The lies, rumors and pain that come with a sociopath

 When we have been abused, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, had rumors spread about us, lost friends, felt isolated, been afraid, lost everything, doubted ourselves, felt guilty, believed it was our fault - more than likely we were in a relationship with a sociopath. Or we were friends, or have a sociopathic family member.  

Once we discovered the truth, and realized we are not the only victim of this person, who had some how destroyed our life, our soul, and left us with little to no trust in the world. We are able to begin healing from the traumatic experience. Healing takes time. We are weak, alone, afraid, and don't know who we can trust.

The hardest part of healing is feeling safe and facing the world. 

We want to withdraw, because the sociopath has said so many horrible things about us, we feel shame. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE SOCIOPATH WANTS US TO FEEL. 

When my sociopath spread rumors about me all over town — to my child's  school, to my neighbors, to people who i respected in the community. I was afraid to leave the house. I was afraid of what others were thinking about me. What lies had my sociopath told everyone? And did anyone believe those lies. My sociopath alread had a reputation in town for stealing, and abusing drugs and sleeping around, so why would people believe the lies that were being  spread?

I felt that people would rather believe the bad they have heard about you - rather than the good. It seems people don't go around talking about the good about you. But they will go around talking about anything bad about you - even if it's not true.

For a while I felt isolated from the world. I did not want to leave my home. 

Even though the people who knew me, knew the hardships I had been through with this sociopath. They new that this person was very dangerous and hated me for moving on with my life. The sociopath wanted and still wants to hurt me, and make my life unbearable. I'm not sure why.. Boredom, or because I moved on and found someone who loves me for me and we were happy. 

What I have noticed is that all Sociopaths are jealous of everyone. 

Since there is nothing real authentic and genuine about the sociopath, and they don't understand or care to understand emotions. They just see everyone as a conquest, or threat. Not as humans, who feel pain. There is not much "humanness" in a sociopath.. And when they get done with you, you may feel they stole some part of your humanness.

A close friend of mine has been dealing with a vindictive female sociopath.  It is his ex wife. He has been divorced from the sociopath for over 9 years and separated for over 14. She had numerous affairs after they adopted their 2nd child. Finally after one of the affairs became very public due to the fact the man she was cheating with was married, and they both held prominant careers in the community, he filed for divorce. He has been through hell and back. This is his story, in his words...

  

When I went no contact and chose to ignore my sociopath, that's when things got very ugly. I refused 

to communicate with the ex. So my ex decided to tell everyone, and put it on social media that i was a "cyber stalking troll". Even using my first and last name to slander me. My ex made up a fake domain site in my name. Pretending to be me, and impersonating me in an unfavorable manner.  Basically painting a picture of a very unstable person, that was trying to get help for my mental problems. The worst part was if you googled my name, the website that my ex started about me was the first thing that came up. That is  when I said “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.”

I contacted a friend of mine who is a police officer. And I ask what could be done about this website that my ex started about and was impersonating me in such a way. It was slander and defamation.

My friend informed me that it was cyber stalking, and I should file a police report. — so I did 

that. 

Which only made my ex crazier. Although the website was taken down, I was now being

accused of more horrific things. Now my sociopath ex wife was going to social media, claiming how she felt afraid for her children, because I was unstable, she believed I would kidnap them at a soccer game or from school. This was horrible because I felt afraid to go to my sons soccer game, because I didn't know what she would do or say, she had went to Facebook, and Twitter pretending to be living a life of fear because of me. 

What I began to notice was a pattern. She may have went to social media bashing me, but she expected me to pick up kids on my weekend. This is when I realized how unstable and deranged she was. She was only looking to ruin my reputation in the community, she still expected me to get the kids (even though she claimed she was in fear for their safety) 

I felt confused. I wanted to get my children. But with the unpredictable ex, I didn't know if I was being set up. Was I going to show up at the school to get my children, and the cops would be waiting to arrest me? Would my kids even be there, considering she loved leading me on wild gooses chases just to waste my time and make things difficult on me? 

I decided my children were worth whatever risk. And after all I had filed a complaint against her for impersonation and cyber stalking (which set her off to go on a rampant on social media) Bit it was still documentation, if my ex had something sinister planned. I remember so many times going to pick them up, feeling so much anxiety. Anxiety and fear consumed me. This woman had no limits and would not hesitate to destroy me, my new wife, and even my step daughter, who was at the time very little (5 years old). Sociopaths are so low, they will destroy children (even their own) just to hurt another person. 

I wondered if this crap would ever stop. I felt hopeless... I began to stop looking online, and begin to focus only on myself my children and healing. It was very tempting to want to get online and see what my ex was saying now.but I never did. I gave it a good eight months before I looked at anything my ex was doing online. I still do not look up my ex'a online activity. 

Cyberpaths - sociopaths - INSANITY

“Cyberpath” is a colloquial online term that describes an individual with a pathological disorder who uses the internet as a medium for acting out their pathology. The alternative definition is a psychopath who uses the internet to find, stalk and exploit others either online or in real life.

