Wednesday, May 7, 2014

When a sociopath is the mother of your children

Psychologists and therapist agree that sociopaths cannot be treated effectively. There is no cure for a sociopath. The sociopath doesn't think there is anything wrong with their behavior. They never truly apologize for what they have done. They are only sorry that they got caught. Never sorry or remorseful for anything they did. They just wish they would of done it differently, so that they would of got away with it. 

Instead of trying to help the sociopath — accept that you can never help them. They will never change. And take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your family. 

Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Remember that it is all a game to the sociopath. She or he does not care if you're hurt. The only goal they have is winning. The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality sociopaths do not change.. 
Your only option is cutting off all contact - NO MATTER WHAT. 

If your a man that shares children with a sociopath. Do what you can for your children but never speak to the sociopath. Have a third party who is a professional and aware that the person is a sociopath - communicate with them. If the sociopath makes it difficult to get your children. Don't play the game with them. They actually want you to get the children. They hate responsibility. They don't want you to know that though. So when they make it hard for you, simply let them do so and ignore them. They will start to believe you don't care - which will make them feel out of control. Because if you don't care - how will they manipulate you and make your life hard. So once they see this in you. They will temporarily stop making it difficult to get the children. They will find another tactic that makes your life hard in about 3-6 months. This can go on forever. It's important to be emotionally strong and disciplined.

So what do you do when you share children with sociopath. Are you forever fucked? Are you going to be miserable the rest of your life? 
You must Accept the reality that it is possible... That the sociopath has a reason to always try to make contact with you because of the children.  

This is from my personal experience of sharing children with a sociopath. It has been hell. I do not get to enjoy my children. I don't get to feel happy about getting my children. I worry before it is time to get them because I have no clue what the sociopath has in store for me. 

Children are suppose to bring you happiness and fulfillment. If you have children with a sociopath - you don't get to experience that. Instead you are having to deal with your child's other parent. She is always trying to squeeze more money out of you. She sends you text after text trying to make you feel guilty. She wants more money from you, yet she is disturbing you at work. Always saying how the child or children are sad, or need this and that. She brainwashes the children to believe you are not a good parent, that you have abandoned them for your "new family".  She finds a way to make things for you and your children uncomfortable. Even when she is not there . It's always a dramatic circus...  You learn to distance yourself emotionally from it all. You either keep on living, or you choose to let the sociopath take your spirit. It's important you stay strong and remember that it is the sociopath. Not you. Many others are suffering as you are. There is hope and support out there for you. 

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