Narcissist are broken and want to break you.

Narcissist are broken mentally and emotionally. You made them feel amazing for a certain period of time obviously that time is over since you are asking this question.

Narcissist  fear abandonment so deeply that they could leave you for someone else and be so hurt that you moved on and are dating again.

The reason to make you suffer is because they are the ones suffering worse then you ever could. 

 But this the only way they know how to function. 

So by punishing you they are desperate for a reaction good or bad makes no difference to them as it is attention and shows they still have control.

Ignoring them causes a HUGE blow to their ego and they HATE it! It EATS them ALIVE!

They will abuse the new supply or smear you to their friends and family to try and maintain control over their own emotions since YOU wont give them what they want.

Seeing you hurt give the narcissist power!

 Seeing you happy makes them ANGRY!

Accusations of the disordered Ex

The Ex Spouse - There are some people (the lucky ones) who actually get along with their ex. Most of us are not so lucky....

Why can't your EX get a life? Why won't he/she just move on and leave you alone? After all he/she has remarried and claims to be so happy, especially now that you are no longer in their life...  
When your ex continues to call, text, email to tell you the what you need to do while the children are with you (as if you are so incompetent that you can't figure it out yourself) You are probably dealing with a controlling, demanding, and disordered ex. You have noticed that the intention with your ex is not good. They are not doing what they do because they truly are thinking only about the children. They are doing this, because they want to be in control of you. The ex knows you have moved on, you are happy with your new spouse. This drives your disordered ex insane (more insane than he/she already is) Scary huh.....

The mere thought of your psycho ex -- the person who lied, manipulated and ultimately left you -- is enough to make your stomach turn, even if the contact is sporadic.  It's hard to understand why they are still trying to have contact with tho everyday. You think to yourself “does my ex know what the word DIVORCE means?”
“Why is she demanding I attend her families Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Fathers Day, and Mother's Day with her”? Yes, that is exactly what I want to do on my holidays, spend time with my ex who has attempted to destroy my reputation, turn my children against my new spouse. The same person who has made one false accusation after another... (Sarcasm)

It's important to always keep in mind, YOU EX HAS A CHARACTER DISORDER. Your EX is not in touch with real human emotions, therefore they live in an altered reality than the 
rest of us.  A normal, stable person Does Not attack you one minute (in an anonomyous fashion online, or by spreading rumors to your children's school about you) then expect you to be present at their Christmas party the next. 

Sociopaths, malignant narcissist, and character disordered individuals have a convenient way of forgetting all the horrific things that they have done to you. In their whacked out brain, they truly think that if they pretend that everything is good, and they did not do anything wrong to you - That you will just go along 
with it. And sometimes we will go along with it, because it means a break from the constant drama. It means a day of peace, without the harassment. We are desperate for peace. Unfortunately when we go along with their delusions, it only compels them to continue to think they can always treat you a certain way, with no consequences. 

It is hard to stand up to your psychotic ex. You know they will make your life hell when you decide to spend time with your own family, instead of theirs on holidays. When you first stand up to them, expect to recieve calls and numerous text, about how hurt the kids are that you didn't come to Christmas. (Your ex seems to have forgotten that you have a family and the kids are coming to spend the other part of their holiday with you) REMEMBER YOUR EX WILL ALWAYS USE GUILT INORDER TO GET YOU TO DO WHAT THEY WANT. 

You know your ex is going to use guilt to try to get their way. It's important for you to stay strong. And remember it is not about the kids to them. It's about them, wanting to continue to control your life, your money, your holidays, your free time, your family — even though you are divorced. The reason you ex divorced you or you divorced them was because you no longer wanted to be together. Right? That means you no longer spend Christmas mornings together. You no longer attend their family functions, because their family is no longer your family. 

Yes, it is hard on the children. DIVORCE in general is hard on children... That is a FACT. 

When your ex decided to cheat on you with other men, or women. Were they thinking of how THAT would Hurt the children??    Of course they didn't.. But now your ex wants to tell you that you are emotionally damaging the children because you don't want to spend your Father's Day and other special holidays with them. 

