociopath doesn't think how much she is screwing with her children's head. The sociopath doesn't think about the future often, or consequences that could come from how she neglects them, manipulates them, alienates everyone healthy in their life. The sociopathic parent isn't concerned for their well being. The sociopath is only concerned about control. She will attempt to control the children's non-sociopathic by using the children against him. She has no remorse for her wrongdoing. 

She wants 100% control over the children. In order to control her ex-husband. Female sociopaths are more prone to using children to hurt their ex spouse than their male counterpart - but the male sociopath will also do this if he gets the chance. The male sociopaths us use the children to hurt and deprive their ex whole the female sociopath uses the children to control their ex. 

Men will take their ex wife and mother of his children to court in attempt to get full custody - for the sole purpose of hurting her. He doesn't really care to have custody of his children. He hates responsibility.  So it isn't because he LOVES his children so much... It's because he want to hurt his ex-wife.
What better way to continue to hold control over his ex wife?  The sociopathic father, tries to annihilate his ex-wife in court. He comes across as the victim of this "unstable and unreliable" woman. When his ex wife tries to defend herself, it is emotional and to the judge it looks like she is unstable. 

 THE WOMAN HAS BEEN TAKEN TO COURT BY HER DERANGED EX HUSBAND, AND SHE KNOWS WHAT HE IS CAPABLE OF, AND SHE IS SCARED. SCARED FOR HER CHILDREN, LOSING HER CHILDREN TO A MONSTER. 

Unfortunately sociopaths come across cool as cucumbers in court. Child Services and Family Protection Agencies and judges need to be better informed about the manipulation of a sociopath, and the effects and fear the sociopath has on his victims.. It's important to be aware that the sociopath has the ability to make their ex look bat shit crazy. By smear campaigns, gas lighting, verbal abuse, neglect, emotional abuse, and terrorizing..