Cyberpaths use the Internet to defame, slander and stalk their victim/target. Being a target of a cyberpath/sociopath/narcissist myself. I know the torment that one of these sick individuals is capable of. ONCE YOU EXPOSE THEM YOU WILL MOST CERTAINLY BE SUBJECT TO THEIR SOCIOPATHIC RAGE. THE CYBERPATH MAY/WILL DO THE FOLLOWING:

- harrass you by phone or email (BLOCK their emails and instant messages or DO NOT REPLY - just save them. If they threaten you, impersonate you, go immediately to the 

authorities.)

- do everything they can to make YOU look like the "crazy one". The want others to believe it's you that has the problem. You are the sick, mentally ill, distrubed ("scorned) or not credible person
- use their 'minions' (friends/ spouses in denial, other predators, etc) to help them discredit and smear you

- they make up many fake profiles to comments anonymously about how they know you and you are the crazy one. And that it is you that is stalking the sociopath. They will act as if you have caused the sociopath so much pain. YOU ARE PAINTED AS THE BAD GUY.

- they will smear you, they will go for you at full speed ahead. Slandering your name in every way. All lies. (My sociopath said that I was a horrible father and willing to sign my rights away on my child - just so I could continue to live in the house I bought) - she also said I had stolen money from her then lost it all gambling. 

* I have been accused of physically beating her, breaking bones, abusing our child, being a pathological liar, an alcoholic, a drug user, dead beat dad. -( I am worried of the lies she will tell next about me). I worry as soon as I do not do what she wants - like give more money, get her a car (she has wrecked 5 cars in the past 4 years) that she will accuse me of more horrendous things. This has bedn so frustrating. I can't defend myself. The more I try the crazier her 

accusations become. 

The female sociopath possesses TWO symptoms always. They are verbally abusive, and they are serial cheaters. These are only 2 common traits of the female sociopath. When a sociopath has chosen you as their target, she will stop at nothing to destroy you. Your reputation. Your spirit. She wants to break you down, and will enjoy watching you fall into a million pieces.  
She will socially destroy you, by spreading vicious lies that are vile and disgusting.
My ex wife is a coward sociopath, she does all her creepy stalking online and spreads her gossip there. She has over 30+ blogs,  some in her name and most are blogs created by her impersonating someone who is not Real. I always know what she is doing to me and others just by reading her blogs. In her blogs she portrays herself as poor pitiful victim. She always uses her children as her weapon of mass destruction. In order to manipulate people to feel sorry for her and then give her what she wants. 

About four years ago, she made some very defamatory statements about me. These statements could have cost me my job. She was accusing me of everything from stealing money from her, being an alcoholic, a compulsive gambler, and even being physically abusive to her and breaking her bones. 
She had also stated that I was willing to sign my rights away on my child, in order to stay in the home I currently reside. Which is untrue. The home I am living in with my new wife. I purchased this home with the sociopath, and at the time she was having affairs with other men, and she wanted me to live out here because it is 30 minutes away from town. That way she could be in town having her affairs with numerous men. She never made one payment on the home, she has never invested a dime in the home. She had no interest in the house or our child.  She would claim to be working and sometimes I didn't see or hear from her for 3-5 days at a time.  She was always gone. She stayed at our old home, in town, even tho it was for sale. My old neighbor told me he saw many different men coming in an out of house. 

I was working my ass off and taking care of a young child, although she always claimed to have a job and work. She never had a job or worked. She only claimed she worked because she didn't want to take care of our child, but she would claim to be a working mother, and a successful business woman. She chose men, some who were strangers, some she knew “well” over her daughter.  I knew it was going on but at that point I didn't care. I HAD TO WORK FULL TIME TO SUPPORT MYSELF, MY WAYWARD WIFE, AND MY CHILD. And I had to take care of my child with no help.  I didn't have time to confront a person who was only going to look me dead in the eye  and LIE. Lying is second nature to her. I hate using this word, but this bitch was an evil, selfish, cunt..

Sociopathic  stalkers believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing and entitled to every wish. Such people have no sense of personal boundaries and no concern for their impact on others. To a sociopath she is always “the smartest person in the room,” and can outwit anyone. She knows how to change her IP address.  So it's hard to trace whatever blog, domain suet she has made up about me back to her. She doesn't work. But she claims to be a working attorney. She was an attorney 10 years ago, before she was disbarred. She had stolen in a matter of 2 years over $250,000 from her clients. In order to avoid going to jail, she pleaded with the state bar that she was bi-polar. And she also put all the blame on her secretary. 

I really regret marrying this person. She lied to me our entire marriage. What is so crazy is that I actually believed her lies. No matter how many times she would lie to me - even if it was the same lie, I would believe it.. She was so convincing. Sometimes I think I did not want to believe the truth. I did live a lot of my life in denial of it. Now I'm fully aware of what I'm dealing with. A monster. A person that has no conscience, no heart, feels sorry for no one and is just downright mean.