So when your ex starts their usual guilt tripping, and letting you know that you are a horrible parent, and that your children are suffering because of your selfishness (because you remarried and decided to be happy) If you are a good parent, then none of it should bother you. Your ex claims that your child needs counseling because of you. When your child is with you, is your child happy? Do the children seem withdrawn or depressed when they are with you and your spouse? 
If the answer is No, then you know that your ex is the pathological liar, they have always been. Just another desperate attempts to control you. They are pathetic.

If the answer is Yes, then YOU need to get your child evaluated by a psychologist and find out why they are feeling this way. It is not because you didn't attend your exes family event, as your ex has said. If your home is a safe and healthy environment, it is important to find out what is causing the child to be withdrawn. 

Your ex is a liar. You know this. They will try to portray to you that they are the  picture perfect parent. You know better... They seem to have conveniently forgotten (again) that you use to live with them. You know behind the scenes how dysfunctional they are. They haven't made a miraculous turn-a-round. They are still dysfunctional. There is numerous people coming and going from their home. They allow their cousin who is a convicted felon to do their yard word and home repairs, for a cheap price. They are not around to supervise anything. Are the children at home alone a majority of the time?  

The more your ex is accusing you of emotionally damaging your children, you can bet it is because they are incompetent, and they think projecting their dysfunction onto you will take some of the focus off of them. 

I have seen too many times where the disordered person has emotionally abused and battered their spouse. To the point that they will not defend themselves or stand up to the disordered person. They are afraid. They have witnessed them destroy others. They know of the damage they are capable of. They know they are ruthless, heartless, and have not one Ounce of conscience in them. 

Malicious Co Parenting

If you are lucky you will never encounter a sociopath or psychopath in your life time. For us who have had to deal with the malicious sociopath it will likely be the worst experience in your life. They come in both genders, though most are male. They are emotional vampires, sucking the life (emotional and financial resources) out of you. Until you have nothing. Then they move on to their next victim.

Marrying a sociopath is a horrible life changing experience. Having children with a sociopath is a horrific nightmare that will never end!! 

Anyone who has to deal with these types of wicked, evil and inhumane beings, knows the damage they are capable of.  Trying to break free from them, will leave you wounded for years and even a lifetime. That is just how poisonous and toxic they are to you.  They will NEVER leave you alone. 

Do Not think that "DIVORCE" means you are free of the sociopath. If there are children to use against you, they will use those children, even if it means emotionally f*cking them up for life. THE SOCIOPATH DOES NOT CARE. If they think you are suffering, then they don't mind hurting their own innocent children to ensure that. The sociopath will continue to make UNREASONABLE AND RIDICULOUS DEMANDS on you. They will refuse to allow you to have any peace in your life. One of the most absurd experiences I have experienced with my sociopath, is after being divorced for 8 years and separated for 4. The sociopath demands that we spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and birthday together. Even though both of us have remarried. And the reason for this (so the sociopath says) is because it's important for the children to see their parents getting along.. Ha ha... That's laughable! It HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WANTING  the children to see their parents having a healthy relationship and getting along... It's all about control. They want to control you. They want to control your holidays. They want to make sure that you are not happy and enjoying Christmas with your new spouse. My sociopath has requested every year that I come over Christmas morning and put the kids toys together. I am thinking in my mind when I get these ridiculous request; SURE! I would love to wake up, drive 20 minutes to your home and put the children's toys together, while you are passed out in the other room and I have to chit chat with you new spouse... That's not awkward or weird, ya freak.. My children are now older (teenagers) and there is not any toys to put together this coming Christmas. I'm pretty my sociopath will still FIND a reason to harass me or my spouse and try to guilt us into why we should spend out Christmas with them. YOU REALLY WOULD THINK AFTER 8 YEARS OF DECLINING THE INVITATION AND 2 years of having NO CONTACT with the psychopath, they would eventually back off and take a "HINT" by now. But Nope.. 

The point is they want complete power, and control over their victims or targets. They will do anything to keep that power they once had. You have to refuse to engage. Refuse to react to them. And pray that they will leave you alone one day. It's been almost a decade and mine has yet to get the hint that I will never be manipulated again. I have tried to co parenting. When the other parent has evil and malicious intentions, every attempt to co parent will end up in disaster. You have to figure out how you can see your children without going through the sociopathic parent.